Confession Time: Anyone (like me) always want their boyfriend go to everywhere w/them

chinadoll724 · Jun 27th, 2008, 02:04 PM

We're the opposite- we end up doing our errands together most of the time anyway, but it's he who can't do anything alone. I'm fine picking up groceries, doing laundry, etc alone, but he haaaaaaaaaates to- and he'll even resort to making these cute puppy dog faces so he doesn't have to. It's really frustrating sometimes . . . like, I'll do the laundry, or you can, but it makes no sense for us both to spend our time to do it together. We've been dating for 5 years and once in a while, i'll make him do something alone just to make a point out of it. hehe.

luckygirl83 · Jun 27th, 2008, 02:06 PM

I was like that as well earlier in my relationship (around the 2 year mark). Now that we've been together for 7 years and living together for 2 years, we like our "alone" time once in awhile. I think it makes us value our relationship more when we're together. Maybe we both feel more secure about relationship over time.

I wish I can drag my SO shopping!!! Without a promise of good food or video games at the store, it's a no-go! He gives me free reign with his credit cards and tells me that he's being more than generous, thus I should not demand that he go shopping with me! He says he's already there in "spirit". I think he learned that from him father. If he ends up going, he will usually find the nearest seat, grab a coffee, and email on his blackberry. If I always need him to be with me while I go shopping, I'd never be able to buy anything.

Sternchen · Jun 27th, 2008, 02:25 PM

No! LOL, he's not home a lot - but when he is I like to have my freetime!

illinirdhd · Jun 27th, 2008, 03:04 PM

Yes and no. I don't like going to restaurants (even drive-thru) by myself. I don't like grocery shopping by myself (though I should - it's more expensive when he goes too). When I have to run a simple errand across town, I'd usually prefer to have DH's company in the car.

But when I'm shopping, I would rather him not be with me. He has this habit of making me look at EVERYTHING in a mile radius that might possibly be for him, and then when it's my turn to shop, I get this constant "are you ready yet? what's that for? why do you need that? what does it do? where do you put it? are you done now? can we go now? let's go to lunch. come on, the game is on. why did we come here? what are you looking for? what else do you need while we're here?" He's like a 3 year old when I'm shopping. And Sephora, forget it! He doesn't like the smells and doesn't understand how $100 fits in that tiny bag.

This is funny though. When we were dating, and even in the 6 months we lived together before we got married, I always wanted to make the most of our time together. Then right after we got married, we went out of town with some friends. On the golf course, my friend asked if I wanted to ride with her or with DH. I started to say DH, but then I thought "we are married now - I get to spend all night and every day for the rest of our lives with him" and I happily rode in the cart with my friend. He and her DH later "stole" our golf cart and parked it around behind the bathrooms while we were in there, and we had to find it, so next time I might ride with DH to keep him out of trouble. Anyway, it's weird - before we were married, I wanted to do everything together (even though I was really very used to doing everything alone), but now, it's different. It's like when I was a single, I enjoyed and appreciated our couple time. But now that we're a couple, I make the most of my alone time.

Purses · Jun 27th, 2008, 03:23 PM

If I go alone, my bf will ask me later what I did, what did I buy and he has this look that he wish he was with me.

Generally, we are always together to do everything when we go out. We both enjoy shopping, but I can tell that he does not really like to wait for me as I walk into a clothing store, but he is excellent on giving advice on what looks good on me when I ask for it.

When we grocery shopping, we go our seperate ways but we meet and review the items that we took, but generally we go for the same thing.

I think I am very lucky that I found a guy who enjoys shopping. Our differences are choice of malls. I like the upscale ones, he prefers the not-so-upscale ones.

His lifestyle is very simple compared to mine and I feel that he brings me back to earth. If I am dead set on purchasing something, then he will support me.

~Fabulousity~ · Jun 27th, 2008, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by illinirdhd

Yes and no. I don't like going to restaurants (even drive-thru) by myself. I don't like grocery shopping by myself (though I should - it's more expensive when he goes too). When I have to run a simple errand across town, I'd usually prefer to have DH's company in the car.

But when I'm shopping, I would rather him not be with me. He has this habit of making me look at EVERYTHING in a mile radius that might possibly be for him, and then when it's my turn to shop, I get this constant "are you ready yet? what's that for? why do you need that? what does it do? where do you put it? are you done now? can we go now? let's go to lunch. come on, the game is on. why did we come here? what are you looking for? what else do you need while we're here?" He's like a 3 year old when I'm shopping. And Sephora, forget it! He doesn't like the smells and doesn't understand how $100 fits in that tiny bag.

This is funny though. When we were dating, and even in the 6 months we lived together before we got married, I always wanted to make the most of our time together. Then right after we got married, we went out of town with some friends. On the golf course, my friend asked if I wanted to ride with her or with DH. I started to say DH, but then I thought "we are married now - I get to spend all night and every day for the rest of our lives with him" and I happily rode in the cart with my friend. He and her DH later "stole" our golf cart and parked it around behind the bathrooms while we were in there, and we had to find it, so next time I might ride with DH to keep him out of trouble. Anyway, it's weird - before we were married, I wanted to do everything together (even though I was really very used to doing everything alone), but now, it's different. It's like when I was a single, I enjoyed and appreciated our couple time. But now that we're a couple, I make the most of my alone time.

artjen · Jun 27th, 2008, 03:34 PM

My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, married for 1 1/2 years. I am kind of the same way. I hate grocery shopping by myself and only like going with him. I have told him that many time. The funny thing is that he really enjoys shopping and running errands. If I'm by myself I feel kind of anxious, like I need to get home. But when we are both doing it together I feel more relaxed. On the weekends I would say 95% of the time we go everywhere together.

sofakingsweet · Jun 27th, 2008, 03:41 PM

shopping= no, but everything, and i mean EVERYthing else, i have to have him with me. lol. glad i'm not alone. =)

ImASadGiraffe · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:00 PM

I'd rather not have him with me for EVERYTHING - I mean, I live with the guy, I need some time for me too. Shopping, would MUCH rather be alone.

caxe · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:11 PM

I'm not that way. Sometimes I want him to go with me. Sometimes I don't really WANT him to but I wouldn't mind if he did. Sometimes It's madatory that he go with me. It's the same way with him. Sometimes he doesn't care if I go or not, sometimes he strongly suggests that I go, and sometimes he could go either way. I guess it's because we both go places for a variety of reasons, and no situation is exactly the same.

IntlSet · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:16 PM

Oh my gosh, girls, I feel so much better! LOL Yes, I'm clingy, but I'm not the only one!!!

sarahloveslouis · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:27 PM

He HATES alone time, but I like it every now and then!

sarahloveslouis · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:29 PM

This thread makes me think of a PINK song....

Quote:

"Leave Me Alone (I'm Lonely)"

Quote:

Go away
Give me a chance to miss you
Say goodbye
It'll make me want to kiss you
I love you so
Much more when you're not here
Watchin all the bad shows
Drinking all of my beer

I don't believe Adam and Eve
Spent every g*ddamn day together
If you give me some room there will be room enough for two

Tonight
Leave me alone I'm lonely
Alone I'm lonely
I'm tired
Leave me alone I'm lonely
Alone I'm lonely tonight

I don't wanna wake up with another
But I don't wanna always wake up with you either
No you can't hop into my shower
All I ask for is one f**kin' hour
You taste so sweet
But I can't eat the same thing every day
Cuttin off the phone
Leave me the f**k alone
Tomorrow I'll be beggin' you to come home

Go away
Come back
Go away
Come back
Why can't I just have it both ways
Go away
Come back
Go away
Come back
I wish you knew the difference
Go away
Come back

couture2387 · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:46 PM

I've been with my bf for 2 1/2 years and we do everything together. It's more fun running errands when you have someone. This week I had to do a couple of things by myself while he was working and I regretted it. My back was killing me from carrying heavy bags.

csamcharlie · Jun 27th, 2008, 05:14 PM

I guess I'm the opposite. I think I can get things done faster when he's not there.

Jun 27th, 2008, 02:25 PM	#18
Sternchen We're having a boy!! Location: Beauty RAOK	No! LOL, he's not home a lot - but when he is I like to have my freetime! __________________ My 2 wonderful girls, Nicole (5) and Julia (1) will be big sisters soon! My pregnancy blog

Jun 27th, 2008, 03:04 PM	#19
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Location: Las Vegas, NV	Yes and no. I don't like going to restaurants (even drive-thru) by myself. I don't like grocery shopping by myself (though I should - it's more expensive when he goes too). When I have to run a simple errand across town, I'd usually prefer to have DH's company in the car. But when I'm shopping, I would rather him not be with me. He has this habit of making me look at EVERYTHING in a mile radius that might possibly be for him, and then when it's my turn to shop, I get this constant "are you ready yet? what's that for? why do you need that? what does it do? where do you put it? are you done now? can we go now? let's go to lunch. come on, the game is on. why did we come here? what are you looking for? what else do you need while we're here?" He's like a 3 year old when I'm shopping. And Sephora, forget it! He doesn't like the smells and doesn't understand how $100 fits in that tiny bag. This is funny though. When we were dating, and even in the 6 months we lived together before we got married, I always wanted to make the most of our time together. Then right after we got married, we went out of town with some friends. On the golf course, my friend asked if I wanted to ride with her or with DH. I started to say DH, but then I thought "we are married now - I get to spend all night and every day for the rest of our lives with him" and I happily rode in the cart with my friend. He and her DH later "stole" our golf cart and parked it around behind the bathrooms while we were in there, and we had to find it, so next time I might ride with DH to keep him out of trouble. Anyway, it's weird - before we were married, I wanted to do everything together (even though I was really very used to doing everything alone), but now, it's different. It's like when I was a single, I enjoyed and appreciated our couple time. But now that we're a couple, I make the most of my alone time. __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 03:41 PM	#23
sofakingsweet AKA jo-anne :) Location: njc / nyc	shopping= no, but everything, and i mean EVERYthing else, i have to have him with me. lol. glad i'm not alone. =) __________________ "I finally learned what life's all about, hanging on when your heart's had enough, giving more when you want to give up." -Nicole Richie

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:00 PM	#24
ImASadGiraffe Relax... Location: IL	I'd rather not have him with me for EVERYTHING - I mean, I live with the guy, I need some time for me too. Shopping, would MUCH rather be alone. __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:11 PM	#25
caxe I has ur gif. Location: The Southeast, US	I'm not that way. Sometimes I want him to go with me. Sometimes I don't really WANT him to but I wouldn't mind if he did. Sometimes It's madatory that he go with me. It's the same way with him. Sometimes he doesn't care if I go or not, sometimes he strongly suggests that I go, and sometimes he could go either way. I guess it's because we both go places for a variety of reasons, and no situation is exactly the same. __________________ Christmas without fruitcake is like St. Sigmund's Day without the headless boy.

Jun 27th, 2008, 02:04 PM	#16
chinadoll724 Member	We're the opposite- we end up doing our errands together most of the time anyway, but it's he who can't do anything alone. I'm fine picking up groceries, doing laundry, etc alone, but he haaaaaaaaaates to- and he'll even resort to making these cute puppy dog faces so he doesn't have to. It's really frustrating sometimes . . . like, I'll do the laundry, or you can, but it makes no sense for us both to spend our time to do it together. We've been dating for 5 years and once in a while, i'll make him do something alone just to make a point out of it. hehe.

Jun 27th, 2008, 02:06 PM	#17
luckygirl83 Member Location: New York City	I was like that as well earlier in my relationship (around the 2 year mark). Now that we've been together for 7 years and living together for 2 years, we like our "alone" time once in awhile. I think it makes us value our relationship more when we're together. Maybe we both feel more secure about relationship over time. I wish I can drag my SO shopping!!! Without a promise of good food or video games at the store, it's a no-go! He gives me free reign with his credit cards and tells me that he's being more than generous, thus I should not demand that he go shopping with me! He says he's already there in "spirit". I think he learned that from him father. If he ends up going, he will usually find the nearest seat, grab a coffee, and email on his blackberry. If I always need him to be with me while I go shopping, I'd never be able to buy anything.

Jun 27th, 2008, 03:23 PM	#20
Purses Member	If I go alone, my bf will ask me later what I did, what did I buy and he has this look that he wish he was with me. Generally, we are always together to do everything when we go out. We both enjoy shopping, but I can tell that he does not really like to wait for me as I walk into a clothing store, but he is excellent on giving advice on what looks good on me when I ask for it. When we grocery shopping, we go our seperate ways but we meet and review the items that we took, but generally we go for the same thing. I think I am very lucky that I found a guy who enjoys shopping. Our differences are choice of malls. I like the upscale ones, he prefers the not-so-upscale ones. His lifestyle is very simple compared to mine and I feel that he brings me back to earth. If I am dead set on purchasing something, then he will support me.

Jun 27th, 2008, 03:34 PM	#22
artjen Young @ Art Location: Arizona	My husband and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, married for 1 1/2 years. I am kind of the same way. I hate grocery shopping by myself and only like going with him. I have told him that many time. The funny thing is that he really enjoys shopping and running errands. If I'm by myself I feel kind of anxious, like I need to get home. But when we are both doing it together I feel more relaxed. On the weekends I would say 95% of the time we go everywhere together.

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:16 PM	#26
IntlSet Bonjour! Location: Chicago	Oh my gosh, girls, I feel so much better! LOL Yes, I'm clingy, but I'm not the only one!!! __________________ www.drinkmorechampagne.com

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:27 PM	#27
sarahloveslouis Hellllllo Christmas! Location: West Coast tPFer	He HATES alone time, but I like it every now and then! __________________ Why shop at an oppressive giant this year? Join me and so many* others by purchasing on Bonanzle! The way online shopping SHOULD be. Simple, straightforward, FUN.* Click the logo to be taken back to simpler (read: easy) times.

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:46 PM	#29
couture2387 Member Location: Miami	I've been with my bf for 2 1/2 years and we do everything together. It's more fun running errands when you have someone. This week I had to do a couple of things by myself while he was working and I regretted it. My back was killing me from carrying heavy bags. __________________ until I manage to pay off 1/2 of my Visa!

Jun 27th, 2008, 05:14 PM	#30
csamcharlie Member	I guess I'm the opposite. I think I can get things done faster when he's not there.