Co Worker Flaunts her relationship

lina girl · Dec 28th, 2007, 02:00 AM

First of all I'm not judging anyone and what they do is their own business but here's a dilema. My co-worker is dating a married man. This man flies to see my co worker and they go on trips, cruises, etcd. She even flies to his hometown with her daughter and they stay at a hotel within distance of his home. This co worker brings him to all the office functions and just loves to talk about him. A few of us feel uncomfortable with it as one of my co worker is just getting over her cheating boyfriend. The co worker tells us that self denial story, her boyfriend does not get along with his wife and kids, blah, blah, blah. It's getting to a point that it's nauseaus and I do really feel for the man's wife. I met her boyfriend. He's a total charmer, handsome but something is off about him. Would you continue to smile and act like you're interested thus encouraging her to blather on about him?

Novbunnie · Dec 28th, 2007, 02:04 AM

blah...how can she mess with a married man? if i were you, i would just change the subject every time she starts talking about her bf...

chelsae · Dec 28th, 2007, 03:07 AM

^^^ ITA, don't talk about her relationship with her. Messing around with a married man's nothing to be proud of.

Speedy · Dec 28th, 2007, 03:20 AM

Her morals are just slightly above his.

I'd ignore both of them as much as possible. You can't undo stupid.

GTOFan · Dec 28th, 2007, 03:24 AM

Yeah, I would excuse myself and walk away.

simpleplan · Dec 28th, 2007, 07:45 AM

If she annoys you (or anyone for that matter) just walk away.

Cristina · Dec 28th, 2007, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Speedy

You can't undo stupid.

ITA with those who have said to walk away. Politely end the conversation and excuse yourself.

wordpast · Dec 28th, 2007, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by lina girl

First of all I'm not judging anyone and what they do is their own business but here's a dilema. My co-worker is dating a married man. This man flies to see my co worker and they go on trips, cruises, etcd. She even flies to his hometown with her daughter and they stay at a hotel within distance of his home. This co worker brings him to all the office functions and just loves to talk about him. A few of us feel uncomfortable with it as one of my co worker is just getting over her cheating boyfriend. The co worker tells us that self denial story, her boyfriend does not get along with his wife and kids, blah, blah, blah. It's getting to a point that it's nauseaus and I do really feel for the man's wife. I met her boyfriend. He's a total charmer, handsome but something is off about him. Would you continue to smile and act like you're interested thus encouraging her to blather on about him?

No. I would ignore her. She'll get the hint.

HubbaWubba · Dec 28th, 2007, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by lina girl

First of all I'm not judging anyone and what they do is their own business but here's a dilema. My co-worker is dating a married man. This man flies to see my co worker and they go on trips, cruises, etcd. She even flies to his hometown with her daughter and they stay at a hotel within distance of his home. This co worker brings him to all the office functions and just loves to talk about him. A few of us feel uncomfortable with it as one of my co worker is just getting over her cheating boyfriend. The co worker tells us that self denial story, her boyfriend does not get along with his wife and kids, blah, blah, blah. It's getting to a point that it's nauseaus and I do really feel for the man's wife. I met her boyfriend. He's a total charmer, handsome but something is off about him. Would you continue to smile and act like you're interested thus encouraging her to blather on about him?

Stop hating on us. Leave me and my bf alone.

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You can't undo stupid.

Ain't that the truth!

Why is she flaunting him in front of everybody? He is married, I don't care if he isn't getting along with his wife, then get divorced. Does your coworker think he is going to leave his wife for her? Because chances of that are slim to none. She's dumb for thinking he won't do the same thing to her. Both of them will get their karma.

As far as if I would continue to smile etc etc, I would walk away when she starts talking about him. Pretty soon she will get the idea.

kbell · Dec 28th, 2007, 01:40 PM

is this person just a co-worker or someone you consider a friend?
if it's just a co-worker I'd walk away from those conversations that make
you uncomfortable whatever the content.

meluv2shop12 · Dec 28th, 2007, 02:10 PM

ITA with what everyone said here..
i would definitely either change the subject or walk away.

if i heard someone talking about something like this to me, i probably would've made a face and not comment at all. i figure commenting would keep the conversation on that topic going - and its just not something i'm willing to engage in.

Alaska · Dec 28th, 2007, 02:16 PM

body language speaks the loudest

walk away or make some kind of facial expression of discomfort-- perhaps she'll get the hint

meluv2shop12 · Dec 28th, 2007, 02:24 PM

... it's like someone flaunting a fake LV handbag and acting as if it were real...

GUCCI_COOCHIE · Dec 28th, 2007, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by meluv2shop12

... it's like someone flaunting a fake LV handbag and acting as if it were real...

HAHA, good comparison!

If I considered her a friend, I would let her know that I don't approve of her relationship and would not want to hear about it.

If she's just a co-worker, I'd tell her she could do whatever she wants, and I don't care to hear about it.

gillianna · Dec 28th, 2007, 03:46 PM

I think it is really low for her to flaunt her personal business at work. I mean this is only going to show she has no morals and is not going to help people thinking good of her. I would just walk away if you see the two of them at a work function. She is blind. But I guess she enjoys the money and perks...so basically you can say she is a high class whore who is getting paid for her services.... He will dump her when something younger, better and just as stupid comes along.

Dec 28th, 2007, 02:00 AM	#1
lina girl Member Location: Hawaii	Co Worker Flaunts her relationship First of all I'm not judging anyone and what they do is their own business but here's a dilema. My co-worker is dating a married man. This man flies to see my co worker and they go on trips, cruises, etcd. She even flies to his hometown with her daughter and they stay at a hotel within distance of his home. This co worker brings him to all the office functions and just loves to talk about him. A few of us feel uncomfortable with it as one of my co worker is just getting over her cheating boyfriend. The co worker tells us that self denial story, her boyfriend does not get along with his wife and kids, blah, blah, blah. It's getting to a point that it's nauseaus and I do really feel for the man's wife. I met her boyfriend. He's a total charmer, handsome but something is off about him. Would you continue to smile and act like you're interested thus encouraging her to blather on about him?

Dec 28th, 2007, 02:04 AM	#2
Novbunnie Member	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship blah...how can she mess with a married man? if i were you, i would just change the subject every time she starts talking about her bf... __________________ Gucci Abbey Medium Shoulder Bag Got it =] (6/12/07) This is her lil bro raiding her acc rawr

Dec 28th, 2007, 03:07 AM	#3
chelsae Member	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship ^^^ ITA, don't talk about her relationship with her. Messing around with a married man's nothing to be proud of. __________________ "Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening." -Coco Chanel

Dec 28th, 2007, 03:20 AM	#4
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship Her morals are just slightly above his. I'd ignore both of them as much as possible. You can't undo stupid.

Dec 28th, 2007, 03:24 AM	#5
GTOFan Member	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship Yeah, I would excuse myself and walk away.

Dec 28th, 2007, 07:45 AM	#6
simpleplan unconventional witt	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship If she annoys you (or anyone for that matter) just walk away. __________________ iHeartMyLexus

Dec 28th, 2007, 01:40 PM	#10
kbell Member Location: MA	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship is this person just a co-worker or someone you consider a friend? if it's just a co-worker I'd walk away from those conversations that make you uncomfortable whatever the content. __________________ Heal quickly & come back soon!

Dec 28th, 2007, 02:10 PM	#11
meluv2shop12 Member Location: la la land	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship ITA with what everyone said here.. i would definitely either change the subject or walk away. if i heard someone talking about something like this to me, i probably would've made a face and not comment at all. i figure commenting would keep the conversation on that topic going - and its just not something i'm willing to engage in. Last edited by meluv2shop12; Dec 28th, 2007 at 02:21 PM.

Dec 28th, 2007, 02:16 PM	#12
Alaska Material Girl Location: Alaska	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship body language speaks the loudest walk away or make some kind of facial expression of discomfort-- perhaps she'll get the hint __________________ "this..stuff? ....it's not turquoise, it's not lapis, it's actually cerulean.... that blue represents millions of dollars and countless jobs and so it's sort of comical how you think that you've made a choice that exempts you from the fashion industry when, in fact, you're wearing the sweater that was selected for you by the people in this room. From a pile of stuff....."

Dec 28th, 2007, 02:24 PM	#13
meluv2shop12 Member Location: la la land	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship ... it's like someone flaunting a fake LV handbag and acting as if it were real...

Dec 28th, 2007, 03:46 PM	#15
gillianna Member	Re: Co Worker Flaunts her relationship I think it is really low for her to flaunt her personal business at work. I mean this is only going to show she has no morals and is not going to help people thinking good of her. I would just walk away if you see the two of them at a work function. She is blind. But I guess she enjoys the money and perks...so basically you can say she is a high class whore who is getting paid for her services.... He will dump her when something younger, better and just as stupid comes along.