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dbtbandit67 · Aug 29th, 2009, 07:52 AM

Nay.

I am not going to agree to an eternal union under God moderated by my Pastor in front of all my family, friends and business associates because I cannot predict the future, neither can anyone else.

What I'd prefer is a private reception with just a few friends as witnesses.

My wife would have to threaten to call off the engagement if she wants a Cinderella wedding

Immi · Aug 29th, 2009, 09:17 AM

I actually ticked yes without really thinking about it - I'd like a celebration for my wedding (if I ever have one) because I've never had a party thrown for me before and I think it'd be nice. Actually I'm not even religious so getting married in a church would make me feel like a big hypocrite. If you love someone so much you'll stay together forever I don't think it matters where or how you get married or if you even do.

Nieners · Aug 29th, 2009, 09:34 AM

Nay, it brings too much stress imho.
I love it simple, yet beautiful.

vhdos · Aug 29th, 2009, 10:01 AM

I guess I'm not exactly sure what "Cinderella-style" is? I had a traditional wedding with the big silk dress, bridesmaids/groomsmen, tasteful decorations/floral arrangements, reception with food/bar, etc.

dbtbandit67 · Aug 29th, 2009, 10:09 AM

Originally Posted by vhdos

I guess I'm not exactly sure what "Cinderella-style" is? I had a traditional wedding with the big silk dress, bridesmaids/groomsmen, tasteful decorations/floral arrangements, reception with food/bar, etc.

Yeah, a traditional wedding party.

Nice legs.

DangerousJade · Aug 29th, 2009, 10:37 AM

I think a marriage is a beautiful time for people to come together and celebrate, and I definitely want a wedding in which the people I love can enjoy themselves and share my happiness. That being said, I voted "no" because so much of what is evoked by the term "Cinderella wedding" is what I hate in modern weddings.

I don't want to be a bride who mistakenly thinks a wedding is "my special day" to be a princess, rather than my day to humbly invite to my loved ones to share my happiness. I don't want to spend many thousands of dollars, whether I can comfortably afford it or not, on a single ostentatious party, rather than simply a celebration that may or may not have ideal floral arrangements and a designer cake. I don't want to emphasize pampering and glamor over gratitude and grace. I don't want to invest so much time and money into a single day that I will be disappointed if something goes wrong, rather than thankful for what I do have. I do not want to be the bride who has dreamed for years about her wedding...about the cake, music, dress, and flowers, and not about what matters.

I think the modern "Cinderella weddings" have grown to the point where people lose sight of why they are having a wedding at all. After months of planning, the wedding becomes the ending goal, rather than the beginning steps of something much more important. People spend countless dollars and hours planning a wedding rather than a marriage, and so instead of being about having family and friends surrounding you as your being a journey, it is about the party you will throw and the dress you will wear. So in that sense, while I would love a wedding, I never want a big Cinderella wedding that requires a tremendous amount of my time, stress, money, or focus.

PerkeMe · Aug 29th, 2009, 11:19 AM

I agree with DangerousJade.

As long as everyone involved realizes that a marriage is what ultimately results, any wedding type or style is fine.

vhdos · Aug 29th, 2009, 11:29 AM

[QUOTE=dbtbandit67;12259119]Yeah, a traditional wedding party.

Nice legs.[/QUOTE]

Thanks!!!

cocokitty · Aug 29th, 2009, 11:37 AM

For me, I would like a Cinderella wedding. I'm a traditionalist and it's just my style. Not engaged, though. However, I think you should be realistic about your wedding. I've seen a few people go overboard financially. I think debt is a bad way to start a marriage. So, for them if they're wanted and doable. I think a wedding should reflect your personality and be able to fit your budget.

BagLadie · Aug 29th, 2009, 01:34 PM

Nay. I had a Cinderella wedding. It took an entire year to plan - and was so over the top. My tastes have changed. I prefer simple and fun yet classy. My taste in men have changed too, so there ya go.

HauteMama · Aug 29th, 2009, 01:53 PM

I think a person should have whatever kind of wedding means the most to them that they can accomplish without debt. I did have what felt like a Cinderella dress (not terribly expensive, though), a nice reception dinner, etc. but it wasn't OTT, and we did not go into debt. We had a smaller wedding party and a smaller guest list than many, but our wedding was fairly traditional. I do think it is silly to alienate friends and family and go into debt by becoming a "bridezilla" though.

nooch · Aug 29th, 2009, 02:14 PM

No, we got married in a park with 10 people there. And I regret that because of how badly my mother & his brother/SIL treated us. Should have gone to city hall.

That said, if you are worried about creepy bridezilla behavior, it can happen at big weddings or small weddings. My mom got married in a restaurant with 30 friends and she tormented everyone in sight.

floridasun8 · Aug 29th, 2009, 02:15 PM

Nay. Dh and I got married at the courthouse and had a nice large dinner at a waterfront restaurant afterwards. I was never one that wanted the huge wedding, with the huge wedding gown, all the bridesmaids, etc. It just seemed too overdone to me. Im far from a traditionalist.

Now if I was to get married again, my perfect setup would be a small candlelight area setup on a beach at dusk with just a few friends, then a nice evening afterwards of a nice dinner, dancing, champagne, etc.

babieejae1101 · Aug 29th, 2009, 02:25 PM

I'm confused on what the op means by cinderella wedding. Do you mean getting married in a church?

stephc005 · Aug 29th, 2009, 02:41 PM

nay

i personally don't want a wedding that is so big that i'd be unable to chit chat with every single person and thank them. i want my wedding to just have the closest people to us (immediate family and best friends), and i'd like to be able to plan the whole thing on my own, so obviously a ginormous wedding is too much work/stress.

i often times think i'd rather just elope in vegas though and come back and throw a little party.

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Aug 29th, 2009, 07:52 AM	#1
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Aug 29th, 2009, 09:17 AM	#2
Immi <3s life Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 271	I actually ticked yes without really thinking about it - I'd like a celebration for my wedding (if I ever have one) because I've never had a party thrown for me before and I think it'd be nice. Actually I'm not even religious so getting married in a church would make me feel like a big hypocrite. If you love someone so much you'll stay together forever I don't think it matters where or how you get married or if you even do.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 09:34 AM	#3
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Aug 29th, 2009, 10:01 AM	#4
vhdos Member Joined: May 2007 Location: NC Posts: 3,144	I guess I'm not exactly sure what "Cinderella-style" is? I had a traditional wedding with the big silk dress, bridesmaids/groomsmen, tasteful decorations/floral arrangements, reception with food/bar, etc.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 10:37 AM	#6
DangerousJade Broadway Baby Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 678	I think a marriage is a beautiful time for people to come together and celebrate, and I definitely want a wedding in which the people I love can enjoy themselves and share my happiness. That being said, I voted "no" because so much of what is evoked by the term "Cinderella wedding" is what I hate in modern weddings. I don't want to be a bride who mistakenly thinks a wedding is "my special day" to be a princess, rather than my day to humbly invite to my loved ones to share my happiness. I don't want to spend many thousands of dollars, whether I can comfortably afford it or not, on a single ostentatious party, rather than simply a celebration that may or may not have ideal floral arrangements and a designer cake. I don't want to emphasize pampering and glamor over gratitude and grace. I don't want to invest so much time and money into a single day that I will be disappointed if something goes wrong, rather than thankful for what I do have. I do not want to be the bride who has dreamed for years about her wedding...about the cake, music, dress, and flowers, and not about what matters. I think the modern "Cinderella weddings" have grown to the point where people lose sight of why they are having a wedding at all. After months of planning, the wedding becomes the ending goal, rather than the beginning steps of something much more important. People spend countless dollars and hours planning a wedding rather than a marriage, and so instead of being about having family and friends surrounding you as your being a journey, it is about the party you will throw and the dress you will wear. So in that sense, while I would love a wedding, I never want a big Cinderella wedding that requires a tremendous amount of my time, stress, money, or focus.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 11:19 AM	#7
PerkeMe Member Joined: Apr 2009 Posts: 486	I agree with DangerousJade. As long as everyone involved realizes that a marriage is what ultimately results, any wedding type or style is fine.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 11:29 AM	#8
vhdos Member Joined: May 2007 Location: NC Posts: 3,144	[QUOTE=dbtbandit67;12259119]Yeah, a traditional wedding party. Nice legs.[/QUOTE] Thanks!!!
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Aug 29th, 2009, 11:37 AM	#9
cocokitty Sofa King Banned Joined: Aug 2009 Posts: 443	For me, I would like a Cinderella wedding. I'm a traditionalist and it's just my style. Not engaged, though. However, I think you should be realistic about your wedding. I've seen a few people go overboard financially. I think debt is a bad way to start a marriage. So, for them if they're wanted and doable. I think a wedding should reflect your personality and be able to fit your budget.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 01:34 PM	#10
BagLadie Got a handle on it Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Red Sox Nation Posts: 7,002	Nay. I had a Cinderella wedding. It took an entire year to plan - and was so over the top. My tastes have changed. I prefer simple and fun yet classy. My taste in men have changed too, so there ya go.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 01:53 PM	#11
HauteMama Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,846	I think a person should have whatever kind of wedding means the most to them that they can accomplish without debt. I did have what felt like a Cinderella dress (not terribly expensive, though), a nice reception dinner, etc. but it wasn't OTT, and we did not go into debt. We had a smaller wedding party and a smaller guest list than many, but our wedding was fairly traditional. I do think it is silly to alienate friends and family and go into debt by becoming a "bridezilla" though.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 02:14 PM	#12
nooch bubblehead Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 3,890	No, we got married in a park with 10 people there. And I regret that because of how badly my mother & his brother/SIL treated us. Should have gone to city hall. That said, if you are worried about creepy bridezilla behavior, it can happen at big weddings or small weddings. My mom got married in a restaurant with 30 friends and she tormented everyone in sight.
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Aug 29th, 2009, 02:15 PM	#13
floridasun8 Member Joined: Nov 2008 Location: Under a Palm Tree Posts: 1,893	Nay. Dh and I got married at the courthouse and had a nice large dinner at a waterfront restaurant afterwards. I was never one that wanted the huge wedding, with the huge wedding gown, all the bridesmaids, etc. It just seemed too overdone to me. Im far from a traditionalist. Now if I was to get married again, my perfect setup would be a small candlelight area setup on a beach at dusk with just a few friends, then a nice evening afterwards of a nice dinner, dancing, champagne, etc.

Aug 29th, 2009, 02:25 PM	#14
babieejae1101 Banned from shopping Joined: Nov 2006 Location: The middle of the desert, AZ Posts: 1,014	I'm confused on what the op means by cinderella wedding. Do you mean getting married in a church?

Aug 29th, 2009, 02:41 PM	#15
stephc005 Member Joined: Aug 2008 Location: MD Posts: 2,734	nay i personally don't want a wedding that is so big that i'd be unable to chit chat with every single person and thank them. i want my wedding to just have the closest people to us (immediate family and best friends), and i'd like to be able to plan the whole thing on my own, so obviously a ginormous wedding is too much work/stress. i often times think i'd rather just elope in vegas though and come back and throw a little party.

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