[BMC309]

Ok, so here it is: my husband and I have not been happy for some time now. We've discussed getting divorced for a while, but we're still living together....anyway, I went to a wedding last night and saw my 1st love from when I was in junior high thru high school....alcohol was involved and one thing lead to another and I cheated on my husband. Honestly, it was so great to see my 1st love, and it made me so happy to be with him, I havent felt that way in a REALLY long time, it was a wonderful night.....just needed to get it off my chest, please don't judge me

[dallas]

Oh dear ....

[meela188]

if you are truly not happy with your husband maybe you two should just seperate. this will give you some time to see ifyou guys want to be together, i think cheating just complicates things.

[Irishgal]

You made a mistake. Tell your husband, see if he will consider forgiving you. Go to counseling.

[christymarie340]

life is too short to be unhappy

[monicamacatubal]

I am sure you are not the only one that has done it. It does not make you a bad person. Each marriage is so different, so it is impossible to judge. So, are you going to tell your husband? Is there any hope of you and your husband getting back together? kids?

[scarlett_2005]

Do you still love your husband? Do you want to save your marriage?
If the answer is yes to these two questions, you should fess up to what happened and go see a marriage counselor.

If the answer to those two questions is no,then you should tell your husband that you arn't happy and have strayed and want to start divorce proceedings.

Good luck.

[ebayBAGS]

Marriage is about true love. A one night stand is about lust and passion & those feelings will not last if you are considering it. Save what you have with the one you love or go find the love of your life.

[lovemel]

Originally Posted by ebayBAGS

Marriage is about true love. A one night stand is about lust and passion & those feelings will not last if you are considering it. Save what you have with the one you love or go find the love of your life.

^^Wow...well said

[sedmackay]

No judgment from me, but I can tell you that there will be some tough times ahead for you. No matter what you choose, there will be hurt. If you keep this to yourself, it will hurt. If you confess, it will hurt. If he finds out some other way (this sort of thing tends to happen) it's going to hurt. Guilt is a powerful thing!

If it were me, I'd get some counseling. Find out what you want, and then make it happen. You and your dh might still be the 'ones' for each other, but alcohol and the past created an illusion that you were weak towards. Find out what's wrong inside you, and fix it!

Hugs, hope you can get this all figured out and you can get your life back on track.

Jen

[leothelnss]

Not sure if you're trolling or if you're for real... But if the latter, cheating is one of the worst things you could do to another person in my opinion.
I personally think you should call your marriage quits. I don't know anything about your husband, but if he does take you back, he has little respect for himself and will most likely be miserable with you for the rest of the time you are together because of what you did to him. It is not something he is going to forget, and you can say you forgive a cheater - but do you ever, really? If you've cheated on someone, it's not even fair to try and go back. Just move on, you obviously weren't meant for him in the first place.
But who knows, maybe he's cheated on you too. It looks like your relationship wasn't going in a very positive direction... Perhaps it's time for a talk.
I just can't understand why people wait until they're unfaithful to talk about the real issues in the relationship.

[April_Skye]

Originally Posted by leothelnss

Not sure if you're trolling or if you're for real... But if the latter, cheating is one of the worst things you could do to another person in my opinion.
I personally think you should call your marriage quits. I don't know anything about your husband, but if he does take you back, he has little respect for himself and will most likely be miserable with you for the rest of the time you are together because of what you did to him. It is not something he is going to forget, and you can say you forgive a cheater - but do you ever, really? If you've cheated on someone, it's not even fair to try and go back. Just move on, you obviously weren't meant for him in the first place.
But who knows, maybe he's cheated on you too. It looks like your relationship wasn't going in a very positive direction... Perhaps it's time for a talk.
I just can't understand why people wait until they're unfaithful to talk about the real issues in the relationship.

well said!
Clearly the alarm bells were ringing long before you cheated on your husband.
This marriage of yours has some serious flaws and if you are both talking about getting a divorce, that feeling is definatley mutual and sounds like the two of you have no desire to make it work. Maybe you two need to stop putting this off and face it head on.

[BMC309]

well, I'm not sure what trolling is, but it definately happened and I needed to get it off my chest. Obviously there are issues in my marriage and it would take too long to get into all of it. My feeling about telling him is that it will just bring more misery into an already bad situation. I know we need to move forward with a divorce, I realized after this weekend that I'm "looking" for something else because I'm not happy. thanks everyone for listening and trying not to judge

[BMC309]

Originally Posted by leothelnss

Not sure if you're trolling or if you're for real... But if the latter, cheating is one of the worst things you could do to another person in my opinion.
I personally think you should call your marriage quits. I don't know anything about your husband, but if he does take you back, he has little respect for himself and will most likely be miserable with you for the rest of the time you are together because of what you did to him. It is not something he is going to forget, and you can say you forgive a cheater - but do you ever, really? If you've cheated on someone, it's not even fair to try and go back. Just move on, you obviously weren't meant for him in the first place.
But who knows, maybe he's cheated on you too. It looks like your relationship wasn't going in a very positive direction... Perhaps it's time for a talk.
I just can't understand why people wait until they're unfaithful to talk about the real issues in the relationship.

just wanted to clarify: we have been talking about our issues; hence talking about a divorce. we've tried to work through the "issues" for the past 2 years

[keya]

It sounds to me like your marriage is over and you need to tell your husband. I don't see any reason to bring up the cheating unless you want him to forgive you and hopefully continue the marriage.