Caring about SO's appearance....

devoted · Dec 12th, 2007, 11:12 PM

do you?

The pizza thread had me thinking....I am always putting sunscreen on my bf's face, trying to tweeze his eyebrows here and there (which he refuses), and I just bought some anti-wrinkle cream for him...am I overdoing it and being shallow?

He's older than me by almost 10 years, but looks about 27, seriously. I just started noticing a few lines on his forehead and around the eyes...I even mentioned he might need to get botox in 10 years.

OMG, and the hair is not thinning yet, but if it does....

I always want him dressed well, smelling good, and to keep his weight under control....which I think is perfectly normal...but maybe the other stuff isn't.

OMG, I am freaking horrible.

Sweetpea83 · Dec 12th, 2007, 11:16 PM

Honestly, no. I really don't worry about his appearence..but in regards to his health like putting sunscreen on him in the summers here (Texas sun) yes I do worry about him in that aspect like in your case. Luckily, my SO takes good care of himself and is active.

wordpast · Dec 12th, 2007, 11:22 PM

Well I'm pretty happy with SO appearance. But sometimes I do want to dress up him like a Ken doll in the stuff I really want to see him in. LOL. Or I want him to use all these potions and lotions on his face. But he's not having that.

karman · Dec 12th, 2007, 11:23 PM

I help my boyfriend with his appearance. He has issues with acne still (he's in his early 20's) and sometimes I look for facial products that'll help him...right now we're using the same facial soap

Other than that, he takes pretty good care of himself. He has wrinkles (yeah, at a very young age) but meh, that's bound to happen any way, so it doesn't matter. I'm more fussy when it comes to him brushing his teeth and using mouthwash, other than that...whatever...

helium · Dec 12th, 2007, 11:26 PM

Mine has the worse acne, but I don't care about what he looks like at all. I'd be freakin' pissed if he changed! The only thing that concerns me is how skinny he is, he really doesn't try to be so skinny, it runs in the family, but it's a little concerning.

caxe · Dec 12th, 2007, 11:52 PM

My BF is incredibly vain for a guy. He cares WAY more about his apperance than I ever would. I think he looks okay, hot even (comments made to him in anger aside). He thinks he could pass for 35 (I don't think he could, by the way LOL), and swears up and down that he's the hottest thing! He dyes his hair religiously, and puts a lot of effort into clothes, shoes, cologne, etc. I don't mind most times, except for the fact that he likes me to be as obsessed with my own appearance. I've always known that he likes the high-maintenance look in a woman (you know, hair "did", nails "did", eyebrows "did"), but I really don't care how he looks. I guess I like him for who he is. The irony is that back in the day, yeah, he was super-hot. LOL. So hot that I probably wouldn't have had a chance with him. LOL. Since getting out of the army he's put on a few lbs, maybe 30 lbs, but I think that once most men get to be in their mid to late forties their body composition changes...not that they "let go" per se, just that they're less active than they used to be.

Speedy · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:05 AM

I find this thread amusing! I sooo check hubby over to make sure he's looking good, while I throw on old jeans, run a brush through my hair and then go out. He has beautiful teeth, which I tell him when he's got something stuck in them at times, and I asked him to grow his hair out (he's bald on the top) so he'd have a little ponytail, which enhances his looks I think. I tell him whether or not he should wear a certain shirt when we go out, but I don't really think that much about what I am going to wear! He gets nasty blackheads on his face because of the grease he hauls, and I take those out and condition his pores... I am vain FOR HIM! He's average looking, but I do what I can to dispell the "Baccy' chewin'-spittin', beet drinkin' slobby truck driver" when he's not at work.

I even take the shaver and trim up his beard for him, no stray hairs on MY man!

oo0ehxtahcee0oo · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:14 AM

man on man, my DF is sooooooooo HOT!! Haha. He can look like Steve Urkle and I'd still be drooling over my hunka hunka!! (me soooooo lucky!) he leaves the house at times in the weirdest combination of clothes that dont match, but he still looks sexy!! The only time DF doesnt match and if bothers me is if were going to a mall or something. But to go to the grocery store to run errands rather than strolling at a mall, then I dont mind!

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:19 AM

Well, I guess I lucked out...I have a boyfriend who gets his eyebrows waxed and gets manis and pedis lol! He really cares about his appearance, always makes sure everything matches and looks good.

madamefifi · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:39 AM

I wish he wouldn't wear turtlenecks, LOL, since he's got a short neck and a bit of a double chin. He could probably stand to lose a little weight and his hair is rapidly becoming a memory but I love him just the way he is.

except for that whole turtleneck thing.

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by madamefifi

I wish he wouldn't wear turtlenecks, LOL, since he's got a short neck and a bit of a double chin. He could probably stand to lose a little weight and his hair is rapidly becoming a memory but I love him just the way he is.

except for that whole turtleneck thing.

My SO's hair is "leaving him" also...but whatever! lol

Shari · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:51 AM

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Originally Posted by devoted

do you?

The pizza thread had me thinking....I am always putting sunscreen on my bf's face, trying to tweeze his eyebrows here and there (which he refuses), and I just bought some anti-wrinkle cream for him...am I overdoing it and being shallow?

He's older than me by almost 10 years, but looks about 27, seriously. I just started noticing a few lines on his forehead and around the eyes...I even mentioned he might need to get botox in 10 years.

OMG, and the hair is not thinning yet, but if it does....

I always want him dressed well, smelling good, and to keep his weight under control....which I think is perfectly normal...but maybe the other stuff isn't.

OMG, I am freaking horrible.

Yikes I do all this stuff too!! Always with the suncreen, hat and sunnies, telling him he needs botox for his forehead lines, brush your teeth your breath stinks!!

Jeez I'd better stop or he'll think I'm his mother!

jellybebe · Dec 13th, 2007, 01:24 AM

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Originally Posted by karman

I help my boyfriend with his appearance. He has issues with acne still (he's in his early 20's) and sometimes I look for facial products that'll help him...right now we're using the same facial soap

Other than that, he takes pretty good care of himself. He has wrinkles (yeah, at a very young age) but meh, that's bound to happen any way, so it doesn't matter. I'm more fussy when it comes to him brushing his teeth and using mouthwash, other than that...whatever...

Ha ha! I'm exactly the same way! My bf borrows my face wash all the time but he can't be bothered to moisturize or put on sunscreen, which I think is horrible because although he has quite dark skin (for a Caucasian person especially) he has some wrinkles (he's in his late 20s). I'm fastidious about skincare. But like Karman, I'm a nag when it comes to oral hygiene. Why are some men so laissez-faire about brushing their teeth? It's gross!

chinadoll724 · Dec 13th, 2007, 02:01 AM

I do, but he cares just as much so we're goood! I do have to "get angry" when he's being lazy about going to the gym, but we always end up going about 3 times a week now :)

candace117 · Dec 13th, 2007, 02:22 AM

Hmmm well DH has his own style (very typical jeans, tshirt and sneakers style, wearing a polo shirt is for 'nice' occasions) and I can't change it. I will soap him in the shower and remind him to shave every morning (regulation in the Army) but other than that, meh. I'll tell him if he has something in his toofs, or if he has a big zit or something...

Dec 12th, 2007, 11:12 PM	#1
devoted Member	Caring about SO's appearance.... do you? The pizza thread had me thinking....I am always putting sunscreen on my bf's face, trying to tweeze his eyebrows here and there (which he refuses), and I just bought some anti-wrinkle cream for him...am I overdoing it and being shallow? He's older than me by almost 10 years, but looks about 27, seriously. I just started noticing a few lines on his forehead and around the eyes...I even mentioned he might need to get botox in 10 years. OMG, and the hair is not thinning yet, but if it does.... I always want him dressed well, smelling good, and to keep his weight under control....which I think is perfectly normal...but maybe the other stuff isn't. OMG, I am freaking horrible.

Dec 12th, 2007, 11:16 PM	#2
Sweetpea83 Happy Holidays!	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... Honestly, no. I really don't worry about his appearence..but in regards to his health like putting sunscreen on him in the summers here (Texas sun) yes I do worry about him in that aspect like in your case. Luckily, my SO takes good care of himself and is active. __________________ The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge.- Bertrand Russell

Dec 12th, 2007, 11:22 PM	#3
wordpast Member Location: Never Never Land	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... Well I'm pretty happy with SO appearance. But sometimes I do want to dress up him like a Ken doll in the stuff I really want to see him in. LOL. Or I want him to use all these potions and lotions on his face. But he's not having that. __________________

Dec 12th, 2007, 11:23 PM	#4
karman nail polish addict Location: Canada	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... I help my boyfriend with his appearance. He has issues with acne still (he's in his early 20's) and sometimes I look for facial products that'll help him...right now we're using the same facial soap Other than that, he takes pretty good care of himself. He has wrinkles (yeah, at a very young age) but meh, that's bound to happen any way, so it doesn't matter. I'm more fussy when it comes to him brushing his teeth and using mouthwash, other than that...whatever... __________________ karman Louis Vuitton, Chanel & nail polish View my collection here

Dec 12th, 2007, 11:26 PM	#5
helium Member	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... Mine has the worse acne, but I don't care about what he looks like at all. I'd be freakin' pissed if he changed! The only thing that concerns me is how skinny he is, he really doesn't try to be so skinny, it runs in the family, but it's a little concerning.

Dec 12th, 2007, 11:52 PM	#6
caxe I has ur gif. Location: The Southeast, US	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... My BF is incredibly vain for a guy. He cares WAY more about his apperance than I ever would. I think he looks okay, hot even (comments made to him in anger aside). He thinks he could pass for 35 (I don't think he could, by the way LOL), and swears up and down that he's the hottest thing! He dyes his hair religiously, and puts a lot of effort into clothes, shoes, cologne, etc. I don't mind most times, except for the fact that he likes me to be as obsessed with my own appearance. I've always known that he likes the high-maintenance look in a woman (you know, hair "did", nails "did", eyebrows "did"), but I really don't care how he looks. I guess I like him for who he is. The irony is that back in the day, yeah, he was super-hot. LOL. So hot that I probably wouldn't have had a chance with him. LOL. Since getting out of the army he's put on a few lbs, maybe 30 lbs, but I think that once most men get to be in their mid to late forties their body composition changes...not that they "let go" per se, just that they're less active than they used to be. __________________ Christmas without fruitcake is like St. Sigmund's Day without the headless boy.

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:05 AM	#7
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... I find this thread amusing! I sooo check hubby over to make sure he's looking good, while I throw on old jeans, run a brush through my hair and then go out. He has beautiful teeth, which I tell him when he's got something stuck in them at times, and I asked him to grow his hair out (he's bald on the top) so he'd have a little ponytail, which enhances his looks I think. I tell him whether or not he should wear a certain shirt when we go out, but I don't really think that much about what I am going to wear! He gets nasty blackheads on his face because of the grease he hauls, and I take those out and condition his pores... I am vain FOR HIM! He's average looking, but I do what I can to dispell the "Baccy' chewin'-spittin', beet drinkin' slobby truck driver" when he's not at work. I even take the shaver and trim up his beard for him, no stray hairs on MY man!

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:14 AM	#8
oo0ehxtahcee0oo ☺Livin the good life Location: ♥In my DF's arms♥	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... man on man, my DF is sooooooooo HOT!! Haha. He can look like Steve Urkle and I'd still be drooling over my hunka hunka!! (me soooooo lucky!) he leaves the house at times in the weirdest combination of clothes that dont match, but he still looks sexy!! The only time DF doesnt match and if bothers me is if were going to a mall or something. But to go to the grocery store to run errands rather than strolling at a mall, then I dont mind! __________________ [Click photo to read thread!] My blog site has great FREE goodies!! (updated 11/26) www,dearmissie.blogspot.com We did it!! New Crafts Subforum celebration here!!

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:19 AM	#9
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... Well, I guess I lucked out...I have a boyfriend who gets his eyebrows waxed and gets manis and pedis lol! He really cares about his appearance, always makes sure everything matches and looks good. __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:39 AM	#10
madamefifi cat hoarder Location: virginia	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... I wish he wouldn't wear turtlenecks, LOL, since he's got a short neck and a bit of a double chin. He could probably stand to lose a little weight and his hair is rapidly becoming a memory but I love him just the way he is. except for that whole turtleneck thing. __________________ Happiness is a home with at least one cat. On a complete EVERYTHING ban until after Christmas!!!! http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/c...faces?siteId=3

Dec 13th, 2007, 02:01 AM	#14
chinadoll724 Member	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... I do, but he cares just as much so we're goood! I do have to "get angry" when he's being lazy about going to the gym, but we always end up going about 3 times a week now :)

Dec 13th, 2007, 02:22 AM	#15
candace117 Pirate Trash Location: Hardcorvallis	Re: Caring about SO's appearance.... Hmmm well DH has his own style (very typical jeans, tshirt and sneakers style, wearing a polo shirt is for 'nice' occasions) and I can't change it. I will soap him in the shower and remind him to shave every morning (regulation in the Army) but other than that, meh. I'll tell him if he has something in his toofs, or if he has a big zit or something... __________________ "With so much drama in the L-B-C, it's kinda hard bein Snoop D-O-double G."