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Dew Drops · Oct 17th, 2009, 11:14 PM

This is a bit of a funny situation and I thought I'd ask and see if any of the girls here experience something similar. Whether this is the right forum/section or not, I'm not sure, so I apologize in advance.

I'm in a long term relationship (3 years) with my boyfriend, we're very close and almost ALWAYS together, we have similar interests and I'm currently unemployed so when he goes off to work the night shift it's my "day" and then when he gets back in the morning we sleep until the late afternoon then get up and do stuff (shopping/daily routines..etc)

My BF says I sleep a lot, but that's not quite the issue exactly because I'd say I get enough sleep (9 hours or so) and wake up refreshed (no alarm or anything) The dilema here is that whenever I'm around him I get tired, really really really tired and I start snoozing. It's so weird.

If I'm off in the kitchen doing something on my own I'm wide awake and fine, but as soon I'm anywhere near him I'm fighting off sleep because my eye lids get very heavy and it's as if I haven't slept for days so I shut down.

The other day we were at the mall and I couldn't help falling asleep while he "dragged" me around the mall, how weird is that because I love shopping!! I can't sit and watch him play a game or show me how to play a game because I just start falling asleep and end up using up all my energy to fight off sleep than actually concentrate.
Whenever my sleep schedule is mixed up I take all-natural Valerian (some melatonin too) at bed time and the stuff puts me out within 5 mins, he says it's rather funny.

Does anyone else experience this, are you just super comfy around your significant others that you just feeling like dozing?

I suppose it's not a terrible problem, but on his days off (twice a week) he'll be home at night and want to stay up overnight to keep with the work schedule, which is fine for me too because I'm up every night anyway, but as soon as it gets dark outside on his days off I start getting ready to go to bed even though I just woke up a few hours ago from a 9-10 hour rest!

This has little to do with the night/day sleeping arrangement because earlier this year he worked mornings (7AM-3 PM) and we went to bed early, I slept in after he went to work and then got up refreshed to go about my day only as soon as he got back I started falling sleep again. I find it hard to do anything together without trying to fight off sleep, even in public, or in the car (not behind the wheel!!) If I took a trip or went out of town to stay with relatives for a week or two, I'm perfectly ok!

juneping · Oct 17th, 2009, 11:19 PM

well....i went thru chronic insomnia 2 years ago (i only slept like 10 hours in a week), and it lasted for over 3 months....so i wouldn't worry too much about it.

omgsweet · Oct 18th, 2009, 02:30 AM

Maybe you are allergic to something he is wearing? Cologne or something?

AnimalCrackers · Oct 18th, 2009, 10:14 AM

You should get checked out for narcolepsy. A friend of mine had it and no one believed her, they thought she just slept whenever she was bored. Unfortunately, they only checked her for it after she fell asleep at the wheel and wrecked her car. She's fine now, but getting checked for it earlier could've saved her a lot of grief!

BagLadie · Oct 18th, 2009, 10:20 AM

maybe he's really boring?

j/k. i have no idea why this happens to you - but it's slightly humorous.

seaotta · Oct 18th, 2009, 01:17 PM

The same thing has happened to me with my boyfriend of 2 years. I just get so cozy around him and relax and then I'm gone by 10 o'clock. We always spend so much time together so we decided to spend less time together so when we ARE together, the time spent will be more important. We did go from living together to living apart just because I'm still in school and he just graduated so he didn't know what he was doing.
Me falling asleep all the time really hurt his feelings so I'm working on it!

cookie888 · Oct 18th, 2009, 01:17 PM

As you spend so much time with your boyf - you associate sleep with him. Therefore when you spend time together in the day he immediately makes you feel tired.

I've been with my boyf for 6 years and I went through a similar thing. It's like being conditioned to react to a situation or person. This is probably not making much sense but I reckon you should continue doing active thing with him

cookie888 · Oct 18th, 2009, 01:20 PM

Originally Posted by juneping

well....i went thru chronic insomnia 2 years ago (i only slept like 10 hours in a week), and it lasted for over 3 months....so i wouldn't worry too much about it.

Hi juneping

I think I'm going through some kind of insomnia.... in the last 2 weeks I've not had one decent nights sleep. I'm worried it's the start of worse things to come. How did yours start?

flashy.stems · Oct 18th, 2009, 06:11 PM

this is so funny. i hope you find a cure to your bf-sleepiness :)

olialm1 · Oct 18th, 2009, 10:55 PM

That's so odd! I actually went to a Brazilian steakhouse last night and my bf said something about a "meat coma" and as soon as we got back to his place I zonked out!!! I normally don't have an issue with sleeping... BUT 2 years ago I felt like an insomniac because I just COULDN'T stay asleep. It was awful! I love sleep

PurseAddict79 · Oct 19th, 2009, 12:13 PM

Are you a high strung person??

My dbf has this affect on me too, but I chalk it up to him being the only person that makes me feel relaxed. Maybe that's how it is for you too.

hlfinn · Oct 19th, 2009, 12:40 PM

i was dating someone and had the same thing. whenever we were together i would get sleepy. he said he had that affect on other people he dated too. i would always try and get us to do more active stuff- bc as soon as we went home forget it. lol. maybe it's a hormone some people give off?

mrsklem14 · Oct 19th, 2009, 03:49 PM

I am almost the same way!!!! I always fall asleep on him ahah or during movies I'm out the first 5 mintues. Idk why!

Rockysmom · Oct 20th, 2009, 11:46 AM

do you think he just bores you so you fall asleep?

ChiChi143 · Oct 20th, 2009, 02:06 PM

Whenever I'm hanging home with my boyfriend I fall asleep too. I think it's because I'm so relaxed and comfy in his arms.

Oct 17th, 2009, 11:14 PM	#1
Dew Drops OP Member Joined: Jul 2009 Location: Toronto Posts: 36	Can't stay awake around my boyfriend This is a bit of a funny situation and I thought I'd ask and see if any of the girls here experience something similar. Whether this is the right forum/section or not, I'm not sure, so I apologize in advance. I'm in a long term relationship (3 years) with my boyfriend, we're very close and almost ALWAYS together, we have similar interests and I'm currently unemployed so when he goes off to work the night shift it's my "day" and then when he gets back in the morning we sleep until the late afternoon then get up and do stuff (shopping/daily routines..etc) My BF says I sleep a lot, but that's not quite the issue exactly because I'd say I get enough sleep (9 hours or so) and wake up refreshed (no alarm or anything) The dilema here is that whenever I'm around him I get tired, really really really tired and I start snoozing. It's so weird. If I'm off in the kitchen doing something on my own I'm wide awake and fine, but as soon I'm anywhere near him I'm fighting off sleep because my eye lids get very heavy and it's as if I haven't slept for days so I shut down. The other day we were at the mall and I couldn't help falling asleep while he "dragged" me around the mall, how weird is that because I love shopping!! I can't sit and watch him play a game or show me how to play a game because I just start falling asleep and end up using up all my energy to fight off sleep than actually concentrate. Whenever my sleep schedule is mixed up I take all-natural Valerian (some melatonin too) at bed time and the stuff puts me out within 5 mins, he says it's rather funny. Does anyone else experience this, are you just super comfy around your significant others that you just feeling like dozing? I suppose it's not a terrible problem, but on his days off (twice a week) he'll be home at night and want to stay up overnight to keep with the work schedule, which is fine for me too because I'm up every night anyway, but as soon as it gets dark outside on his days off I start getting ready to go to bed even though I just woke up a few hours ago from a 9-10 hour rest! This has little to do with the night/day sleeping arrangement because earlier this year he worked mornings (7AM-3 PM) and we went to bed early, I slept in after he went to work and then got up refreshed to go about my day only as soon as he got back I started falling sleep again. I find it hard to do anything together without trying to fight off sleep, even in public, or in the car (not behind the wheel!!) If I took a trip or went out of town to stay with relatives for a week or two, I'm perfectly ok!

Oct 17th, 2009, 11:19 PM	#2
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 4,330	well....i went thru chronic insomnia 2 years ago (i only slept like 10 hours in a week), and it lasted for over 3 months....so i wouldn't worry too much about it.
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Oct 18th, 2009, 02:30 AM	#3
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Oct 18th, 2009, 10:20 AM	#5
BagLadie Got a handle on it Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Red Sox Nation Posts: 7,002	maybe he's really boring? j/k. i have no idea why this happens to you - but it's slightly humorous.
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Oct 18th, 2009, 01:17 PM	#6
seaotta Member Joined: Oct 2008 Location: west coast Posts: 192	The same thing has happened to me with my boyfriend of 2 years. I just get so cozy around him and relax and then I'm gone by 10 o'clock. We always spend so much time together so we decided to spend less time together so when we ARE together, the time spent will be more important. We did go from living together to living apart just because I'm still in school and he just graduated so he didn't know what he was doing. Me falling asleep all the time really hurt his feelings so I'm working on it!
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Oct 18th, 2009, 10:14 AM	#4
AnimalCrackers Book Slave Joined: Feb 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 780	You should get checked out for narcolepsy. A friend of mine had it and no one believed her, they thought she just slept whenever she was bored. Unfortunately, they only checked her for it after she fell asleep at the wheel and wrecked her car. She's fine now, but getting checked for it earlier could've saved her a lot of grief!

Oct 18th, 2009, 01:17 PM	#7
cookie888 Member Joined: Apr 2009 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 766	As you spend so much time with your boyf - you associate sleep with him. Therefore when you spend time together in the day he immediately makes you feel tired. I've been with my boyf for 6 years and I went through a similar thing. It's like being conditioned to react to a situation or person. This is probably not making much sense but I reckon you should continue doing active thing with him

Oct 18th, 2009, 06:11 PM	#9
flashy.stems Hermès Hottie Joined: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 2,010	this is so funny. i hope you find a cure to your bf-sleepiness :)
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Oct 18th, 2009, 10:55 PM	#10
olialm1 windy city Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,544	That's so odd! I actually went to a Brazilian steakhouse last night and my bf said something about a "meat coma" and as soon as we got back to his place I zonked out!!! I normally don't have an issue with sleeping... BUT 2 years ago I felt like an insomniac because I just COULDN'T stay asleep. It was awful! I love sleep
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Oct 19th, 2009, 12:13 PM	#11
PurseAddict79 PerpetuallyPenniless Joined: Sep 2008 Location: The Mall Posts: 1,226	Are you a high strung person?? My dbf has this affect on me too, but I chalk it up to him being the only person that makes me feel relaxed. Maybe that's how it is for you too.

Oct 19th, 2009, 12:40 PM	#12
hlfinn runner in training Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 10,295	i was dating someone and had the same thing. whenever we were together i would get sleepy. he said he had that affect on other people he dated too. i would always try and get us to do more active stuff- bc as soon as we went home forget it. lol. maybe it's a hormone some people give off?
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Oct 19th, 2009, 03:49 PM	#13
mrsklem14 Member Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 1,252	I am almost the same way!!!! I always fall asleep on him ahah or during movies I'm out the first 5 mintues. Idk why!
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Oct 20th, 2009, 11:46 AM	#14
Rockysmom Member Joined: May 2008 Posts: 941	do you think he just bores you so you fall asleep?
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Oct 20th, 2009, 02:06 PM	#15
ChiChi143 ♥ Happily Engaged ♥ Joined: Jun 2007 Location: New York Posts: 8,256	Whenever I'm hanging home with my boyfriend I fall asleep too. I think it's because I'm so relaxed and comfy in his arms.
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