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little LV lover · Oct 13th, 2009, 11:20 PM

The butterflies come and go but what I cherish the most is the feelings of security, faith, and commitment for each other. It's such a comforting feeling knowing that I'm with the love of my life! Oooh, there's the butterfly feeling...I gotta go find him and give him a hug!

NLVOEWITHLV · Oct 14th, 2009, 12:24 AM

I met my DH when I was 16, I was told that I was young and it was puppy love, 3 yrs later when we were married I was told that I was too young to know what love was. I can remember being so excited when we had a date that I couldnt sleep, everyday that he walks through the door all the reasons I love him flood to my mind... I love being in love with my best friend and the security aspect, but the man gives me chills. When my best friend was married I was her matron of honor DH mouthed the words to the song always and forever from across the room, my heart melted. I'll be married 5 years in March and I'm still amazed that he has the power to make me weak in my knees!!!

BigBagLady · Oct 14th, 2009, 01:42 AM

28 years later and my heart still skips a beat every time I look at my sweetie pie!!

jenniferelaine · Oct 14th, 2009, 08:23 AM

No, they definitely don't fade or go away, especially if you're with the right person. I agree that they may morph into other things, warm fuzzy, etc...& they may be brought on by other things (seeing DH hold your newborn baby for example), but I truly & honestly believe that once you're with the right person & have a strong relationship foundation built on trust & communication, you'll always have some type of butterflies. How else do you explain cute old people still holding hands? And don't say so they won't fall down!

natalie78 · Oct 14th, 2009, 08:45 AM

The feeling is always there, but there are times when it's not as strong (like when he puts my new trousers and sweaters in the dryer). Relationships are all about ups and downs.

merika · Oct 14th, 2009, 09:38 AM

Can I step a little bit out of line and say I don't like the butterfly feeling? This is not to take away from anyone else's butterfly feelings but mine were always combined with feelings of excitement and happy agitation, and frankly I don't like to be excited and happily agitated all the time. I like to be calm.

I like the feeling of warmth and comfort way more than my butterflies. Bit like flames burning out and settling into warm glowing coals in the fireplace.

bagaholic85 · Oct 14th, 2009, 09:53 AM

ive been with the bf for 9 years and i only get the butterflies during a romantic kiss session. other than that i just have that warm glow that others mentioned

olialm1 · Oct 14th, 2009, 10:24 AM

Prior to my current s/o I would have little flings where I'd be infatuated with someone and then it would fade but after 2 years with my boyfriend I still get butterflies at certain moments. I don't want to come off as a sap and say he's my soulmate or anything but he is someone I truly 'mesh' with and love dearly no matter what. I also agree with the warm feeling other posters have mentioned.

NLVOEWITHLV · Oct 14th, 2009, 11:24 AM

I totally feel where you're coming from!!! I think my anxious butterflies left after we gained comfort, now its more of an excitement... and I LOVE excitement!!! KWIM? I get the "warm fuzzies" but when I'm having a bad day and I read one of his texts calling me his sunshine, pretty princess, or butter cup I feel the flutters and all the anger goes away...

Originally Posted by merika

Can I step a little bit out of line and say I don't like the butterfly feeling? This is not to take away from anyone else's butterfly feelings but mine were always combined with feelings of excitement and happy agitation, and frankly I don't like to be excited and happily agitated all the time. I like to be calm.

I like the feeling of warmth and comfort way more than my butterflies. Bit like flames burning out and settling into warm glowing coals in the fireplace.

NLVOEWITHLV · Oct 14th, 2009, 11:25 AM

I like this statement... sometimes I throw a little starter fluid on the coals to get the fire going!!!

[QUOTE=merika;12772749]like flames burning out and settling into warm glowing coals in the fireplace.[/QUOTE]

bagnshoofetish · Oct 14th, 2009, 12:08 PM

Originally Posted by merika

I like the feeling of warmth and comfort way more than my butterflies. Bit like flames burning out and settling into warm glowing coals in the fireplace.

Merika said it best. And Irishgal also touched on something very true - getting that fuzzy feeling after you've been apart for a while!

bagnshoofetish · Oct 14th, 2009, 12:11 PM

Originally Posted by Irishgal

...And even though we don't get that "I cannot eat or sleep" thing anymore....

and this is the "infatuation/butterfly" stage I was referring to in the other thread that this thread spawned from.

zoeyjoey · Oct 14th, 2009, 12:29 PM

I must be hopeless because after being married over 10 years I still get those darned butterflies (and sweating palms, excitement, the works). Not all the time, of course, but on a regular basis. Other times I just get that happy and warm feeling inside. I appreciate the butterflies because they make me feel young again!

GirlFriday · Oct 14th, 2009, 02:18 PM

Like others have said, the butterflies fade, but there's still a warm, loving feeling.

Butterflies are another form of anxiety, and while they're nice, to be in that state for the rest of your life would take a toll. I don't want to have butterflies forever. I agree with merika.

Spinky · Oct 14th, 2009, 02:41 PM

I still get them. We've been married for 18 years, together for 22. He still moves me.

He told me the other day that he still gets tingles from me too.

Oct 14th, 2009, 12:24 AM	#17
NLVOEWITHLV OP Member Joined: Apr 2009 Location: Houston Posts: 742	I met my DH when I was 16, I was told that I was young and it was puppy love, 3 yrs later when we were married I was told that I was too young to know what love was. I can remember being so excited when we had a date that I couldnt sleep, everyday that he walks through the door all the reasons I love him flood to my mind... I love being in love with my best friend and the security aspect, but the man gives me chills. When my best friend was married I was her matron of honor DH mouthed the words to the song always and forever from across the room, my heart melted. I'll be married 5 years in March and I'm still amazed that he has the power to make me weak in my knees!!!
	__________________ "Marriage is like a roller coaster- at first you have butterflies or may be scared, at times you may wonder what you've gotten yourself into and if you can handle it, but once the ride begins its amazing and you would DEFINITELY do it all over again!!!!"

Oct 14th, 2009, 01:42 AM	#18
BigBagLady Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 333	28 years later and my heart still skips a beat every time I look at my sweetie pie!!
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Oct 14th, 2009, 08:23 AM	#19
jenniferelaine Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 1,379	No, they definitely don't fade or go away, especially if you're with the right person. I agree that they may morph into other things, warm fuzzy, etc...& they may be brought on by other things (seeing DH hold your newborn baby for example), but I truly & honestly believe that once you're with the right person & have a strong relationship foundation built on trust & communication, you'll always have some type of butterflies. How else do you explain cute old people still holding hands? And don't say so they won't fall down!
jenniferelaine Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 1,379

Oct 14th, 2009, 08:45 AM	#20
natalie78 Dave's not here Joined: May 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 1,669	The feeling is always there, but there are times when it's not as strong (like when he puts my new trousers and sweaters in the dryer). Relationships are all about ups and downs.
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Oct 14th, 2009, 09:38 AM	#21
merika Mr Lau reigns Joined: Nov 2006 Location: In front of a computer Posts: 8,931	Can I step a little bit out of line and say I don't like the butterfly feeling? This is not to take away from anyone else's butterfly feelings but mine were always combined with feelings of excitement and happy agitation, and frankly I don't like to be excited and happily agitated all the time. I like to be calm. I like the feeling of warmth and comfort way more than my butterflies. Bit like flames burning out and settling into warm glowing coals in the fireplace.
	__________________ "Hatred does not cease by hatred at any time: hatred ceases by love, this is an old rule." --The Dhammapada

Oct 13th, 2009, 11:20 PM	#16
little LV lover Because I can... Joined: Apr 2007 Location: Where do you live? Posts: 1,339	The butterflies come and go but what I cherish the most is the feelings of security, faith, and commitment for each other. It's such a comforting feeling knowing that I'm with the love of my life! Oooh, there's the butterfly feeling...I gotta go find him and give him a hug!

Oct 14th, 2009, 09:53 AM	#22
bagaholic85 Member Joined: Sep 2007 Location: i <3 ny Posts: 5,090	ive been with the bf for 9 years and i only get the butterflies during a romantic kiss session. other than that i just have that warm glow that others mentioned

Oct 14th, 2009, 10:24 AM	#23
olialm1 windy city Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,553	Prior to my current s/o I would have little flings where I'd be infatuated with someone and then it would fade but after 2 years with my boyfriend I still get butterflies at certain moments. I don't want to come off as a sap and say he's my soulmate or anything but he is someone I truly 'mesh' with and love dearly no matter what. I also agree with the warm feeling other posters have mentioned.
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Oct 14th, 2009, 11:25 AM	#25
NLVOEWITHLV OP Member Joined: Apr 2009 Location: Houston Posts: 742	I like this statement... sometimes I throw a little starter fluid on the coals to get the fire going!!! [QUOTE=merika;12772749]like flames burning out and settling into warm glowing coals in the fireplace.[/QUOTE]
	__________________ "Marriage is like a roller coaster- at first you have butterflies or may be scared, at times you may wonder what you've gotten yourself into and if you can handle it, but once the ride begins its amazing and you would DEFINITELY do it all over again!!!!"

Oct 14th, 2009, 12:29 PM	#28
zoeyjoey Member Joined: Jun 2009 Location: East Coast Posts: 255	I must be hopeless because after being married over 10 years I still get those darned butterflies (and sweating palms, excitement, the works). Not all the time, of course, but on a regular basis. Other times I just get that happy and warm feeling inside. I appreciate the butterflies because they make me feel young again!

Oct 14th, 2009, 02:18 PM	#29
GirlFriday Member Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 2,355	Like others have said, the butterflies fade, but there's still a warm, loving feeling. Butterflies are another form of anxiety, and while they're nice, to be in that state for the rest of your life would take a toll. I don't want to have butterflies forever. I agree with merika.
GirlFriday Member Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 2,355

Oct 14th, 2009, 02:41 PM	#30
Spinky I love bags! Joined: Jun 2007 Location: Caught in the bell tower Posts: 1,013	I still get them. We've been married for 18 years, together for 22. He still moves me. He told me the other day that he still gets tingles from me too.
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