Are you close to your siblings?

[bagaholic85]

growing up my sister and i were always told not to fight bc your sister will be the best friend you'll ever have. my mom was right.

my whole family is close though, aunts, uncles, and cousins (and theres a LOT of us...like 50 cousins and 22 aunts & uncles)

[valjo]

Originally Posted by HauteMama

I have only one sister, 4-1/2 years older than I am. I am told she was quite resentful that I was ever born, and I don't think she's ever really recovered. She is angry about everything and is quite unpleasant to be around, to be honest. And I cannot trust her with anything and hope that she won't tell anyone (everyone). So we rarely speak, and I think we both prefer it that way. Sadly, I cannot even honestly say that she's got my back. I think she'd stab it, given the chance. Ah, well, I guess you cannot choose your family. I'm very close with my mom, though.

This is totally my situation. My sister has a streak of jealousy and meanness too; I found one of her old journals after she went to university while I was cleaning up and even in those she complains about my birthday parties, gifts and sick days. She is very nice to strangers but can be cruel to family for seemingly no reason. Even when she was home for a few weeks and invited me to lunch with her and her best friend, she brought up all this personal and embarassing information to humiliate me. She also continues (when we were younger she called me ugly etc) to say I "have no neck" and I'm "too skinny" even though she is 5'2 and 170 pounds and I don't bring it up. The only time she 'acted' like an older sister should was when, as teenagers, she would confront people that I wasn't on good terms with. However, this would be after I vented at home and told her not to say anything on my behalf. She would do so anyways and make the situation worse by exaggerating my complaints and being rude. I learned after awhile she enjoys confronting people and spreading drama. OH and she stole 100 dollars from me on Christmas Eve.

The weird thing is though she doesn't seem to understand how unpleasant she is and asks me to do things with her when she's in town. After the lunch fiasco I refuse of course. I know everyone says to forgive and let things go but with my sister as soon as you do this she just does something mean again. I think I am a forgiving person but I am not a doormat!

/end rant

[zoeyjoey]

By brother is 5 years younger then I am, and now that we are older we get along pretty well. We aren't super close or anything, but we talk and see each other pretty frequently. Growing up we fought constantly, so this is a nice change for us. We definitely have each other's back.

I also have two half sisters that are much younger than I am, and sadly I have no real relationship with them. My dad basically abandoned his first family (my mom, brother, and me) when I was quite young and never made my brother or me feel like we were a part of his new family. My stepmother basically hated me since the day we met and by now the feeling is mutual. My brother, ever the peacemaker, sees more of my dad and his new family but doesn't pressure me to do the same.

[amymaria]

We are close but not in the sense where we talk and hang out constantly and are best friends.

My brothers are 8 and 11 years my senior so they act more like my mentors and guidances through life than anything. With my brother who is 8 years older, we are more like good friends.

I would still say we are close though

[Jeneen]

My sister and I are close. She is 3 years older.

[Kansashalo]

I'm the baby and I'd have to say no, I'm not close to any of my siblings. I really don't have many memories of growing up with them because (being the youngest) it was just me and my parents from 6th grade and beyond. I have 2 sisters who are way older and they are more like "aunts", although one of my sisters is your steretypical "middle child" so she starts drama over the most stupid things (ex. someone's christmas gift was better than hers, etc.). I also have 2 brothers but they lead lifestyles that I do not want anything to do with so we don't talk that much. We do get together for holidays and stuff but don't talk outside of that (we all don't live in the same state either). I honestly think that if my mom passed, we probably wouldn't see each other - well maybe us girls would, but I doubt it for the boys.

[olialm1]

I don't have any siblings! I don't think I'd be close with them if I did though.

[ibezj]

I only have one sibling, an older brother. And I am happy we are close (but not too close), he's more authority figure than peer at times.

[oogiewoogie]

Originally Posted by mombug

I am the middle child, with an older sister and younger brother. We are very close and I consider them to be my best friends. I love them both so much, and it's funny because we fall into the typical birth order with our personalities and how we deal with each other. Sis is the bossy one and my brother is the baby, eight years younger than me, ten years younger than sister. It all works!!

This is exactly how my family is too! I'm the middle child (27), w/ a sister 6yrs older & a younger baby brother at 23. Somehow the baby of the family, is the biggest now.. lol. Sis is also the bossy one.. & can somehow always win an argument. We've just figured out that we may not agree w. each other on every aspect.. and that its OK. (Hope she's not reading this.. as she's a Pf'er too.. lol) Baby brother.. I speak with more online through AIM or calls/texts.. we have BBQ's at his place and meet back at home to have dinner with the parents every now and then.

Our relationship while growing up in the same household.. we had constant fights, and bickering. But we've grown closer as we've gotten older. Sis doesn't talk to lil bro as much as I do.. I feel like I'm the traveling telephone or glue that keeps the communication going. When we all get together at the parents pad.. I noticed I get left behind or forgotten sometimes... lol... typical middle child syndrome...lol. BUT I LOve them both dearly!

[plumaplomb]

It's hard to be emotionally close to someone who's physically very far away. We're also at different stages in life, and have very different beliefs on how to live our lives (religion, sense of adventure, etc). We used to be close when we were younger because he taught me a lot of things and played with me a lot, but it's hard now. I love him and his family though!!

As for my other sib, we're close physically but we don't talk about emotional things like relationships etc. I'm very comfortable with talking to him about very practical things, such as money, our parents, the future, etc.

I feel very lucky to have both in my life.

[meganfm]

I don't have any siblings, but my boyfriend has an older sister (she's 27, he's 25) and they aren't close at all. She seems really nice to me, but he insists she's a b*tch with the rest of the family :S (They only speak Chinese when the family is together, so I can never tell what she's saying!)

But I think once siblings get older they get closer. My mom and aunt weren't very close at all as kids, but now they have quite a good relationship.

[shanam]

Bagaholic wrote "growing up my sister and i were always told not to fight bc your sister will be the best friend you'll ever have. my mom was right.

My mother always said the same thing. I have a younger (3 years) sister and I don't know what I would do without her.
She and her now-X moved here 15 years ago and our lives are
entwined. My friends have become hers and vice versa. She has always been a buffer between the arguments with my daughter.
I can count on her for anything and everything. I am very, very
FORTUNATE and I love her dearly.

[kattykay]

I have a younger brother, 17, and an older sister, 24, and the three of us are as thick as theives. But seriously we are very close to each other and none of us have any secrets with anyone.

[piratesbooty]

I have one sister who is 4 years younger than me. We have always been close, but when we were younger we could go from being best friends one minute to hating each other the next. We have had some major fights but they would always blow over in a day or so.
In the last couple of months we have become much closer and I can now say that she is one my best friends. I love that we can talk about anything and that we will always have each other's back.

[claireZk]

Yes, VERY close! My sisters are my best friends