Anybody ever had a boyfriend just disappear?

[GirlFriday]

The reason I ask is because I was recently talking to one of my close girlfriends who told me about her college boyfriend who never broke up with her. He just disappeared and never saw or spoke to her ever again. They dated for a year and she was really in love with him. She said one night they went to some university function like a dance or ball, she is really social and always has been. Anyway, she said her boyfriend was kind of in a bad mood that whole night. Apparently there were a lot of people at this ball that her boyfriend didnt' like, like jocks and sorority girls (something he had against this crowd). Anyway, she said he left the party without telling her and she never saw him EVER AGAIN! She called him, he never answered. She emailed him, he never wrote back. She went to his apartment, he never answered. She was completely hearbroken and had no closure whatsoever. She said a couple years later she pulled up at a stoplight and he was in the car next to her, but he didn't notice her. This girl has had dating issues since I've known her and she says that that really traumatized her, and I can see how. I think it's just so awful and spineless and cruel. I've just never heard of such a bad breakup. I'd rather have an awful breakup than have no breakup at all and no closure and no answers. That would be torture. Have any of you had this done to you or someone you know?

[exotikittenx]

OMG that happened to my friend, too! And they were dating for a long time, at least a year, and the @$$ just never talked to her again. May I ask where your friend is from? So weird!

[Purses]

That is terrible and mean of him. Maybe he has said something in the past and she ignored it and then, he really got fed up?

It's hard to comment, but I really feel for her. I've known someone who was married for many, many years and when her husband reached retirement, he packed up his things and left her. I think she only saw him in court.

My bf told me a story where he used to work about a couple who came to Canada to live here. As soon as they landed, the husband told his wife that here are your papers and have a good life and he walked away. She never saw him again.

[Jahpson]

at the title of this post, I thought you were asking if we "made" a boyfriend disapear. You know, like some mafia stuff.

He took the cowardly way out to break it off. what a jerkoff

[ChristyR143]

Wow, that is really strange.

If this ever happened to me, I think I might put a call in to the guy's parents, just to make sure everything was ok. I mean, you never know these days.

[Veelyn]

I actually did this to a guy! LOL But it wasn't anything serious!

We dated for 4 months. BUT he had too much baggage and wasn't doing anything with his life. I started to distance myself from him, then he just got the point. I did actually feel bad though. But I felt even worse b/c about 4 months after we broke up I started socializing with a guy he knew. I guess you can say he wasn't too happy when he found out! [We weren't together or anything, just hanging out occasionally]

[Vegas Long Legs]

I'm older & married & no man ever did this to me.

If one did though, I would call the police & report him missing after a couple of weeks. He then can explain to them why he didn't have the b@lls to break up with me like a grownup. Bet he wouldn't do it again to his next girlfriend.

[BlueberryJane]

yes. happened to me w/ a guy i was dating for several months. just long enough for me to start falling for him and then out of the blue no return calls, nothing. i saw him some months later and he apologized but i never got a real reason. we have since stayed on semi-friendly terms, went out once, but i recently deleted his number out of my phone. now its my turn to disappear for good.

[claireZk]

I've done this too, but not after a YEAR of dating! That's what throws me a little bit about this scenario. I do believe that there were probably other things that caused him to do it though...

When I did it, I was young and immature, but also I've had some REALLY bad breakups in the past. I've been stalked and harassed. I've had my computer hacked into. I've had TWO different guys threaten to kill themselves. I've been called literally HUNDREDS of times a day and had to change my number... I started seeing a guy who was a lot more into me than I was into him and I was just getting REALLY creepy vibes after a few months. So I disappeared. It may not have been the most considerate thing for me to do, but that was my reason for doing it. And even though it was mean, it worked.

I don't know about your friend and this guy, but he was obviously really freaked out and wanted to avoid a confrontation. There's 2 sides to every story...

[bagnshoofetish]

well, either your friend is a little taxing to be with or the guy is a nincompoop without any social grace whatsoever. why she would let one psychopath ruin her whole dating experiences with others tips me off that she might be a little over-sensitive. sure what he did was hurtful/lame but to obsess about someone elses malfunction to the extent that it ruins her current dating life is a bit much and gives this butthead unwarranted power over her. she needs to wash him completely out of her hair and mind and see every new guy as a fresh start and not judge everyone else based on the actions of some whackjob that obviously needs to grow a pair.

[Purses]

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

well, either your friend is a little taxing to be with or the guy is a nincompoop without any social grace whatsoever. why she would let one psychopath ruin her whole dating experiences with others tips me off that she might be a little over-sensitive. sure what he did was hurtful/lame but to obsess about someone elses malfunction to the extent that it ruins her current dating life is a bit much and gives this butthead unwarranted power over her. she needs to wash him completely out of her hair and mind and see every new guy as a fresh start and not judge everyone else based on the actions of some whackjob that obviously needs to grow a pair.

Yes, this is true, but for this person, she must of really felf for this guy. It is true that sensitive people get hurt more often, but in time, they do get a lot wiser then us.
I've always thought that the ultra sensitive person is a good person who is trying hard to live their life the way God expected from us.

[nooch]

Originally Posted by GirlFriday

Apparently there were a lot of people at this ball that her boyfriend didnt' like, like jocks and sorority girls (something he had against this crowd). Anyway, she said he left the party without telling her and she never saw him EVER AGAIN!

This is quite possibly the nuttiest, most childish thing I've ever heard. Especially the spazzing out over high school labels.

[bagnshoofetish]

Originally Posted by Purses

Yes, this is true, but for this person, she must of really felf for this guy. It is true that sensitive people get hurt more often, but in time, they do get a lot wiser then us. I've always thought that the ultra sensitive person is a good person who is trying hard to live their life the way God expected from us.

I never said a sensitive person was good or bad. Just a possible reason why they react the way they do. Please don't twist my words into meaning something they did not.

[~Fabulousity~]

Never happened to me or any of my friends...

[maddog]

omg, these stories are crazy! Especially the retired and the immigrated couples. The original story, I would've thought he died or something.

Luckily, I've never experienced this. I've only disappeared on guys after a few dates. Yes, lame I know, and I felt bad. I have a tendency to not react too well when a guy likes me much more than I like him, so I run like the wind, not sure why.