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ibezj · May 27th, 2009, 12:38 PM

Originally Posted by Roe

this happened to me. i was dating a guy for a lil while in college for a few months and he disappeared. After 1 month or so I found out he had to be flown on emergency back to NY because he was having complications with Cancer. It had come back.

His roomate eventually came looking for me and told me everything that was going on. I called him that day soon after and it was true. He was in the hospital. I promised him I was going to go see him but unfortunatley we never made it to that. It really saddened me because when I spoke to his family, they all told me how much he was telling them how he had fallen in love with me and how he wanted to go back to his life. Sometimes I do think about "what could have been" ..if....This happened a lil over 15 years ago.

This is so sad...are you an author/friends with one? Because it seems like people have been ripping off your story for about 15 years now.

lcp · May 28th, 2009, 04:50 PM

Being disappeered on is a hard one, worse than being dumped! You are left wondering whether they cared about you at all, if they are going ot return etc. You don't get a chnace to yell etc. It takes longer to move on. x

olialm1 · May 29th, 2009, 02:25 PM

When I was 16 I dated someone who was close friends with my ex who I no longer got along with. I guess my ex would talk badly about me and my bf couldn't handle it, and I ended up saying some pretty harsh stuff about him and he just decided to ignore me. And what I mean by ignore me is, actually full on act like I don't exist. He was a complete asshole and it took me a year to get over it. He was also 2 years older than I and ended up taking someone else to prom and dating her for a year. It was awful and I still despise him for it, but luckily my boyfriend right now is great.

minder · Sep 29th, 2009, 01:11 AM

This sucks since it just happened to me. I dated this guy for just about 3 years, we were in love, so I thought and he was even close to my young son. No fight, he just disappeared one day after a great weekend. He won't return calls, and I don't even know what happened. It has been 3 months since the last time I saw him and my heart breaks daily since there was no closure at all. It would help if I knew what happened, so that I could move on instead of being stuck it this hell I'm in.

jackie100 · Sep 29th, 2009, 01:22 AM

I have had this happened to me and I actually made a thread about this in 2007 titled "How long would you wait for your bf to come back?"

How long would you wait for your bf to come back?

Jeneen · Sep 29th, 2009, 10:53 AM

Yes this has happened to me.

AngelBABY84 · Sep 29th, 2009, 06:59 PM

Wow, it seems pretty crazy to me, especially after a year. But reading some of these posts shows it's pretty common.

Fetish · Sep 29th, 2009, 10:55 PM

Some people need closure and if they dont receieve that closure, it eats them up and destroys them inside. Its really unfortunate. After an entire year, he (at the very LEAST) owes it to her to just frikkin end the relationship! Even if its as pathetic as doing it over email or text, at least its something.

And to answer your questions, yes actually its happened a few times. I couldnt fathom how I would feel if I were in a relationship for a year or more and it happened. When this happened in my relationships its been shorter than a year. But that doesnt mean its much less hurtful. It still hurts when someone you care about or love just walks away. In my circumstances, the men did not have the balls to hurt me. It made them feel better to just leave, not look back and not have to deal with the break up. Sad, really.

agart245 · Sep 30th, 2009, 12:13 AM

This actually happened to me a few months ago. I was only seeing the guy for a couple of weeks, and he wasn't even officially my "boyfriend" so I wasn't really too heartbroken. He was involved in some pretty sketchy activities, so his sudden disappearance didn't really surprise me. I'm guessing he was in jail.

Beenie · Sep 30th, 2009, 09:44 AM

I belong to this club too. Honestly, happily married and 7 years later, reading this entire thread makes me feel like someone just punched me HARD in the stomach...

And for people that say to "just get over it" I just ask you to think about just "getting over" something/someone that made your heart truly break. Not always so easy.

karmenzsofia · Sep 30th, 2009, 01:51 PM

Nope, it's never happened to me, but it happens a lot.

Some people approach communication; others avoid it.

May 28th, 2009, 04:50 PM	#77
lcp Member Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3	Being disappeered on is a hard one, worse than being dumped! You are left wondering whether they cared about you at all, if they are going ot return etc. You don't get a chnace to yell etc. It takes longer to move on. x
lcp Member Joined: May 2009 Posts: 3

May 29th, 2009, 02:25 PM	#78
olialm1 windy city Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,345	When I was 16 I dated someone who was close friends with my ex who I no longer got along with. I guess my ex would talk badly about me and my bf couldn't handle it, and I ended up saying some pretty harsh stuff about him and he just decided to ignore me. And what I mean by ignore me is, actually full on act like I don't exist. He was a complete asshole and it took me a year to get over it. He was also 2 years older than I and ended up taking someone else to prom and dating her for a year. It was awful and I still despise him for it, but luckily my boyfriend right now is great.
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Sep 29th, 2009, 01:11 AM	#79
minder Member Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 1	This sucks since it just happened to me. I dated this guy for just about 3 years, we were in love, so I thought and he was even close to my young son. No fight, he just disappeared one day after a great weekend. He won't return calls, and I don't even know what happened. It has been 3 months since the last time I saw him and my heart breaks daily since there was no closure at all. It would help if I knew what happened, so that I could move on instead of being stuck it this hell I'm in.
minder Member Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 1

Sep 29th, 2009, 01:22 AM	#80
jackie100 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 750	I have had this happened to me and I actually made a thread about this in 2007 titled "How long would you wait for your bf to come back?" How long would you wait for your bf to come back?
jackie100 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 750	Last edited by Roo; Sep 29th, 2009 at 02:40 AM. Reason: please keep past drama OUT of this thread

Sep 29th, 2009, 10:53 AM	#81
Jeneen Member Joined: Feb 2009 Location: up in the gym workin on my fitness Posts: 2,543	Yes this has happened to me.
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Sep 29th, 2009, 06:59 PM	#82
AngelBABY84 Can't get over LV... Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 1,475	Wow, it seems pretty crazy to me, especially after a year. But reading some of these posts shows it's pretty common.
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Sep 29th, 2009, 10:55 PM	#83
Fetish Sofa King Banned Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 93	Some people need closure and if they dont receieve that closure, it eats them up and destroys them inside. Its really unfortunate. After an entire year, he (at the very LEAST) owes it to her to just frikkin end the relationship! Even if its as pathetic as doing it over email or text, at least its something. And to answer your questions, yes actually its happened a few times. I couldnt fathom how I would feel if I were in a relationship for a year or more and it happened. When this happened in my relationships its been shorter than a year. But that doesnt mean its much less hurtful. It still hurts when someone you care about or love just walks away. In my circumstances, the men did not have the balls to hurt me. It made them feel better to just leave, not look back and not have to deal with the break up. Sad, really.
Fetish Sofa King Banned Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 93

Sep 30th, 2009, 12:13 AM	#84
agart245 Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: wrapped in my Snuggie :-) Posts: 1,445	This actually happened to me a few months ago. I was only seeing the guy for a couple of weeks, and he wasn't even officially my "boyfriend" so I wasn't really too heartbroken. He was involved in some pretty sketchy activities, so his sudden disappearance didn't really surprise me. I'm guessing he was in jail.

Sep 30th, 2009, 09:44 AM	#85
Beenie is a Greedy Smurf Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Sunny Florida Posts: 566	I belong to this club too. Honestly, happily married and 7 years later, reading this entire thread makes me feel like someone just punched me HARD in the stomach... And for people that say to "just get over it" I just ask you to think about just "getting over" something/someone that made your heart truly break. Not always so easy.

Sep 30th, 2009, 01:51 PM	#86
karmenzsofia Life is Plan Z Joined: Jun 2008 Location: Tarot Card Posts: 14,422	Nope, it's never happened to me, but it happens a lot. Some people approach communication; others avoid it.
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