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GirlFriday · Jul 10th, 2008, 07:34 AM

Originally Posted by Schmodi

My sort of fiance did this. We were good friends for three years before we started dating! We were talking wedding plans with his mom and everything so that's why I say sort of (no ring at that point in time).

toward the end he would go days without calling because we were about 1.5 hours apart. When I would catch him he'd be like "I'm really busy with school, SWAT, etc etc, family stuff". Of course I believed him because I knew him for so long and I loved him.

After about two weeks I didn't hear ANYTHING then my good friend calls to ask if we're still together because he knew my boyfriend had hooked up with his friend earlier that week. When I called to ask him he just hung up on me! Last I ever from him, it was horrible! Turns out he was banging EVERYTHING in sight, yuck! Of course then he told everyone I was cheating on him! Found out later he did the same thing to the ex before me which he told me "she cheated on me and hurt me" blah blah.

He lives in Portland now ladies...beware-real narcissistic ahole.

That's awful...I think a guy would almost have to have no conscience to do something like that.

Ladybug09 · Jul 10th, 2008, 03:07 PM

I think this is the most childish behavior ever for male or female to do. I just tell the person "hey, this isn't working for me..." They may not like to hear that, but at least they will respect you, and YOU can respect YOURSELF! Instead of having to dodge them for months, and years to come.

juneping · Jul 10th, 2008, 03:24 PM

it happened to me. i think i said it in another post...well..i can repeat again..b/c it's right on the topic.
we knew each other not that well...and he always saw me during weekdays. so i suggested meeting on a sat. he never called...i went nut and called him many times that day and no response what so ever. after a month or 2 he emailed me said his mother died that day. i believed his lie then and now i look back...he was just a f**king liar!!!!

i was told by a married man, when a guy stop calling you means he's moved on. bc they didn't want to hurt out feelings....

..go figure....another married man told me men never want to be in a role of "bad guy" - they do it in a heart beat but they never want to be verbally saying something that made them the bad guy. the show SATC was telling the truth. most men are coward...i hardly see any men confront a situation...most men want to be or act like the peace maker...make any sense?!

Schmodi · Jul 10th, 2008, 08:13 PM

Originally Posted by GirlFriday

That's awful...I think a guy would almost have to have no conscience to do something like that.

Narcissistic jerk. That's about it...

lvuittonaddict · Jul 10th, 2008, 11:45 PM

Originally Posted by Vegas Long Legs

I'm older & married & no man ever did this to me.

If one did though, I would call the police & report him missing after a couple of weeks. He then can explain to them why he didn't have the b@lls to break up with me like a grownup. Bet he wouldn't do it again to his next girlfriend.

that is totally me. i'd go..."single white female" on his A**.

sweetdreamer16 · Jul 11th, 2008, 07:56 PM

omg thats sooo awful, no wonder she has issues =(
poor girl!!

lolitakali · Jul 12th, 2008, 01:24 PM

Yes, my very first BF disappeared on me back to USA from what I heard his cousin said... so as not to hurt me too much (he was in SG temporary & I just happen to be the local tomboy he wanted to make a "woman" out of).

I have disappeared from guys after a few dates (one was b/c he broke news that he divorced; I don't date divorced guys at that point, another was b/c he disappeared from my radar & when he called me back, I disappeared from him; he had too many issues & is too indecisive in my books). Many of the other dates are just pick-ups that I really don't even want to waste my time with.

But... grew out of all that nonsense (dating phase long gone) now.

aaallabama · Jul 13th, 2008, 06:08 PM

^^ i had a BFF disappear on me

p.s. sadly, people can be selfish & cruel

calzz · Jul 13th, 2008, 06:23 PM

:(

This DID happen to me very recently. I started seeing a guy about 5 months ago...and we lived as neighbors in the same apartment with the same friends, and we became superclose really quickly.

He has a really crazy school/work schedule and I was constantly at school or studying but we became insomniacs for each other and spent every waking moment together. he made me really happy really fast...Then when i moved out of the apartment and into a new place he started distancing himself... and eventually stopped calling.

For the past month we only saw each other a couple times a week, then he would start not texting or calling, then eventually the last time i saw him we made plans for the next day, but when i texted him about it he never responded. when he graduated from school a couple days later and i tried to contact him, he never responded. Basically he said that he'd try to spend a lot of time with me after he graduated, but he hasnt talked to me since.

I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks now. I was so strangely sad at first because I rarely find people as interesting and vibrant as he is..but he obviously doesn't feel the same about me. He was tall, blonde, really intelligent, could cook, everyone loves him, charming

im still sad about it :(

tmc089 · Jul 13th, 2008, 06:33 PM

I feel so bad for anyone who has had this happen to them, I would be a complete nervous wreck!

This hasn't ever happened to me, thankfully. I'm the type of person who likes to be filled in on what's going on, though. I just get really worried about alot of things due to past experiences. One time BF was in a TERRIBLE mood, just one of those moods when you don't want to talk to anyone at all, not even to say leave me alone. I called him about..oh I don't know...6 million times and eventually he turned his phone off (I probably made him more pissed, lol) and I got worried sick. Afterwards I understood, I've had those moments, but that was only for like 3 hours, I can't imagine just never hearing from a BF again, esp. after so long!! I would totally call the police and report him missing after some semi-stalking lol.

twin53 · Jul 14th, 2008, 08:48 PM

it's a shame people can't just be honest with others.

BagLadie · Jul 14th, 2008, 10:19 PM

This has never happened to me but let me tell you it would drive me CRAZY!!! I would be the type to drive to the person's house and demand answers. Ok....so I guess that would make me a crazy stalker lady.

meluv2shop12 · Jul 15th, 2008, 12:24 AM

weird! they were already in a relationship and he just fell off the face of the earth?!
i don't get it!

he's a weirdo...

helium · Jul 15th, 2008, 12:31 AM

I can't believe there are so many occurences of this happening. Cowards, everyone of them, assuming that the girl wasn't one of those crazy stalker types after the guy had already said a big, resounding 'no!' to the relationship.

But seriously, how can you do that to someone? I'm... so... angry...! Can't talk! Aaargh!!

oneglance · Jul 15th, 2008, 11:37 PM

yep back in highschool though haha so it was pretty dumb
he just kept skipping and such and i didn't know what to do
later on he finally went and broke up :\
weird thing is two years later we are together on a fresh start..kinda xD

Jul 10th, 2008, 03:07 PM	#47
Ladybug09 So Sweet! Joined: Aug 2007 Location: Born in the USA Posts: 3,750	I think this is the most childish behavior ever for male or female to do. I just tell the person "hey, this isn't working for me..." They may not like to hear that, but at least they will respect you, and YOU can respect YOURSELF! Instead of having to dodge them for months, and years to come.
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Jul 10th, 2008, 03:24 PM	#48
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 4,032	it happened to me. i think i said it in another post...well..i can repeat again..b/c it's right on the topic. we knew each other not that well...and he always saw me during weekdays. so i suggested meeting on a sat. he never called...i went nut and called him many times that day and no response what so ever. after a month or 2 he emailed me said his mother died that day. i believed his lie then and now i look back...he was just a f**king liar!!!! i was told by a married man, when a guy stop calling you means he's moved on. bc they didn't want to hurt out feelings......go figure....another married man told me men never want to be in a role of "bad guy" - they do it in a heart beat but they never want to be verbally saying something that made them the bad guy. the show SATC was telling the truth. most men are coward...i hardly see any men confront a situation...most men want to be or act like the peace maker...make any sense?!
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Jul 12th, 2008, 01:24 PM	#52
lolitakali Mira Joined: Feb 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 2,463	Yes, my very first BF disappeared on me back to USA from what I heard his cousin said... so as not to hurt me too much (he was in SG temporary & I just happen to be the local tomboy he wanted to make a "woman" out of). I have disappeared from guys after a few dates (one was b/c he broke news that he divorced; I don't date divorced guys at that point, another was b/c he disappeared from my radar & when he called me back, I disappeared from him; he had too many issues & is too indecisive in my books). Many of the other dates are just pick-ups that I really don't even want to waste my time with. But... grew out of all that nonsense (dating phase long gone) now.
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Jul 13th, 2008, 06:08 PM	#53
aaallabama r.i.p. my angel Joined: May 2006 Location: nyc baby Posts: 9,580	*^^ i had a BFF disappear on me* p.s. sadly, people can be selfish & cruel
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Jul 13th, 2008, 06:33 PM	#55
tmc089 Kiera Knightley? Joined: Oct 2007 Location: The Beauty Bar Posts: 2,715	I feel so bad for anyone who has had this happen to them, I would be a complete nervous wreck! This hasn't ever happened to me, thankfully. I'm the type of person who likes to be filled in on what's going on, though. I just get really worried about alot of things due to past experiences. One time BF was in a TERRIBLE mood, just one of those moods when you don't want to talk to anyone at all, not even to say leave me alone. I called him about..oh I don't know...6 million times and eventually he turned his phone off (I probably made him more pissed, lol) and I got worried sick. Afterwards I understood, I've had those moments, but that was only for like 3 hours, I can't imagine just never hearing from a BF again, esp. after so long!! I would totally call the police and report him missing after some semi-stalking lol.
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Jul 11th, 2008, 07:56 PM	#51
sweetdreamer16 Member Joined: May 2008 Location: Vancouver Posts: 2,035	omg thats sooo awful, no wonder she has issues =( poor girl!!

Jul 13th, 2008, 06:23 PM	#54
calzz Member Joined: Mar 2008 Location: the golden gate Posts: 293	:( This DID happen to me very recently. I started seeing a guy about 5 months ago...and we lived as neighbors in the same apartment with the same friends, and we became superclose really quickly. He has a really crazy school/work schedule and I was constantly at school or studying but we became insomniacs for each other and spent every waking moment together. he made me really happy really fast...Then when i moved out of the apartment and into a new place he started distancing himself... and eventually stopped calling. For the past month we only saw each other a couple times a week, then he would start not texting or calling, then eventually the last time i saw him we made plans for the next day, but when i texted him about it he never responded. when he graduated from school a couple days later and i tried to contact him, he never responded. Basically he said that he'd try to spend a lot of time with me after he graduated, but he hasnt talked to me since. I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks now. I was so strangely sad at first because I rarely find people as interesting and vibrant as he is..but he obviously doesn't feel the same about me. He was tall, blonde, really intelligent, could cook, everyone loves him, charming im still sad about it :(

Jul 14th, 2008, 08:48 PM	#56
twin53 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,151	it's a shame people can't just be honest with others.
twin53 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,151

Jul 14th, 2008, 10:19 PM	#57
BagLadie Got a handle on it Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Red Sox Nation Posts: 6,993	This has never happened to me but let me tell you it would drive me CRAZY!!! I would be the type to drive to the person's house and demand answers. Ok....so I guess that would make me a crazy stalker lady.
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Jul 15th, 2008, 12:24 AM	#58
meluv2shop12 Member Joined: Dec 2007 Location: la la land Posts: 752	weird! they were already in a relationship and he just fell off the face of the earth?! i don't get it! he's a weirdo...

Jul 15th, 2008, 12:31 AM	#59
helium Member Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,592	I can't believe there are so many occurences of this happening. Cowards, everyone of them, assuming that the girl wasn't one of those crazy stalker types after the guy had already said a big, resounding 'no!' to the relationship. But seriously, how can you do that to someone? I'm... so... angry...! Can't talk! Aaargh!!
helium Member Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,592

Jul 15th, 2008, 11:37 PM	#60
oneglance Member Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 41	yep back in highschool though haha so it was pretty dumb he just kept skipping and such and i didn't know what to do later on he finally went and broke up :\ weird thing is two years later we are together on a fresh start..kinda xD
oneglance Member Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 41

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