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Nymph · Jun 20th, 2008, 12:49 PM

Yikes!

Thankfully, this has never happened to me, but if it did, I would probably be worried sick (did something bad happen??), which will most likely turn into anger once I find out what a coward the person is to just "disappear" like that!

MJDaisy · Jun 20th, 2008, 04:16 PM

omg what? i've never heard of such a thing!

lovinalotofbags · Jun 20th, 2008, 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by Purses

That is terrible and mean of him. Maybe he has said something in the past and she ignored it and then, he really got fed up?

It's hard to comment, but I really feel for her. I've known someone who was married for many, many years and when her husband reached retirement, he packed up his things and left her. I think she only saw him in court.

My bf told me a story where he used to work about a couple who came to Canada to live here. As soon as they landed, the husband told his wife that here are your papers and have a good life and he walked away. She never saw him again.

These guys just had enough.

lovinalotofbags · Jun 20th, 2008, 05:25 PM

This happened to a lady and it was in the paper under some column. They were going to be married. She thought everything was going to be fine. She came home one day and everything was gone. No explanation. He just packed up and left.

DiorDeVille · Jun 23rd, 2008, 01:51 AM

Originally Posted by Vegas Long Legs

I'm older & married & no man ever did this to me.

If one did though, I would call the police & report him missing after a couple of weeks. He then can explain to them why he didn't have the b@lls to break up with me like a grownup. Bet he wouldn't do it again to his next girlfriend.

YESSSSS.

You know, the one friend I know who had this happen to her still has a lot of dating issues too. And it was like 8 years ago! That loser deserves whatever she has to do to get closure, even this long after the "breakup" (within reason - no guy's worth an appearance on "Cops").

rainrowan · Jun 23rd, 2008, 09:33 AM

The fact that he could not even go to one party and just deal with it with some grace, shows me he cares only for himself. Geesh, the party was not all about him, if he hadn't noticed. Who the heck feels so inadequate in a social setting and then literally walks out on the only one who would actually give a fug about him in the first place?

When dh and I were courting, I went along to quite a number of watering holes with him, even tho I wasn't in my element. I was willing to do that because I knew he enjoyed it and I found out how he was like among his friends. I mean, isn't that the main reason to go to these places, to meet your SO's friends and learn about your SO too? After we were married, I was honest and told him I didn't feel like going, but he should go and have a good time. It worked out fine.

To the OP, the best revenge is living a good life without him. He doesn't seem worth it at all. The whole thing is not an indication of any inadequacies on your part my dear, the guy is the one with a huge insecurity issue. Can you imagine if you had remained together, he'd never share in any of your interests whatsoever... so good riddance and start living the life you deserve!

moi et mes sacs · Jun 23rd, 2008, 03:01 PM

Originally Posted by white flowers

My ex boyfriend did this a few times a week!

Hahaha hence the 'EX'

moi et mes sacs · Jun 23rd, 2008, 03:03 PM

Some guys are too spineless to explain I think so they just run for the hills. I can see why this poor girl feels insecure now. Mr Right will come along and she will realise what an ass this guy really was...

Lvbabydoll · Jun 23rd, 2008, 03:07 PM

Yikes...I never did but my friend did. Apparently she and her family were going to Vegas once and he was supposed to meet her there and never did. He turned his phone off and everything...I guess they're friends now but I have no idea what possessed him to do that, it's not like it would have been the first time meeting her parents!

BagSlave · Jul 9th, 2008, 10:07 AM

I had this happen to me. Actually it was very last relationship before the one I'm currently in. We had been dating for about 5 months but at the time this was the longest I ever really dated anyone so I was starting to really **like** him ALOT. On new years 07 we were suppose to go out and what not...he never showed....i called and called all night and nothing...it was downhill from there...he just kinda vanished and a few weeks went by....i told myself **ck i need to move on....and then he calls like nothing happened....when i tried to get an explanation...NOTHING......and then after this one call........he vanishes again.....WTF......it was soooo hard to get over him because i could never figure out a reason why...the dating and getting to know each other was going well before....he talked about doing things together in the future.......i spent forever thinking something must have been wrong with me....what actually makes this worse was this was the guy i lost my virginity too........MY BIGGEST REGRET EVER!!! (I tell myself this doesnt count) he called again once after a few months but i said unless i hear an explanation i have nothing to say to you........even to this day....i'll have passing thoughts wondering why he ever did that....breaking up is one thing.....ur sad and then u move on.........but i feel like with the vanishing act I always have this nagging feeling in the back of my head wondering WHY???

Purses · Jul 9th, 2008, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by BagSlave

I had this happen to me. Actually it was very last relationship before the one I'm currently in. We had been dating for about 5 months but at the time this was the longest I ever really dated anyone so I was starting to really **like** him ALOT. On new years 07 we were suppose to go out and what not...he never showed....i called and called all night and nothing...it was downhill from there...he just kinda vanished and a few weeks went by....i told myself **ck i need to move on....and then he calls like nothing happened....when i tried to get an explanation...NOTHING......and then after this one call........he vanishes again.....WTF......it was soooo hard to get over him because i could never figure out a reason why...the dating and getting to know each other was going well before....he talked about doing things together in the future.......i spent forever thinking something must have been wrong with me....what actually makes this worse was this was the guy i lost my virginity too........MY BIGGEST REGRET EVER!!! (I tell myself this doesnt count) he called again once after a few months but i said unless i hear an explanation i have nothing to say to you........even to this day....i'll have passing thoughts wondering why he ever did that....breaking up is one thing.....ur sad and then u move on.........but i feel like with the vanishing act I always have this nagging feeling in the back of my head wondering WHY???

My heart goes out to you. I can't stand not knowing so that it would be easier to move on.

DiorDeVille · Jul 9th, 2008, 03:07 PM

Originally Posted by BagSlave

I always have this nagging feeling in the back of my head wondering WHY???

I'm so sorry you had to go through this!! Any guy who would act like that is doing so because of who HE is ... if you'd been any other girl, he'd have done the same. It's not you.

I still think reporting these guys missing is a hilarious (if childish) idea...

Schmodi · Jul 9th, 2008, 03:57 PM

My sort of fiance did this. We were good friends for three years before we started dating! We were talking wedding plans with his mom and everything so that's why I say sort of (no ring at that point in time).

toward the end he would go days without calling because we were about 1.5 hours apart. When I would catch him he'd be like "I'm really busy with school, SWAT, etc etc, family stuff". Of course I believed him because I knew him for so long and I loved him.

After about two weeks I didn't hear ANYTHING then my good friend calls to ask if we're still together because he knew my boyfriend had hooked up with his friend earlier that week. When I called to ask him he just hung up on me! Last I ever from him, it was horrible! Turns out he was banging EVERYTHING in sight, yuck! Of course then he told everyone I was cheating on him! Found out later he did the same thing to the ex before me which he told me "she cheated on me and hurt me" blah blah.

He lives in Portland now ladies...beware-real narcissistic ahole.

article3 · Jul 9th, 2008, 10:50 PM

Happened to a friend as well... bizarre!

bisousx · Jul 10th, 2008, 12:08 AM

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Jun 20th, 2008, 12:49 PM	#31
Nymph Black WE please! Joined: Jul 2006 Location: Singapore Posts: 5,263	Yikes! Thankfully, this has never happened to me, but if it did, I would probably be worried sick (did something bad happen??), which will most likely turn into anger once I find out what a coward the person is to just "disappear" like that!
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Jun 20th, 2008, 04:16 PM	#32
MJDaisy OMFG. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Planet Zetor Posts: 3,606	omg what? i've never heard of such a thing!
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Jun 20th, 2008, 05:25 PM	#34
lovinalotofbags In for the long haul Joined: Mar 2008 Location: South Carolina Posts: 2,548	This happened to a lady and it was in the paper under some column. They were going to be married. She thought everything was going to be fine. She came home one day and everything was gone. No explanation. He just packed up and left.
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Jun 23rd, 2008, 09:33 AM	#36
rainrowan INFJ Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 3,908	The fact that he could not even go to one party and just deal with it with some grace, shows me he cares only for himself. Geesh, the party was not all about him, if he hadn't noticed. Who the heck feels so inadequate in a social setting and then literally walks out on the only one who would actually give a fug about him in the first place? When dh and I were courting, I went along to quite a number of watering holes with him, even tho I wasn't in my element. I was willing to do that because I knew he enjoyed it and I found out how he was like among his friends. I mean, isn't that the main reason to go to these places, to meet your SO's friends and learn about your SO too? After we were married, I was honest and told him I didn't feel like going, but he should go and have a good time. It worked out fine. To the OP, the best revenge is living a good life without him. He doesn't seem worth it at all. The whole thing is not an indication of any inadequacies on your part my dear, the guy is the one with a huge insecurity issue. Can you imagine if you had remained together, he'd never share in any of your interests whatsoever... so good riddance and start living the life you deserve!
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Jun 23rd, 2008, 03:03 PM	#38
moi et mes sacs Science Geek! Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 5,768	Some guys are too spineless to explain I think so they just run for the hills. I can see why this poor girl feels insecure now. Mr Right will come along and she will realise what an ass this guy really was...
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Jun 23rd, 2008, 03:07 PM	#39
Lvbabydoll ♥'s Cupcakes Joined: Mar 2006 Location: California Posts: 42,343	Yikes...I never did but my friend did. Apparently she and her family were going to Vegas once and he was supposed to meet her there and never did. He turned his phone off and everything...I guess they're friends now but I have no idea what possessed him to do that, it's not like it would have been the first time meeting her parents!
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Jul 9th, 2008, 10:07 AM	#40
BagSlave Member Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 529	I had this happen to me. Actually it was very last relationship before the one I'm currently in. We had been dating for about 5 months but at the time this was the longest I ever really dated anyone so I was starting to really like him ALOT. On new years 07 we were suppose to go out and what not...he never showed....i called and called all night and nothing...it was downhill from there...he just kinda vanished and a few weeks went by....i told myself **ck i need to move on....and then he calls like nothing happened....when i tried to get an explanation...NOTHING......and then after this one call........he vanishes again.....WTF......it was soooo hard to get over him because i could never figure out a reason why...the dating and getting to know each other was going well before....he talked about doing things together in the future.......i spent forever thinking something must have been wrong with me....what actually makes this worse was this was the guy i lost my virginity too........MY BIGGEST REGRET EVER!!! (I tell myself this doesnt count) he called again once after a few months but i said unless i hear an explanation i have nothing to say to you........even to this day....i'll have passing thoughts wondering why he ever did that....breaking up is one thing.....ur sad and then u move on.........but i feel like with the vanishing act I always have this nagging feeling in the back of my head wondering WHY???
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Jul 9th, 2008, 03:57 PM	#43
Schmodi Member Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,919	My sort of fiance did this. We were good friends for three years before we started dating! We were talking wedding plans with his mom and everything so that's why I say sort of (no ring at that point in time). toward the end he would go days without calling because we were about 1.5 hours apart. When I would catch him he'd be like "I'm really busy with school, SWAT, etc etc, family stuff". Of course I believed him because I knew him for so long and I loved him. After about two weeks I didn't hear ANYTHING then my good friend calls to ask if we're still together because he knew my boyfriend had hooked up with his friend earlier that week. When I called to ask him he just hung up on me! Last I ever from him, it was horrible! Turns out he was banging EVERYTHING in sight, yuck! Of course then he told everyone I was cheating on him! Found out later he did the same thing to the ex before me which he told me "she cheated on me and hurt me" blah blah. He lives in Portland now ladies...beware-real narcissistic ahole.
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Jul 9th, 2008, 10:50 PM	#44
article3 Loves Bags & the Law Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,932	Happened to a friend as well... bizarre!
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Jul 10th, 2008, 12:08 AM	#45
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