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ilovepinkhearts · Jun 19th, 2008, 04:10 PM

i think i would freak out if that had happened to me. and i would start calling all the hospitals and his family....LOL.

that is worse than being broken up with on a post-it....hehehe.

the poor thing, she needs to get over his dumb a$$ and move on and find the right guy that isn't a wee nee.

~Fabulousity~ · Jun 19th, 2008, 04:13 PM

Funny...I was talking to a guy last night who told me this happened to him before and he was worried out of his mind. The girl sent him a joke text message months later and he laid into her because of it.

Cristina · Jun 19th, 2008, 04:40 PM

Any guy who mysteriously "disappears" is not worth the time and effort to search for, or even call

When that happens, it's time to get on with life, get busy and meet new guys!

ILuvShopping · Jun 19th, 2008, 05:28 PM

that's awful!!! if i was that girl i would seriously have been freaked out and super worried that something happened to him. if it was only a couple months it's just kinda odd for someone to do that.. but a year or more????

i once met a guy online and we clicked really fast and talked almost everynight for a couple months... thought about meeting up but never had the time.. and then he just VANISHED... i emailed him.... sent him offline messages... nothing.

2 years later... he pops up again... just emails me out of the blue as if nothings wrong.. i felt a huge connection with this guy so i was instantly happy... of course he had the excuse that he was just in a bad period in his life and bla bla bla but things were good now... we emailed everyday for a couple of weeks...tells me that if i ever need anything i can call him.. and then BOOM he was gone again... i would email him... no response... ok now i'm just down right irritated...

about a year later... he finds me on myspace and i get this message "well I found you here!!" well you dumb sh!t you have my phone number... and 2 of my emails.... and you find me on myspace as if i'm a long lost friend... so ok... we start emailing again... i'd get an email like once a week... and it was irritating because you can tell when someone has been online on myspace... he claimed it was because his work required him to travel out of town and he didn't get good cell reception where he was located (which is true of the city he had to goto). so then he has the balls after 3 weeks of 1 message per week to ask if i want to meet and 'have some fun' i tell him no thank you, i'm not that type of girl and if that's all he's looking for then he can look elsewhere! and after that he deleted me from his friends on myspace. GOOD RIDDANCE (sorry that was long!)

keya · Jun 19th, 2008, 05:34 PM

That's really weird and immature

I've had someone disappear on me, but only after I broke up with him. I (sort of) regretted it the next morning and tried to text and email him to apologize and see if we could be friends, but he never replied. I even wrote him a letter after a while. He never answered his door either, and he must've moved away or something because I never saw him again. This was years ago and I honestly wish he'd just gotten back to me to say "sorry, wont happen" since I still sometimes wonder if something happened to him (he was my best friend) I kind of wanted to call his sister or mother to ask if he was ok, but I didn't. I figured that if something had happened, they'd tell me. Hopefully

Also, the last guy I was with (which, btw, is a total A**H*LE! Just FYI) once disappeared for a week. I'd been out of town for a few days and when I got back, he was nowhere to be found. This was after we'd told each other we "loved" each other, and (I thought) things were pretty serious at this point. It would be very strange if a day went by without us seeing each other, so when he didn't return my calls or even cared to make sure I got home ok, the red flags went up. I really had no idea what happened to him until I saw him post on a mutual friend's wall on facebook... Obviously, I messaged him on there and he gave me some bs line about how he'd "missed" me and that he "didn't mean to lose contact with me", and then acted like things were still the same. Stupid as I was, I forgave him. *rolleyes*

keya · Jun 19th, 2008, 05:43 PM

That's really weird and immature

I've had someone disappear on me, but only after I broke up with him. I (sort of) regretted it the next morning and tried to text and email him to apologize and see if we could be friends, but he never replied. I even wrote him a letter after a while. He never answered his door either, and he must've moved away or something because I never saw him again. This was years ago and I honestly wish he'd just gotten back to me to say "sorry, wont happen" since I still sometimes wonder if something happened to him (he was my best friend) I kind of wanted to call his sister or mother to ask if he was ok, but I didn't. I figured that if something had happened, they'd tell me. Hopefully

Also, the last guy I was with (which, btw, is a total A**H*LE! Just FYI) once disappeared for a week. I'd been out of town for a few days and when I got back, he was nowhere to be found. This was after we'd told each other we "loved" each other, and (I thought) things were pretty serious at this point. It would be very strange if a day went by without us seeing each other, so when he didn't return my calls or even cared to make sure I got home ok, the red flags went up. I really had no idea what happened to him until I saw him post on a mutual friend's wall on facebook... Obviously, I messaged him on there and he gave me some bs line about how he'd "missed" me and that he "didn't mean to lose contact with me", and then acted like things were still the same. Stupid as I was, I forgave him. *rolleyes*

ILuvShopping · Jun 19th, 2008, 05:45 PM

Originally Posted by keya

That's really weird and immature

I Obviously, I messaged him on there and he gave me some bs line about how he'd "missed" me and that he "didn't mean to lose contact with me", and then acted like things were still the same. Stupid as I was, I forgave him. *rolleyes*

i think we all fall for that!! at least the first time.. you want what was good and hope that it was just a fluke. sadly.. usually it never is...

elizat · Jun 19th, 2008, 05:47 PM

I kind of did this to my high school "boyfriend"- it wasn't going anywhere and I was headed to college, while he was staying at home and not going to school. I told him I didn't want to continue for a bunch of reasons, he didn't get it. I just started ignoring his emails and changed my cell phone number.

GirlFriday · Jun 20th, 2008, 01:06 AM

To answer some questions this was in Texas. The girl I'm talking about is in her early 30's and this happened 8 or 9 years ago. She IS over him, because it happened so long ago, but I think it just really scarred her. Since she was in love with him I think it took her a couple of years to get over him. I think it affected her and how she sees relationships now. The pattern I've noticed when she's dating guys is that she's crazy about them and a month later she can't wait to dump them. I think it may be subconsciously her being afraid to be dumped first. Or it could just be she just hasn't found the right guy yet. I don't know all the specifics of the relationship because it was just her side. There was obviously more going on than just what she told me. I have no idea what his feelings were. I asked her if there were any warning signs and she said there weren't, but the only thing was (since she was so social) he was introverted and didn't like being around some of her friends. She said he was kind of in a bad mood that night and didn't want to be around the crowd that was going to this ball. I asked her about him never speaking to her again, and she said she tried everything to get in contact with him. I don't think he had a lot of friends and I didn't ask her if she tried talking to his parents. I don't know if his parents even lived in the same town.

Yes, highschool labels are childish, but I say "jocks" because that's how he described them. Maybe he had some hangups from highschool, who knows.

Sorry if the title sounded like he got whacked by the mafia :) ...that wasn't my intention. But I think she did worry that something happened to him at first, like maybe there was an accident.

louislover260 · Jun 20th, 2008, 02:17 AM

WOW!

No, thank god!

I feel so sorry for your friend... has she had good relationships since then?

VPT · Jun 20th, 2008, 05:26 AM

My 1st ex did this to me ages ago, he's still alive and on facebook.

dearmissie · Jun 20th, 2008, 07:57 AM

hmmm... maybe its something in the water..

white flowers · Jun 20th, 2008, 08:00 AM

My ex boyfriend did this a few times a week!

BlueberryJane · Jun 20th, 2008, 09:17 AM

Originally Posted by white flowers

My ex boyfriend did this a few times a week!

guccimamma · Jun 20th, 2008, 12:12 PM

yes, and it was a good thing.

he is the only person in the world that i wish would die from a plague. this was 18 years ago...i still wish him the plague.

but living well is the best revenge, even decades later.

Jun 19th, 2008, 04:10 PM	#16
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,388	i think i would freak out if that had happened to me. and i would start calling all the hospitals and his family....LOL. that is worse than being broken up with on a post-it....hehehe. the poor thing, she needs to get over his dumb a$$ and move on and find the right guy that isn't a wee nee.
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Jun 19th, 2008, 04:13 PM	#17
~Fabulousity~ Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 12,911	Funny...I was talking to a guy last night who told me this happened to him before and he was worried out of his mind. The girl sent him a joke text message months later and he laid into her because of it.
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Jun 19th, 2008, 04:40 PM	#18
Cristina Joined: Oct 2005 Location: South Florida Posts: 13,054	Any guy who mysteriously "disappears" is not worth the time and effort to search for, or even call When that happens, it's time to get on with life, get busy and meet new guys!
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Jun 19th, 2008, 05:34 PM	#20
keya Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 3,906	That's really weird and immature I've had someone disappear on me, but only after I broke up with him. I (sort of) regretted it the next morning and tried to text and email him to apologize and see if we could be friends, but he never replied. I even wrote him a letter after a while. He never answered his door either, and he must've moved away or something because I never saw him again. This was years ago and I honestly wish he'd just gotten back to me to say "sorry, wont happen" since I still sometimes wonder if something happened to him (he was my best friend) I kind of wanted to call his sister or mother to ask if he was ok, but I didn't. I figured that if something had happened, they'd tell me. Hopefully Also, the last guy I was with (which, btw, is a total A*HLE! Just FYI) once disappeared for a week. I'd been out of town for a few days and when I got back, he was nowhere to be found. This was after we'd told each other we "loved" each other, and (I thought) things were pretty serious at this point. It would be very strange if a day went by without us seeing each other, so when he didn't return my calls or even cared to make sure I got home ok, the red flags went up. I really had no idea what happened to him until I saw him post on a mutual friend's wall on facebook... Obviously, I messaged him on there and he gave me some bs line about how he'd "missed" me and that he "didn't mean to lose contact with me", and then acted like things were still the same. Stupid as I was, I forgave him. rolleyes
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Jun 19th, 2008, 05:43 PM	#21
keya Member Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 3,906	That's really weird and immature I've had someone disappear on me, but only after I broke up with him. I (sort of) regretted it the next morning and tried to text and email him to apologize and see if we could be friends, but he never replied. I even wrote him a letter after a while. He never answered his door either, and he must've moved away or something because I never saw him again. This was years ago and I honestly wish he'd just gotten back to me to say "sorry, wont happen" since I still sometimes wonder if something happened to him (he was my best friend) I kind of wanted to call his sister or mother to ask if he was ok, but I didn't. I figured that if something had happened, they'd tell me. Hopefully Also, the last guy I was with (which, btw, is a total A*HLE! Just FYI) once disappeared for a week. I'd been out of town for a few days and when I got back, he was nowhere to be found. This was after we'd told each other we "loved" each other, and (I thought) things were pretty serious at this point. It would be very strange if a day went by without us seeing each other, so when he didn't return my calls or even cared to make sure I got home ok, the red flags went up. I really had no idea what happened to him until I saw him post on a mutual friend's wall on facebook... Obviously, I messaged him on there and he gave me some bs line about how he'd "missed" me and that he "didn't mean to lose contact with me", and then acted like things were still the same. Stupid as I was, I forgave him. rolleyes
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Jun 19th, 2008, 05:28 PM	#19
ILuvShopping <3 Joined: Jun 2007 Location: Iowa Posts: 2,972	that's awful!!! if i was that girl i would seriously have been freaked out and super worried that something happened to him. if it was only a couple months it's just kinda odd for someone to do that.. but a year or more???? i once met a guy online and we clicked really fast and talked almost everynight for a couple months... thought about meeting up but never had the time.. and then he just VANISHED... i emailed him.... sent him offline messages... nothing. 2 years later... he pops up again... just emails me out of the blue as if nothings wrong.. i felt a huge connection with this guy so i was instantly happy... of course he had the excuse that he was just in a bad period in his life and bla bla bla but things were good now... we emailed everyday for a couple of weeks...tells me that if i ever need anything i can call him.. and then BOOM he was gone again... i would email him... no response... ok now i'm just down right irritated... about a year later... he finds me on myspace and i get this message "well I found you here!!" well you dumb sh!t you have my phone number... and 2 of my emails.... and you find me on myspace as if i'm a long lost friend... so ok... we start emailing again... i'd get an email like once a week... and it was irritating because you can tell when someone has been online on myspace... he claimed it was because his work required him to travel out of town and he didn't get good cell reception where he was located (which is true of the city he had to goto). so then he has the balls after 3 weeks of 1 message per week to ask if i want to meet and 'have some fun' i tell him no thank you, i'm not that type of girl and if that's all he's looking for then he can look elsewhere! and after that he deleted me from his friends on myspace. GOOD RIDDANCE (sorry that was long!)

Jun 19th, 2008, 05:47 PM	#23
elizat Member Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 9,106	I kind of did this to my high school "boyfriend"- it wasn't going anywhere and I was headed to college, while he was staying at home and not going to school. I told him I didn't want to continue for a bunch of reasons, he didn't get it. I just started ignoring his emails and changed my cell phone number.
elizat Member Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 9,106

Jun 20th, 2008, 01:06 AM	#24
GirlFriday OP Member Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 2,350	To answer some questions this was in Texas. The girl I'm talking about is in her early 30's and this happened 8 or 9 years ago. She IS over him, because it happened so long ago, but I think it just really scarred her. Since she was in love with him I think it took her a couple of years to get over him. I think it affected her and how she sees relationships now. The pattern I've noticed when she's dating guys is that she's crazy about them and a month later she can't wait to dump them. I think it may be subconsciously her being afraid to be dumped first. Or it could just be she just hasn't found the right guy yet. I don't know all the specifics of the relationship because it was just her side. There was obviously more going on than just what she told me. I have no idea what his feelings were. I asked her if there were any warning signs and she said there weren't, but the only thing was (since she was so social) he was introverted and didn't like being around some of her friends. She said he was kind of in a bad mood that night and didn't want to be around the crowd that was going to this ball. I asked her about him never speaking to her again, and she said she tried everything to get in contact with him. I don't think he had a lot of friends and I didn't ask her if she tried talking to his parents. I don't know if his parents even lived in the same town. Yes, highschool labels are childish, but I say "jocks" because that's how he described them. Maybe he had some hangups from highschool, who knows. Sorry if the title sounded like he got whacked by the mafia :) ...that wasn't my intention. But I think she did worry that something happened to him at first, like maybe there was an accident.
GirlFriday OP Member Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 2,350	Last edited by GirlFriday; Jun 20th, 2008 at 01:34 AM.

Jun 20th, 2008, 02:17 AM	#25
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Jun 20th, 2008, 05:26 AM	#26
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Jun 20th, 2008, 07:57 AM	#27
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Jun 20th, 2008, 08:00 AM	#28
white flowers Member Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 398	My ex boyfriend did this a few times a week!
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Jun 20th, 2008, 12:12 PM	#30
guccimamma guccimamma Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Wooo Hooo! Posts: 4,224	yes, and it was a good thing. he is the only person in the world that i wish would die from a plague. this was 18 years ago...i still wish him the plague. but living well is the best revenge, even decades later.

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