[nsynchic20]

So I'm home for the holidays from school, and my boyfriend is in our college town (2 driving distance from me) because he lives with his parents and his parents live in our college town.
Anyways, I'm working retail 40 hours a week, so he promised that he would come visit me. He's been looking for a job, but with no luck, so he has no money, therefore can't come visit me. Sort of. He's got a lot of money in savings that he's saving to travel, which I admire, but he's not even willing to take out $20 for gas to come visit me. This upsets me a lot because I figure, if it were me that had that much money in savings, I would be willing to take out $100 just to see him. However I can't pay for him to come up here because all the money I make this holiday season I have to give to my parents for money I borrowed from them this summer.
Well last night he just bought a Wii with the money his parents give him for school and is planning on selling it on eBay to make $100 or so off it. This upsets me too because his parents didn't want him to use the money they gave him to pay for gas to visit me, or to get a Wii, but he goes ahead and gets the Wii, even though its like $250, and visiting me is less than $20 for gas, which he could easily repay.
I've been so mad at him lately, that I admit, I've been sort of a bitch to him, but its just really been pissing me off. He keeps telling me how much he misses me and that he really wants to see me, but then when I ask him when he's gonna visit me, he says "I dunno." I even told him I don't want a Christmas present from him because him just visiting me can be his Christmas present to me.

GAHHHHHHH! So lately, I admit I've been not so nice to him, but it doesn't feel like he's making the effort! Am I overreacting?

[paintednightsky]

hmm it's hard to tell since it seems like there's more to the story? Is he ever nice or go out of his way for you in any other ways?

If not, I'd be pissed to if he didn't spend 20 bucks to see me. I'd probably dump him actually if he did that type of thing a lot.

[huong]

I would be pissed too. It sounds like he's avoiding you or you're not that big a priority in his life. I think its time to end it.

[trixz]

Actions speak louder than words. He can tell you how much he loves you but if he's not making anyeffort to spend time with you, it's just lip service. Or, he might have someone else. This is the time (Xmas) we all want to be with out loved ones and unless his legs are broken, if he's not excited about spending it with you, you're not that important to him.

Trash it out with him and if he goes flaky again, show him the door.

Sorry for my harsh words. But I'm just being honest.

[kpanda21]

ummm. i'm sorry. it's 20 bucks. he has the time. your boyfriend is an A$$.

[chelsae]

My boyfriend and I are both in college, but are both from the same hometown. He has an apartment there, but I'm a freshman, so i still live in the dorms. He's staying at his apartment for a lot of break, rather than home, and he is driving to see me, and vice versa. He should make time to see you, $20 is nothing when going to see the one that you love, and if he doesn't realize that, you don't need him.

[Purses]

I would be pissed also and actions speak louder then words. That is your sign that this relationship is over. Continue to work hard and remember not to trean your new bf that you will find in the future as how he treated you.

[dallas]

If you have been a b***h to him then maybe that's why he doesn't want to visit you. He may miss you but then, when he actually talks to you and hears you being less than nice, he may think "why the heck should I visit her if she's going to b***h at me". Just a thought.

[luvellabache]

I wonder if this is the first time he acts so senseless to you. If so, maybe he is just planning a surprise show up for you

[chipmunk-pnw]

Why are you still his girlfriend? Aren't there other guys who you can look up to and take care of you? :)
Sorry but he sees you as a worker and himself as a dependent. That's how your relationship will follow. It's no incentive for him to get up and grow up.

[nsynchic20]

well I guess I ruined a surprise...he told me he was planning on just showing up unexpectedly at my work. Now I feel horrible that I was mad, and that I ruined a surprise, but I seriously would have never expected something like that from him because he doesn't exactly know how to surprise people, but yeah.

[simpleplan]

Maybe he's planning a surprise?
Has he been acting different just lately?

[QueenOfDa702]

Originally Posted by nsynchic20

well I guess I ruined a surprise...he told me he was planning on just showing up unexpectedly at my work. Now I feel horrible that I was mad, and that I ruined a surprise, but I seriously would have never expected something like that from him because he doesn't exactly know how to surprise people, but yeah.

Glad it turned out ok, I was just about to say hes a total ass and you need to dump him.

[IntlSet]

Originally Posted by trixz

Actions speak louder than words. He can tell you how much he loves you but if he's not making anyeffort to spend time with you, it's just lip service. Or, he might have someone else. This is the time (Xmas) we all want to be with out loved ones and unless his legs are broken, if he's not excited about spending it with you, you're not that important to him.

Trash it out with him and if he goes flaky again, show him the door.

Sorry for my harsh words. But I'm just being honest.

Agree.

[keya]

I'm glad he's coming to see you, I was just about to agree with everyone else and say that if he can't even spend the gas money to see you, you should ditch his ass because he obviously doesn't give a damn.