AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!?

Luva Pug · Feb 19th, 2008, 04:02 PM

OMG just got off the phone to my bf (who works away).
Im soo flipping mad right now!!!

Well today i went to get a skin check test for laser hair removal. I rang up and they were like oh you can come in for your test patch today if you like~ ok great!!

So i go off to the clinic, bf rings while im in the waiting room, "What are you up to ect". So i say, im going to get a tester for laser hair removal (all the whike rather embarrased as im in the waiting room).

THEN... why are you there,don't you have to revise, what are you doing that for, you never told me etc... and he puts the phone down!

Soo im angry but left it and went to have the test.

Anyway just got off the phone to him, and hes in such a mood saying, you have never spoken to ME about doing this. Why are we in a relationship when you/ we don't talk about things...
Im like wth, why is this such a big deal? He couldn't answer just huffing and saying the above over and over again.
I say, why did you want me to ask you for your permission...then he got really angry, no of course not!!!!

But im thinking what is his problem??
It's so silly and petty, i just don't get it. He ended the ocnversation with me trying to explain, with him saying, oh i don't care whatever etc..

Why are men so stupid sometimes?!?!

ANy advice would be appreciated!! Am i missing the bigger picture here or something!?

(Background~ Been happily together for 4 years, living for 2 years, he works away in the week)

TIA XX

Im just really annoyed now, and i need to revise but cant concentrate!!

trixz · Feb 19th, 2008, 04:13 PM

First of all, cool down. If you guys have been doing great all this while, then I wouldn't worry about it. Guys do have mood swings too. Maybe, he had a bad day at work and vent his frustrations at you. I know he shouldn't have.

SPOILEDkiwi · Feb 19th, 2008, 05:22 PM

If this isn't his usual behavior then I wouldn't worry about it. He probably just had a bad day.

gillianna · Feb 19th, 2008, 05:35 PM

Is he a control freak that wants you to report to him on every step you take?
It really is none of his business and I hope he chills out.
Maybe he was just in a bad mood.
HUGS.

Jahpson · Feb 19th, 2008, 05:43 PM

are you serious?

does that mean you consult with him before you shave your legs? is it really that serious?

He must have had a bad day, because that is certainly NO reason to hang up on you. He owes you an apology. Unless you have a ring on your finger, you dont have to answer to anybody (and even then...)

moi et mes sacs · Feb 19th, 2008, 05:49 PM

If he wants to know every move you make perhaps he should just work closer to home....just my opinion

FemBot · Feb 19th, 2008, 05:59 PM

maybe he like hair.

illinirdhd · Feb 19th, 2008, 06:10 PM

Are your finances combined? I guess if so, I can kind of understand where he was coming from (though his approach seemed more controlling than money conscious). I don't know what it costs to have laser hair removal, and I doubt that he does either. So maybe he's worried about the money? If that's not the case, I don't see any reason for him to be upset. I'm sure while he's away during the week, he does things you don't know about. Or does he call you every morning to tell you who he's meeting with, what time and where?

If it's not the cash he's worried about, and he's not normally one to flip out like that, I'd guess he just had a bad day.

RoseMary · Feb 19th, 2008, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by FemBot

maybe he like hair.

sorry, but lol!

couture2387 · Feb 19th, 2008, 06:26 PM

maybe he's had bad day?

claireZk · Feb 19th, 2008, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by FemBot

maybe he like hair.

Luva Pug-- Your SO sounds soooo much like mine. Who knows why he was upset?! It's probably no big deal and he probably was just being moody. My SO works during the week & he's moody too, btw. Our finances aren't combined, but sometimes he gets weird about certain things. He'll stand by while I spend $100 at Sephora and not criticize other than to ask "What's that for?" I tell him and he just shrugs. Other times, I'll spend like $20 at the drugstore (on shampoo, deodorant, toothpaste... necessary items) and he'll be like "OMG! You're spending MORE money? What do you need that for?"

If my bf had this reaction in this situation, I'd assume it was because a)he was in a grumpy mood and b)he was concerned that I was being frivolous with money. It's my money right now, but it will be our money in the not-too-distant future. That's why my SO gets concerned about my spending sometimes. I could see him worrying that it would start with laser treatments now and eventually I'd end up blowing his money on plastic surgery, if he didn't put his foot down. It's not necessarily true, but I could definitely see a guy thinking that way

anneonimiss · Feb 19th, 2008, 06:41 PM

^^mine is like this, too!

The other day he got really upset with me for throwing out the negatives from some old pics of myself from high school (I kept the pics)! He said it was because he wanted me to keep them and I obviously don't care what he thinks!!! I just couldn't think of a rational reason to keep the negs, and he couldn't provide me with a reason, so I threw them out. *lol*

I think men can absolutely have some sort of man PMS or something...I wouldn't worry too much about it unless he doesn't get over it or if it happens frequently (control issues).

dusty paws · Feb 19th, 2008, 06:53 PM

Mine had that sort of reaction with my tattoos. It was because he didn't want me to alter my body - he liked me the way that I was (pre tattoos). Perhaps he is afraid this will change you and he likes how you are - but doesn't know how to come out and say it?

BF actually wants to go with me to get my next tattoo... so there are happy endings when people just sit and talk about things. Best of luck - try to calm down and if you need to scream into a pillow go for it! *hugs*

jellybebe · Feb 19th, 2008, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by anneonimiss

^^mine is like this, too!

The other day he got really upset with me for throwing out the negatives from some old pics of myself from high school (I kept the pics)! He said it was because he wanted me to keep them and I obviously don't care what he thinks!!! I just couldn't think of a rational reason to keep the negs, and he couldn't provide me with a reason, so I threw them out. *lol*

I think men can absolutely have some sort of man PMS or something...I wouldn't worry too much about it unless he doesn't get over it or if it happens frequently (control issues).

My bf is like this too, but I don't know if it's totally about $. When I read the OP's post, my first thought was, "If I was getting this done and my bf was out of town, he would probably think that I'm trying to make myself sexier for some other guy." My bf is not an extremely jealous guy, but I suppose it would also depend on where the hair was being removed from.

But I agree too that this sort of reaction would be more likely to occur if he was having a bad day or if we had been fighting recently.

girliceclimber · Feb 19th, 2008, 09:59 PM

^^That's true, maybe if you were getting hair removal in an "intimate" place, your bf might have been offended that you didn't consult him first to find out his preferences.

Feb 19th, 2008, 04:02 PM	#1
Luva Pug H ~ H ~ H Location: In an Oral Pathology book...	AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? OMG just got off the phone to my bf (who works away). Im soo flipping mad right now!!! Well today i went to get a skin check test for laser hair removal. I rang up and they were like oh you can come in for your test patch today if you like~ ok great!! So i go off to the clinic, bf rings while im in the waiting room, "What are you up to ect". So i say, im going to get a tester for laser hair removal (all the whike rather embarrased as im in the waiting room). THEN... why are you there,don't you have to revise, what are you doing that for, you never told me etc... and he puts the phone down! Soo im angry but left it and went to have the test. Anyway just got off the phone to him, and hes in such a mood saying, you have never spoken to ME about doing this. Why are we in a relationship when you/ we don't talk about things... Im like wth, why is this such a big deal? He couldn't answer just huffing and saying the above over and over again. I say, why did you want me to ask you for your permission...then he got really angry, no of course not!!!! But im thinking what is his problem?? It's so silly and petty, i just don't get it. He ended the ocnversation with me trying to explain, with him saying, oh i don't care whatever etc.. Why are men so stupid sometimes?!?! ANy advice would be appreciated!! Am i missing the bigger picture here or something!? (Background~ Been happily together for 4 years, living for 2 years, he works away in the week) TIA XX Im just really annoyed now, and i need to revise but cant concentrate!! __________________ Silently waiting for January... HG mission starts now... Black 30cm togo GHW birkin / Etoupe 30cm togo birkin

Feb 19th, 2008, 04:13 PM	#2
trixz bonheur~ Location: ~Kittyland~	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? First of all, cool down. If you guys have been doing great all this while, then I wouldn't worry about it. Guys do have mood swings too. Maybe, he had a bad day at work and vent his frustrations at you. I know he shouldn't have. __________________ Only when you know what's within you, then you'll know what's around you.

Feb 19th, 2008, 05:22 PM	#3
SPOILEDkiwi not a kiwi! Location: NYC/Long Island	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? If this isn't his usual behavior then I wouldn't worry about it. He probably just had a bad day. __________________ “It is the unseen, unforgettable, ultimate accessory of fashion that heralds your arrival and prolongs your departure.” --Coco Chanel

Feb 19th, 2008, 05:35 PM	#4
gillianna Member	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? Is he a control freak that wants you to report to him on every step you take? It really is none of his business and I hope he chills out. Maybe he was just in a bad mood. HUGS.

Feb 19th, 2008, 05:43 PM	#5
Jahpson Member Location: The Playground	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? are you serious? does that mean you consult with him before you shave your legs? is it really that serious? He must have had a bad day, because that is certainly NO reason to hang up on you. He owes you an apology. Unless you have a ring on your finger, you dont have to answer to anybody (and even then...) __________________ Amazingly Sophisticated Happy Holidays to all my TPF friends!

Feb 19th, 2008, 05:49 PM	#6
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? If he wants to know every move you make perhaps he should just work closer to home....just my opinion

Feb 19th, 2008, 05:59 PM	#7
FemBot Nice Hair	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? maybe he like hair.

Feb 19th, 2008, 06:10 PM	#8
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Location: Las Vegas, NV	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? Are your finances combined? I guess if so, I can kind of understand where he was coming from (though his approach seemed more controlling than money conscious). I don't know what it costs to have laser hair removal, and I doubt that he does either. So maybe he's worried about the money? If that's not the case, I don't see any reason for him to be upset. I'm sure while he's away during the week, he does things you don't know about. Or does he call you every morning to tell you who he's meeting with, what time and where? If it's not the cash he's worried about, and he's not normally one to flip out like that, I'd guess he just had a bad day. __________________

Feb 19th, 2008, 06:26 PM	#10
couture2387 Member Location: Miami	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? maybe he's had bad day? __________________ until I manage to pay off 1/2 of my Visa!

Feb 19th, 2008, 06:41 PM	#12
anneonimiss Z.Z.Z.Z.	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? ^^mine is like this, too! The other day he got really upset with me for throwing out the negatives from some old pics of myself from high school (I kept the pics)! He said it was because he wanted me to keep them and I obviously don't care what he thinks!!! I just couldn't think of a rational reason to keep the negs, and he couldn't provide me with a reason, so I threw them out. lol I think men can absolutely have some sort of man PMS or something...I wouldn't worry too much about it unless he doesn't get over it or if it happens frequently (control issues).

Feb 19th, 2008, 06:53 PM	#13
dusty paws Vuitton on the brain Location: RAOKville!	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? Mine had that sort of reaction with my tattoos. It was because he didn't want me to alter my body - he liked me the way that I was (pre tattoos). Perhaps he is afraid this will change you and he likes how you are - but doesn't know how to come out and say it? BF actually wants to go with me to get my next tattoo... so there are happy endings when people just sit and talk about things. Best of luck - try to calm down and if you need to scream into a pillow go for it! hugs __________________ laura's teeny wishlist: [] mono french purse [] trevi pm [] seleya pm [] mono cles Laura and my babies: http://www.dustypaws.com My blog: http://makeupandpearls.blogspot.com/

Feb 19th, 2008, 09:59 PM	#15
girliceclimber Member Location: Los Angeles	Re: AHhh I am sooo angry!!! Since when do i have to start asking Qs¬!? ^^That's true, maybe if you were getting hair removal in an "intimate" place, your bf might have been offended that you didn't consult him first to find out his preferences.