A Question For the Single Ladies...

[Jeneen]

^ Yeah that's what I meant :)

[Very Broken]

Thanks Ladies! I will do that. sheesh, you women are so difficult!

[domlee]

For the record, I'm not a lady. I'm a guy. It is not difficult, you're just anxious. Just relax and you'll do fine.

[Pursegrrl]

Originally Posted by ~fabulousity~

wait and see if she contacts you and if you don't hear from her by tuesday contact her and just chat, bring it up during the chat really casually by saying something like "i really hope we can get together soon" see what her response is this kinda puts the ball in her court. If she says something like "i'd like that" or "sure" then say how about we meet for lunch, coffee, ice cream on blah blah blah and go from there.

ita. And a definite no-no on showing up during her GNO drinks this weekend. That's sacred ground, LOL.

Good luck!

[Charles]

Originally Posted by Very Broken

Hey girls its me again. I'm not here to whine about my ex. I have accepted it and moved on and I feel so much better! Thank you for all your support! I recently met this girl online. I am very attracted to her, and she is showing alot of interest in me. We have been emailing and texting alot lately. I asked her out this Saturday night, She said Oh darn, it's my "girls night out". So I said "ok no problem, no hurry. Have fun!" Question 1; How long should I wait to ask her out again? Question 2; Would it be a good Idea to see if I could maybe join them for one drink this saturday? I'm thinking she may feel more comfortable meeting for the first time with her friends there with her... no? Probably not huh? Or hope she "drunk texts" me Saturday... I dont want to seem desperate, but I really want to meet her! I've been out of "the game" for some time now. Just not sure really how to go about this without seeming needy...

1: I would have asked her right then and there. "Oh, Ok, so Sat is out, Are you free Fri?" Since you didn't do that, the next time you talk to her ask. "ok, so Sat is girl's night...what about Fri night?" Be assertive, but not aggressive. If she wavers on meeting you, move on.
2: NO!

There's nothing desperate about wanting to meet a cool chick. Now, if she keeps blowing you off, wanting to meet with a girl who's not interested in you, is desperate.

My typical meeting process was like this:

-Ask her to meet at a club or a bar. One, because I go out a lot and want to be with a girl that has similar interests. Two cause it's public, there are other people, and it's not so focused on info exchange. You can chit chat, but if the convo lulls a bit, there's plenty of topics right in front of you to talk about. If things went well, I'd ask her for a lunch date.
As far as the actual asking out...if I asked her and got turned down once, I'd ask her when she was free. If she acted shady about it, I'd move on. If we went out and I felt things went well, I'd ask her out again. If she skirted the issue, I'd move on. After we had met once, she should have a clear answer as to whether she was attracted to her. If she's attracted to you, she will say yes to your invites. It's real simple.
-Lunch date. It builds on what we talked about in the first meeting, but it's limited to an hour. Again, if things don't go well, you have a quick out. If things do go well, it's time for a dinner date.
-Dinner date. If you're here, then things are going well. We've established a connection and I realize that it's time to focus more on us as a whole as opposed to focusing on our surroundings and environment. At this point, I'm thinking there's a future. At least the possibility of a future.

It's really not rocket science. Just be confident and treat it as if it's no big deal. She farts and poops and does the same things you do, so don't ever think a girl's too good for you. You're just two people, so hanging out should be casual. People hang out every day. Don't make it a World Peace Conference here.

Got it? Good! Go get her, killer!

[Very Broken]

Thanks Charles. I will take your advice to the bank. You're the Man! I would have asked her about friday, but I am busy Friday nights. Thats Poker Night!. I am free tonight, but I woulldn't dare now...

So, then I guess I'll wait til Mon or Tue to ask her out again?

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Charles

Got it? Good! Go get her, killer!

[amber11]

just read the first post.. but i'd wait a couple days then ask her out for coffee in the morning or during the day or something- sometimes it feels like pressure if you go out in the morning when you both know there is an end time to the date.... and if she denies that date then i'd move on and wait for her to contact you

[bnjj]

I'm glad to hear you are moving on from the ex. Good for you!!

I hope you and this new woman do get together so be sure to come back and update us.

[Very Broken]

She Texted Me Today! Yay!

[claireZk]

Originally Posted by Very Broken

Hey girls its me again. I'm not here to whine about my ex. I have accepted it and moved on and I feel so much better! Thank you for all your support! I recently met this girl online. I am very attracted to her, and she is showing alot of interest in me. We have been emailing and texting alot lately. I asked her out this Saturday night, She said Oh darn, it's my "girls night out". So I said "ok no problem, no hurry. Have fun!" Question 1; How long should I wait to ask her out again? Question 2; Would it be a good Idea to see if I could maybe join them for one drink this saturday? I'm thinking she may feel more comfortable meeting for the first time with her friends there with her... no? Probably not huh? Or hope she "drunk texts" me Saturday... I dont want to seem desperate, but I really want to meet her! I've been out of "the game" for some time now. Just not sure really how to go about this without seeming needy...

Question 1: I'd wait about one week.
Question 2: NO!!!!!!!!!!!! Bad idea!

[bnjj]

Originally Posted by Very Broken

She Texted Me Today! Yay!

You're so cute!

Just be careful not too fall too quickly and get you heart broken all over again.

[Charles]

And?? What did she say?

If you play your cards right, you can meet up with her prior to her girls night.

[Very Broken]

Originally Posted by Charles

And?? What did she say? If you play your cards right, you can meet up with her prior to her girls night.

Well, I posted on myspace that Today Was my First Solo Flight (I joined Flight School and I'm Hooked!) And she said "You better call or text me and let me know how your flight went!"


P.S. Oh and My "toxic" ex sends me a "hey" text today after 5-6 weeks of NC. LOL. No Way I deleted it immediatley! (I was a bit shaken, but not stirred...)

[domlee]

Ok James Bond.

Just reply back to your current girl when you're done w/ the flight.

As far as your toxic ex...you did the right thing. Focus on your current girl. Don't screw things up by bringing up your past w/ this current one. Your past can stay buried where it belongs.