27 y.o. woman and still single?

[ellewoods]

Geez 27 is sooo young! I'm 23, and while I'm in a serious relationship, I am not even considering getting married until I'm in my 30's. You are at the best stage of life - young but not naive, and you probably have a career that you can be proud of. You should celebrate that and not worry about this!

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by sonya

I agree with this. Don't settle for anything less than what you really want.

Exactly!

[kap]

I'm about your age... but just out of a v. long term relationship (we are talking 7+ years).

You are in a way better situation ... At least you have lived... and know what you want.

I feel backward... like I've only just started dating again and at this stage can't even imagine what being in a relationship again will be like... even though I would like that and it would be nice...

[fabgrabs]

I am 27 and single as well. I ended a 2+ year relationship a year ago, and I'm still a bit scarred.

I admit, I vacillate between loneliness and greatfulness...

I am to the point where I feel if it happens, it will happen no matter what I do; if I end up never marrying, then that's the way it's supposed to be...although I'd really miss not having children.

[Speedy]

If 30 is old, then I'm dead.

Come on girls! You are so YOUNG! AND PRETTY! Take stock of yourself. How you act, dress, are you funny, sexy, charming, judgemental, etc? REALLY dig down and see yourself from someone else's viewpoint. If there is something you think turns them off, then fix it!

Someone suggested looking for love in different places... and she's right. The singles scene is a meat market. It was when I was your age, it still is now. But the guys who size up the chicks in bars are NOT looking for a life-mate, and they could care less about how hard you worked on your education or morals... we all know those kind. And they flock together and discuss the women present as if they were cattle.

As someone else suggested, start going to places that cater to intelligent men, men of means, men with morals. I'm not saying church unless that's your thing, but there's a lot to be said for the guys who hang out in grocery stores, book stores (oh, yeah!) and the like. If say you enjoy fine wines, see about you and a girlfriend going on a wine country tour. Or of you enjoy good foods, same thing. But make sure it's you and a girlfriend. You never know what will pop up.

BE DISCRIMINATING, but don't be picky. I met my DH after escaping an abusive relationship, I had to take my son and daughter and move across country to a town I never had been in in order to be safe. The LAST thing on my mind then was a relationship with ANYTHING. I was 30, and about to become a celebate lesbian if I had to. I just wanted to raise my kids in peace and quiet.

Then this guy, short and balding, started to date my next-door neighbor. He was really nice, hard working, went to church, just adored my neighbor. Sadly for him, she wanted a wild life, drinking and druggin' and screwing anything that had a pulse. He backed off quickly. But, during the time he was over at her house, he started playing ball and the like with my then 5 year old son. I was pretty broke, was trying to find a job, and I couldn't afford the little things kids enjoy. He'd come over knowing his "girl-friend" wasn't home, and ask me if he could just sit out on my porch and wait for her. I'd say yes, and he'd get to playing ball with my boy. Once he asked me if it was okay if he could teach my 15 year how to drive. By this time I knew where he worked, I'd met his parents and his brother and sister... heck I knew more about him before we even dated than I knew of my husband after ten years of marriage!

Yes, he's short, rounding now (he's 48) and been bald since he was in his 20's, but he's the most loving and honorable man ever. He was a Marine, in the Army, in the reserves, (National Guard) and is now a part time responder for the fire department. He never bragged, it came out like it was part of a story he was telling. He'd been all over the world with the military as I did in my marriage to a military man (the one I left in 1988) We had a lot in common.

He moved in with me and the kids in 1989, and shortly after my daughter left home at 18, we got a bigger apartment. We lived together happily until 1996, when thigs got really good, and I married him. I was 39.

I'm no beauty at all, and he's not really the "Prince Charming" looking guy either. But his love is as strong now for me after 19 years as it was the first time he told me he loved me. My former next door neighbor has NO IDEA what she missed out on.

My only regret is that he and I couldn't have a child of our own together. But my son was quite young and my DH is the only real dad he knows. I could not have created a man like him, and he was literally dropped in my lap!

Best of luck to you honey... I pray you find your Prince Charming, just remember, the best looking ones have the absolute worse attitudes. The So-So looking ones will adore you and worship the ground you walk on!

[Zophie]

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Best of luck to you honey... I pray you find your Prince Charming, just remember, the best looking ones have the absolute worse attitudes. The So-So looking ones will adore you and worship the ground you walk on!

And also remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder too. Most guys that people think are really hot don't do a thing for me.

[MichelleAntonia]

i'm 26 and NEVER been in a relationship, serious or otherwise. never even been on a real date. how's that for weird? lol.

but i know im not weird, ive just always been an all or nothing person, whether that's good or bad i dont know, but i DO know that i won't settle for something that doesnt feel at least 99% right to me. why date for the sake of dating? or be in a relationship? or marry? ya know? those things are supposed to be special, sacred even, dont give into the pressure to do it just because you think you have to. it's a completely personal thing.

honestly, im SO busy trying to get ahead in my life right now that i dont think i have enough space in my life for a relationship. and sure, it might be harder to come by as i get older, but i think it's a worthy trade off for getting the life i'm seeking by making a lot of sacrifices right now. they don't even feel like sacrifices because of that.

it'll happen for you, and when it does, it won't be because you dated or married because your age freaked you out and you rushed into it. it'll be because it's just finally RIGHT FOR YOU.

[bl2k4]

my 2 young sisters, 33 and 34, they both are still single. One of them has not dated anyone yet in her life.