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shoppy · Nov 20th, 2007, 10:41 PM

I just turned 24. Most of my friends are in serious relationships/engaged/married. Honestly, I don't feel grown-up enough to be in a serious relationship. It's something that I would like to have eventually, but I'm just not ready yet. I'm still in law school and I'm just getting ready to start my career.

A lot of times I hang out with my friends and I get a little depressed that I'm single, so I def. know how you feel but I know that I'm just not in a place where I'm ready for all of that.

Pursegrrl · Nov 20th, 2007, 10:51 PM

You know, I do remember feeling this way and I don't know why 27 was the magic age, but it was.

Fast forward 13 years and yep, I'm still single! Most of the time I'm OK with it but don't get me wrong, I feel like I'm swimming upstream against what society expects of a woman my age (meaning, I'm a freak that I am not married and no kids).

But on the other hand, if I had married any of the guys I've dated over the years I would have been miserable in the end. So, i"m better on my own and push forward with eyes wide open. There is someone very new in my life right now so who knows what's going to happen. We're just taking it reallly slow...and that's OK!

vuittonGirl · Nov 20th, 2007, 11:04 PM

hmmm, im in the same boat: 27 and i feel so old. i also just got out of a 3+ years relationship so now i feel a little scared. What if i don't find the right one and end up being 30 and single. I just think 30 is the mark somehow. *sigh* i guess the right one will come along when we are least expected.

Happy birthday!

Irissy · Nov 21st, 2007, 12:05 AM

27 is fricking YOUNG!!! I'm 28 and recently ended a 6 years long term relationship as well. Suddenly I'm single... and got to admit, a bit freak out too. But I'm not in a hurry to get married anyway. So relax and go out and have some fun girlfriend! Meet new guys and go out on dates! Pretty soon, they'll be climbing all over you like there's no tomorrow.

krisaya · Nov 21st, 2007, 12:13 AM

EXACTLY. I always wonder (well, more like crazy thoughts), what if my ex boyfriend was really the one but I totally messed up our relationship, etc... Obviously, I'm still not over him.

Now, I find it harder to meet people. I used to be very social when I was younger. You could call me a party girl. But as I got older, I'm more of a homebody and I rarely go out to clubs or bar. Not that I want to pick up a guy from the bar.

I guess everyone is right, the right one will come alone when you're least expected

Originally Posted by vuittonGirl

hmmm, im in the same boat: 27 and i feel so old. i also just got out of a 3+ years relationship so now i feel a little scared. What if i don't find the right one and end up being 30 and single. I just think 30 is the mark somehow. *sigh* i guess the right one will come along when we are least expected.

Happy birthday!

bern · Nov 21st, 2007, 05:54 AM

I'll raise you 10yrs

I'm 37, unmarried and no kids.

elizat · Nov 21st, 2007, 07:19 AM

Originally Posted by krisaya

Now, I find it harder to meet people. I used to be very social when I was younger. You could call me a party girl. But as I got older, I'm more of a homebody and I rarely go out to clubs or bar. Not that I want to pick up a guy from the bar.

I guess everyone is right, the right one will come alone when you're least expected

I posted earlier, I'm a year apart from you in age. I have never really been a going out to clubs/bars kind of gal. However, I don't think I'd worry about that. Honestly, have you ever really met any really quality guys at a club at 2 a.m.??? I AM sure it happens, but for the most part, I would not want to take the guys at the club home to mom.

I've always meet ppl through school, friends, even at bookstores/in office buildings- not MY office, but another person who works in the same huge building.

Chin up! It'll happen when it is right. Better to wait until someone who fits comes along, than rush it and be unhappy or get divorced quickly.

mellecyn · Nov 21st, 2007, 08:02 AM

Yes when I hear ppl say go out and don´t wait for your prince charming to knock on your door, it certainly means going to work, shopping, supermarket, enrolling in sport actvities, or other clubs, charity, even going to the bank !
Be willing to try new stuff, but don´t feel bad about not liking bars or clubs, we always think it for the single scene but in fact it´s more a "meat market" for one night stands at best. Ppl go out to have fun, dance and socialize, see and being seen. But´s that´s all, I don´t know anyone who met their SO that way !

mellecyn · Nov 21st, 2007, 08:06 AM

Originally Posted by vuittonGirl

hmmm, im in the same boat: 27 and i feel so old. i also just got out of a 3+ years relationship so now i feel a little scared. What if i don't find the right one and end up being 30 and single. I just think 30 is the mark somehow. *sigh* i guess the right one will come along when we are least expected.

Happy birthday!

Gosh that means I have only 3 months to find the One, better hurry up !!

LOREBUNDE · Nov 21st, 2007, 08:13 AM

I never saw what the big hurry was to settle down. I think 30's is the best time for that. Enjoy your 20's. When you're not looking Mr. right will come along.

Charles · Nov 21st, 2007, 10:30 AM

Ohh no...I'm 32 and not married. My life is over! :)

Really, I think that kind of thinking is counterproductive and a catch 22. You miss out on life cause you're waiting for/worrying about Mr Right, but you can't find Mr Right cause you're missing out on life. Go out...hang with friends, live life and you will meet people, and the only way to find Mr Right is by meeting people. You're going to go through a lot of Mr Wrongs, so you better get a jump on things and get busy! Life is meant for living, not for regretting and wondering.

HubbaWubba · Nov 21st, 2007, 12:10 PM

Originally Posted by bern

I'll raise you 10yrs

I'm 37, unmarried and no kids.

AND you lived to tell about it???

I always wondered about people getting married just to be married. I see so many girls wishing they just had a husband/boyfriend and will settle for anything that pays attentions to them. Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness.

sonya · Nov 21st, 2007, 03:32 PM

Originally Posted by HubbaWubba

I always wondered about people getting married just to be married. I see so many girls wishing they just had a husband/boyfriend and will settle for anything that pays attentions to them. Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness.

I agree with this.

Don't settle for anything less than what you really want.

theITbag · Nov 21st, 2007, 04:47 PM

27 is not old. 28-29 were the best years!!! enjoy while you can. nothing wrong with being single and independent. wouldn't you rather be by yourself than be with the wrong guy???

chipmunk-pnw · Nov 21st, 2007, 06:55 PM

DO NOT let anyone pressure you into getting married. Being happily married will involve hard work, commitment, and adjustment. Would you rather be married young, have 3 divorces and have kids with broken homes? With so many divorces going on these days it really makes you think twice about what is the rush? Get married when you're ready. At that time you will find your man. Before that, your body will probably send out signals as if to say "I'm worried nobody wants me! Please take me!" and this really scares single men off. They are attracted to girls who are at ease with themselves and who don't pressure them.

Nov 20th, 2007, 10:41 PM	#31
shoppy Member Joined: Oct 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 709	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? I just turned 24. Most of my friends are in serious relationships/engaged/married. Honestly, I don't feel grown-up enough to be in a serious relationship. It's something that I would like to have eventually, but I'm just not ready yet. I'm still in law school and I'm just getting ready to start my career. A lot of times I hang out with my friends and I get a little depressed that I'm single, so I def. know how you feel but I know that I'm just not in a place where I'm ready for all of that.

Nov 20th, 2007, 10:51 PM	#32
Pursegrrl Oh no she di-int!! Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Seattle Posts: 19,303	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? You know, I do remember feeling this way and I don't know why 27 was the magic age, but it was. Fast forward 13 years and yep, I'm still single! Most of the time I'm OK with it but don't get me wrong, I feel like I'm swimming upstream against what society expects of a woman my age (meaning, I'm a freak that I am not married and no kids). But on the other hand, if I had married any of the guys I've dated over the years I would have been miserable in the end. So, i"m better on my own and push forward with eyes wide open. There is someone very new in my life right now so who knows what's going to happen. We're just taking it reallly slow...and that's OK!
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Nov 20th, 2007, 11:04 PM	#33
vuittonGirl Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 2,892	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? hmmm, im in the same boat: 27 and i feel so old. i also just got out of a 3+ years relationship so now i feel a little scared. What if i don't find the right one and end up being 30 and single. I just think 30 is the mark somehow. sigh i guess the right one will come along when we are least expected. Happy birthday!
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Nov 21st, 2007, 12:05 AM	#34
Irissy Meow?! Joined: Oct 2005 Location: California Posts: 9,637	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? 27 is fricking YOUNG!!! I'm 28 and recently ended a 6 years long term relationship as well. Suddenly I'm single... and got to admit, a bit freak out too. But I'm not in a hurry to get married anyway. So relax and go out and have some fun girlfriend! Meet new guys and go out on dates! Pretty soon, they'll be climbing all over you like there's no tomorrow.
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Nov 21st, 2007, 05:54 AM	#36
bern Sandgroper Joined: May 2007 Location: Perth, Australia Posts: 1,178	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? I'll raise you 10yrs I'm 37, unmarried and no kids.

Nov 21st, 2007, 08:02 AM	#38
mellecyn Just a minute ! Joined: Feb 2006 Location: In a bag Posts: 3,110	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? Yes when I hear ppl say go out and don´t wait for your prince charming to knock on your door, it certainly means going to work, shopping, supermarket, enrolling in sport actvities, or other clubs, charity, even going to the bank ! Be willing to try new stuff, but don´t feel bad about not liking bars or clubs, we always think it for the single scene but in fact it´s more a "meat market" for one night stands at best. Ppl go out to have fun, dance and socialize, see and being seen. But´s that´s all, I don´t know anyone who met their SO that way !
	__________________ "Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience" Victoria Holt

Nov 21st, 2007, 08:13 AM	#40
LOREBUNDE Member Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 5,089	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? I never saw what the big hurry was to settle down. I think 30's is the best time for that. Enjoy your 20's. When you're not looking Mr. right will come along.

Nov 21st, 2007, 10:30 AM	#41
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,187	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? Ohh no...I'm 32 and not married. My life is over! :) Really, I think that kind of thinking is counterproductive and a catch 22. You miss out on life cause you're waiting for/worrying about Mr Right, but you can't find Mr Right cause you're missing out on life. Go out...hang with friends, live life and you will meet people, and the only way to find Mr Right is by meeting people. You're going to go through a lot of Mr Wrongs, so you better get a jump on things and get busy! Life is meant for living, not for regretting and wondering.

Nov 21st, 2007, 04:47 PM	#44
theITbag trufflesbang Joined: Feb 2006 Location: US Posts: 1,183	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? 27 is not old. 28-29 were the best years!!! enjoy while you can. nothing wrong with being single and independent. wouldn't you rather be by yourself than be with the wrong guy???
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Nov 21st, 2007, 06:55 PM	#45
chipmunk-pnw ^.^ Joined: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,017	Re: 27 y.o. woman and still single? DO NOT let anyone pressure you into getting married. Being happily married will involve hard work, commitment, and adjustment. Would you rather be married young, have 3 divorces and have kids with broken homes? With so many divorces going on these days it really makes you think twice about what is the rush? Get married when you're ready. At that time you will find your man. Before that, your body will probably send out signals as if to say "I'm worried nobody wants me! Please take me!" and this really scares single men off. They are attracted to girls who are at ease with themselves and who don't pressure them.

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