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vhdos · Aug 5th, 2009, 10:43 PM

Originally Posted by nycbagaddict

ilovepinkhearts--- im "SAD" too..

sometimes people like to judge without being in our position.

and thank you vhdos for your response.

at the end of the day, we are all trying to support each other in this thread. not make people feel bad about themselves after openly admitting faults in parenting.

Yes, that is exactly what I was talking about too. Admitting that we are not perfect parents it's not an easy thing to do. The last thing we need is a judgmental tone.
Thanks for your post KristyDarling. We do the counting thing too. Usually, by the count of three, the crisis has been diverted and I don't need to raise my voice.
I started reading "Screamfree Parenting" and it's pretty interesting so far.

Sternchen · Aug 6th, 2009, 02:32 PM

I was "sad" today...

ilovepinkhearts · Aug 6th, 2009, 03:24 PM

LOL^^

i was super duper "sad" today as well...it must be going around.

BooYah · Aug 6th, 2009, 03:30 PM

count me in as a "SAD" person too then.

i am guilty of this with my 5-yr, 3-yr and 22-mth kiddies.
i don't do it immediately or instantaneously. but if i feel like i have to referee something, which happens 9 out of 10 times, just for them to listen to me for the upteen-hundredth time, i will turn up the volume a bit to get their attention and STOP THE MADNESS LOL

and separating them, giving them a time out, etc. doesn't even help me sometimes b/c they will eventually find their way back to each other (it's that "can't live with each other, can't kill each other" thing with them i guess). i wish i could tie them down to a chair, but i really shouldn't .......just kidding

hahahaha

my intention is not to harm, hurt nor abuse them, but just to get my message across since they don't seem to absorb a "please stop it" or "enough of that please" the first and second time around. it may be the incorrect way of doing things in some people's eyes but i try my best to manage it at home (i hardly, hardly ever yell at them in public).

overall, at the end of the day, when i hear a teacher or relative or family comment on how good and well-behaved they are/have been, i smile inside

this is a great thread...let's please continue to support each other

KristyDarling · Aug 6th, 2009, 03:44 PM

So far, I have been SAD twice today. The first time was when my kids didn't listen after I repeatedly told them (3 times) to pick up their toys. The second time was when my daughter was about to step into a big pile of mud.

ilovepinkhearts · Aug 6th, 2009, 03:48 PM

oh i have threatened to tie my son to the dinning room chair while he eats...in fact i may just do that. he takes food all over the house...and with ants [vented about it another thread] that are attracted to his crumbs...it's a nightmare. any time he is hungry and wants food i have to pretty much stand over him and make sure he stays seated or follow him around with a broom and dust pan...and honestly i don't have the time nor the patience to do either. and i get tired of asking him repeatedly which in turns to me being a "sad" parent...im at a loss. any ideas?

Sternchen · Aug 6th, 2009, 04:05 PM

Today I had to yell at both of my girls. I had to yell at Nicole for not listening when I told her (multiple times) to please not jump on the sofa. I had to raise my voice at Julia too...

annemerrick · Aug 6th, 2009, 04:17 PM

M kids haven't even done anything, and I might yell at them!!!!

ilovepinkhearts · Aug 6th, 2009, 04:22 PM

^^^ yell 'I LOVE YOU!'

would that make you "sad"?

nycbagaddict · Aug 6th, 2009, 05:44 PM

i love all the supportive people on this thread...this is exactly what we need...it helps cheer us up!! well i know i am....

ilovepinkhearts · Aug 6th, 2009, 05:48 PM

^^ that it does, indeed!

Nieners · Aug 6th, 2009, 06:07 PM

I think yelling is not okay. I do change the tone in my voice, but yelling? No.
Words do the work, not the volume.

ilovepinkhearts · Aug 6th, 2009, 06:20 PM

^^ i wish that only words worked on my boys...it doesn't. the tone and the volume of my voice is what let's them know that i mean business.

Nieners · Aug 6th, 2009, 06:39 PM

That came out a bit weird lol!
I meant like really yelling at someone... raising your voice and a serious tone is different to me, KWIM? Of course, I raise my voice sometimes too, who doesn't?

ilovepinkhearts · Aug 6th, 2009, 07:16 PM

i gotcha now. and yeah if you never raised your voice or changed your tone, i would think you were a stepford wife/mom...scary!

Aug 6th, 2009, 02:32 PM	#47
Sternchen Proud mama of 3! Joined: May 2006 Location: Bavaria, Germany Posts: 13,944	I was "sad" today...
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Aug 6th, 2009, 03:24 PM	#48
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	LOL^^ i was super duper "sad" today as well...it must be going around.
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Aug 6th, 2009, 03:30 PM	#49
BooYah Sofa King Bag Wacky Joined: May 2006 Posts: 3,669	count me in as a "SAD" person too then. i am guilty of this with my 5-yr, 3-yr and 22-mth kiddies. i don't do it immediately or instantaneously. but if i feel like i have to referee something, which happens 9 out of 10 times, just for them to listen to me for the upteen-hundredth time, i will turn up the volume a bit to get their attention and STOP THE MADNESS LOL and separating them, giving them a time out, etc. doesn't even help me sometimes b/c they will eventually find their way back to each other (it's that "can't live with each other, can't kill each other" thing with them i guess). i wish i could tie them down to a chair, but i really shouldn't .......just kidding hahahaha my intention is not to harm, hurt nor abuse them, but just to get my message across since they don't seem to absorb a "please stop it" or "enough of that please" the first and second time around. it may be the incorrect way of doing things in some people's eyes but i try my best to manage it at home (i hardly, hardly ever yell at them in public). overall, at the end of the day, when i hear a teacher or relative or family comment on how good and well-behaved they are/have been, i smile inside this is a great thread...let's please continue to support each other
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Aug 6th, 2009, 03:44 PM	#50
KristyDarling Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 4,355	So far, I have been SAD twice today. The first time was when my kids didn't listen after I repeatedly told them (3 times) to pick up their toys. The second time was when my daughter was about to step into a big pile of mud.
KristyDarling Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 4,355

Aug 6th, 2009, 03:48 PM	#51
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	oh i have threatened to tie my son to the dinning room chair while he eats...in fact i may just do that. he takes food all over the house...and with ants [vented about it another thread] that are attracted to his crumbs...it's a nightmare. any time he is hungry and wants food i have to pretty much stand over him and make sure he stays seated or follow him around with a broom and dust pan...and honestly i don't have the time nor the patience to do either. and i get tired of asking him repeatedly which in turns to me being a "sad" parent...im at a loss. any ideas?
	__________________ Please educate yourself about pancreatic cancer, and then share that knowledge with a loved one. http://www.pancan.org i will lose the weight...1 lb at a time!! i CAN do it! i'm not sure how many lbs to go - skinny jeans here i come!!

Aug 6th, 2009, 04:05 PM	#52
Sternchen Proud mama of 3! Joined: May 2006 Location: Bavaria, Germany Posts: 13,944	Today I had to yell at both of my girls. I had to yell at Nicole for not listening when I told her (multiple times) to please not jump on the sofa. I had to raise my voice at Julia too...
	__________________ Dear Santa, I have been a very good girl this year and have worked very hard for my family, my school and my job. This year I would like to wish for only one thing: THE CUPCAKE CAR!!! Please and thank you. Love, Melanie

Aug 6th, 2009, 04:17 PM	#53
annemerrick Member Joined: Mar 2006 Location: Desperately Seeking Deals Posts: 5,283	M kids haven't even done anything, and I might yell at them!!!!
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Aug 6th, 2009, 04:22 PM	#54
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	^^^ yell 'I LOVE YOU!' would that make you "sad"?
	__________________ Please educate yourself about pancreatic cancer, and then share that knowledge with a loved one. http://www.pancan.org i will lose the weight...1 lb at a time!! i CAN do it! i'm not sure how many lbs to go - skinny jeans here i come!!

Aug 6th, 2009, 05:44 PM	#55
nycbagaddict Member Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 541	i love all the supportive people on this thread...this is exactly what we need...it helps cheer us up!! well i know i am....
nycbagaddict Member Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 541

Aug 6th, 2009, 05:48 PM	#56
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	^^ that it does, indeed!
	__________________ Please educate yourself about pancreatic cancer, and then share that knowledge with a loved one. http://www.pancan.org i will lose the weight...1 lb at a time!! i CAN do it! i'm not sure how many lbs to go - skinny jeans here i come!!

Aug 6th, 2009, 06:07 PM	#57
Nieners ❀ ♥ Loubounista ♥ ❀ Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Alaska in winter Posts: 2,345	I think yelling is not okay. I do change the tone in my voice, but yelling? No. Words do the work, not the volume.
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Aug 6th, 2009, 06:20 PM	#58
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	^^ i wish that only words worked on my boys...it doesn't. the tone and the volume of my voice is what let's them know that i mean business.
	__________________ Please educate yourself about pancreatic cancer, and then share that knowledge with a loved one. http://www.pancan.org i will lose the weight...1 lb at a time!! i CAN do it! i'm not sure how many lbs to go - skinny jeans here i come!!

Aug 6th, 2009, 06:39 PM	#59
Nieners ❀ ♥ Loubounista ♥ ❀ Joined: Dec 2008 Location: Alaska in winter Posts: 2,345	That came out a bit weird lol! I meant like really yelling at someone... raising your voice and a serious tone is different to me, KWIM? Of course, I raise my voice sometimes too, who doesn't?
	__________________ ♥ ''If we never see each other again, and one day, you feel a certain presence beside you... that would be me loving you wherever I am.'' ♥ HG: ❀ Fiorellino's ❀ 39 - 39.5, nude VPs sz 38.5 - 39 UHG: - NP nude mini glitter/gold specchio - Black or Ivory Jaws sz 38.5 - 39

Aug 6th, 2009, 07:16 PM	#60
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	i gotcha now. and yeah if you never raised your voice or changed your tone, i would think you were a stepford wife/mom...scary!
	__________________ Please educate yourself about pancreatic cancer, and then share that knowledge with a loved one. http://www.pancan.org i will lose the weight...1 lb at a time!! i CAN do it! i'm not sure how many lbs to go - skinny jeans here i come!!

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