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Blondee178 · Nov 4th, 2009, 03:13 PM

Hello Ladies...I'm so upset right now and need your input.
Early this morning I approached DF about having Thanksigiving at his place so that we can get our families together and celebrate our pregnancy. We didn't get to do a big pregnancy announcement as he started blabbing as soon as he knew...MEN!.

Also my ultrasound is a week before and i was going to announce the sex of our baby that day (assuming baby will show us) by decorating the place pink or blue.

Surprise our family when they come in. So this afternoon i get a text from DF - brother's girlfriend saying she is doing thanksgiving at their place. I explained to her that i wanted to do it and why. She then told me that she's "sorry" but i can either celebrate at her house or wait and celebrate for christmas.

I understand that she may have thought of it first but she hasn't even invited anyone yet (she told me so herself). Her family consists of her and her mother. So its not like it would be a big deal if she had celebrated one holiday over the other. At least those are my thoughts.

I was so upset about not being able to announce it as i planned that i'm seriously considering postponing my ultrasound.

Which lead to an argument between my DF and I. He says he doesn't care about others knowing and that we have to keep the appointment while the excitement for me is gone now.

What should i do?

This would be my first time doing something like this as i was a teen when i had my first and trust me there were was celebrating that. So....

Am i overreacting? Please be honest. If i'm being a baby, let me know and i will try and stop. I just need impartial opinions.

vhdos · Nov 4th, 2009, 03:22 PM

I wouldn't say that you are overreacting, but it is what it is and you'd be better off just making the best of it. If it were me, I'd just take the celebration to her place, as she suggested. I certainly wouldn't cancel an US appointment over it...

Blondee178 · Nov 4th, 2009, 03:37 PM

Originally Posted by vhdos

I wouldn't say that you are overreacting, but it is what it is and you'd be better off just making the best of it. If it were me, I'd just take the celebration to her place, as she suggested. I certainly wouldn't cancel an US appointment over it...

Same thing my DF says.

My family wouldn't be included if we go to her house...they dont know each other at all. So I would have to take turns celebrating with both families. Which is what i didn't want. Guess what i want doesn't really matter anymore.

lv lover steph · Nov 4th, 2009, 03:52 PM

That's a tough one. Where would your family spend Thanksgiving? Can you host dessert at your house and decorate for that? Could you give her a call and see if she has any thoughts - including your family, doing dessert and coffee at your house? I know it is hard... combining families is tough.

Best of luck!

Bags4Bubbles · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:11 PM

Is there anyway you can do things at two different times? Like a lunch and a dinner? We're celebrating Thanksgiving on Thursday with my side of the family and then going to DH's dad's house to celebrate with his side of the family - since they live in two different areas of IL... but if your families live closer to each other, perhaps you could still host your family and make it to the other event as well?

I like your idea of decorating in a specific color! I told DH that when we find out the gender in early December, that I'm going to decorate our tree in either pink or blue and that's how I'm going to announce it to our family.

( I also want to get those letter ornaments and spell out "It's a Boy/Girl", LOL! Too fun!)

jenniletv · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:22 PM

I wouldn't cancel or postpone the u/s, maybe you could have a thanksgiving dinner the next day or over the weekend after.

loveBV · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:28 PM

^ I agree... you can do Thanksgiving dinner on Friday instead of Thursday. Or ask if she can have Thanksgiving dinner on Friday instead...

Blondee178 · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:31 PM

Originally Posted by Bags4Bubbles

Is there anyway you can do things at two different times? Like a lunch and a dinner? We're celebrating Thanksgiving on Thursday with my side of the family and then going to DH's dad's house to celebrate with his side of the family - since they live in two different areas of IL... but if your families live closer to each other, perhaps you could still host your family and make it to the other event as well?

I like your idea of decorating in a specific color! I told DH that when we find out the gender in early December, that I'm going to decorate our tree in either pink or blue and that's how I'm going to announce it to our family.

( I also want to get those letter ornaments and spell out "It's a Boy/Girl", LOL! Too fun!)

That would be such a cute tree! I would love to do something like that with the ornaments.

Blondee178 · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:32 PM

Originally Posted by loveBV

^ I agree... you can do Thanksgiving dinner on Friday instead of Thursday. Or ask if she can have Thanksgiving dinner on Friday instead...

DF works on Friday after so that wont work. I guess i'll have to come up with something else. I just dont trust DF to keep a secret for longer than 1 week.

sweetneet · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:36 PM

Originally Posted by jenniletv

I wouldn't cancel or postpone the u/s, maybe you could have a thanksgiving dinner the next day or over the weekend after.

i agree. this is a common issue for a lot of people...choosing whose family to spend holidays with/deciding who gets to host what...it's impossible to make everyone happy all the time..i certainly wouldn't postpone an ultrasound over it. i would just try to do something with your family on a different day.

Blondee178 · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:37 PM

[QUOTE=lv lover steph;13017885]That's a tough one. Where would your family spend Thanksgiving? Can you host dessert at your house and decorate for that? Could you give her a call and see if she has any thoughts - including your family, doing dessert and coffee at your house? I know it is hard... combining families is tough.

Best of luck![/QUOTE]

Thank you! Dessert sounds like a great idea but i'm unsure i can pull it off the same day. I dont want her to feel like i'm trying to steal her thunder as this would be the first holiday she hosts. This aside, she is a very sweet girl. Perhaps i will give her a call and ask for suggestions. i'm still bitter at her lack of understanding though.

Blondee178 · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:42 PM

Originally Posted by sweetneet

i agree. this is a common issue for a lot of people...choosing whose family to spend holidays with/deciding who gets to host what...it's impossible to make everyone happy all the time..i certainly wouldn't postpone an ultrasound over it. i would just try to do something with your family on a different day.

This is very true but in this case the one with the problem is me. I guess it doesn't make sense to postpone my u/s but it really ruined the excitement for me. A big part of me doesn't even want to know anymore

.

jenniletv · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:44 PM

[QUOTE=Blondee178;13018309]

Originally Posted by lv lover steph

That's a tough one. Where would your family spend Thanksgiving? Can you host dessert at your house and decorate for that? Could you give her a call and see if she has any thoughts - including your family, doing dessert and coffee at your house? I know it is hard... combining families is tough.

Best of luck![/QUOTE]

Thank you! Dessert sounds like a great idea but i'm unsure i can pull it off the same day. I dont want her to feel like i'm trying to steal her thunder as this would be the first holiday she hosts. This aside, she is a very sweet girl. Perhaps i will give her a call and ask for suggestions. i'm still bitter at her lack of understanding though.

I can understand you being bitter. I would be too. She should understand and let you host, but faimly is family.

What can you do. I would try to do maybe another dinner on Friday or on the weekend and see what happens with that. Or maybe you could have them over for a breakfast/brunch the next day or on the weekend.

jenniletv · Nov 4th, 2009, 04:46 PM

Originally Posted by Blondee178

This is very true but in this case the one with the problem is me. I guess it doesn't make sense to postpone my u/s but it really ruined the excitement for me. A big part of me doesn't even want to know anymore

.

I can understand that, but don't let this ruin your experience to find out what you are having. It is such a special u/s (if you want to know).

Aslan · Nov 4th, 2009, 05:37 PM

How about bringing a cake or cupcakes with pink or blue filling inside to share the news? That way you don't need to argue with her about the venue, and everyone can share your joy without being in your home.

Nov 4th, 2009, 03:13 PM	#1
Blondee178 OP World Series 2009!!! Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 447	Thanksgiving and pregnancy Hello Ladies...I'm so upset right now and need your input. Early this morning I approached DF about having Thanksigiving at his place so that we can get our families together and celebrate our pregnancy. We didn't get to do a big pregnancy announcement as he started blabbing as soon as he knew...MEN!. Also my ultrasound is a week before and i was going to announce the sex of our baby that day (assuming baby will show us) by decorating the place pink or blue. Surprise our family when they come in. So this afternoon i get a text from DF - brother's girlfriend saying she is doing thanksgiving at their place. I explained to her that i wanted to do it and why. She then told me that she's "sorry" but i can either celebrate at her house or wait and celebrate for christmas. I understand that she may have thought of it first but she hasn't even invited anyone yet (she told me so herself). Her family consists of her and her mother. So its not like it would be a big deal if she had celebrated one holiday over the other. At least those are my thoughts. I was so upset about not being able to announce it as i planned that i'm seriously considering postponing my ultrasound. Which lead to an argument between my DF and I. He says he doesn't care about others knowing and that we have to keep the appointment while the excitement for me is gone now. What should i do? This would be my first time doing something like this as i was a teen when i had my first and trust me there were was celebrating that. So.... Am i overreacting? Please be honest. If i'm being a baby, let me know and i will try and stop. I just need impartial opinions.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 03:22 PM	#2
vhdos Member Joined: May 2007 Location: NC Posts: 3,144	I wouldn't say that you are overreacting, but it is what it is and you'd be better off just making the best of it. If it were me, I'd just take the celebration to her place, as she suggested. I certainly wouldn't cancel an US appointment over it...
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Nov 4th, 2009, 03:52 PM	#4
lv lover steph Member Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,871	That's a tough one. Where would your family spend Thanksgiving? Can you host dessert at your house and decorate for that? Could you give her a call and see if she has any thoughts - including your family, doing dessert and coffee at your house? I know it is hard... combining families is tough. Best of luck!
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Nov 4th, 2009, 04:11 PM	#5
Bags4Bubbles Bubbles luvs Bbags Joined: Dec 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 3,306	Is there anyway you can do things at two different times? Like a lunch and a dinner? We're celebrating Thanksgiving on Thursday with my side of the family and then going to DH's dad's house to celebrate with his side of the family - since they live in two different areas of IL... but if your families live closer to each other, perhaps you could still host your family and make it to the other event as well? I like your idea of decorating in a specific color! I told DH that when we find out the gender in early December, that I'm going to decorate our tree in either pink or blue and that's how I'm going to announce it to our family. ( I also want to get those letter ornaments and spell out "It's a Boy/Girl", LOL! Too fun!)
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Nov 4th, 2009, 04:22 PM	#6
jenniletv Banned for Baby! Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Middle of Hokie Nation! Posts: 5,517	I wouldn't cancel or postpone the u/s, maybe you could have a thanksgiving dinner the next day or over the weekend after.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 04:28 PM	#7
loveBV Member Joined: Jan 2009 Location: CA Posts: 388	^ I agree... you can do Thanksgiving dinner on Friday instead of Thursday. Or ask if she can have Thanksgiving dinner on Friday instead...
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Nov 4th, 2009, 04:37 PM	#11
Blondee178 OP World Series 2009!!! Joined: Dec 2008 Posts: 447	[QUOTE=lv lover steph;13017885]That's a tough one. Where would your family spend Thanksgiving? Can you host dessert at your house and decorate for that? Could you give her a call and see if she has any thoughts - including your family, doing dessert and coffee at your house? I know it is hard... combining families is tough. Best of luck![/QUOTE] Thank you! Dessert sounds like a great idea but i'm unsure i can pull it off the same day. I dont want her to feel like i'm trying to steal her thunder as this would be the first holiday she hosts. This aside, she is a very sweet girl. Perhaps i will give her a call and ask for suggestions. i'm still bitter at her lack of understanding though.
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Nov 4th, 2009, 05:37 PM	#15
Aslan liberty+compassion Joined: Nov 2006 Location: New York Posts: 3,371	How about bringing a cake or cupcakes with pink or blue filling inside to share the news? That way you don't need to argue with her about the venue, and everyone can share your joy without being in your home.
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