Surprise Surprise- I am joining the club

addisonshopper · Jul 8th, 2008, 12:58 PM

Well I can finally let the cat out the bag.....(denial is over, reality check).
I will be 4 months this coming Monday with a due date of 12/28/08...
This is a rough one for me as I have to have a cerclage this coming Friday.. I am scared to death- although I had to have one with my now 11 year who will be 12 this August. When I had her I was put out and was ok with that. Now a new doctor- they want to do a spinal block.. ME not want to do it.. at ALL..
I have been battling some anxiety issues after stopping the pill after 5+ years....but since I have been pregnant- most of that went away...but you know they are resurfacing.....not like before but just general nerves..
I never wanted one child, but because it was always to much for me to go through to maintain a pregnancy, so I just let it be, but someone above had something else in store for me....a got a little angel growing inside of me..
ALthough I am having some major cramping and discomfort which the doctor said is normal, and its been so SO long since I delivered my daughter I just can not really remember..
Anybody else here had to have or need to get a cerclage.. I need some hugs.... I am thinking about running and hiding and not getting it and staying in bed to December ( I know I cant but I am being a scardy cat right now

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(and p.s- the girls have already gained 5 pounds each and i still got 5 months to go

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addisonshopper · Jul 8th, 2008, 01:00 PM

oh yeah I am 36 and when I goto the perinatals office he politely reminded I am pass the maternal fetal age of having kids- man am I offended and i told him so in a jokingly manner... geez I dont feel that old...
damn it as long as I can produce eggs- I can have a baby- My grandmother had twins at 45 going through menopause.......

juicy couture jen · Jul 8th, 2008, 01:10 PM

Congratulations!!! Try not to stress, I'm sure everything will be fine. Best wishes!!!

hamstahon · Jul 8th, 2008, 01:41 PM

congratulations on the good news!

StageMum · Jul 8th, 2008, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by addisonshopper

oh yeah I am 36 and when I goto the perinatals office he politely reminded I am pass the maternal fetal age of having kids- man am I offended and i told him so in a jokingly manner... geez I dont feel that old...
damn it as long as I can produce eggs- I can have a baby- My grandmother had twins at 45 going through menopause.......

That is just plain ridiculous! (What your doc said.) ITA with you. If we weren't supposed to have kids after 35, then we wouldn't be able to! Props to your grandma! Although I can't say I'd want to be pg with twins at 45... makes me tired just thinking about it! Congrats to you and try to relax. : )

Danica · Jul 8th, 2008, 03:01 PM

Congratulations!!! You should join the Babycenter message boards, there is a very long thread about cerclages and you will find alot of support in there!

ETA- oops that is in the august babies boards, but I am sure that you can either start one for december or one already exists. :)

everything posh · Jul 8th, 2008, 04:12 PM

Congrats! I'm sure everything will be fine!!! 36 is too old for a baby?!!! My mom was 41 when she had my little sister!!!

kimberf · Jul 8th, 2008, 04:30 PM

First of all, congratulations!

I just had my baby at 36. Around here (Silicon Valley), that's pretty young! Pretty much all the moms in my mom's group are mid to late 30s, and one of my doctors was like, "You're a baby," since she had her first at 41!! So don't worry about that (though a few of us have discussed that the post-baby sleep deprivation is a lot harder than it would have been 10-15 years ago.)

I definitely had some cramping and discomfort during the pregnancy, not all the time, seemed to go in phases. I'd get all worried about it and it would turn out to be nothing. Hopefully yours is just the same -- your body getting loosened up to make some space for the baby as s/he grows.

I haven't had a cerclage, so no help there. I had a LEEP procedure a few years ago, so we were watching for cervical weakness, but it didn't materialize. Good luck to you - I hope it's not too uncomfortable.

I know it's easy to stress about everything while you're pregnant, and people telling you not to really doesn't help. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat. I have a whole pool of other 36+ year old moms that I can go to with questions for you!!

babieejae1101 · Jul 8th, 2008, 04:35 PM

Congrats on the good news!!!

Sarsi · Jul 8th, 2008, 06:13 PM

congrats!!!!
and like Kimber said "that's pretty young!" is right!
your going to have a beautiful healthy baby soon!!!

twin53 · Jul 8th, 2008, 06:36 PM

congratulations. i was 33 when i had my first baby. the OB said i was part of the new generation of older mothers!! that was almost 22 years ago.

holly di · Jul 8th, 2008, 06:54 PM

Congratulations!!!!!

Jill · Jul 8th, 2008, 07:23 PM

CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how exciting to b having a baby!(I wish i could!!!!!)
U R SOOOOO YOUNG!Dont let them tell u that u r old..wth?thats nutso!under 40 is way young still!!!

Swanky Mama Of Three · Jul 8th, 2008, 11:50 PM

congrats!!!

My friend had a successful twin pregnancy w/ a cerclage!

twochubbycheeks · Jul 9th, 2008, 01:00 AM

wow!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Jul 8th, 2008, 12:58 PM	#1
addisonshopper Bootyliscious Joined: Sep 2006 Location: WASH/DC/VA Posts: 2,841	Surprise Surprise- I am joining the club Well I can finally let the cat out the bag.....(denial is over, reality check). I will be 4 months this coming Monday with a due date of 12/28/08... This is a rough one for me as I have to have a cerclage this coming Friday.. I am scared to death- although I had to have one with my now 11 year who will be 12 this August. When I had her I was put out and was ok with that. Now a new doctor- they want to do a spinal block.. ME not want to do it.. at ALL.. I have been battling some anxiety issues after stopping the pill after 5+ years....but since I have been pregnant- most of that went away...but you know they are resurfacing.....not like before but just general nerves.. I never wanted one child, but because it was always to much for me to go through to maintain a pregnancy, so I just let it be, but someone above had something else in store for me....a got a little angel growing inside of me.. ALthough I am having some major cramping and discomfort which the doctor said is normal, and its been so SO long since I delivered my daughter I just can not really remember.. Anybody else here had to have or need to get a cerclage.. I need some hugs.... I am thinking about running and hiding and not getting it and staying in bed to December ( I know I cant but I am being a scardy cat right now ) (and p.s- the girls have already gained 5 pounds each and i still got 5 months to go) __________________ Last edited by addisonshopper; Jul 8th, 2008 at 01:14 PM.

Jul 8th, 2008, 01:00 PM	#2
addisonshopper Bootyliscious Joined: Sep 2006 Location: WASH/DC/VA Posts: 2,841	oh yeah I am 36 and when I goto the perinatals office he politely reminded I am pass the maternal fetal age of having kids- man am I offended and i told him so in a jokingly manner... geez I dont feel that old... damn it as long as I can produce eggs- I can have a baby- My grandmother had twins at 45 going through menopause....... __________________ Last edited by addisonshopper; Jul 8th, 2008 at 01:15 PM.

Jul 8th, 2008, 01:10 PM	#3
juicy couture jen Sale Hunter Joined: May 2006 Location: US Posts: 4,144	Congratulations!!! Try not to stress, I'm sure everything will be fine. Best wishes!!! __________________ My Updated Collection!

Jul 8th, 2008, 01:41 PM	#4
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Jul 8th, 2008, 03:01 PM	#6
Danica Angel Headed Hipster Joined: Feb 2006 Location: TN Posts: 8,246	Congratulations!!! You should join the Babycenter message boards, there is a very long thread about cerclages and you will find alot of support in there! ETA- oops that is in the august babies boards, but I am sure that you can either start one for december or one already exists. :) __________________ Cheerleader for love

Jul 8th, 2008, 04:12 PM	#7
everything posh Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Chicago, Athens, London, San Jose!! Posts: 639	Congrats! I'm sure everything will be fine!!! 36 is too old for a baby?!!! My mom was 41 when she had my little sister!!! __________________

Jul 8th, 2008, 04:30 PM	#8
kimberf Member Joined: Mar 2007 Location: California Posts: 2,085	First of all, congratulations! I just had my baby at 36. Around here (Silicon Valley), that's pretty young! Pretty much all the moms in my mom's group are mid to late 30s, and one of my doctors was like, "You're a baby," since she had her first at 41!! So don't worry about that (though a few of us have discussed that the post-baby sleep deprivation is a lot harder than it would have been 10-15 years ago.) I definitely had some cramping and discomfort during the pregnancy, not all the time, seemed to go in phases. I'd get all worried about it and it would turn out to be nothing. Hopefully yours is just the same -- your body getting loosened up to make some space for the baby as s/he grows. I haven't had a cerclage, so no help there. I had a LEEP procedure a few years ago, so we were watching for cervical weakness, but it didn't materialize. Good luck to you - I hope it's not too uncomfortable. I know it's easy to stress about everything while you're pregnant, and people telling you not to really doesn't help. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat. I have a whole pool of other 36+ year old moms that I can go to with questions for you!!

Jul 8th, 2008, 04:35 PM	#9
babieejae1101 Don't shop, Adopt! Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 583	Congrats on the good news!!! __________________

Jul 8th, 2008, 06:13 PM	#10
Sarsi Member Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Bay Area CA. Posts: 1,870	congrats!!!! and like Kimber said "that's pretty young!" is right! your going to have a beautiful healthy baby soon!!! __________________ SARSI

Jul 8th, 2008, 06:36 PM	#11
twin53 Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 2,264	congratulations. i was 33 when i had my first baby. the OB said i was part of the new generation of older mothers!! that was almost 22 years ago.

Jul 8th, 2008, 06:54 PM	#12
holly di Member Joined: Oct 2006 Location: little rock, arkansas Posts: 1,370	Congratulations!!!!! __________________ Sofa King Blonde

Jul 8th, 2008, 07:23 PM	#13
Jill Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 23,555	CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how exciting to b having a baby!(I wish i could!!!!!) U R SOOOOO YOUNG!Dont let them tell u that u r old..wth?thats nutso!under 40 is way young still!!!

Jul 8th, 2008, 11:50 PM	#14
Swanky Mama Of Three Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Dallas Area Posts: 30,469	congrats!!! My friend had a successful twin pregnancy w/ a cerclage! __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Jul 9th, 2008, 01:00 AM	#15
twochubbycheeks Happy Mommy of 2 :) Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 2,280	wow!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!