Scared of getting pregnant

Bay · Sep 5th, 2007, 11:37 AM

I know im not ready atm, first of all I need a better education, a job and have things seattled but still.

Im so scared of deciding to get pregnant and then regret it when it's too late. Im scared that I will have panicattacks and just want to cut the baby out of my tummy when it makes me feel ill.

Most of all im scared of giving birth I guess. If I will make it through the pain - Cuz I've seen pictures in my head having so much pain and so much panic that I just get a heartattack and die

I mean I know you can get stuff for the pain like epidural but doesnt that hurt like crazy too?

Like I said I know i'm not ready but it feels like I never will be..

Sorry I just had to get some thought out of my head I guess..

Rockst@r · Sep 5th, 2007, 12:47 PM

I don't know ANYONE that wanted to cut their baby out of their belly while pregnant. Yes, giving birth is painful, but the exhilaration one feels in giving birth and seeing that little person after 9 months of waiting far outweighs the pain. We're trying for our second child, and the pain of labor is the last thing on my mind. If you think you might regret it, you're not ready to have a child. When you're ready there will be no regret.

Sternchen · Sep 5th, 2007, 01:35 PM

My goodness! Giving birth is painful, yes...But never in the time that I was in labor did I feel like I was going to die or have a heart attack. It wasn't that bad. I forgot about the pain the minute that I saw my daughter. It just didn't hurt anymore, and I didn't care. I had my daughter in my arms and that's all that mattered to me.

Can I ask how old you are?

Swanky Mama Of Three · Sep 5th, 2007, 01:36 PM

out of curiosity, how old are you? Are you married?

It's awesome you know you're not ready so it seem slike everything is fine

You'll know when you;'re ready and I'd bet that most of us had some anxiety of the unknown just like you do.
Will it hurt?
Is it freaky?
etc. . . . .

Swanky Mama Of Three · Sep 5th, 2007, 01:38 PM

OK, I see you're 19 yrs old, that explains a lot.

I am pretty positive you'll be a little calmer about this in 5 years or so

HauteMama · Sep 5th, 2007, 03:07 PM

Oh, at 19 you have lots and lots of time. There is no need to rush having children because there is nothing worse for a parent or child than parents who weren't ready for a baby. There will come a time when you will likely have found the right person and when the desire for a baby will overcome any fear of pain you might have.

Having a baby is no picnic. No one should tell you it is. But it is well worth it for those who want children. And if you never feel like having children? That's okay, too. A lifestyle that includes kids is not right for everyone.

Bay · Sep 5th, 2007, 03:42 PM

Hi guys! Thanks for your answers. Yes, im 19, turning 20 in november.

No im not planning to get children anytime soon, maybe 5-10 years but I'm just scared my feelings will never change, if any1 can understand what im saying?

It was just my thoughts..and how I feel right now.

And don't get me wrong. I would love a big family. I'm just scared im gonna turn out to be this freak.

Swanky Mama Of Three · Sep 5th, 2007, 03:45 PM

trust me, your feelings will change

Just like my feelings about clubs have changed. . . I'd rather go through natural childbirth than have to go to clubs every weekend again! LOL!

ellewoods · Sep 5th, 2007, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Bay

Hi guys! Thanks for your answers. Yes, im 19, turning 20 in november.

No im not planning to get children anytime soon, maybe 5-10 years but I'm just scared my feelings will never change, if any1 can understand what im saying?

It was just my thoughts..and how I feel right now.

And don't get me wrong. I would love a big family. I'm just scared im gonna turn out to be this freak.

Bay - I don't want children and part of the reason is because I don't want to be pregnant. The idea of growing something living inside of me disgusts me. I don't think all people were meant to be parents. If you still want children when you're older but don't want to be pregnant you should consider adopting. There are so many children that need a safe and supportive home. I think that if I change my mind about having a family, I may adopt some day myself.

Swanky Mama Of Three · Sep 5th, 2007, 03:50 PM

I completely agree, carrying children is not the right thing for everyone.
It's awesome if you know you're this person

Bay · Sep 5th, 2007, 03:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Swanky Mama Of Three

trust me, your feelings will change

Quote:

Originally Posted by Swanky Mama Of Three

Just like my feelings about clubs have changed. . . I'd rather go through natural childbirth than have to go to clubs every weekend again! LOL!

Elle: Yeah, Im adopted myself, I'm just not sure how my family, friends and my BF would react if I said I didn't want to carry our child..Im just really scared Im going to freak out.

But oh boy do I love children!

Im educated to be the lower alternative of preschool teacher - kinda lika babysitter I guess, haha and I just love it!

Swanky Mama Of Three · Sep 5th, 2007, 04:12 PM

just wait, don't stress about that yet.

I'm pretty certain your feelings will change

Label Addict · Sep 5th, 2007, 06:02 PM

no reason to panic you said yourself your not ready yet so ive it time no point stressing over what isn't happening.

Plus if child birth was really that horrific (I'm not saying it's not painful) nobody would have kids and people certainly wouldn't have a second + child

HauteMama · Sep 5th, 2007, 08:31 PM

Honestly, I didn't like being pregnant. I felt like a weird science experiment. Nor did I bond with the babies at ALL before birth. I was sure I had made a mistake and would be a horrible parent, but once they arrived my feelings did a 180. Sometimes it takes new moms a little while after the birth to bond with the baby, but I felt it immediately. And you literally forget the pain as soon as the baby arrives. Of course you don't forget that it was painful, but you cannot FEEL it in your mind like you remember an injury. That's why people have more than one child!

If you love children and you want children, I believe your feelings will likely change. When you go through it yourself it isn't nearly as scary as it seems from a distance.

omgsweet · Sep 5th, 2007, 10:09 PM

I was scared to death to have a baby! My mom had my sister suddenly, and I happened to be standing RIGHT THERE to view it all head on!! I was 8 at the time. I knew I always wanted kids, but didnt want to go through that at all. And when it came time to have my own, the worst part was the IV. The epidural didnt hurt at all. Afterward, just take those little pills they give you and you wont be in any pain. It was so worth it. I'd do it a bunch more times!

If I can do it, ANYBODY can do it!!

Sep 5th, 2007, 11:37 AM	#1
Bay Purses are teh shiet Location: Somewhere I dont want to be..	Scared of getting pregnant I know im not ready atm, first of all I need a better education, a job and have things seattled but still. Im so scared of deciding to get pregnant and then regret it when it's too late. Im scared that I will have panicattacks and just want to cut the baby out of my tummy when it makes me feel ill. Most of all im scared of giving birth I guess. If I will make it through the pain - Cuz I've seen pictures in my head having so much pain and so much panic that I just get a heartattack and die I mean I know you can get stuff for the pain like epidural but doesnt that hurt like crazy too? Like I said I know i'm not ready but it feels like I never will be.. Sorry I just had to get some thought out of my head I guess.. __________________ Lusting for Prada/MiuMiu, Balenciaga and MJ..

Sep 5th, 2007, 12:47 PM	#2
Rockst@r Zeta lady 4ever Location: Philadelphia	Re: Scared of getting pregnant I don't know ANYONE that wanted to cut their baby out of their belly while pregnant. Yes, giving birth is painful, but the exhilaration one feels in giving birth and seeing that little person after 9 months of waiting far outweighs the pain. We're trying for our second child, and the pain of labor is the last thing on my mind. If you think you might regret it, you're not ready to have a child. When you're ready there will be no regret. __________________ My 5yr old diva! It's a boy! Born 10/10 at 10:10pm.

Sep 5th, 2007, 01:35 PM	#3
Sternchen We're having a boy!! Location: Beauty RAOK	Re: Scared of getting pregnant My goodness! Giving birth is painful, yes...But never in the time that I was in labor did I feel like I was going to die or have a heart attack. It wasn't that bad. I forgot about the pain the minute that I saw my daughter. It just didn't hurt anymore, and I didn't care. I had my daughter in my arms and that's all that mattered to me. Can I ask how old you are? __________________ My 2 wonderful girls, Nicole (5) and Julia (1) will be big sisters soon! My pregnancy blog

Sep 5th, 2007, 01:36 PM	#4
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: Scared of getting pregnant out of curiosity, how old are you? Are you married? It's awesome you know you're not ready so it seem slike everything is fine You'll know when you;'re ready and I'd bet that most of us had some anxiety of the unknown just like you do. Will it hurt? Is it freaky? etc. . . . . __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Sep 5th, 2007, 01:38 PM	#5
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: Scared of getting pregnant OK, I see you're 19 yrs old, that explains a lot. I am pretty positive you'll be a little calmer about this in 5 years or so __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Sep 5th, 2007, 03:07 PM	#6
HauteMama Member	Re: Scared of getting pregnant Oh, at 19 you have lots and lots of time. There is no need to rush having children because there is nothing worse for a parent or child than parents who weren't ready for a baby. There will come a time when you will likely have found the right person and when the desire for a baby will overcome any fear of pain you might have. Having a baby is no picnic. No one should tell you it is. But it is well worth it for those who want children. And if you never feel like having children? That's okay, too. A lifestyle that includes kids is not right for everyone.

Sep 5th, 2007, 03:42 PM	#7
Bay Purses are teh shiet Location: Somewhere I dont want to be..	Re: Scared of getting pregnant Hi guys! Thanks for your answers. Yes, im 19, turning 20 in november. No im not planning to get children anytime soon, maybe 5-10 years but I'm just scared my feelings will never change, if any1 can understand what im saying? It was just my thoughts..and how I feel right now. And don't get me wrong. I would love a big family. I'm just scared im gonna turn out to be this freak. __________________ Lusting for Prada/MiuMiu, Balenciaga and MJ..

Sep 5th, 2007, 03:45 PM	#8
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: Scared of getting pregnant trust me, your feelings will change Just like my feelings about clubs have changed. . . I'd rather go through natural childbirth than have to go to clubs every weekend again! LOL! __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Sep 5th, 2007, 03:50 PM	#10
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: Scared of getting pregnant I completely agree, carrying children is not the right thing for everyone. It's awesome if you know you're this person __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Sep 5th, 2007, 04:12 PM	#12
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: Scared of getting pregnant just wait, don't stress about that yet. I'm pretty certain your feelings will change __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

Sep 5th, 2007, 06:02 PM	#13
Label Addict Banned sob Location: Blissful Denial	Re: Scared of getting pregnant no reason to panic you said yourself your not ready yet so ive it time no point stressing over what isn't happening. Plus if child birth was really that horrific (I'm not saying it's not painful) nobody would have kids and people certainly wouldn't have a second + child __________________ The Summary Comments & Pics My Blog: I'll Take Both! My Bags (new family pic pg 22)

Sep 5th, 2007, 08:31 PM	#14
HauteMama Member	Re: Scared of getting pregnant Honestly, I didn't like being pregnant. I felt like a weird science experiment. Nor did I bond with the babies at ALL before birth. I was sure I had made a mistake and would be a horrible parent, but once they arrived my feelings did a 180. Sometimes it takes new moms a little while after the birth to bond with the baby, but I felt it immediately. And you literally forget the pain as soon as the baby arrives. Of course you don't forget that it was painful, but you cannot FEEL it in your mind like you remember an injury. That's why people have more than one child! If you love children and you want children, I believe your feelings will likely change. When you go through it yourself it isn't nearly as scary as it seems from a distance.

Sep 5th, 2007, 10:09 PM	#15
omgsweet omg...cute bag!! Location: Scottsdale, Az	Re: Scared of getting pregnant I was scared to death to have a baby! My mom had my sister suddenly, and I happened to be standing RIGHT THERE to view it all head on!! I was 8 at the time. I knew I always wanted kids, but didnt want to go through that at all. And when it came time to have my own, the worst part was the IV. The epidural didnt hurt at all. Afterward, just take those little pills they give you and you wont be in any pain. It was so worth it. I'd do it a bunch more times! If I can do it, ANYBODY can do it!! __________________