Poll: When did you tell people you were pregnant?

reyrey · Jun 11th, 2008, 05:09 AM

Just wondering how soon did people let family/friends know that they were pregnant?

Hubby and I have told our family but am just waiting to tell friends. i have a doctors appointment tomorrow but i'm a bit paranoid to tell people in case things don't work out (first time in all this...) how soon is too soon?

deweydrop · Jun 11th, 2008, 10:57 AM

We waited until after the first trimester...or rather, when we were able to hear the heartbeat through the doppler (externally...not through an ultrasound)

I had two miscarriages in the past...and after having to tell my mom I was pregnant...and then not pregnant the first time...it KILLED me. I know she was sad for me and everything...but I just couldn't put her through that again.

I believe I was around 15 weeks when we finally told our families this time around.

it's ALL a personal decision though...there is no right or wrong time...

little*birdy · Jun 11th, 2008, 11:05 AM

I found out I was pregnant 10 weeks into it. We told our parents around 11 weeks (Mother's Day to be exact so that was a pleasant gift to my mum) but to everyone else, I think I was close to 4 months.

diana · Jun 11th, 2008, 01:14 PM

once we found out we were pregnant from the HPT we told close family and friends...everyone else we waited until after the first trimester

bagaddict44 · Jun 11th, 2008, 02:30 PM

I told everyone other than my 2 best friends and my parents after the 1st trimester.....this was because with my first pregnancy we told everyone right away and a few days later I had a miscarrage.

capulet · Jun 11th, 2008, 04:31 PM

I had this vague idea we should wait till the end of my first trimester, but I showed DH the HPT and the next thing I knew he was on the phone with half the western world, or that's what it seemed like. Fortunately my pregnancy went smoothly. I don't think I would do that again, though! We told family and good friends right away but waited a lot longer to tell more casual acquaintances, people I worked with, etc.

txngo · Jun 12th, 2008, 08:15 PM

I'm 6 weeks along and only my parents my our best friend knows. My DH's family has no clue. I don't really want to tell the whole world yet although I'm really excited because I"m terrified that I might have a miscarriage. I'm extra careful of everything but still. I guess i'm just too worried.

emmalawyer · Jun 12th, 2008, 09:47 PM

I had a couple of miscarriages so I waited a really long time to tell. Basically, when I started showing, I had to start sharing. My stepdad came to visit us in San Diego when I was 20+ months along (and, with twins, on a small frame it was clear that I was pregnant), so I told him then. On average, people that didn't see me every day found out (at least from me) after I passed the point of viability (so around 24-26 weeks). Some of my relatives that live abroad didn't find out until I was about 32 weeks along. It sounds pretty extreme, but I just felt like --given my track record of pregnancy losses-- people in my family were bound to wonder if I was going to lose the twins too. Since carrying IVF multiples provided me with ample opportunities to stress out, I did not feel like adding an extra levels of dramatic tension by having to keep everyone updated every time I had an ultrasound.

reyrey · Jun 13th, 2008, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by txngo

I'm 6 weeks along and only my parents my our best friend knows. My DH's family has no clue. I don't really want to tell the whole world yet although I'm really excited because I"m terrified that I might have a miscarriage. I'm extra careful of everything but still. I guess i'm just too worried.

I can relate completely! I feel excited and terrified at the same time. Every time i get a tummy cramp i'm checking that i'm not spotting!!!

Brasilian_Babe · Jun 13th, 2008, 05:23 AM

we told immediate family as soon as we found out, everyone else after the 1st trimestre

Mrs. MC · Jun 13th, 2008, 11:29 AM

I told everyone right away with both. Honeslty I couldn't keep secrets. It ended up being a snowball effect and with my son my mother basically told everyone withint 5 seconds of finding out so then we were like well if that half of the family knew then we would have to tell the other half etc. etc. I knew it wasn't the smartest thing to do but it felt right at the time.

eviemarie · Jun 13th, 2008, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by reyrey

I can relate completely! I feel excited and terrified at the same time. Every time i get a tummy cramp i'm checking that i'm not spotting!!!

Congratulations both. Try not to panic.
x

jenyi · Jun 13th, 2008, 08:21 PM

i had a really shakey start, spotted everyday for the first three months so we didn't tell anyone until I was 5 months pregnant. My mom and DH's parents were the only ones we told at 3 months.

BearyT · Jun 13th, 2008, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by bagaddict44

I told everyone other than my 2 best friends and my parents after the 1st trimester.....this was because with my first pregnancy we told everyone right away and a few days later I had a miscarrage.

I have the same experience. I told my parents after I found out on Week 5 and I had a misscarriage on Week 6. Both DH and I plan NOT to tell anyone after first trimester next time.

BearyT · Jun 13th, 2008, 08:41 PM

I agree with a few members here to wait till you see the heartbeat before telling anyone. :)

View Poll Results: Poll: When did you tell people you were pregnant?
as soon as the HPT was positive	7	20.59%
as soon as the blood test (bHCG) was positive	1	2.94%
after the first ultrasound	6	17.65%
after the first trimester	20	58.82%
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Jun 11th, 2008, 05:09 AM	#1
reyrey Member	Poll: When did you tell people you were pregnant? Just wondering how soon did people let family/friends know that they were pregnant? Hubby and I have told our family but am just waiting to tell friends. i have a doctors appointment tomorrow but i'm a bit paranoid to tell people in case things don't work out (first time in all this...) how soon is too soon? Last edited by reyrey; Jun 11th, 2008 at 05:11 AM. Reason: first time doing a poll post!

Jun 11th, 2008, 10:57 AM	#2
deweydrop Coach wh*re Location: CT	We waited until after the first trimester...or rather, when we were able to hear the heartbeat through the doppler (externally...not through an ultrasound) I had two miscarriages in the past...and after having to tell my mom I was pregnant...and then not pregnant the first time...it KILLED me. I know she was sad for me and everything...but I just couldn't put her through that again. I believe I was around 15 weeks when we finally told our families this time around. it's ALL a personal decision though...there is no right or wrong time... __________________

Jun 11th, 2008, 02:30 PM	#5
bagaddict44 Member Location: California	I told everyone other than my 2 best friends and my parents after the 1st trimester.....this was because with my first pregnancy we told everyone right away and a few days later I had a miscarrage. __________________ LV Wish list-2008 mono keepall 55 mono batignolles vertical-purchased 7/08 mono zippy coin purse- purchased 9/08 mono key and change holder-purchased 6/08

Jun 11th, 2008, 04:31 PM	#6
capulet NUM	I had this vague idea we should wait till the end of my first trimester, but I showed DH the HPT and the next thing I knew he was on the phone with half the western world, or that's what it seemed like. Fortunately my pregnancy went smoothly. I don't think I would do that again, though! We told family and good friends right away but waited a lot longer to tell more casual acquaintances, people I worked with, etc. __________________ Dreaming of a Gao...

Jun 11th, 2008, 11:05 AM	#3
little*birdy Handbag Dreaming	I found out I was pregnant 10 weeks into it. We told our parents around 11 weeks (Mother's Day to be exact so that was a pleasant gift to my mum) but to everyone else, I think I was close to 4 months.

Jun 11th, 2008, 01:14 PM	#4
diana shopaholic Location: California	once we found out we were pregnant from the HPT we told close family and friends...everyone else we waited until after the first trimester

Jun 12th, 2008, 08:15 PM	#7
txngo Member	I'm 6 weeks along and only my parents my our best friend knows. My DH's family has no clue. I don't really want to tell the whole world yet although I'm really excited because I"m terrified that I might have a miscarriage. I'm extra careful of everything but still. I guess i'm just too worried. __________________ HAPPILY MARRIED SINCE 7/7/07

Jun 12th, 2008, 09:47 PM	#8
emmalawyer BLITHERING FOOL Location: with the teething twins!	I had a couple of miscarriages so I waited a really long time to tell. Basically, when I started showing, I had to start sharing. My stepdad came to visit us in San Diego when I was 20+ months along (and, with twins, on a small frame it was clear that I was pregnant), so I told him then. On average, people that didn't see me every day found out (at least from me) after I passed the point of viability (so around 24-26 weeks). Some of my relatives that live abroad didn't find out until I was about 32 weeks along. It sounds pretty extreme, but I just felt like --given my track record of pregnancy losses-- people in my family were bound to wonder if I was going to lose the twins too. Since carrying IVF multiples provided me with ample opportunities to stress out, I did not feel like adding an extra levels of dramatic tension by having to keep everyone updated every time I had an ultrasound. __________________ signature too large “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” --Dr. Seuss ( lil Bitsy's favorite bedtime reading)

Jun 13th, 2008, 05:23 AM	#10
Brasilian_Babe I want a CBR F4i!!!!!!!!! Location: Brasil, Portugal, currently in Sydney (Australia)	we told immediate family as soon as we found out, everyone else after the 1st trimestre __________________ "I have the simplest taste. I'm always satisfied with the best." - Oscar Wilde My handbag collection - pics on pages: 1, 4, 6, 7, 8, 11, 13 My style diary

Jun 13th, 2008, 11:29 AM	#11
Mrs. MC Member	I told everyone right away with both. Honeslty I couldn't keep secrets. It ended up being a snowball effect and with my son my mother basically told everyone withint 5 seconds of finding out so then we were like well if that half of the family knew then we would have to tell the other half etc. etc. I knew it wasn't the smartest thing to do but it felt right at the time. __________________

Jun 13th, 2008, 08:21 PM	#13
jenyi Member	i had a really shakey start, spotted everyday for the first three months so we didn't tell anyone until I was 5 months pregnant. My mom and DH's parents were the only ones we told at 3 months. __________________ 2008 Wishlist Hermes Kelly 28 in Gris Tourterelle or any shade of purple or pink. Please PM me if you see one!!! Hermes 30cm ostrich birkin GOT IT! IN 30CM CHOCOLATE! JUN 2008 Hermes 35cm Birkin GOT 35 BARENIA/TOILE BIRKIN FEB 13 2008!

Jun 13th, 2008, 08:41 PM	#15
BearyT Member	I agree with a few members here to wait till you see the heartbeat before telling anyone. :) __________________