No heartbeat at ultrasound

[Veelyn]

I'm so sorry. Good to hear you are recovering though. Just keep in mind that you can always try again. Just know you have a little angel on your shoulder now, or at least thats how I'd like to think of it. Please try to stay positive and surround yourself with loving family members and friends. Take care

[No Cute]

I'm so sorry. I wish it weren't this way for you. My deepest sympathies.

Sending only the best for your physical recovery. Did they give you good meds for post surgery? Awful to deal with any of this. I'm sorry.

[stylefly]

I am so, so very sorry. I've been exactly in your shoes. I am sending sunny vibes your way

[bagaholic85]

take good care of yourself, and im so sorry for your loss

[BAGLADY-SHOEFLY]

I can not give you enough of my heart felt sympathy. I went through the same thing it was my 1st pregnancy and i was 12 weeks, I had the ultrasound and she told me I needed to go see the doc, but I already new as soon as I did not get my new picture and the look on her face. It has been 4 years sine then and I have a beautiful and healthy 3 about to be 3 year old.I know there is no consoling your grief, just do know that this was possibly the best outcome for this pregnancy even though that may be hard to think about and that after you have healed as much as possible from your traumatic experience that what is meant to be (possibly your next pregnancy) will come to be. I have been a diabetic since I was 12 years old and got my healthy baby @ 28 and I have to believe for the health if my child it happened this way for a reason. If you even need someone to listen I will always be here...
Best regards from someone who has been there...

[AuthenticLux]

Thank you so much, ladies. It helps me so much to come and read your kind words. I am so sorry for all of you who have been there. Thank you again.

[Nola]

Oh my goodness I am so sorry to hear this. Hugs and take care of yourself

[No Cute]

Continuing to think of you and send love.

How are you holding up?

[AuthenticLux]

Originally Posted by No Cute

Continuing to think of you and send love. How are you holding up?

Thank you so much for asking.

Physically not too bad but emotionally, I feel devastated. Empty. And so sad. It's so hard right now but I hope with time, things will get easier. I don't know how else to explain it. Sometimes I just want to scream and cry, others, I am ok, but all the time, I feel a loss deep inside of me.

And, I don't feel like going to church today. I guess I am just angry right now.

[wimpy]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there too. I had a gestational sac with a yolk sac but no fetal pole, thus no heartbeat or movement. I'm so glad you were able to get in for the D&C quickly. I waited to miscarry naturally and that was one of the worst decisions I've made in my life.

My thoughts are with your family.

[Lilwalnut]

Glad you are physically healing, AL. Still thinking of you...sending positive vibes your way

[mammabyrdie]

My heart breaks for you. The same thing happened to me. I was able to get pregnant a couple of months later and I'm sure you'll be able to too. I'm sending you prayers, hugs and kisses!

[No Cute]

Originally Posted by AuthenticLux

Thank you so much for asking. Physically not too bad but emotionally, I feel devastated. Empty. And so sad. It's so hard right now but I hope with time, things will get easier. I don't know how else to explain it. Sometimes I just want to scream and cry, others, I am ok, but all the time, I feel a loss deep inside of me. And, I don't feel like going to church today. I guess I am just angry right now.

I'm so sorry. What you express is something I've experienced, and still feel on anniversaries or significant dates. My daughter won't be starting Kindergarten this year, so I am really sad when seeing people register and all.

Here's a list my social worker gave me that helped a lot. Maybe it will help you? I felt like I was losing my mind and no one had ever felt these things, like I was wrong to feel as I did. People around me acted like no one had ever grieved a miscarried child as a child, that I was wrong or she was too little or whatever they wanted to think. My daughter's life began and she was my daughter that very moment. Period. That's how I feel and felt. Whether you were 4 weeks or 20 weeks (after 20 weeks loss is defined as stillbirth in the U.S.) is irrelevant. People may try to make the baby's size relevant, but your heart and your connection to your child are what matters. Grieve as you need. Big hugs.

Symptoms of Normal Grief

Physical Sensations
Tightness in chest
Tightness in throat
Oversensitivity to noise
Depersonalization
Breathlessness
Headaches
Weakness in muscles
Lack of energy
Dry mouth
Trouble swallowing
Hollowness in the stomach
Sighing

Behaviors
Sleep problems
No appetite
Forgetfulness
Social withdrawals
Dreams of deceased
Avoidance of reminders
Calling out
Restless Activity
Crying
Clinging to reminders
Treasuring objects

Feelings
Sadness
Anger
Guilt
Anxiety
Loneliness
Fatigue
Helplessness
Shock
Yearning
Numbness
Relief

Thoughts
Disbelief
Confusion
Pre-occupation
Sense of presence
Hearing and seeing the deceased

[AuthenticLux]

Originally Posted by No Cute

I'm so sorry. What you express is something I've experienced, and still feel on anniversaries or significant dates. My daughter won't be starting Kindergarten this year, so I am really sad when seeing people register and all. Here's a list my social worker gave me that helped a lot. Maybe it will help you? I felt like I was losing my mind and no one had ever felt these things, like I was wrong to feel as I did. People around me acted like no one had ever grieved a miscarried child as a child, that I was wrong or she was too little or whatever they wanted to think. My daughter's life began and she was my daughter that very moment. Period. That's how I feel and felt. Whether you were 4 weeks or 20 weeks (after 20 weeks loss is defined as stillbirth in the U.S.) is irrelevant. People may try to make the baby's size relevant, but your heart and your connection to your child are what matters. Grieve as you need. Big hugs. Symptoms of Normal Grief Physical Sensations Tightness in chest Tightness in throat Oversensitivity to noise Depersonalization Breathlessness Headaches Weakness in muscles Lack of energy Dry mouth Trouble swallowing Hollowness in the stomach Sighing Behaviors Sleep problems No appetite Forgetfulness Social withdrawals Dreams of deceased Avoidance of reminders Calling out Restless Activity Crying Clinging to reminders Treasuring objects Feelings Sadness Anger Guilt Anxiety Loneliness Fatigue Helplessness Shock Yearning Numbness Relief Thoughts Disbelief Confusion Pre-occupation Sense of presence Hearing and seeing the deceased

Thank you for this. Thank you so much.

[No Cute]

Hugs to you. I just wish you didn't need it at all, ya know?

If you google Misdiagnosed Miscarriage, they have really good grief support there.