is it true that daughters are daddys girls?

radhika · Jun 25th, 2008, 10:31 AM

i am a stay home mum and my dd of 7 months is a doll. we have great fun together through the day but once her dads back from work she jumps into his arms and refuses to let go. he has gotta to make her sleep etc. and she is ok if i am out of the room but daddys gotta be there she wwants to go to him over me and always makes him the first choice. I just fell a bit duh

cause i am bonding with her and changing diapers and bathing etc etc through the day.
why does this happen?
not in competition but feel a bit left out sometimes or hurt. i dont show it though cause i hate these feelings and am glad she bonds well with dh too.

Elvawith · Jun 25th, 2008, 10:37 AM

My friend is going through this.

I think its natural, I mean your dd hasnt seen him all day so its almost exciting when he gets home. I know it happens a lot and I'm sure your bonding perfectly.

DlkinVegas · Jun 25th, 2008, 12:01 PM

My daughter goes back & fourth with this. Sometimes it's all about me other times daddy. It used to bother me a little when she was younger now though if she is all about daddy it's fine with me-Break time!

Sarsi · Jun 25th, 2008, 12:56 PM

I got two DD's ages 3 and 4 and they are Daddy's girls specially the younger one.
I guess it's okay with me, I like that they are all over their daddy when he gets home,
It gives me time and space for myself.

Dont worry your DD loves you just as much

I remember being so close with my Dad too,
even more than my Mom when I was young,
but I loved my mom just as much,
and somehow as I grew older I got much closer to my mommy...

I think that's just how little girls are...

everything posh · Jun 25th, 2008, 01:05 PM

My oldest daughter is all about daddy

Every time we get dressed to go somewhere she just HAS to go and ask daddy "how do I look?" so she can get kisses and hugs and he tells her how beautiful she looks! Then she is ready to go! My little daughter is still quite young and doesn't like to be away from me...but i'm sure when she gets older she'll be daddy's girl too! It's fine by me! Some break time!

sophia618 · Jun 25th, 2008, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by DlkinVegas

My daughter goes back & fourth with this. Sometimes it's all about me other times daddy. It used to bother me a little when she was younger now though if she is all about daddy it's fine with me-Break time!

i totally understand this!

i'm going through the same!!! especially now i have a tiny little man of my own~ he's 6 weeks old and sweet!!

purly · Jun 25th, 2008, 01:49 PM

She probably doesn't realize she's doing it, she's just happy he's home. I bet if he was home all of the time she wouldn't want to be with him all of the time.

Distance makes the heart grow fonder as they say.

Calya · Jun 25th, 2008, 06:55 PM

It is the same with my daughter. (11 months) When she is hurt or really needs something she runs to me. I am with her all day. When her dad gets home she runs to him and wants to play. I think it's because she hasn't seen him all day and misses him. A few of my friends daughters are the same way.

KristyDarling · Jun 25th, 2008, 07:07 PM

My husband WISHES our daughter was a daddy's girl! Our daughter is all about mommy! She's 3 1/2 and has been clingy to me, and only me, ever since she was a baby. It was murder on me for the first 18 months, because she wouldn't let anyone else, including her dad, hold her. Yup, I was exhausted and had some mean biceps during those years!

She asks for him every once in awhile, but I'm hoping that she'll start becoming a lot closer to her dad, because he's crazy in love with her!

ms.fashionista · Jun 25th, 2008, 08:07 PM

OK, I am not comparing my dog to you guys' kids but mine is my fur-kid and she is like that too. I am the one who feeds her, walks her, bathes her, brushes her but when Daddy comes home from work, Mommy is forgotten and she sits/sleeps in his lap all evening, refusing to come to me! But when it's just her and I, she's my little velcro puppy. Weird, I know...

anghelq · Jun 25th, 2008, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ms.fashionista

OK, I am not comparing my dog to you guys' kids but mine is my fur-kid and she is like that too. I am the one who feeds her, walks her, bathes her, brushes her but when Daddy comes home from work, Mommy is forgotten and she sits/sleeps in his lap all evening, refusing to come to me! But when it's just her and I, she's my little velcro puppy. Weird, I know...

That's funny. I have female yorkie too and she does the same thing.

HauteMama · Jun 25th, 2008, 08:54 PM

Part of it is just taking the person who is with her all the time for granted. It hasn't occurred to her that there would ever be a time when you weren't there, so she takes it for granted that you always will be. That is actually a really good thing, not a bad one!

In our house, dh is the "fun" one. He gives piggy-back rides, plays games and has wild and crazy fun with the kids. Of course they are happiest to see him after he has been gone to work! But I am mommy, and I am the constant. I take it as a compliment that they take me for granted because it means that I have always met their needs enough that it never occurs to them that I wouldn't be there for them, no matter what.

Oh, and studies show that children who have a great bond with both parents do better in all sorts of areas, so I think it is great for kids to be very attached to their daddies, too!

galligator · Jun 25th, 2008, 09:08 PM

^^

Now that my daughters are a little older, 1 is still a daddy's girl & 1 is more mommy's. My son is actually doing the opposite. He loves his daddy but goes out of his way to only be affectionate with mommy, not daddy or sisters.

scarlett_2005 · Jun 25th, 2008, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by radhika

i am a stay home mum and my dd of 7 months is a doll. we have great fun together through the day but once her dads back from work she jumps into his arms and refuses to let go. he has gotta to make her sleep etc. and she is ok if i am out of the room but daddys gotta be there she wwants to go to him over me and always makes him the first choice. I just fell a bit duh

cause i am bonding with her and changing diapers and bathing etc etc through the day.
why does this happen?
not in competition but feel a bit left out sometimes or hurt. i dont show it though cause i hate these feelings and am glad she bonds well with dh too.

You're not alone. My DD is 11 months old and she does the exact same thing. As soon as daddy gets home I cease to exist. When daddy is home and if he leaves she immediately starts crying. Even if he tries to leave the room she gets really upset. It's been this this since the day she was born. She's always had a preference for daddy. It doesn't bother me, I think it's adorable. Plus it makes him feel great that as soon as he gets home he gets to spend some time with his baby!

I wouldn't let it bother you. It just shows the strong connection she has with her father. Maybe she's happy to see him because she got to spend the whole day with you?

scarlett_2005 · Jun 25th, 2008, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by ms.fashionista

OK, I am not comparing my dog to you guys' kids but mine is my fur-kid and she is like that too. I am the one who feeds her, walks her, bathes her, brushes her but when Daddy comes home from work, Mommy is forgotten and she sits/sleeps in his lap all evening, refusing to come to me! But when it's just her and I, she's my little velcro puppy. Weird, I know...

How cute!

Jun 25th, 2008, 10:31 AM	#1
radhika Member	is it true that daughters are daddys girls? i am a stay home mum and my dd of 7 months is a doll. we have great fun together through the day but once her dads back from work she jumps into his arms and refuses to let go. he has gotta to make her sleep etc. and she is ok if i am out of the room but daddys gotta be there she wwants to go to him over me and always makes him the first choice. I just fell a bit duh cause i am bonding with her and changing diapers and bathing etc etc through the day. why does this happen? not in competition but feel a bit left out sometimes or hurt. i dont show it though cause i hate these feelings and am glad she bonds well with dh too.

Jun 25th, 2008, 12:01 PM	#3
DlkinVegas Member Location: Las Vegas	My daughter goes back & fourth with this. Sometimes it's all about me other times daddy. It used to bother me a little when she was younger now though if she is all about daddy it's fine with me-Break time! __________________ “Make sure you have a different opinion and people will talk about you.”

Jun 25th, 2008, 12:56 PM	#4
Sarsi Member Location: Bay Area CA.	I got two DD's ages 3 and 4 and they are Daddy's girls specially the younger one. I guess it's okay with me, I like that they are all over their daddy when he gets home, It gives me time and space for myself. Dont worry your DD loves you just as much I remember being so close with my Dad too, even more than my Mom when I was young, but I loved my mom just as much, and somehow as I grew older I got much closer to my mommy... I think that's just how little girls are... __________________ SARSI

Jun 25th, 2008, 01:05 PM	#5
everything posh Member Location: Chicago, Athens, London, San Jose!!	My oldest daughter is all about daddy Every time we get dressed to go somewhere she just HAS to go and ask daddy "how do I look?" so she can get kisses and hugs and he tells her how beautiful she looks! Then she is ready to go! My little daughter is still quite young and doesn't like to be away from me...but i'm sure when she gets older she'll be daddy's girl too! It's fine by me! Some break time! __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 01:49 PM	#7
purly IT'S	She probably doesn't realize she's doing it, she's just happy he's home. I bet if he was home all of the time she wouldn't want to be with him all of the time. Distance makes the heart grow fonder as they say. __________________ .

Jun 25th, 2008, 10:37 AM	#2
Elvawith Member Location: New York/Connecticut	My friend is going through this. I think its natural, I mean your dd hasnt seen him all day so its almost exciting when he gets home. I know it happens a lot and I'm sure your bonding perfectly.

Jun 25th, 2008, 06:55 PM	#8
Calya Member Location: Canada	It is the same with my daughter. (11 months) When she is hurt or really needs something she runs to me. I am with her all day. When her dad gets home she runs to him and wants to play. I think it's because she hasn't seen him all day and misses him. A few of my friends daughters are the same way. __________________ A Different Kind Of Cake

Jun 25th, 2008, 07:07 PM	#9
KristyDarling Member	My husband WISHES our daughter was a daddy's girl! Our daughter is all about mommy! She's 3 1/2 and has been clingy to me, and only me, ever since she was a baby. It was murder on me for the first 18 months, because she wouldn't let anyone else, including her dad, hold her. Yup, I was exhausted and had some mean biceps during those years! She asks for him every once in awhile, but I'm hoping that she'll start becoming a lot closer to her dad, because he's crazy in love with her!

Jun 25th, 2008, 08:07 PM	#10
ms.fashionista H-Happy!	OK, I am not comparing my dog to you guys' kids but mine is my fur-kid and she is like that too. I am the one who feeds her, walks her, bathes her, brushes her but when Daddy comes home from work, Mommy is forgotten and she sits/sleeps in his lap all evening, refusing to come to me! But when it's just her and I, she's my little velcro puppy. Weird, I know... __________________ She's a princess! My H Wish Come True

Jun 25th, 2008, 08:54 PM	#12
HauteMama Member	Part of it is just taking the person who is with her all the time for granted. It hasn't occurred to her that there would ever be a time when you weren't there, so she takes it for granted that you always will be. That is actually a really good thing, not a bad one! In our house, dh is the "fun" one. He gives piggy-back rides, plays games and has wild and crazy fun with the kids. Of course they are happiest to see him after he has been gone to work! But I am mommy, and I am the constant. I take it as a compliment that they take me for granted because it means that I have always met their needs enough that it never occurs to them that I wouldn't be there for them, no matter what. Oh, and studies show that children who have a great bond with both parents do better in all sorts of areas, so I think it is great for kids to be very attached to their daddies, too!

Jun 25th, 2008, 09:08 PM	#13
galligator Mostly Harmless	^^ Now that my daughters are a little older, 1 is still a daddy's girl & 1 is more mommy's. My son is actually doing the opposite. He loves his daddy but goes out of his way to only be affectionate with mommy, not daddy or sisters.