[Allisonfaye]

Wow, are you a brave person to do all of that. I am guessing your friendship with her will never be the same. I hope it knocked some sense into her head though.

[QueenOfDa702]

Originally Posted by Allisonfaye

Wow, are you a brave person to do all of that. I am guessing your friendship with her will never be the same. I hope it knocked some sense into her head though.

I dont even think she knows Im the one who called. She hasnt said anything to me about it, but then again, I've only talked to her once since the day I posted this thread(which isnt really unusual, Im pretty busy, and she doesnt care to call or text me). Her sons birthday is on the 9th, so we will see if she has anything to say(when I call to talk to him). If she does, I will simply tell her "I was looking out for his best interest, I care for him and dont want him to get hurt." She can take it whatever way she wants, in all honesty, if he wasnt my god son, I probably would have cut ties with her a while ago.

If she doesnt say anything, then Im(of course) not going to tell her what I did. I tried to be a little secretive, making sure they wouldnt tell her who made the call and whatnot. She probably thinks it was her roommate, they've been having problems. If she does tell me she knows, then I wont lie about it.

[monicamacatubal]

I am proud of you!! People usually do not want to get involved, This is a baby!! another life!! if the mother can not see what even strangers see, then she needs a wake up call. Like Hautemama said, a GUY offering to babysit another mans kid??? She has only known him for a month?! FOrget about helping her, help her baby! This world is a better place because poeple like you are not afraid to get involved.

[exotikittenx]

Good for you, you did the right thing. Think of it this way: If something happened to the child and you had not called, you may have regretted it. Anyway, you are a better friend than this girl realizes. I hope it woke her up a little.

[tlloveshim]

You did the right thing! I asked my dh about this and he too said it was a big red flag! He said men generally steer clear of other people's kids, especially when it's only been a month! Even if the guy isn't a sexual predator, what does he know about caring for children? Does he use foul language, does he watch inappropriate things on TV, does he feed the child healthy snacks or junk? I mean, the worse case scenario is the child being abused or molested but what about the other things that could happen while in this man's care that may still have a negative effect on this child's life? Wow. I'm just glad you did what you did and hope it woke your friend up.

[spendalot]

My eyes are tearing up as I read this thread.

You did a good thing. Did you talk to your godson and tell him to call you if there's anything he wants to talk about?

[Mom2myAngels]

You did the best. Maybe the grandparents could show up once in a while (with out calling) to check on the grandson.

[cindy05]

She left her kid with a guy that she's known for only a month and she doesnt even know whether she is just "talking to him" or "dating him." That is dangerous territory. There are alot of pedophiles and child abusers out there. I would not even trust my family members with my kid.

[bellacherie]

You are such a good friend to do this. She won't think it right now as she seems be very selfish, but I often hear about children being abused or assaulted by their mum's boyfriend or stepdad. It's just not worth the risk with someone you barely know. I can't believe she would care so little about her son???