[ive_flipped]

ok this is more of a rant then anything but I had to let it all out because I am just in shock at how (for lack of a better word) stupid some young girls can be. If any young girls are on here and ttc I know you are not going to like this but I am sorry I don't care.

While surfing for info on pregnancy related things I came across a forum and it had a section for teen pregnancies. Ok that is great to have a place for support if you got pregnant by mistake and want to be mature and raise the baby and need to find out all the ins and outs etc BUT I found so many girls ranging from 15 to 18 ttc. It blows my mind that here they are trying to have a baby and haven't even had a chance to grow and learn and live life. And what makes it even more crazy in my opinion is that half of them can not even spell. It's almost impossible to read what they are saying because it is all spelt incorrectly. Your in here talking about having a baby and you haven't even had the chance to learn to spell correctly GEEZ!

I know we have talked about this on here but I was just so furious that these in my mind very young girls are out there ttc, living with mom and dad, most do not even have a job and think that some 14-18 year old guy is going to stick around and play house. It seems they think babies are toys or the latest accessory.

ARGHH!!!!!!! what is wrong with this world these days. I even sometimes find it so hard to understand the by accidents too and now we have them planning them.

Sorry for the rant just had to get it off my chest.

[Elvawith]

Did you hear about the pregnancy pact in MA? That was pretty unreal too.

I honestly have no idea why girls would do this, young girls too. I dont know wether its lack of education or as i've heard someone say "i just wanted unconditional love"

I know for one I wouldnt have got pregnant as a teen out of fear alone. Do you think its lack of parenting? I have no idea.

I'm sure for some people it works out but I agree that its amazing and shocking that people would want such responsibility at an early age and I dont think they always just "dont understand" the level of responsibility. I think of what I was doing as a teenager and it was not making babies!!!

[ive_flipped]

Yes I heard about that pregnancy pact and was horrified at that too. I mean seriously what were they all thinking.
I mean I thought I knew it all back then too but never thought for a second that I would be able to raise a child.

[dallas]

Here in Australia, women are given a "baby bonus" in the amount of $5000, and the number of teens - at my daughter's high school alone - that purposely became pregnant to receive the money was mind-boggling. What hope do the babies have when they are being raised by babies?

[ilovepinkhearts]

it's sad really. if a teen truly knew the work and sacrifice that comes along with a baby i think they would wait. i was watching some stupid tv show about teens wanting to get pregnant [yeah prolly jerry] and they were sitting on stage saying the stupidest things.

"a baby won't cry as long as it is has a dry diaper"
"when the baby cries i will give it to my mom for her to deal with it"
"having a baby will be fun, it's not hard work"

i wanted to just reach through the tv and bonk all their heads together. they need to go work in a day care with infants to see what it's like to actually take care of a baby.

oh oh...and one of them had to do the whole take care of the fake baby for health class and she was tired of the plastic baby crying so she threw it in the closet and covered it with blankets and shut the door. and she said that the teacher didn't like her and programmed it to cry all the time....OI VEY!!

[VPT]

Oh what has the world come to, it saddens me too. Maybe the girls outgrew their cabbage patch dolls and want something more responsive? I remember a young expecting mom I used to work with was exclaiming excitedly to her friends at her shotgun wedding (to a guy 10 yrs her sr) that she's a mother already. At her age I was too busy partying and having a ball of a time. Maybe 20 yrs later when her son starts to enjoy the nightlife she'd look back and wonder where all her youth went?

[LouisLady]

this sounds like a Maury episode...!

[ilovepinkhearts]

you are right! i named the wrong trashy show...LOL

if it was on jerry someone would have been a tranny in love with their cousin and his mom...hehehe

[Megs]

That upsets me too. I just think people should be able to full understand what a child will do to their lives and make sure they can handle and afford it, so that the child has a fair shot at a great life.

[addicted2chanel]

Originally Posted by dallas

Here in Australia, women are given a "baby bonus" in the amount of $5000, and the number of teens - at my daughter's high school alone - that purposely became pregnant to receive the money was mind-boggling. What hope do the babies have when they are being raised by babies?

UGH, that's horrible! It costs that much for the toys, diapers, and crib + furniture alone! LMAO. Idk what girls are thinking.
I do think it's insane for young girls to be wanting to get pregnant. I'm a young mother, and it is hard work!! For all of those nieve little girls that think a baby won't cry as long as it's fed and dry, are WRONG!!! Wait until the teething kicks in! LOL. And when they get air bubbles and you have to spend half an hour bouncing them on your knee, and patting their little backs watching them cry their hearts out
It's hard being a mom, especially if you stay at home all day and take care of the baby yourself!! You can't just come home from school (lol) and ask mommy to hand over the baby for a second. COME ON. Personally, if my future DD said something like that. I'd then I'd take her to the doctor and get her on birth control. And no, It wouldn't be an OK to go have sex. I would be protecting her. Assuming the dingbat actually took them! That's what is scary too, some girls actually skip their pills just to get pregnant!
I think if you have an accident, whoops. There's not much you can do about it, granted you shouldn't be fooling around that young, but it happens regardless, and those girls that are trying to get pregnant need a good kick in the butt, and to spend a day with a colicky baby. LOL.

[Swanky Mama Of Three]

it's important to remember these girls are just children . . . most likely w/o very supportive or involved parents.

I went to a large Houston suburban high school and back in '93 when I graduated we had a daycare ON campus. It was that bad. Tons of HS Moms, including one of my BFFs.

[HauteMama]

I had my first child at age 29 and it knocked me out with how much work it was. I had researched everything I could and had a supportive dh and family and PLANNED to get pg, but even with all of that I was shocked. It is just too bad that there is no practical way to show these girls what kind of work a baby is and what it can mean for the rest of their lives.

Of course statistics don't apply to everyone, but the statistics about teen pregnancy are sobering. The number of teens who become pregnant who remain in poverty, who never get more than a high school education (if they are lucky enough to finish that), who don't have supportive boyfriends who stick around, etc. And girls whose mothers had them at a young age are much more likely to have babies as teens themselves, even if their mothers married and live a stable, middle or upper class lifestyle.

I wish I had an answer for teen pregnancy. I just makes me sad for the majority of those girls who had a romantic view of pregnancy and raising a child, because real life is rarely as romantic as one's daydreams.

[ive_flipped]

^^well said.

[sweetlove]

I agree, I find it insane when I see forums where 15-18 year olds talks about TTC!! One thing is girls that became accidentially pregnant and is trying to make the best of it and discuss it with peers on forums, but I get shocked every time I see girls that age talking about TTC and get cheered on by the others there and if some adult comes in and makes a remark about the person being too young and that she should wait a few years, he or she will get flamed immediately. I'm 20 and I'm nowhere near being mature enough for having kids and I don't really know any 18 year old that is either..

[SuGa!!!]

TTC at that age is really sad, when i was 14 didnt even know what ttc meant. let alone having sex. Its not nice when u see a teen pregnant with anyone and a wife thats been ttc for years with her husband and really wants a baby. I am 19 and was 12 when my brother was born and as crazy as it sounds i love every bit of it but only as big sister. I would love to have kids in my late twentys and if i am happily married and fiancially stable not just because my friends are. I have even heard of young girls not using condoms because it doesnt feel good, now thats just wrong. Try not to let it upset u as long as its not ur children dont worry.