He Broke My Heart.... :[[

ilovepinkhearts · Sep 4th, 2008, 07:15 PM

I was trying to get some stuff done today and my 3 yr old son wanted to continue to play, we had played a lot of his games which means he has a toy and I have a toy and they crash into each other. I usually get hurt with a bent back nail or something. He wanted to continue to play and I told him no that I had some stuff to do...he complained...he whined...he yelled. I told him to go play in his room or watch tv. Barney was on at the time...he proceeds to tell me "NO I hate him!!" I was shocked, that was the first time that I heard him say the "h" word. [he has gotten it from his older brother and he got it from school...] I told him that it's not nice to say that word and that he needs to stop saying it. So he goes to his room and comes back with different toys for us to play with and I once again tell him not right now...he yells, he screams...then he broke my heart "I hate you mommy" came out of his mouth...I was crushed. "You no wanna play". I sat there and looked at him. I told him again that it wasn't nice and that he hurt mommy's heart. He just looked at me...and then he stood there and looked out the window while I continued to talk to him...I told him to give me a hug and kiss and to say sorry and that he loved me. He did all that and while hugging me again he said "you no wanna play".

I know that he doesn't know what that word means, he says it because his brother says it to him when they argue...but OUCH it hurt so bad. I can't wait for them to be teens and know what it means and yell it at me....I will most likely go and cry...

So what have your children said or done that really just tore at your heart?

sratsey · Sep 4th, 2008, 07:48 PM

Once when I was a little to loud and a little too sharp (for no good enough reason) with my son, he told me "it makes me very sad when you're not nice to me like that"
He normally uses this anytime I try to discipline him, but when I'm harsh with him just because I had a bad day, or I'm not in the mood and he's RIGHT, it crushes me.
He was 3 at the time.

Once he also told me that when I yell at him when he's being bad it means I don't love him. OUCH.

addicted2chanel · Sep 4th, 2008, 10:07 PM

Aw

Don't feel too bad though. When I would baby sit my little brothers, and try to discipline them by telling them to go to get ready for bed, or pick their toys up, they would say "I HATE you!" I just explained to them that that is a very strong word, and that you are not supposed to tell that to people who you love and care for

BagLadie · Sep 4th, 2008, 10:16 PM

Awww my kids have ALL said they hate me in the past. My older boys don't anymore but my 5 year old does when she is really mad, tired, cranky. But she instantly seems remorseful because I do what you did and tell her that she really hurt me and that is about the worst thing you could say to someone. She always apologizes and I drop it. Your little guy is just learning these things. He may say it again considering he has realized it's a word that can have an effect. Don't take too much offense.....he loves his mommy.

ms.fashionista · Sep 4th, 2008, 10:27 PM

When I was a little girl and when my mom would discipline me, I would call her the "wicked step mother". I never knew how much it hurt her until now that I have this little peanut growing inside of me. I would not know what to do if my peanut calls me his/her wicked step mother one day.

ilovepinkhearts, don't take too much offense from you son because I know when I called my mom that, I didn't mean it one bit! Although I now know how much it hurts. Big hugs to you.

merika · Sep 4th, 2008, 10:32 PM

This happens. The first time my DS used it I was so unhappy; it broke my heart. But then having realized it upset me, he tried using it a couple times again, especially after I disciplined him (and I guess he wanted to hurt me back).

After a few times of that I got wise and told him "tough luck, you might hate me but I'm the only mom you've got". He stopped saying it after that.

divadivine682 · Sep 5th, 2008, 01:42 AM

If I discipline my son, he comes back with a "You broke my heart mom". At first I was crushed...now he says it if I tell him he cant have candy for breakfast or something so when he says "you broke my heart", my response is usually "you'll get over it". LOL

Crysty · Sep 5th, 2008, 11:11 AM

Oh I know what you mean!

When I discipline my 2 yr old DD, she tells me, "Mommy, don't be mean to me."

Oh it just kills me. She will also say that anytime she makes a mess or thinks that I am going to disagree with whatever she is about to do. It sounds funny, but it does make me think -- "Wait - am I mean to her? Oh that poor little angel!" But then reality quickly sets in and I realize what she is doing.

annemerrick · Sep 5th, 2008, 04:15 PM

I would have to say...get used to it!!! I have 3 kids...and have heard, "I hate you" many times...that by now...I am over it!! I will tell them to, "Save it to tell your therapist later"!! They don't mean it...and five minutes later...they are over whatever made them mad in the first place!!
The first time, I am sure is hard...but my kids are a bit older, so I dont even remember the first time anymore!

VuittonsLover · Sep 5th, 2008, 04:47 PM

aww. Im sorry. That tore at my heart strings too.

ilovepinkhearts · Sep 5th, 2008, 06:44 PM

I'm sure it will get easier...and DH said that he has said it to him before. He has called me "mean mommy" a few times when I tell him to pick up or he has to do this or that. It's just interesting that they know how to push the buttons and they will push them often...lil turkeys.

Sep 4th, 2008, 07:15 PM	#1
ilovepinkhearts hi, i'm danielle Location: Texas	He Broke My Heart.... :[[ I was trying to get some stuff done today and my 3 yr old son wanted to continue to play, we had played a lot of his games which means he has a toy and I have a toy and they crash into each other. I usually get hurt with a bent back nail or something. He wanted to continue to play and I told him no that I had some stuff to do...he complained...he whined...he yelled. I told him to go play in his room or watch tv. Barney was on at the time...he proceeds to tell me "NO I hate him!!" I was shocked, that was the first time that I heard him say the "h" word. [he has gotten it from his older brother and he got it from school...] I told him that it's not nice to say that word and that he needs to stop saying it. So he goes to his room and comes back with different toys for us to play with and I once again tell him not right now...he yells, he screams...then he broke my heart "I hate you mommy" came out of his mouth...I was crushed. "You no wanna play". I sat there and looked at him. I told him again that it wasn't nice and that he hurt mommy's heart. He just looked at me...and then he stood there and looked out the window while I continued to talk to him...I told him to give me a hug and kiss and to say sorry and that he loved me. He did all that and while hugging me again he said "you no wanna play". I know that he doesn't know what that word means, he says it because his brother says it to him when they argue...but OUCH it hurt so bad. I can't wait for them to be teens and know what it means and yell it at me....I will most likely go and cry... So what have your children said or done that really just tore at your heart? __________________

Sep 4th, 2008, 10:07 PM	#3
addicted2chanel Chanel not war Location: Anchorage, AK	Aw Don't feel too bad though. When I would baby sit my little brothers, and try to discipline them by telling them to go to get ready for bed, or pick their toys up, they would say "I HATE you!" I just explained to them that that is a very strong word, and that you are not supposed to tell that to people who you love and care for __________________ I want a rainbow of Jumbos I loved you, so I drew these tides of men into my hands and wrote my will across the sky in stars, To gain you Freedom, the seven-pillared worthy house, that your eyes might be shining for me, When I came. - T.E. Lawrence "Lawrence" of Arabia

Sep 4th, 2008, 10:16 PM	#4
BagLadie Got a handle on it Location: Red Sox Nation	Awww my kids have ALL said they hate me in the past. My older boys don't anymore but my 5 year old does when she is really mad, tired, cranky. But she instantly seems remorseful because I do what you did and tell her that she really hurt me and that is about the worst thing you could say to someone. She always apologizes and I drop it. Your little guy is just learning these things. He may say it again considering he has realized it's a word that can have an effect. Don't take too much offense.....he loves his mommy. __________________ One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain. - Bob Marley

Sep 4th, 2008, 10:27 PM	#5
ms.fashionista H-Happy!	When I was a little girl and when my mom would discipline me, I would call her the "wicked step mother". I never knew how much it hurt her until now that I have this little peanut growing inside of me. I would not know what to do if my peanut calls me his/her wicked step mother one day. ilovepinkhearts, don't take too much offense from you son because I know when I called my mom that, I didn't mean it one bit! Although I now know how much it hurts. Big hugs to you. __________________ She's a princess! My H Wish Come True

Sep 4th, 2008, 10:32 PM	#6
merika Just me Location: In front of a computer	This happens. The first time my DS used it I was so unhappy; it broke my heart. But then having realized it upset me, he tried using it a couple times again, especially after I disciplined him (and I guess he wanted to hurt me back). After a few times of that I got wise and told him "tough luck, you might hate me but I'm the only mom you've got". He stopped saying it after that. __________________ I will also gladly authenticate your chocolates for you.

Sep 4th, 2008, 07:48 PM	#2
sratsey Member	Once when I was a little to loud and a little too sharp (for no good enough reason) with my son, he told me "it makes me very sad when you're not nice to me like that" He normally uses this anytime I try to discipline him, but when I'm harsh with him just because I had a bad day, or I'm not in the mood and he's RIGHT, it crushes me. He was 3 at the time. Once he also told me that when I yell at him when he's being bad it means I don't love him. OUCH.

Sep 5th, 2008, 01:42 AM	#7
divadivine682 cant wait for 2/09!! Location: Fabulous New York!	If I discipline my son, he comes back with a "You broke my heart mom". At first I was crushed...now he says it if I tell him he cant have candy for breakfast or something so when he says "you broke my heart", my response is usually "you'll get over it". LOL __________________ "It's not getting what you want, its wanting what you've got."

Sep 5th, 2008, 11:11 AM	#8
Crysty Member Location: in the Hoosier Hills	Oh I know what you mean! When I discipline my 2 yr old DD, she tells me, "Mommy, don't be mean to me." Oh it just kills me. She will also say that anytime she makes a mess or thinks that I am going to disagree with whatever she is about to do. It sounds funny, but it does make me think -- "Wait - am I mean to her? Oh that poor little angel!" But then reality quickly sets in and I realize what she is doing.

Sep 5th, 2008, 04:15 PM	#9
annemerrick Member Location: Back in Dallas	I would have to say...get used to it!!! I have 3 kids...and have heard, "I hate you" many times...that by now...I am over it!! I will tell them to, "Save it to tell your therapist later"!! They don't mean it...and five minutes later...they are over whatever made them mad in the first place!! The first time, I am sure is hard...but my kids are a bit older, so I dont even remember the first time anymore! __________________ WWW.MYBAG.NET

Sep 5th, 2008, 04:47 PM	#10
VuittonsLover Cartier Crazy	aww. Im sorry. That tore at my heart strings too. __________________

Sep 5th, 2008, 06:44 PM	#11
ilovepinkhearts hi, i'm danielle Location: Texas	I'm sure it will get easier...and DH said that he has said it to him before. He has called me "mean mommy" a few times when I tell him to pick up or he has to do this or that. It's just interesting that they know how to push the buttons and they will push them often...lil turkeys. __________________