Having kids after 35

KittyKat65 · Aug 31st, 2008, 03:05 PM

My husband and I never really wanted children, however, when I got to 37 I got the maternal instinct. Long story short, we tried ONE TIME and I got pregnant and had my son at 38. We live in an age were anything is possible and 36 is not too late to start thinking about kids.

VPT · Aug 31st, 2008, 06:16 PM

Yeah 36 is not old at all, I know women who've borne healthy intelligent children even at 45! You're never infertile until you get a second medical opinion about your infertility. Till then, never say you're infertile, there are tons of younger women who are and desire so much to be in your shoes. As long as you're not menopausal, you should try to conceive. If infertile there are always other options to help you conceive. Or you can choose to adopt, there are many babies out there in need of parents!

kcf68 · Aug 31st, 2008, 06:38 PM

I just had a baby at 40. Heathly and happy. My friends who don't have children at 40 are really slowing down. My friend just had a baby girl at 43. She is always on the go. I think having children at an older age keeps you young..

kristenmi123 · Sep 2nd, 2008, 01:02 AM

My girlfriend just delivered last week and she's 40 and had a beautiful baby!!!

I say go for it!!!!!

I have a 8 year old daughter and I think we might have one more and I'm older than you!!!

birkin girl · Sep 2nd, 2008, 09:57 AM

Thanks for putting my mind at rest....As I said I am going to lose some weight 3 stone and after our hols in april i am going to go for it....I think....!I am a libran after all...!

Nishi621 · Sep 3rd, 2008, 12:38 PM

Hi, I know this thread is almost 2 years old-but, what was the outcome Twinklette? did you have a baby or not?

addisonshopper · Sep 3rd, 2008, 04:05 PM

i am 36 and am due in december- I only have one other child and she is 12.. so not only am I over the hill- per the doctor- not in my opinion-- but I got one good AGE gap...

hautecouture15 · Sep 3rd, 2008, 07:49 PM

my mum gave birth to my sister 6 days before she was 40!

lulu23 · Sep 6th, 2008, 11:29 PM

Do it. I was 36 when I had my son. No regrets. I am so glad I waited until I was older.

NoSnowHere · Sep 8th, 2008, 12:36 AM

I had my son at 35. You are not too old! People are getting married later and living longer, so when your husband says you're too old--baah too old in what way? The societal norm of having babies at 25 doesn't work for everyone for various personal reasons.

Have a heart to heart with him and explain your feelings about now wanting children. I believe that sometimes things happen for a reason and perhaps you weren't ready 6 years ago.

sweetneet · Sep 11th, 2008, 09:05 PM

i don't think 35 is too old at all. i have a friend who had her first kid when she was 37, and the second when she was 39. they are both healthy kids.

however, i do understand how it feels to be constantly pressured by everyone to have kids. i'm 30 and i would say about 85% of all my friends my age (from high school, grad school, work, etc) either have kids or are expecting...everyone keeps asking "how about you guys??" . i do want to have kids some day, but i just want to be ready first. have kids in your 20s is not for everyone.

Aug 31st, 2008, 06:16 PM	#137
VPT i ♥ blood oranges Location: Singapore / Vancouver	Yeah 36 is not old at all, I know women who've borne healthy intelligent children even at 45! You're never infertile until you get a second medical opinion about your infertility. Till then, never say you're infertile, there are tons of younger women who are and desire so much to be in your shoes. As long as you're not menopausal, you should try to conceive. If infertile there are always other options to help you conceive. Or you can choose to adopt, there are many babies out there in need of parents! __________________

Sep 3rd, 2008, 12:38 PM	#141
Nishi621 Member	Hi, I know this thread is almost 2 years old-but, what was the outcome Twinklette? did you have a baby or not? __________________

Sep 3rd, 2008, 04:05 PM	#142
addisonshopper Preggoliscious ... Location: WASH/DC/VA	i am 36 and am due in december- I only have one other child and she is 12.. so not only am I over the hill- per the doctor- not in my opinion-- but I got one good AGE gap... __________________ only one ticker please

Sep 3rd, 2008, 07:49 PM	#143
hautecouture15 Member Location: essex	my mum gave birth to my sister 6 days before she was 40! __________________ Collection: -chloe paddington in tobacco -balenciaga courier in blueberry -chanel navy lambskin jumbo with silver chain -chanel WOC in black caviar with gold chain -mulberry long lock wallet in brown -mulberry cosmetic purse in glazed green goatskin -blaenciaga coin purse in amythest -Louis Vuitton epi cles in grenade

Sep 11th, 2008, 09:05 PM	#146
sweetneet オタク Location: at IKEA ♫	i don't think 35 is too old at all. i have a friend who had her first kid when she was 37, and the second when she was 39. they are both healthy kids. however, i do understand how it feels to be constantly pressured by everyone to have kids. i'm 30 and i would say about 85% of all my friends my age (from high school, grad school, work, etc) either have kids or are expecting...everyone keeps asking "how about you guys??" . i do want to have kids some day, but i just want to be ready first. have kids in your 20s is not for everyone. __________________ come check out my new purse closet!

Aug 31st, 2008, 03:05 PM	#136
KittyKat65 Will work 4 Manolos Location: Austin, Texas	My husband and I never really wanted children, however, when I got to 37 I got the maternal instinct. Long story short, we tried ONE TIME and I got pregnant and had my son at 38. We live in an age were anything is possible and 36 is not too late to start thinking about kids.

Aug 31st, 2008, 06:38 PM	#138
kcf68 Handbag Addict Location: Finally on the West Coast!!!	I just had a baby at 40. Heathly and happy. My friends who don't have children at 40 are really slowing down. My friend just had a baby girl at 43. She is always on the go. I think having children at an older age keeps you young..

Sep 2nd, 2008, 01:02 AM	#139
kristenmi123 Member	My girlfriend just delivered last week and she's 40 and had a beautiful baby!!! I say go for it!!!!! I have a 8 year old daughter and I think we might have one more and I'm older than you!!!

Sep 2nd, 2008, 09:57 AM	#140
birkin girl Member	Thanks for putting my mind at rest....As I said I am going to lose some weight 3 stone and after our hols in april i am going to go for it....I think....!I am a libran after all...!

Sep 6th, 2008, 11:29 PM	#144
lulu23 Member	Do it. I was 36 when I had my son. No regrets. I am so glad I waited until I was older.

Sep 8th, 2008, 12:36 AM	#145
NoSnowHere ♥ Nico ♥ Location: on my iPhone	I had my son at 35. You are not too old! People are getting married later and living longer, so when your husband says you're too old--baah too old in what way? The societal norm of having babies at 25 doesn't work for everyone for various personal reasons. Have a heart to heart with him and explain your feelings about now wanting children. I believe that sometimes things happen for a reason and perhaps you weren't ready 6 years ago.