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omgsweet · Oct 13th, 2009, 04:24 PM

Wow! Yes, you did the right thing.

It is stories like these that make me afraid to put my kids in daycare.

yeliab · Oct 13th, 2009, 05:03 PM

You absolutely did the right thing!! Your DS will make new friends in a better environment. Who knows what that woman would have done to your DS... even if its to humiliate him in front of the class or order him to do something beyond his will... these are lasting memories.

You did the right thing wholeheartedly!!

bohohobo · Oct 13th, 2009, 05:25 PM

Your job as a mother is to protect your children from potential harm without waiting for something to happen so yes you did the right thing. Goodness knows why she held him up by his sleeves and not by his arms - you do not need to know the reason - your priority is his safety.

missy_attitude · Oct 13th, 2009, 06:54 PM

Thank you all for your kind words.

Yes, I so wanted to snap on the spot and take DS out asap but I couldn't. First of all, I stood there and watched because I really wanted to see what a really-nice-to-my-face teacher was doing to DS, I would like to see how he was treated when I wasn't around. KWIM? and I do know that I could not take DS out immidiately as I would like to, so I did not want to be rude or make thing awkard.
As much as I don't like DS staying at that kindy, I still need that 2 weeks so that I can work out a new schedule for DS and also looking for a new day care for him. It is so hard looking for a new day care too BTW.

There was a really good one close to home but the wait list was till 2011! Another one that's further is not taking newbies till next year. So DS has to go to non fancy day care for 3 months then getting taken out again.

I hope all the changes aren't too much for DS. I'll throw him a little going away party at the end of his stay, and exchange some phone numbers like Swanky Mama Of Three suggested.

Again, thanks guys for all the support, I do feel alot better about everything now.

ilovepinkhearts · Oct 13th, 2009, 08:29 PM

^^ i can understand what you are saying, about not wanting to cause trouble. but there is no way that my child would be back there after what you described...

omgsweet · Oct 13th, 2009, 11:33 PM

Originally Posted by ilovepinkhearts

^^ i can understand what you are saying, about not wanting to cause trouble. but there is no way that my child would be back there after what you described...

If she has to work and there is nobody else to watch him, what else is she suppose to do?

TravelBug · Oct 14th, 2009, 02:16 AM

A dislocated elbow in a young child most likely happens when his/her hand is pulled/yanked. It's commonly referred to as Nurse Maid's Elbow. Even though it takes a few seconds to fix, it's very painful. If you had any doubt or felt uncomfortable about your son being at that daycare, you did the right thing. I would have done the same.

sun.shyne · Oct 14th, 2009, 10:19 AM

you made the right decision. i would have done the same thing. there is nothing worse than feeling like your child is not in good hands.

ilovepinkhearts · Oct 14th, 2009, 11:46 AM

"If she has to work and there is nobody else to watch him, what else is she suppose to do? "

i guess i would have to work out it the best way possible. but if i saw someone man-handling my child, they would not be back at that day care. when i worked and my sitter was on vaca or sick, i had to call every person that i know and have them watch him. if it meant that i had to drive almost an hour out of my way to drop him off and then get to work.

the daycare is supposed to care for the child/ren and not place hands on them in any harmful way. the fact that he has a dislocated elbow [nursemaid's elbow] and that is was never reported to CPS is a big red flag to me.

im not trying to attack you missy_attitude, sorry if it came off that way. you re the one that is dealing with this in the way that you feel is appropriate. you are his mother and i am sure that if you felt he was in danger he wouldn't be back there.

mawygrrl23 · Oct 14th, 2009, 01:29 PM

Hello!
You definitely did the right thing. I would have actually taken him out right away. Abuse is abuse, no excuse.

FYI: Even if you are not sure if something will be classified as abuse you don't lose anything with filing a report. Let the field decide what they want to do with the information obtained. And yes by state law any major incident that happens in daycares have to be reported by the daycare even if it was an accident.

flashy.stems · Oct 15th, 2009, 12:54 AM

your poor little boy

you're a smart mama!

dell · Oct 15th, 2009, 02:24 AM

I am so sorry to hear this! It SICKENS me when people are mean to children, they are so innoscent!!!

This is why I am struggling to pay bills as a SAHM. I know my daughter is well cared for!

AlbertsLove · Oct 15th, 2009, 06:39 PM

Any situation where you feel like your child is no safe, then act on it. It is better safe than sorry. I work with kids and when I need to move them because they are in the way of some one, or any place where they should not be, and they do not want to move I grab them from under their pits and only move them as little as I have to. It usually just to rotate my body and then I put them back down. But when I am holding their hands and the do the whole loose body thing I bring the rest of their body down. I am always scared of breaking a kid, they are to tiny. I think the fact that the injury was never reported is fishy. You did the right thing, always listen your instincts. If you do not then you will never forgive yourself if something happens. There are other daycares and he will make new friends elsewhere.

tpdt · Oct 15th, 2009, 10:37 PM

I'm new here but I read your post and as a daycare teacher/ assistant director I believe you did the right thing. In no way are we ever suppose to put our hands on children in that way. And with DSS not being notified about the disslocation is very alarming!!! When it comes to your baby you know what is best. You should never question yourself when you have that feeling only a mother feels when she knows somethings not right!

poshpearl · Oct 16th, 2009, 12:24 AM

if I was sure that it was only that particular teacher which hurt him, I will ask the centre to fire that teacher for the safety of other children and let my son continue his stay in the centre, since he is emotionally attached and has made progress there.

but only you will know the best and I believe you have done that right thing!

Oct 13th, 2009, 04:24 PM	#16
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Oct 13th, 2009, 05:03 PM	#17
yeliab Luxury = Purses Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 2,025	You absolutely did the right thing!! Your DS will make new friends in a better environment. Who knows what that woman would have done to your DS... even if its to humiliate him in front of the class or order him to do something beyond his will... these are lasting memories. You did the right thing wholeheartedly!!
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Oct 13th, 2009, 05:25 PM	#18
bohohobo tamale loco Joined: May 2009 Posts: 336	Your job as a mother is to protect your children from potential harm without waiting for something to happen so yes you did the right thing. Goodness knows why she held him up by his sleeves and not by his arms - you do not need to know the reason - your priority is his safety.
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Oct 13th, 2009, 08:29 PM	#20
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	^^ i can understand what you are saying, about not wanting to cause trouble. but there is no way that my child would be back there after what you described...
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Oct 14th, 2009, 11:46 AM	#24
ilovepinkhearts team edward. always. Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 4,390	*"If she has to work and there is nobody else to watch him, what else is she suppose to do? "* i guess i would have to work out it the best way possible. but if i saw someone man-handling my child, they would not be back at that day care. when i worked and my sitter was on vaca or sick, i had to call every person that i know and have them watch him. if it meant that i had to drive almost an hour out of my way to drop him off and then get to work. the daycare is supposed to care for the child/ren and not place hands on them in any harmful way. the fact that he has a dislocated elbow [nursemaid's elbow] and that is was never reported to CPS is a big red flag to me. im not trying to attack you missy_attitude, sorry if it came off that way. you re the one that is dealing with this in the way that you feel is appropriate. you are his mother and i am sure that if you felt he was in danger he wouldn't be back there.
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Oct 13th, 2009, 06:54 PM	#19
missy_attitude OP cindy rella Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 569	Thank you all for your kind words. Yes, I so wanted to snap on the spot and take DS out asap but I couldn't. First of all, I stood there and watched because I really wanted to see what a really-nice-to-my-face teacher was doing to DS, I would like to see how he was treated when I wasn't around. KWIM? and I do know that I could not take DS out immidiately as I would like to, so I did not want to be rude or make thing awkard. As much as I don't like DS staying at that kindy, I still need that 2 weeks so that I can work out a new schedule for DS and also looking for a new day care for him. It is so hard looking for a new day care too BTW. There was a really good one close to home but the wait list was till 2011! Another one that's further is not taking newbies till next year. So DS has to go to non fancy day care for 3 months then getting taken out again. I hope all the changes aren't too much for DS. I'll throw him a little going away party at the end of his stay, and exchange some phone numbers like Swanky Mama Of Three suggested. Again, thanks guys for all the support, I do feel alot better about everything now.

Oct 14th, 2009, 02:16 AM	#22
TravelBug What R U Lookin' At? Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 1,954	A dislocated elbow in a young child most likely happens when his/her hand is pulled/yanked. It's commonly referred to as Nurse Maid's Elbow. Even though it takes a few seconds to fix, it's very painful. If you had any doubt or felt uncomfortable about your son being at that daycare, you did the right thing. I would have done the same.

Oct 14th, 2009, 10:19 AM	#23
sun.shyne live.laugh.love Joined: Aug 2009 Location: dayton.ohio Posts: 156	you made the right decision. i would have done the same thing. there is nothing worse than feeling like your child is not in good hands.

Oct 14th, 2009, 01:29 PM	#25
mawygrrl23 Mrs. Do Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 151	Hello! You definitely did the right thing. I would have actually taken him out right away. Abuse is abuse, no excuse. FYI: Even if you are not sure if something will be classified as abuse you don't lose anything with filing a report. Let the field decide what they want to do with the information obtained. And yes by state law any major incident that happens in daycares have to be reported by the daycare even if it was an accident.
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Oct 15th, 2009, 12:54 AM	#26
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Oct 15th, 2009, 02:24 AM	#27
dell Member Joined: May 2007 Location: Colorado Posts: 5,430	I am so sorry to hear this! It SICKENS me when people are mean to children, they are so innoscent!!! This is why I am struggling to pay bills as a SAHM. I know my daughter is well cared for!
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Oct 15th, 2009, 06:39 PM	#28
AlbertsLove Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 1,356	Any situation where you feel like your child is no safe, then act on it. It is better safe than sorry. I work with kids and when I need to move them because they are in the way of some one, or any place where they should not be, and they do not want to move I grab them from under their pits and only move them as little as I have to. It usually just to rotate my body and then I put them back down. But when I am holding their hands and the do the whole loose body thing I bring the rest of their body down. I am always scared of breaking a kid, they are to tiny. I think the fact that the injury was never reported is fishy. You did the right thing, always listen your instincts. If you do not then you will never forgive yourself if something happens. There are other daycares and he will make new friends elsewhere.
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Oct 15th, 2009, 10:37 PM	#29
tpdt Member Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 1	I'm new here but I read your post and as a daycare teacher/ assistant director I believe you did the right thing. In no way are we ever suppose to put our hands on children in that way. And with DSS not being notified about the disslocation is very alarming!!! When it comes to your baby you know what is best. You should never question yourself when you have that feeling only a mother feels when she knows somethings not right!
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Oct 16th, 2009, 12:24 AM	#30
poshpearl Member Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 293	if I was sure that it was only that particular teacher which hurt him, I will ask the centre to fire that teacher for the safety of other children and let my son continue his stay in the centre, since he is emotionally attached and has made progress there. but only you will know the best and I believe you have done that right thing!
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