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vhdos · Oct 20th, 2009, 01:13 PM

Sounds like you just need to lower your expectations. That way, you won't be disappointed.
DH's family puts in little effort and we only see them a few times a year. My own mother has only met my son once and he's 4! I guess it's just not that big of a deal because I have low expectations. For me, it is what it is.
I'm sorry that you are hurt by all of this, but as one poster said, it's their loss.

rainrowan · Oct 20th, 2009, 04:52 PM

Are they like that towards each other as well, or just you and your dh? You might have to accept it, or find a way around it. Like going over to the MIL once in a while with your children. Does anyone on that side of the family ever throw parties for their children? You should be there with your kids.

I've accepted my mother will visit my brother's kids for months at a time but she can't or won't stay more than a day or two with my kids. I know she loves us tremendously, just something that only my mother is dealing with. And like vhdos says, I have very low or no expectations now and it doesn't bother me.

Your in-laws should consider themselves blessed to have a DIL like you who wants to connect. There are those who would be fine if they never dealt with the other side of the family.

Oct 20th, 2009, 01:13 PM	#16
vhdos Member Joined: May 2007 Location: NC Posts: 3,144	Sounds like you just need to lower your expectations. That way, you won't be disappointed. DH's family puts in little effort and we only see them a few times a year. My own mother has only met my son once and he's 4! I guess it's just not that big of a deal because I have low expectations. For me, it is what it is. I'm sorry that you are hurt by all of this, but as one poster said, it's their loss.
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Oct 20th, 2009, 04:52 PM	#17
rainrowan INFJ Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 3,934	Are they like that towards each other as well, or just you and your dh? You might have to accept it, or find a way around it. Like going over to the MIL once in a while with your children. Does anyone on that side of the family ever throw parties for their children? You should be there with your kids. I've accepted my mother will visit my brother's kids for months at a time but she can't or won't stay more than a day or two with my kids. I know she loves us tremendously, just something that only my mother is dealing with. And like vhdos says, I have very low or no expectations now and it doesn't bother me. Your in-laws should consider themselves blessed to have a DIL like you who wants to connect. There are those who would be fine if they never dealt with the other side of the family.
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