I can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child.
A good friend of mine lost her baby at birth. She is now halfway through her next pregnancy. And I know it must be so bittersweet for her. She always in my thoughts and we are hoping for a smooth delivery.
Also, my big brother was a twin. Both babies were born with some health problems and one only survived a couple of days. I wasn't even born yet, but I get so sad when I think about my mother having to go through such pain.
Thanks Dawn, for putting this thread up. I have miscarried twice, 19 Sep in 2004 and 2005 (both exact same date), and now I have also lost my SO too.
Mother's day makes me sad, maybe I will never be a mother as in bringing up kids but I still like to think I was a mother and will be to the two angels I lost.
That is so sad -- my heart goes out to her. How wonderful, though, that something good came out of a tragic situation. Your friend sounds like an amazing person.
Originally Posted by Jerzygirl
Thank you for the reminder. Actually one of my childhood girlfriends lost her 14 year old daughter suddenly and unexpectedly from a brain disorder that nobody even knew she had. No symptoms or signs. She was talking to her one minute and the next she was gone. It has always been her and her daughter (father was never around and no other children) so this strikes very, very deep for her.
My girlfriend donated her daughter's organs so she was able to save 6 lives which is helping her cope a little better through this terrible time knowing she was able to help 6 people continue live.
Thank you for this thread, Dawn. My heart goes out to all of the ladies (and their SO's) who have experienced a loss.
My mother and husband surprised me with a remembrance charm as a Mother's Day gift this year. It isn't here yet, but I will be glad to post a pic when it is. It will be engraved with each of my babies' names and have a birthstone for each.
I'm going to make up a care package for my cousin's wife, who just lost her first baby this week.
Would you happen to have any contact info for the woman you mentioned in your OP? I have a feeling my school would love to have her speak. We will be studying psychology and the complex family next semester, so it would be very appropriate.
Thank you Dawn. I will remember to wish my cousin a Happy Mothers Day on Sunday. She lost her baby at the end of her pregnancy. Just because she does not have a living baby does not mean that she's not a mother
I always feel so awkward talking to my childhood friend (we've kept in touch, but don't live close) that miscarried and her baby would have been about the same age as my daughter. I never know what the right thing to say is... When I went over to visit her one time when I was still pregnant, I kept trying to hide my belly behind a scarf and we never brought up the subject of babies. (Which is obviously quite a feat when you're 22 weeks pregnant.) Since I had DD, I haven't been back home much - and I felt bad the one time I was back home that I didn't have the nerve to try to arrange plans with her... because I thought it would be upsetting for her to be around DD. I'm going to try to stop avoiding the subject though, I know it probably just makes it worse. I finally worked up the courage to send her a thinking of you on Mother's Day message (because I do think of her a lot), thanks to this thread.
I hope that it is received okay and that she knows I'm sincerely thinking of her & rooting for her as well... Thank you for the reminder!