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lv lover steph · Jul 1st, 2009, 10:58 PM

I concur! I was 35 with my DS and I felt ancient. I went in to my pregnancy thinking I was 22 and had a rude awakening!! AMA is a focus of EVERY appointment, EVERY where!!

divalicioust · Jul 2nd, 2009, 05:39 AM

Originally Posted by meluvs2shop

diva, your lil girl is precious!!!

Thank you!

BlkLadyLaw · Jul 2nd, 2009, 12:48 PM

Originally Posted by meluvs2shop

i love my gynecology/fertility doctor and last fall-when i was 34- she said i needed to start thinking seriously about starting a family, if that's what we wanted. she didn't say it would be impossible past 35, but can be a bit more challenging for some women. needless to say that information stayed with me & we had to seriously think about what we wanted. without waiting too long after that initial discussion with my doctor, dh & i made the decision that was right for us.

i rejected all tests for this baby. whatever God has planned for us we'll deal with it the best way we know how, if not, learn along the way.

I rejected all invasive ones also.

Kansashalo · Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:23 PM

Just adding another post...my co-worker just turned 41 this year and she is the mother of a happy, healthy 2 year old!

No Cute · Jul 3rd, 2009, 11:05 AM

Tired 43 yo with 3 yo ds...did I mention I'm tired? lol Adore him, have more fun than ever, but I can't keep up with him. However, I have a dear friend who is 51 with kids the same age and little older, and she keeps up just fine. I think it depends on Moms health a lot.

Brasilian_Babe · Jul 4th, 2009, 09:06 AM

My mother had my youngest brother who is 16 years old now at the age of 38. She had no problems with her pregnancy and my brother is the picture of health

flower71 · Jul 4th, 2009, 02:14 PM

I def don't think so since I'm in that category and having the time of my life! It all depends on the opportunity, the real wish to commit yourself and putting your working ambitions aside for a lil while! Of course, if I were 10 years younger, my sleepless nights would be less of a problem IMO, but as long as one's healthy, it'll be OK. I KNOW I'LL GET MY SLEEP BACK, I sure hope so....

No Cute · Jul 5th, 2009, 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by No Cute

Tired 43 yo with 3 yo ds...did I mention I'm tired? lol Adore him, have more fun than ever, but I can't keep up with him. However, I have a dear friend who is 51 with kids the same age and little older, and she keeps up just fine. I think it depends on Mom's health a lot.

Flower71: totally agree. Career seems to matter a lot less now that the kids are here. I work, but it's a job. Parenting when older is very individual, and I do think health is a consideration for some. My last pregnancy did a lot of damage to my health, so that is a lot of why I am having trouble keeping up. I think once he's a bit older and knows to wait for me, it'll settle out.

Greenstar · Jul 5th, 2009, 12:51 PM

I dont have any children and Im 33 at the end of this year.I have never wanted children but if I get to 40 and dont have any,it wasent ment to be.I dont think it matters what age you are when you have children as long as you are healthly and happy also married if it matters to you

flower71 · Jul 6th, 2009, 08:01 AM

Originally Posted by No Cute

Flower71: totally agree. Career seems to matter a lot less now that the kids are here. I work, but it's a job. Parenting when older is very individual, and I do think health is a consideration for some. My last pregnancy did a lot of damage to my health, so that is a lot of why I am having trouble keeping up. I think once he's a bit older and knows to wait for me, it'll settle out.

I am with you all the way (hugs). Take care and hope you get some rest...I am so in lack of sleep, think I'll take a nap right now!

Barbiedoll · Jul 27th, 2009, 02:54 PM

I agree BlkLadyLaw, I'm not having a baby but I find myself explaining to people what you wrote below - I am enjoying my child-free life when I am ready to have a child I would have already finish my partying and impromptu traveling, and spoiling myself rotten with luxury goods...Besides I love rolling out of bed at anytime

Originally Posted by BlkLadyLaw

I personally prefer having my youth kid-free versus my mid-life kid-free. I'm settled, I've done it all...life is far from over yet I had a fabulous time with no responsibility for anyone but myself and my own happiness and fulfillment. I'm ready for them now and was definitely not ready to scale back my lifestyle or sacrifice for them previously...whereas I am now.
In my social circle of friends and amongst my coworkers (male and female) no one will have or does have college grad kids in their 50s (and from what I read about online the growing trend is that many that did think they would have this empty nest situation at 50 still have these grown kids living with them or dependent on them in some way!). What would be deemed unusual in my social circle of folks that are mid 30s to early 40s is anyone with a kid over 5 yrs old at this point (if they have any at all yet).
Heck, I have legal colleagues that are still paying off their own 6 figure student loans well into their 40s let alone thinking about paying for a child's college bills also at that point lol!
My mom had me young and frankly she spent too much time trying to be my girlfriend when I wanted a mom not a girlfriend. She also spent too much time trying to recapture the youth she missed out on while I was a teen. My grandma who was 45 when I was born was much more of the mother figure in my life that I needed. There is something to be said for spending some time maturing yourself as a person, finding yourself and fulfilling goals before becoming a mother. I find most folks are not even sure of who they are as a person and what they really want out of life before 30.

alliemia · Jul 27th, 2009, 03:02 PM

i had kids at 30 and 31 and i'm glad to be done with the baby stage by 35. i personally don't want to start up with the baby stuff into my 40s.

helpchow · Aug 8th, 2009, 02:45 AM

I will be 35 this year and don't have any kids. DH is 7 years younger and we have thought about having biological children. However, I know that the possibility of having a child with mental/developmental difficulties increases after 35 and the thought of having a child with developmental difficulties or autism terrifies me and I am not sure if we will take the risks. We have friends with children with autism and it is definitely a struggle.

PurseXaXholic · Aug 8th, 2009, 11:07 PM

my mom had me when she was 37. I'm her first and only :)

coleigh · Aug 8th, 2009, 11:24 PM

[QUOTE=maria28;11430669]i don't think having children after age 35 is too late. i think it's pretty common nowadays and is entirely up to the individual to decide when she is/feels ready to have children.

i personally have always wanted to have 2 children only and both by the age of 30. i had my first one when i was 24 and second one at age 27....and i am very happy. having the kids at a younger age also means that the kids get to know both sets of grandparents and both my parents and dh's parents still have all the energy to play with my 2 children.

however, having both kids at a younger age does mean that we've to be more careful and wise with our expenditures. i've also opted to become a SAHM (ie. driver, cleaner, cook, etc)*LOL*.

there're always pro's and con's, but it's up to each individual to choose which suits them the most.[/QUOTE]

I share your view.

Jul 1st, 2009, 10:58 PM	#121
lv lover steph Member Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,861	I concur! I was 35 with my DS and I felt ancient. I went in to my pregnancy thinking I was 22 and had a rude awakening!! AMA is a focus of EVERY appointment, EVERY where!!
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Jul 2nd, 2009, 03:23 PM	#124
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Jul 3rd, 2009, 11:05 AM	#125
No Cute Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 7,557	Tired 43 yo with 3 yo ds...did I mention I'm tired? lol Adore him, have more fun than ever, but I can't keep up with him. However, I have a dear friend who is 51 with kids the same age and little older, and she keeps up just fine. I think it depends on Moms health a lot.
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Jul 4th, 2009, 09:06 AM	#126
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Aug 8th, 2009, 02:45 AM	#133
helpchow Member Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 187	I will be 35 this year and don't have any kids. DH is 7 years younger and we have thought about having biological children. However, I know that the possibility of having a child with mental/developmental difficulties increases after 35 and the thought of having a child with developmental difficulties or autism terrifies me and I am not sure if we will take the risks. We have friends with children with autism and it is definitely a struggle.
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Jul 4th, 2009, 02:14 PM	#127
flower71 flower71 Joined: Nov 2007 Location: FRANCE Posts: 1,303	I def don't think so since I'm in that category and having the time of my life! It all depends on the opportunity, the real wish to commit yourself and putting your working ambitions aside for a lil while! Of course, if I were 10 years younger, my sleepless nights would be less of a problem IMO, but as long as one's healthy, it'll be OK. I KNOW I'LL GET MY SLEEP BACK, I sure hope so....

Jul 5th, 2009, 12:51 PM	#129
Greenstar Member Joined: Aug 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 385	I dont have any children and Im 33 at the end of this year.I have never wanted children but if I get to 40 and dont have any,it wasent ment to be.I dont think it matters what age you are when you have children as long as you are healthly and happy also married if it matters to you

Jul 27th, 2009, 03:02 PM	#132
alliemia love shopping!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: NY Posts: 3,223	i had kids at 30 and 31 and i'm glad to be done with the baby stage by 35. i personally don't want to start up with the baby stuff into my 40s.

Aug 8th, 2009, 11:07 PM	#134
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Aug 8th, 2009, 11:24 PM	#135
coleigh Laugh and live.... Joined: Jul 2007 Location: digging in my purse Posts: 2,441	[QUOTE=maria28;11430669]i don't think having children after age 35 is too late. i think it's pretty common nowadays and is entirely up to the individual to decide when she is/feels ready to have children. i personally have always wanted to have 2 children only and both by the age of 30. i had my first one when i was 24 and second one at age 27....and i am very happy. having the kids at a younger age also means that the kids get to know both sets of grandparents and both my parents and dh's parents still have all the energy to play with my 2 children. however, having both kids at a younger age does mean that we've to be more careful and wise with our expenditures. i've also opted to become a SAHM (ie. driver, cleaner, cook, etc)LOL. there're always pro's and con's, but it's up to each individual to choose which suits them the most.[/QUOTE] I share your view.
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