Do you think having children after age 35 is too late?

[merika]

I hope not. I was born when my mom was 39 and I turned out okay for the most part

[twinkle.tink]

Oh, I just thought of something else...on the financial side (as someone mentioned) is so much easier when you're older. With the 2 oldest boys we didn't have a lot of money and everything was used, hand me down or what was on sale. With the third boy, of course we had everything we needed. Don't get me wrong, there is of course nothing wrong with that at all (all a baby needs is love )...but I will say it has been a different and fun experience to buy what ever my little heart desired for Emily, with out worrying about money.

[mammabyrdie]

I had my 4th at 36. My mom had me at 39.

[guccimamma]

my husband would like another, but i am 39 (had 1 at 29 & 32)

frankly, i don't want to be chasing toddlers in my 40s....just doesn't appeal to me at all!

[NoSnowHere]

No. People are living longer, and getting married later. At 25, I had no desire to have kids.

[aek03002]

Not at all. My mom had her 4th child (me) at 43. Her doctor was concerned about her age, but she took very good care of herself and he ended up telling her she was actually one of his healthiest patients. My grandmother had my aunt when she was in her 40s, and my great-grandmother had her last child at 48. I remember 10 years ago that one of the moms in my 4-H group had her last child at 50! She had already had two teenagers and thought she was going through menopause, but it turned out she was pregnant. None of them had problems with the pregnancy or birth, and all the babies were very healthy.

Growing up I usually had the oldest mom of all of my classmates, but now it is not unusual at all for a woman in her 40's to have a baby.

[babieejae1101]

I personally don't think it's too late. My aunt had her second child at 36.

[ilovepinkhearts]

it all depends on the person and their health. good health go for it, poor health then i would say no [but that can pretty much be said for any age, young or old].

for me personally i don't want to have children past 35. that is just my preference, i want to have fun with them when they are young and then i want to be young enough still to enjoy them not being at home any more.

[everything posh]

I really don't think it's too late. My SIL is pregnant and due with her first this june and she will be 42. Of course she had all the genetic testing done and her little girl is perfectly healthy. I had my first at 27, second at 30( 3 days before turning 31) Now I'm 32 and would like to have at least two more!!!

My mom had her third baby at 41. Everyone was telling her how "dangerous" it was at her age and blah blah blah, but she really wasn't worried at all. She had the tests done and baby was fine. She had a healthy baby girl!

[candy2100]

Not too late at all! My grandma had her last baby at 41, and although the delivery was a little hard for her, I think that was because it was her 6th baby, not because of her age.

[megs0927]

I don't think it's too late at all. I thought I would be atleast 30 before my first but dh and I married young (I was 23/ he was 27). We have traveled and enjoyed almost 5 years of marriage and decided- earlier than we had originally planned to start a famly. I think it all depends on your overall situation. Being financially stable is very important but that doesn't necessarily correlate with being older. My parents are older and I want my children to have time to have a relationship with them.

[VPT]

I'm 36 and just had my 1st. I don't think age has a large impact on fertility either, in the month i conceived we BD only once (DH sick n overloaded with work) and we've only been trying for 2 months prior. As with any age make sure your health is in good condition - exercise regularly, substantial diet, no smoking, and take your prenatal vitamins while you TTC.

[Christine]

My sister popped 'em out so easily after 35 someone might want to re-evaluate this post. It is so tiresome to hear people fretting about their freinds (or themselves) having kids that late, but really. If you don't want 'em after 32... there is birth control or sterilization. For F sake... love your kids at ALL ages. I will shut up now.

[shells]

having babies after 35 is definitely not too late....but be aware of the problems that can arise. your fertility begins to decline quickly at that point, which means potential for fertility treatments/difficulty getting pregnant. fertility treatments can lead to multiple births (twins, triplets, etc), which can lead to premature delivery, which have their own potential complications for the babies. you will also automatically be considered high risk by ur OB, and your risk of genetic defects, especially for downs syndrome, begins to exponentially increase after the age of 35.

even though there are many more risks that can arise, it does not mean that you can not go on to have a quick conception and uncomplicated pregnancy! just be aware that all those hollywood stories of moms having perfect pregnancies well into their 40's are people with the best medical help available, and often skim over the probs they may have had with conception...

[PurseFanatic]

I don't think so, I just had my first at 35 and want more. Of course the hard part now is finding a husband!