Daycare/Babysitter Question...advice needed..

*spoiled* · Jun 24th, 2008, 12:25 PM

OK so my daughter just turned 2 in March. She's been going to a home daycare since she was about 8 months..

She's very smart and talks very well.. knows her ABC's, 123's, and some colors. She's learned all of that at the babysitter so the sitter is doing well but I want more

I think that she would do excellent in a day care center. So anyway we found one... we were referred by a couple of ppl and today the s/o went to visit since I couldn't leave work. He absolutely loved it for her! It's a church based center.. relatively good priced...they teach them prayer and they follow the A Beka learning curriculum.

My daughter is such a people person (unlike me

) and she's very outgoing so I KNOW she would love it!

Now... my only problem is the babysitter. I am nervous about telling her. I mean I am going to feel terrible. I really like this woman but I know she's gonna be upset to lose my daughter

. So anyway, my questions are, is your 2 year old or child in a daycare center or home babysitter? And how would you go about telling the babysitter?

Sternchen · Jun 24th, 2008, 01:57 PM

You say that her babysitter is going a great job with her and has already taught her things that MANY two year olds do not know, so I'm confused about you wanting "more". What exactly are you expecting for you 2 year old to learn?

*spoiled* · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:04 PM

I guess I just want her to interact with more children. At her babysitter she's one of 2 two year olds and the rest are babies. I just want her around more children and to learn her prayers, etc. I notice that when my baby is around other kids she picks up SO MUCH in just a couple of hours of play. It's liek she's a human sponge and I think that if she's around more children her age on a daily basis she can relate more to them.

This isn't a military academy or anything (lol) but she'll be around all two year olds and have that to her advantage.

Nishi621 · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:05 PM

I am going to be biased here since I have a special vibe for in home daycare. but, what more do you want your 2 year old to learn that you think she is going to get from a large daycare center that she can't get form the in home person?

It sounds to me as if she is around plenty of kids now, as for learning prayers, I personally see that as a parent's job.

Anyway, I know a lot of 2 year olds in in home daycare.

Anyway, you being the parent can do what you want obviously, this is JMO. And, if the in home lady is as good as you say, people will be more than thrilled to fill your spot! But, please, give her plenty of notice that you are leaving so she has time to fill the spot, please offer to giver her a good recommendation and make sure to give her a nice parting gift on your child's last day with her (I would give a week's pay).

Mrs. MC · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:06 PM

I agree with you. She also needs the social interaction and to learn in a group setting. This will prepare her for life. I stay at home with my children and they are very bright and never though my son would go to preschool because he will be starting kindergarten as a 6yo (misses the cutoff by a few weeks)but I feel like he could really use this preparation in order to be at the level of most children so he is going a few days a week. Maybe you could split the time between the nanny and the day care or see if she can take care of the baby here and there on nights out or weekends when you have things to do. I would still stay connected if possible because she sounds like she is doing a good job. Always follow your instincs, if you think your child will flourish more in a daycare/preschool setting then I say go for it !

*spoiled* · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. MC

I agree with you. She also needs the social interaction and to learn in a group setting. This will prepare her for life. I stay at home with my children and they are very bright and never though my son would go to preschool because he will be starting kindergarten as a 6yo but I feel like he could really use this preparation in order to be at the level of most children so he is going a few days a week. Maybe you could split the time between the nanny and the day care or see if she can take care of the baby here and there on nights out or weekends when you have things to do. I would still stay connected if possible because she sounds like she is doing a good job. Always follow your instincs, if you think your child will flourish more in a daycare/preschool setting then I say go for it !

that's what I was trying to say but maybe it didn't come out right.. I want her to have the social interaction because I see how she is when she's around other children for play dates. She LOVES it and at her home babysitter she doesn't have that. She and another little boy are the only two year olds.

*spoiled* · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Nishi621

I am going to be biased here since I have a special vibe for in home daycare. but, what more do you want your 2 year old to learn that you think she is going to get from a large daycare center that she can't get form the in home person?

It sounds to me as if she is around plenty of kids now, as for learning prayers, I personally see that as a parent's job.

Anyway, I know a lot of 2 year olds in in home daycare.

We do teach her prayers. If you have kids, you do know that they pick up SO MUCH from other children.

Also, this isn't a large daycare center... they have a classroom of 12 2 year olds..lol

Mrs. MC · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by *spoiled*

We do teach her prayers. If you have kids, you do know that they pick up SO MUCH from other children.

Also, this isn't a large daycare center... they have a classroom of 12 2 year olds..lol

I am not religious in any way but I can see why you would want your daughter in this setting. You would like for her to be taught and socialized amongst like minded people. There is nothing wrong with that. Also besides the diseases that most children are immunized against, there are common colds and other viruses and things that your child will build an immunity to so eventually you won't have to take so much time off from work when she gets to kindergarten and elementary as would a parent who's child has not been exposed to all of those germs. This is also the downside too, she may be ill with a lot more things at first but it is all part of being in a close environment with other people so you will have to either deal with that now or later when she is in school. Good luck !

*spoiled* · Jun 24th, 2008, 02:48 PM

thanks for all of your advice guys,.... i also want to add that im 14 weeks preggo so we will definitely not lose the babysitter because my newborn already has a spot with her! LOL

DlkinVegas · Jun 24th, 2008, 03:59 PM

My daughter -2- is home with me but I think she would love (Eventually) daycare/preschool setting. She too is very outgoing & like you said they learn so much from interacting with other kids. Dont be afraid to tell your sitter. Tell her exactly what you & MC have said. She is entering the age where it is beneficial for her to be in a school type setting where she can interact with other children. And, like you said baby #2 has a spot with your current sitter. GL!

wordbox · Jun 25th, 2008, 11:12 AM

If you're set on going to the day care, I'd get the baby sitter a nice gift, tell her she's been absolutely wonderful to you and your family, but explain that, while it was a tough decision to make, you're moving to the day care because you feel your daughter is ready to be socialized with the other children and you really like their curriculum (and that you feel it will prepare her for preschool/going to school). Make sure you emphasize that she did nothing wrong and has done a wonderful job with your child, and you hope she'll also be involved with your second one.

*spoiled* · Jun 25th, 2008, 04:05 PM

oh she will be involved with my second one! LOL We already have that spot in the bag. What is a nice gift? Maybe some sort of gift basket? I want to get her something so that she can pamper herself since she is around little babies all day! LOL

She's not the type to do a spa day or anything so that's out of the question...

Jun 24th, 2008, 12:25 PM	#1
spoiled Member Location: Maryland	Daycare/Babysitter Question...advice needed.. OK so my daughter just turned 2 in March. She's been going to a home daycare since she was about 8 months.. She's very smart and talks very well.. knows her ABC's, 123's, and some colors. She's learned all of that at the babysitter so the sitter is doing well but I want more I think that she would do excellent in a day care center. So anyway we found one... we were referred by a couple of ppl and today the s/o went to visit since I couldn't leave work. He absolutely loved it for her! It's a church based center.. relatively good priced...they teach them prayer and they follow the A Beka learning curriculum. My daughter is such a people person (unlike me ) and she's very outgoing so I KNOW she would love it! Now... my only problem is the babysitter. I am nervous about telling her. I mean I am going to feel terrible. I really like this woman but I know she's gonna be upset to lose my daughter . So anyway, my questions are, is your 2 year old or child in a daycare center or home babysitter? And how would you go about telling the babysitter? __________________

Jun 24th, 2008, 02:04 PM	#3
spoiled Member Location: Maryland	I guess I just want her to interact with more children. At her babysitter she's one of 2 two year olds and the rest are babies. I just want her around more children and to learn her prayers, etc. I notice that when my baby is around other kids she picks up SO MUCH in just a couple of hours of play. It's liek she's a human sponge and I think that if she's around more children her age on a daily basis she can relate more to them. This isn't a military academy or anything (lol) but she'll be around all two year olds and have that to her advantage. __________________

Jun 24th, 2008, 02:05 PM	#4
Nishi621 Member	I am going to be biased here since I have a special vibe for in home daycare. but, what more do you want your 2 year old to learn that you think she is going to get from a large daycare center that she can't get form the in home person? It sounds to me as if she is around plenty of kids now, as for learning prayers, I personally see that as a parent's job. Anyway, I know a lot of 2 year olds in in home daycare. Anyway, you being the parent can do what you want obviously, this is JMO. And, if the in home lady is as good as you say, people will be more than thrilled to fill your spot! But, please, give her plenty of notice that you are leaving so she has time to fill the spot, please offer to giver her a good recommendation and make sure to give her a nice parting gift on your child's last day with her (I would give a week's pay). __________________ Last edited by Nishi621; Jun 24th, 2008 at 02:11 PM.

Jun 24th, 2008, 02:06 PM	#5
Mrs. MC Member	I agree with you. She also needs the social interaction and to learn in a group setting. This will prepare her for life. I stay at home with my children and they are very bright and never though my son would go to preschool because he will be starting kindergarten as a 6yo (misses the cutoff by a few weeks)but I feel like he could really use this preparation in order to be at the level of most children so he is going a few days a week. Maybe you could split the time between the nanny and the day care or see if she can take care of the baby here and there on nights out or weekends when you have things to do. I would still stay connected if possible because she sounds like she is doing a good job. Always follow your instincs, if you think your child will flourish more in a daycare/preschool setting then I say go for it ! __________________

Jun 24th, 2008, 02:48 PM	#9
spoiled Member Location: Maryland	thanks for all of your advice guys,.... i also want to add that im 14 weeks preggo so we will definitely not lose the babysitter because my newborn already has a spot with her! LOL __________________

Jun 24th, 2008, 01:57 PM	#2
Sternchen We're having a boy!! Location: Beauty RAOK	You say that her babysitter is going a great job with her and has already taught her things that MANY two year olds do not know, so I'm confused about you wanting "more". What exactly are you expecting for you 2 year old to learn? __________________ My 2 wonderful girls, Nicole (5) and Julia (1) will be big sisters soon! My pregnancy blog

Jun 24th, 2008, 03:59 PM	#10
DlkinVegas Member Location: Las Vegas	My daughter -2- is home with me but I think she would love (Eventually) daycare/preschool setting. She too is very outgoing & like you said they learn so much from interacting with other kids. Dont be afraid to tell your sitter. Tell her exactly what you & MC have said. She is entering the age where it is beneficial for her to be in a school type setting where she can interact with other children. And, like you said baby #2 has a spot with your current sitter. GL! __________________ “Make sure you have a different opinion and people will talk about you.”

Jun 25th, 2008, 11:12 AM	#11
wordbox spay, neuter, adopt! Location: The North Pole	If you're set on going to the day care, I'd get the baby sitter a nice gift, tell her she's been absolutely wonderful to you and your family, but explain that, while it was a tough decision to make, you're moving to the day care because you feel your daughter is ready to be socialized with the other children and you really like their curriculum (and that you feel it will prepare her for preschool/going to school). Make sure you emphasize that she did nothing wrong and has done a wonderful job with your child, and you hope she'll also be involved with your second one. __________________

Jun 25th, 2008, 04:05 PM	#12
spoiled Member Location: Maryland	oh she will be involved with my second one! LOL We already have that spot in the bag. What is a nice gift? Maybe some sort of gift basket? I want to get her something so that she can pamper herself since she is around little babies all day! LOL She's not the type to do a spa day or anything so that's out of the question... __________________