My daughter is 3 and she has a better wardrobe than I...by far. Part is indulgence on her mother's part, part is outlets, part is happily buying well cared for used item. Much of it is, like your daughter, she absolutely loves it and loves to pick out her clothes and especially shoes....so, I do get it and I do know most people think it is all 'mom'.
But, luckily I have had very few negative comments...most people just compliment her...so it might be a geographically thing.
Where I live lots of kids are dressed up all the time. I see kids wearing gold jewelry in the public pool. No one comments, I think it's just the norm. My kids for the most part dress comfy by choice, but I do often buy designer or nice outfits for occassions.
I like your daughter's style, just ignore questions about cost, etc that's just rude.
Your DD is adorable. My granddaughter is very much like you described--she knew what she wanted to wear starting at about 2 years old. She loves skirts that are twirly and her tutu is one of her favorites. I buy her some of the more expensive things because that's the privilege of a grandma but it's no one's business what she wears or how much it costs.
Our first son got high end brand hand-me-downs from a wealthy relative with a son a bit older and people judged us, tho he wasn't wearing new clothing. I was so grateful for any clothing back then!
If you can afford her cute wardrobe, go for it. There are a lot worse things to spend money on.
Most people don't say anything if you dress poorly because they already get the benefits of feeling superior, or at least equal to you when you dress poorly. But if you dress eccentrically, they will comment, or laugh from afar so you can see. It's like in the corporate world, people try to suppress others, because they feel they can't do it, but it just makes everyone look bad, and unable to do what they want to do. Deliberately doing something so other people will feel poorly about themselves is different than saying it when they will never hear. But most people can't fight the urge to be peaceful, because of the cycle of societal abuse.
I think people can just be rude sometimes. I have a little boy and love vintage style clothing. It's harder to find for boys so I snatch it up when I do. They grow up so fast as it is, and I just want him to stay little as long as possible. He doesn't mind getting dressed at all, but someone will always ask "how much was that?"
I just enjoy it. One day it will just be t-shirts and jeans. So let them talk. He looks way to cute to care. And I'm sure it's the same for you ladies as well
We have 5 kids, (4 girls and 1 son ), and they have all been very different dressers, and have all evolved over the years. My son used to hate me dressing him in what he thought was smart clothing, but now he's 17, he has a real taste for smart ! First and third DD s have always been girly girl, and when we moved over to Australia I discovered some French labels, eg Confetti and Absorba which DD number 3 used to love, and I used to get a lot of compliments on how she looked. DDs number 2 and 4 loved jeans, although DD number 2 used to make any tshirt look like a booby chube as she used to call them.She is now 13 and although casual she also loves floaty dresses. DD number 4 has the opportunity to wear those beautiful French labels, but refuses, and life is too short for those battles, and how she dresses is part of who she is, and no doubt her tastes will change as she gets older
i tried to dress my daughter well, then she would come home looking like we live under a bridge. she just loved to roll around on the playground and pick up every bit of grime that could attach itself to her. every child is different.
now she loves sweatshirts from her favorite surf shop...she's just not girly.
the only time i give a parent the side eye....is when they are wearing those darn wheelie shoes in the costco, target or market. i hate those things, i thought they had passed...but i still see kids wearing them.
my former in laws love to dress up the grandkids.. but give me crap about not wanting to buy Walmart clothes for my son. I dont see why the other kids can dress in the $$$ stuff but my kid cant? I just ignore them. Of course, they are just judgmental jerks.
who cares what other say or think my boys love shoes ages 6 and 8 i do not make a lot . my kids have like 20 pair of shoes each sandals, sneakers ,dress, loafers , docker shoes , boots , water shoes my boys even have navy blue rain boots. i used to get shoes from endless they no longer exist . Walmart and payless and rack rooms shoes . but yes my boys love shoes
I do not think your daughter is overdressed. Most of the comments may stem from envy.
However, like others here I noticed the jewellery, which I personally would neither consider practical nor safe on a small child. It seems to work for you, though. And that is all that matters.
I guess I would make sure that when she goes to playgroup she wears something comfortable that allows her to move freely and engage in all kinds of play activities (incl. shoes with good grip).
I have maybe bought my DD 2 pieces of clothing... her whole wardrobe is courtesy of Grandma. So while I do have a mostly pink dressy girly 9 months old, I would probably buy her jeans and T shirts... but it really doesn't matter to me since I am glad for the support and love that she is getting from grandma. I like that she has a variety of different styles and can make choices down the road.
And judgemental people are generally to be ignored. My life has more important things going on than clothes, sad for them if theirs doesnt,..
Omg you have the most beautiful, cute and welldressed daughter I've ever seen. I am so tempted to wake my DF and show him the pictures. We are not parents yet (hoping to get pregnant after our wedding in March) but I would love if my daughter was as beautiful and pretty dressed as your daughter.
People who keep hassling you and your daughter are simply rude and tasteless people who aren't worth paying attention to. She is a lovely child and it would be a shame if you had to tone her clothing down because of other people and their tactless manners.