I"m ready to pull my hair out by the roots!
Teenagers have no clue what money is and what things cost.

Laundry soap says 65 loads... nope 1.5 weeks and its empty!
Cat eats till it pukes..... so we'll full the bowl up with more food!!
Sink full of dishes, so we'll laod the dishwasher and run it!! No its not full but we'll run it anyway.

I can not wait for this spoiled rotten kids to be out on their own and have to pay for hydro, rent and food. Never mind cat litter, cat food, and have to find their own way to get from point a to point b.

has yet to accept his collage offer because he thinks he's going to go to a collage far away.. not taking into count living cost, food, transportation.. this child has been told for over a yr to look for part work ... AHAHAHAHA has yet to do it cuz he doesnt come out of his room but go **** and go to high school.
Never mind ^^^ taking his damn cat and taking care of it...


Lord help me!!!!!!!

Perhaps better responses if in the parenting sub forum?

So your teenager(s) actually do laundry and load the dishwasher???!!!

Originally Posted by MarneeB

So your teenager(s) actually do laundry and load the dishwasher???!!!

Not mine ^^ in this topic.

but yes my teenagers do their own laundry (when i'm too busy and dont get it done)and when asked unload the dishwasher.

So, the teens in this thread are not yours? Sounds like bigger issues than simply spoiled/wasteful teens...

I don't understand; the teenagers in question are not yours, but you are speaking about them like they are. Are they/he a spouse's child/ren? If so, then he needs to address things, too. And teenagers - just like smaller children - don't know things until they are told and things are explained to them. Priviledges being removed for failure to do things properly is often a pretty strong motivator.

Originally Posted by HauteMama

I don't understand; the teenagers in question are not yours, but you are speaking about them like they are. Are they/he a spouse's child/ren? If so, then he needs to address things, too. And teenagers - just like smaller children - don't know things until they are told and things are explained to them. Priviledges being removed for failure to do things properly is often a pretty strong motivator.

I agree.

Here's the thing teenagers are a pain in neck, no doubt about it...but teaching things like respect, responsibility & accountability need to be taught early and continually reinforced. Clear and consistent consequences applied calmly...even when you feel like wringing their necks.

The reason you have to these things early is so that when they are in their teens you have built their habits and established rules, so that you might have a shot.

I have a 23 year old son (college grad, living on his own, with a good job etc)...he is a great kid (now), but went through his teens like everyone else...like my 18 year old son is now. He is full of hubris and annoying...but even though all of that certain things are consistent. He does his chores, babysits when I ask, keeps his curfew...even though he will mumble under his breath, complain to his friends and has grand ideas about how different it will be when he is 'on his own'...the bottom line is he knows (because it has happened) if he doesn't, his privileges begin to disappear; no car, no phone, no computer. The monetary thing/conservation/wasteful isn't in issue for us, because we that is just the kind of family we are, many times we handle it as a fun challenge. Just last night, I had a conversation with DS18 and DS11 about a challenge I had for them....our electric/gas bills average about $140...which is awesome considering we have 5 us in the house, which is quite large...but now that spring (along with daylight savings) is here, I want to see if we can get our next bill under $100...it's not about the $40, it is about being conscience and mindful about our waste; not being lazy about shutting down our computers, lights, etc.

Sorry for the ramble...

with all that said, considering the child in question now seems 16 or 17, it is time for you (or his parent) to sit down and have a serious discussion about the rules and what the consequences will be for failing to follow them are...and then stand your ground. In the end, they will be better for it.

Whose kids are you talking about, OP? I'm confused.

Is it your step kids that you can't wait to be out of the house?

Maybe someone needs to parent them properly?

Originally Posted by merika

Maybe someone needs to parent them properly?

Thanks for the heads up..

Originally Posted by MarneeB

Is it your step kids that you can't wait to be out of the house?

That would be correct..

Originally Posted by alliemia

Whose kids are you talking about, OP? I'm confused.

Step kids..

Originally Posted by twinkle.tink

I agree. Here's the thing teenagers are a pain in neck, no doubt about it...but teaching things like respect, responsibility & accountability need to be taught early and continually reinforced. Clear and consistent consequences applied calmly...even when you feel like wringing their necks. The reason you have to these things early is so that when they are in their teens you have built their habits and established rules, so that you might have a shot. I have a 23 year old son (college grad, living on his own, with a good job etc)...he is a great kid (now), but went through his teens like everyone else...like my 18 year old son is now. He is full of hubris and annoying...but even though all of that certain things are consistent. He does his chores, babysits when I ask, keeps his curfew...even though he will mumble under his breath, complain to his friends and has grand ideas about how different it will be when he is 'on his own'...the bottom line is he knows (because it has happened) if he doesn't, his privileges begin to disappear; no car, no phone, no computer. The monetary thing/conservation/wasteful isn't in issue for us, because we that is just the kind of family we are, many times we handle it as a fun challenge. Just last night, I had a conversation with DS18 and DS11 about a challenge I had for them....our electric/gas bills average about $140...which is awesome considering we have 5 us in the house, which is quite large...but now that spring (along with daylight savings) is here, I want to see if we can get our next bill under $100...it's not about the $40, it is about being conscience and mindful about our waste; not being lazy about shutting down our computers, lights, etc. Sorry for the ramble... with all that said, considering the child in question now seems 16 or 17, it is time for you (or his parent) to sit down and have a serious discussion about the rules and what the consequences will be for failing to follow them are...and then stand your ground. In the end, they will be better for it.

I wish it was easy.. I knew step parenting wouldn't be easy.. I guess because raised my kids different it's difficult for me to deal with the lazy kids..

As a step-kid myself once, I realize that there is (often times) a whole lot going on in these situations than meets the eye. The dynamics alone can bring about all kinds of issues. I'd venture to guess that this is more complicated than simply "wasteful" teens. Also, as merika mentioned, what role is parenting (or lack there of) playing in al of this?