Hi ladies,

I just got my period again and am starting to feel so sad and depressed about trying to get pregnant. My hubby and I have been TTC for 8 months now and it just doesn't seem to be happening for us. I had my Mirena Coil taken out after having had it for 5 years and then 4 years (so in total for 9 years) and thought this would be so much easier. I've done the blood tests you can do at the GPs and all of my levels seem fine and my ovarian function is fine and I'm getting my periods (always between 28-32 day cycles). My hubby and I were so excited when we first decided to start trying. We're both in the perfect place in our lives and are both really excited about starting our own little family (I'm 28 and he's 30). I don't want to stress my hubby with this (he has been super supportive but is a lot more relaxed about it all than I am) so I was wondering if you ladies could give me advice on how to handle the disappointment, any advice on getting pregnant (I've done the day counting, did the clearlblue ovulation test for 2 months and we have an active sex life) or just your own experiences. None of my friends are currently trying to get pregnant so I feel really alone in this.

Thanks for listening! :)

I'm so sorry that you feel sad and depressed. I've been there before and spent close to 3 years wondering if we ever going to have child/ren.
I for once wasted so much time (almost 2 years) going through tests and multiple clomid dosage through my OB while really she doesn't know what's really going on with me.
After that I switch to an RE who found out I got endo and fibroids, had laparoscopy and went through injectibles and got pregnant with my boys..all that within 6 months.

My biggest advice to you is to seek for an RE once you guys try for 1 year. To me the stress/disappointment is kinda hard to combat. Like everyday, the worry and the questions are in my head. But I had a good support system (sisters, mom and friends especially) and it does make things a lot easier and they were able to put things into perspective. My DH was like yours, he was a lot more relax than me.

There is a whole thread on Trying To Conceive at the very top of this Forum.
Have you had your DH checked out? Perhaps the delay in getting pregnant has to do with him and not you?
I can relate. It took DH and I a year and a half to get pregnant the first time around. I ended up having to take Clomid because the problem was with my ovulation cycles being long and unpredictable. We lost our very first pregnancy to a miscarriage and that was truly heartbreaking after trying for so long.
I suggest having your DH checked out and then you may want to start investigating some fertility docs in your area. Typically, they want you to have a year of TTC under your belt before contacting them, but we didn't wait quite that long because we knew that it would take a while to get an actual appointment.

Thanks so much for your advice and sharing your stories! I've just written to a fertility clinic and will go in for a consultation asap

Originally Posted by MarieG

Hi ladies, I just got my period again and am starting to feel so sad and depressed about trying to get pregnant. My hubby and I have been TTC for 8 months now and it just doesn't seem to be happening for us. I had my Mirena Coil taken out after having had it for 5 years and then 4 years (so in total for 9 years) and thought this would be so much easier. I've done the blood tests you can do at the GPs and all of my levels seem fine and my ovarian function is fine and I'm getting my periods (always between 28-32 day cycles). My hubby and I were so excited when we first decided to start trying. We're both in the perfect place in our lives and are both really excited about starting our own little family (I'm 28 and he's 30). I don't want to stress my hubby with this (he has been super supportive but is a lot more relaxed about it all than I am) so I was wondering if you ladies could give me advice on how to handle the disappointment, any advice on getting pregnant (I've done the day counting, did the clearlblue ovulation test for 2 months and we have an active sex life) or just your own experiences. None of my friends are currently trying to get pregnant so I feel really alone in this. Thanks for listening! :)

We are trying for 8 months, too. My advice is if you're charting, temping, tracking periods, etc. just get the courage to throw it all away!! Just stop thinking about it. That's what I did around month 6 and I feel much less stress and disappointment and am in general happier. If nothing happens by 1 year we will get checked out but until then I'm just gonna act like an irresponsible teenager in love - that seems to do the trick for them lol...

Remain calm and positive. I agree with vhdos. After over a decade of trying someone I know found out it was her husband that had a low sperm count. Don't stress yourself. It will all work out.

After a year, see a RE for testing. That's what I did at 29 and found out I had endometriosis and needed IVF. Within 3 months I was pregnant from our first IVF. I wish I had found out sooner.

Thanks so much for your input, ladies! I really appreciate it!

Just saw this a bit late. Wanted to reiterate the advice to not stress about it too much. I know it always seems like it should just happen right away, but honestly, if you have only been doing ovulation tests for a couple of months, I would say you have nothing to worry about. So many people I know (me included) ovulate at a totally different time than expected. I am glad you have an appointment, but I bet a few more months of OPTs will do the trick.

Originally Posted by kimberf

Just saw this a bit late. Wanted to reiterate the advice to not stress about it too much. I know it always seems like it should just happen right away, but honestly, if you have only been doing ovulation tests for a couple of months, I would say you have nothing to worry about. So many people I know (me included) ovulate at a totally different time than expected. I am glad you have an appointment, but I bet a few more months of OPTs will do the trick.

Thanks so much for your advice! I had a pelvic ultrasound and everything looks as it should and they told me that I should be patient now given I've done all of the blood work and the ultrasound, which I guess I'll need to do. Thanks for understanding that it can be challenging to be patient!

If you've gotten all your tests done, then make sure your husband gets a semen analysis as well.

^ Will do