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salikons · Oct 9th, 2009, 08:50 AM

I have totally lost the loving feeling for my pebble mabel since I bought my Roxanne.

It feels so strange. Last winter I used mabel and liked her, but this year I can't see myself use her at all. When I try her I only feel she isn't right for me anymore.

I was a little afraid when this happenend and I thought I perhaps had lost the love for all my other bags after using Roxy, but I still love my bays and my e-w. It just seems to be Mabel that I react to, so I might rehoming her.
Think my collection is starting to shrink

Has that ever happened to you? That when you bought a new bag you completley loose your love for another simular one?

korzinka · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:01 AM

Has that ever happened to you? That when you bought a now bag you completley loose your love for another simular one?[/QUOTE]

Someone is going to get a lucky day on ebay! Of course this happens, and not only with bags unfortunately. The fact is, it is quite right to not want many bags...
If to be brutally honest, "love" for bags is possibly an addiction (I am first to confess), and one of the features on the addiction is that we might never be content. "Unloving" the old and "cherishing" the new are all signs of a cycle, to keep addiction going. Designer companies use this to the full! On the other hand, you may be "recovering" from the whole thing?
If we all measured how many minutes a day we think of mulberry bags, and measured daily over several weeks, the results would be scarily obvious! How many minutes a day is it healthy to think about bags... 2? 3? If I just time myself posting, I will already count 25!
This is with the exception of resellers, who deal with bags professionally, so their "obsession" is not an obsession but professional expertise, making them a living.
Don't kill me please!

bluecat_00 · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:16 AM

I totally understand Salikons and also agree with korzinska. I have fallen out of love with many bags that I have previously adored. I am rather reticent about selling quickly though as I have been known to fall back in love again too. I think we are fickle and changeable and thats why we are so interesting LOL.

In the past I have suddently found I suddently don't like bags and have to get rid of them as soon as possible as I can't stand to have them around. I suppose this is in some ways a reaction of guilt as I can't justify spending large amounts of money on things I don't absolutely love.

Ali-bagpuss · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:26 AM

I can totally understand this too Salikons. The Mabel and the Roxy are so similar in size and I suppose that Oak and Pebble are from the same sort of colour spectrum so would be worn with the same things.

Lillemy_74 · Oct 9th, 2009, 09:47 AM

Give it some time, maybe you'll love mabel again when the novelty of the roxy wears off a bit

Also agree with you Korzinka... it's not completely normal to be thinking about bags so much of the day as many of us do. However, it's not neccessarily a bad addiction... as long as it's within reason / size of wallet

salikons · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:06 AM

I was afraid it was only me, but this seems to be normal, well almost normal anyway

I must say give things time is not in my nature. At least if I look at how I am when it comes to clothes. When I no longer can see myself wearing them, then I don't anymore. Then they just sit in the wardrobe until next cleaning out and then they usually end up at the salvation army, or any other chatiryshop.

bluecat_00 · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:36 AM

Its amazing how alike we are all here. I suggested to not be rash but DH says I am the most impatient and impulsive person he has ever met.

salikons · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:45 AM

Originally Posted by bluecat_00

Its amazing how alike we are all here. I suggested to not be rash but DH says I am the most impatient and impulsive person he has ever met.

That could have been said, by my DH, in fact, it has been said by my DH a lot of times

mulberrymania · Oct 9th, 2009, 10:53 AM

becareful ...or you will end up like me .....LOL

Selkie · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by bluecat_00

Its amazing how alike we are all here. I suggested to not be rash but DH says I am the most impatient and impulsive person he has ever met.

I thought that was me, oh dear!

klp0213 · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:10 AM

Salikons, I too am incredibly fickle, loving something one minute and hating it the next. As soon as I get that feeling about a bag then it has to go. I won't use it if I don't love it and I certainly wouldn't want to keep a bag that I don't love.

The way I look at it, if I've enjoyed using it and found something I like better then there is no harm done in selling it on. The only time I regretted this decision was the first oak Rosie I had - never bonded with it due to it being brand new and quite stiff. So, I sold it, immediately regretted it and then bought a pre-loved one instead which has been used by me a lot and I love it.

salikons · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by mulberrymania

becareful ...or you will end up like me .....LOL

I will try not to.

bluecat_00 · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:15 AM

Originally Posted by mulberrymania

becareful ...or you will end up like me .....LOL

The bag in your avatar is the most beautiful bays I've ever seen!

Linnea · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:17 AM

I think you are one happy girl if you fall out of love with an older bag when buying a new, similar one. That will help you keep your collection under control and prevent you from keeping bags that will not get enough use. I don't see anything wrong in being impulsive if it is equally easy for you to buy stuff as it is to get rid of it.

My problem is that I make decisions to buy stuff in an instant, but then I have a really hard time letting anything go

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Flossie · Oct 9th, 2009, 11:26 AM

Salikons , sell it and move on if you're not using it ! I've changed my collection around a bit this year , still have a little bit more tweaking to do as I intend to use every bag I own .

Oct 9th, 2009, 08:50 AM	#1
salikons OP Mulberry Baymaniac Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Sweden, Sundsvall Posts: 1,803	lost that loving feeling I have totally lost the loving feeling for my pebble mabel since I bought my Roxanne. It feels so strange. Last winter I used mabel and liked her, but this year I can't see myself use her at all. When I try her I only feel she isn't right for me anymore. I was a little afraid when this happenend and I thought I perhaps had lost the love for all my other bags after using Roxy, but I still love my bays and my e-w. It just seems to be Mabel that I react to, so I might rehoming her. Think my collection is starting to shrink Has that ever happened to you? That when you bought a new bag you completley loose your love for another simular one?
	__________________ My Mulberrys Bayswater Oak, Black, Choc Large Bayswater Oak, East-West Bayswater Oak, Choc, Roxanne Oak Roxanne A4 tote Oak, Mini Mabel Black goat, Red goat,Somerset shoulderbag Oak Small Anthony Oak My Chanel Black Mini Flap My Louis Vuitton Eva clutch bag *whishlist* Seth, and Baysclutch, LV multicolore pochette and Chanel Medium Flap Last edited by salikons; Oct 9th, 2009 at 09:17 AM.

Oct 9th, 2009, 09:01 AM	#2
korzinka Member Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 189	Has that ever happened to you? That when you bought a now bag you completley loose your love for another simular one?[/QUOTE] Someone is going to get a lucky day on ebay! Of course this happens, and not only with bags unfortunately. The fact is, it is quite right to not want many bags... If to be brutally honest, "love" for bags is possibly an addiction (I am first to confess), and one of the features on the addiction is that we might never be content. "Unloving" the old and "cherishing" the new are all signs of a cycle, to keep addiction going. Designer companies use this to the full! On the other hand, you may be "recovering" from the whole thing? If we all measured how many minutes a day we think of mulberry bags, and measured daily over several weeks, the results would be scarily obvious! How many minutes a day is it healthy to think about bags... 2? 3? If I just time myself posting, I will already count 25! This is with the exception of resellers, who deal with bags professionally, so their "obsession" is not an obsession but professional expertise, making them a living. Don't kill me please!
korzinka Member Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 189

Oct 9th, 2009, 09:16 AM	#3
bluecat_00 Member Joined: Sep 2008 Location: Cambridge, UK Posts: 2,608	I totally understand Salikons and also agree with korzinska. I have fallen out of love with many bags that I have previously adored. I am rather reticent about selling quickly though as I have been known to fall back in love again too. I think we are fickle and changeable and thats why we are so interesting LOL. In the past I have suddently found I suddently don't like bags and have to get rid of them as soon as possible as I can't stand to have them around. I suppose this is in some ways a reaction of guilt as I can't justify spending large amounts of money on things I don't absolutely love.
	__________________ My Mulberry Collection Oak roxy, fuschia ombre bays, navy leopard bays, oak bays, red mabel, black maggie, black belle, antique choc seth My BE Collection Pewter love me, matte purple whisper to me midi, chocolate hug me My Chloe Black medium Betty Last edited by bluecat_00; Oct 9th, 2009 at 09:19 AM.

Oct 9th, 2009, 09:47 AM	#5
Lillemy_74 Member Joined: Mar 2009 Location: Norway Posts: 1,487	Give it some time, maybe you'll love mabel again when the novelty of the roxy wears off a bit Also agree with you Korzinka... it's not completely normal to be thinking about bags so much of the day as many of us do. However, it's not neccessarily a bad addiction... as long as it's within reason / size of wallet
	__________________ My collection Mulberry Chloé Luella Botkier Marc by MJ Arrived: HG# 1: Cerise Glossy Ostrich Daria Hobo & HG # 2: RN Ostrich Bayswater!!

Oct 9th, 2009, 10:06 AM	#6
salikons OP Mulberry Baymaniac Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Sweden, Sundsvall Posts: 1,803	I was afraid it was only me, but this seems to be normal, well almost normal anyway I must say give things time is not in my nature. At least if I look at how I am when it comes to clothes. When I no longer can see myself wearing them, then I don't anymore. Then they just sit in the wardrobe until next cleaning out and then they usually end up at the salvation army, or any other chatiryshop.
	__________________ My Mulberrys Bayswater Oak, Black, Choc Large Bayswater Oak, East-West Bayswater Oak, Choc, Roxanne Oak Roxanne A4 tote Oak, Mini Mabel Black goat, Red goat,Somerset shoulderbag Oak Small Anthony Oak My Chanel Black Mini Flap My Louis Vuitton Eva clutch bag *whishlist* Seth, and Baysclutch, LV multicolore pochette and Chanel Medium Flap

Oct 9th, 2009, 09:26 AM	#4
Ali-bagpuss Hermes,LV & Mulberry Joined: May 2007 Location: South Coast, England Posts: 11,442	I can totally understand this too Salikons. The Mabel and the Roxy are so similar in size and I suppose that Oak and Pebble are from the same sort of colour spectrum so would be worn with the same things.

Oct 9th, 2009, 10:36 AM	#7
bluecat_00 Member Joined: Sep 2008 Location: Cambridge, UK Posts: 2,608	Its amazing how alike we are all here. I suggested to not be rash but DH says I am the most impatient and impulsive person he has ever met.
	__________________ My Mulberry Collection Oak roxy, fuschia ombre bays, navy leopard bays, oak bays, red mabel, black maggie, black belle, antique choc seth My BE Collection Pewter love me, matte purple whisper to me midi, chocolate hug me My Chloe Black medium Betty

Oct 9th, 2009, 10:53 AM	#9
mulberrymania Member Joined: May 2007 Posts: 935	becareful ...or you will end up like me .....LOL
mulberrymania Member Joined: May 2007 Posts: 935

Oct 9th, 2009, 11:10 AM	#11
klp0213 Member Joined: Sep 2008 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 6,470	Salikons, I too am incredibly fickle, loving something one minute and hating it the next. As soon as I get that feeling about a bag then it has to go. I won't use it if I don't love it and I certainly wouldn't want to keep a bag that I don't love. The way I look at it, if I've enjoyed using it and found something I like better then there is no harm done in selling it on. The only time I regretted this decision was the first oak Rosie I had - never bonded with it due to it being brand new and quite stiff. So, I sold it, immediately regretted it and then bought a pre-loved one instead which has been used by me a lot and I love it.
	__________________ My Mulberries Hayworth, Bays & wrinkled patent sm Bays clutch Effie, Rosemary & Bays, Effie, Bays & Martha Ledbury, Mabel Wishlist: ginger Annie, plum glace Bays or Ledbury

Oct 9th, 2009, 11:17 AM	#14
Linnea Member Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,163	I think you are one happy girl if you fall out of love with an older bag when buying a new, similar one. That will help you keep your collection under control and prevent you from keeping bags that will not get enough use. I don't see anything wrong in being impulsive if it is equally easy for you to buy stuff as it is to get rid of it. My problem is that I make decisions to buy stuff in an instant, but then I have a really hard time letting anything go .
Linnea Member Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,163

Oct 9th, 2009, 11:26 AM	#15
Flossie Member Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 7,009	Salikons , sell it and move on if you're not using it ! I've changed my collection around a bit this year , still have a little bit more tweaking to do as I intend to use every bag I own .
Flossie Member Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 7,009

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