homeless and frustrated!

candypants1100 · Jul 1st, 2008, 02:31 PM

ok, this is going to be me venting. sigh. ugh.

i am a teacher, and have my summers off. bf is an athlete and his off season is the summer as well. he trains during the summer with a trainer about an hour and a half from where we were living. about a month or two before school was over for me, i said, 'ok what are we going to do about our living situation? my lease is up at the end of june and we want to live near your trainer, right?' he said absolutely, that he was already on it.

so. the family of a guy who trains with the same guy offered their place up to my bf. they said, 'its a beautiful, 3 bedroom condo, its going to be great, we will furnish it for you, and don't worry about money, we'll take care of you. no body is living there, and it will be yours for the summer.' they went on to say that the trainer had spoken so highly of my bf that they really wanted to help him out, as they felt they owed the trainer. so my bf said to me, 'ok this is kind of weird, i know the family is pretty loaded, but still, they aren't asking us to pay anything?!' i said i thought that sounded a little weird, and maybe he should call. so he kept calling the house, and whenever he did, the father wasn't home, or the mother just brushed off his questions, and their son (my bf's age) said 'yeah yeah its all set just let us know when you're moving in.'

so a few weeks later, bf's acquaintance calls and says HE'S living in the apartment now, but that its not a big deal, there are two other rooms and we could have the master bedroom. so bf is a little weirded out, like, 'hmm ok now my gf is going to be living with this guy i dont really know...' anyway, we were like ,'whateve,r its free.' so. two days before we're supposed to move our stuff down, the kid from the family calls and says we need to pay 3,000 dollars for TWO MONTHS ONLY (we needed it for three), and that he wants the money up front. this is after months of my bf calling to ask details about when we can move in, what utilities we need to pay, how much for rent, and each time they brushed him off and told him not to worry about it. now, 3,000 for the whole summer would have been fine, but not for two months, and definitely not for having to share a place with a guy we don't really know that well.

so now we are staying with my aunt which is close to his trainer but its still uncomfortable having to cook in a kitchen that's not yours, and not really having your own space.... i'm so frustrated. we've been hunting craigslist forever trying to find a place... but people (understandably) dont want to rent for just three months.... we're going to look at a place today at 4pm... wish me luck!!!!!

LeeMiller · Jul 1st, 2008, 02:35 PM

Try college and professional school listings, I know that alot of law students rent out their places during the summer when they get a job. Otherwise you're lucky your aunt is willing to have you there!

socalgem · Jul 1st, 2008, 03:27 PM

If it seems too good to be true, it normally is. Why didn't you have a back up plan, just in case?

I don't know the cost of living where you are at, but 3k for 2 mths in the summer, would be a steal here.

I hope you find something soon. Good luck!!

Allisonfaye · Jul 1st, 2008, 05:03 PM

Boy that sucks! Good luck finding something.

bnjj · Jul 1st, 2008, 05:11 PM

Ugh. That's horrible. I hope you find something soon.

artjen · Jul 1st, 2008, 05:14 PM

Aw I hope you find something soon.

fieldsinspring · Jul 1st, 2008, 05:22 PM

That's terrible! I hope you guys find something soon but that is great you are able to stay with family in the mean time!

cola262 · Jul 1st, 2008, 05:34 PM

Ugh, I hate unreliable people like that. It's tricky to deal with friends/acquaintances because we may fail to draft formal agreements and deposits because we trust them. I wish you the best! There are a lot of apartments opening up for 3 months and hope you find a great place soon!

cherll · Jul 1st, 2008, 10:52 PM

ugh, unreliable people are not cool! i hope you guys are able to find a place soon! hugs!

PurseFanatic · Jul 1st, 2008, 11:24 PM

So you're not really homeless? You have somewhere to go. The only thing I can tell you is nothing is ever free, I would have shied away from that deal from the beginning.

Sorry to be pessimistic, but I've learned alot of things the hard way.

socalgem · Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:07 AM

^ Exactly, they should've had a back up plan.

juneping · Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:48 PM

So..how did it go?? any update??

BagsRmyLife · Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:08 PM

Good luck and let us know what happened.

IntlSet · Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:37 PM

Wow, that sounds like a very bizarre situation. I would have had my guard up from the first minute -- as they say, there's no free lunch in America.

If you're not in NYC, SF or Chicago, you shouldn't have a problem finding a place. Don't worry too much!

guccimamma · Jul 2nd, 2008, 02:05 PM

OK, so you are not really homeless....the title had me a bit concerned.

I wouldn't accept free lodging from anybody...with the exception of my parents, too much weirdness...i hope you can find a better situation asap.

Jul 1st, 2008, 03:27 PM	#3
socalgem Because I can... Joined: Apr 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,364	If it seems too good to be true, it normally is. Why didn't you have a back up plan, just in case? I don't know the cost of living where you are at, but 3k for 2 mths in the summer, would be a steal here. I hope you find something soon. Good luck!! __________________ Life is too short to drink cheap champagne.

Jul 1st, 2008, 05:03 PM	#4
Allisonfaye Member Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,933	Boy that sucks! Good luck finding something. __________________ Ink City, tomato first, white first, violet first, black flat brass first, rouge vif city, white city.

Jul 1st, 2008, 05:11 PM	#5
bnjj ♪ Jovi Junkie ♪ Joined: Apr 2007 Location: Bon Jovi Blvd. Posts: 3,564	Ugh. That's horrible. I hope you find something soon. __________________

Jul 1st, 2008, 05:22 PM	#7
fieldsinspring is not giving up! Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Where the Sun Is! Posts: 6,069	That's terrible! I hope you guys find something soon but that is great you are able to stay with family in the mean time! __________________ Don't Give up what you want MOST for what you want NOW

Jul 1st, 2008, 05:34 PM	#8
cola262 Member Joined: Oct 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 3,393	Ugh, I hate unreliable people like that. It's tricky to deal with friends/acquaintances because we may fail to draft formal agreements and deposits because we trust them. I wish you the best! There are a lot of apartments opening up for 3 months and hope you find a great place soon! __________________ Speedyshaper.com Solutions for your sagging bags.Since March 07

Jul 1st, 2008, 02:31 PM	#1
candypants1100 Member Joined: May 2008 Location: connecticut Posts: 1,008	ok, this is going to be me venting. sigh. ugh. i am a teacher, and have my summers off. bf is an athlete and his off season is the summer as well. he trains during the summer with a trainer about an hour and a half from where we were living. about a month or two before school was over for me, i said, 'ok what are we going to do about our living situation? my lease is up at the end of june and we want to live near your trainer, right?' he said absolutely, that he was already on it. so. the family of a guy who trains with the same guy offered their place up to my bf. they said, 'its a beautiful, 3 bedroom condo, its going to be great, we will furnish it for you, and don't worry about money, we'll take care of you. no body is living there, and it will be yours for the summer.' they went on to say that the trainer had spoken so highly of my bf that they really wanted to help him out, as they felt they owed the trainer. so my bf said to me, 'ok this is kind of weird, i know the family is pretty loaded, but still, they aren't asking us to pay anything?!' i said i thought that sounded a little weird, and maybe he should call. so he kept calling the house, and whenever he did, the father wasn't home, or the mother just brushed off his questions, and their son (my bf's age) said 'yeah yeah its all set just let us know when you're moving in.' so a few weeks later, bf's acquaintance calls and says HE'S living in the apartment now, but that its not a big deal, there are two other rooms and we could have the master bedroom. so bf is a little weirded out, like, 'hmm ok now my gf is going to be living with this guy i dont really know...' anyway, we were like ,'whateve,r its free.' so. two days before we're supposed to move our stuff down, the kid from the family calls and says we need to pay 3,000 dollars for TWO MONTHS ONLY (we needed it for three), and that he wants the money up front. this is after months of my bf calling to ask details about when we can move in, what utilities we need to pay, how much for rent, and each time they brushed him off and told him not to worry about it. now, 3,000 for the whole summer would have been fine, but not for two months, and definitely not for having to share a place with a guy we don't really know that well. so now we are staying with my aunt which is close to his trainer but its still uncomfortable having to cook in a kitchen that's not yours, and not really having your own space.... i'm so frustrated. we've been hunting craigslist forever trying to find a place... but people (understandably) dont want to rent for just three months.... we're going to look at a place today at 4pm... wish me luck!!!!!

Jul 1st, 2008, 02:35 PM	#2
LeeMiller Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 1,694	Try college and professional school listings, I know that alot of law students rent out their places during the summer when they get a job. Otherwise you're lucky your aunt is willing to have you there!

Jul 1st, 2008, 05:14 PM	#6
artjen Young @ Art Joined: Oct 2007 Location: Arizona Posts: 623	Aw I hope you find something soon.

Jul 1st, 2008, 10:52 PM	#9
cherll juicy on my coach Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 1,895	ugh, unreliable people are not cool! i hope you guys are able to find a place soon! hugs!

Jul 1st, 2008, 11:24 PM	#10
PurseFanatic Member Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 1,669	So you're not really homeless? You have somewhere to go. The only thing I can tell you is nothing is ever free, I would have shied away from that deal from the beginning. Sorry to be pessimistic, but I've learned alot of things the hard way. __________________ My sweetie's latest ultrasound pic It's a girl!!

Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:07 AM	#11
socalgem Because I can... Joined: Apr 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,364	^ Exactly, they should've had a back up plan. __________________ Life is too short to drink cheap champagne.

Jul 2nd, 2008, 12:48 PM	#12
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 1,562	So..how did it go?? any update?? __________________ wish list: purse ban until the cc is paid off

Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:08 PM	#13
BagsRmyLife Member Joined: Mar 2007 Location: - NyC - Posts: 3,404	Good luck and let us know what happened.

Jul 2nd, 2008, 01:37 PM	#14
IntlSet Bonjour! Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Chicago Posts: 10,592	Wow, that sounds like a very bizarre situation. I would have had my guard up from the first minute -- as they say, there's no free lunch in America. If you're not in NYC, SF or Chicago, you shouldn't have a problem finding a place. Don't worry too much! __________________ http://drinkmorechampagne.wordpress.com/

Jul 2nd, 2008, 02:05 PM	#15
guccimamma guccimamma Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 2,642	OK, so you are not really homeless....the title had me a bit concerned. I wouldn't accept free lodging from anybody...with the exception of my parents, too much weirdness...i hope you can find a better situation asap.