Do you make more than your SO?

~Fabulousity~ · Jun 26th, 2008, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Zophie

I like that way of doing it. I had a joint account and only a joint account with an ex I was engaged to way back when. I will never do that again.

I did too, and had very bad experiences don't think i'll ever do that again!

socalgem · Jun 26th, 2008, 03:59 PM

I was taught it is better to have things separate, except for the joint things. Of all my CC's I only have 2 that we have together. It has worked for 17 yrs of marriage, don't see it changing anytime soon.

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Originally Posted by Zophie

I like that way of doing it. I had a joint account and only a joint account with an ex I was engaged to way back when. I will never do that again.

caxe · Jun 26th, 2008, 04:39 PM

I make a fraction of what my BF makes, somewhere in the neighborhood of only about 20%, currently. I wish I DID out-earn him. It would make me feel like more of a woman. Oh, but one day...

...one day, Caxe.

fieldsinspring · Jun 26th, 2008, 04:48 PM

My dh and I have been married for 13 years now and I have been a sahm until as of late. So obviously he has made all or 90% of the money. In our relationship it is "our" money, not "mine" or "his" and it has always worked out. That is in marriage though.

Zophie · Jun 26th, 2008, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by socalgem

I was taught it is better to have things separate, except for the joint things. Of all my CC's I only have 2 that we have together. It has worked for 17 yrs of marriage, don't see it changing anytime soon.

That's the way my parents are and they've been married over 40 years, so it works for them.

Peeking_Around · Jun 26th, 2008, 05:47 PM

Mine makes more than me. So he pays for the majority of things. We have a few things that are separate from one another - I have 2 credit cards in my name only - he has a few items that are only in his name .. but he pays for my credit cards -

I've been really bad though and had gotten into the habit of pretty much spending all that I earn on purses and just crap. I didn't even realize how much I was spending until I sat down and wrote it all out. It was like a big slap in the face. So BOTH of us have sat down and reorganized items and given each other a spending allowance. That's it for me - especially since we're saving for a down payment on a house.

I look forward to the day that I make more than him

artjen · Jun 26th, 2008, 05:53 PM

My husband makes more than I do. He also pays for more than I do. We are very fair about it and money has never been an issue between us.

socalgem · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:27 AM

Congrats to them, 40 years is a long time. I hope to be say one day I've been married that long.

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Originally Posted by Zophie

That's the way my parents are and they've been married over 40 years, so it works for them.

FrancescaAveiro · Jun 28th, 2008, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by fieldsinspring

My dh and I have been married for 13 years now and I have been a sahm until as of late. So obviously he has made all or 90% of the money. In our relationship it is "our" money, not "mine" or "his" and it has always worked out. That is in marriage though.

that's what me and my bf r like.....but we're not married lol!

girl11 · Jun 29th, 2008, 01:28 AM

He makes 1/3 more than me. Pretty big difference though.

Zophie · Jun 29th, 2008, 04:22 AM

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Originally Posted by socalgem

Congrats to them, 40 years is a long time. I hope to be say one day I've been married that long.

I know, it IS a long time! They drive each other crazy but it's like they belong together. They got married pretty young, around 21.

BalenciagaLove · Jun 29th, 2008, 12:37 PM

My hubby sticks it to me! LOL! I make more than him, but not by too much. That said, even though more of the bills get paid by me, my discretionary spending is much higher than his. We are both savers in general, so it has worked out for the most part. Our biggest expense is my parents. If I could find a way to limit that, it'd be terrific.

bedhead · Jul 1st, 2008, 01:00 PM

I make about 4-5x what my husband makes (he is a freelance photographer, so his income varies). We have relatively low monthly costs - we own our condo outright and just pay utilities, common charges, and quarterly property taxes, so we split that down the middle. We each pay for our own cell phone bills (mine is much higher) and we have our own accounts, but we do have a joint account for joint expenses. When a big household expense comes up, I pay for it, and I buy all the groceries and almost all of his clothes. I also fund all of our travel, which is a fairly significant expense. We are both happy with this arrangement.

We discuss finances on a regular basis and make sure we are both okay with all major financial decisions before making them. That is really the key - communicating and compromising with your SO. Lack of communication and then harboring resentment for something you think your SO "should" have known is the best way to mess up a relationship.

candypants1100 · Jul 1st, 2008, 03:21 PM

nope, SO makes way more... we live together, and i pay little bills, he pays bigger ones, we each pay our own cell bill, and we do 70/30 on rent.

Jun 26th, 2008, 04:39 PM	#33
caxe I has ur gif. Location: The Southeast, US	I make a fraction of what my BF makes, somewhere in the neighborhood of only about 20%, currently. I wish I DID out-earn him. It would make me feel like more of a woman. Oh, but one day... ...one day, Caxe. __________________ Christmas without fruitcake is like St. Sigmund's Day without the headless boy.

Jun 26th, 2008, 04:48 PM	#34
fieldsinspring Trying to hold on... Location: Where the Sun Is!	My dh and I have been married for 13 years now and I have been a sahm until as of late. So obviously he has made all or 90% of the money. In our relationship it is "our" money, not "mine" or "his" and it has always worked out. That is in marriage though. __________________ Don't Give up what you want MOST for what you want NOW

Jun 26th, 2008, 05:47 PM	#36
Peeking_Around Live, Love, Laugh Location: On the east coast~ right on the beach	Mine makes more than me. So he pays for the majority of things. We have a few things that are separate from one another - I have 2 credit cards in my name only - he has a few items that are only in his name .. but he pays for my credit cards - I've been really bad though and had gotten into the habit of pretty much spending all that I earn on purses and just crap. I didn't even realize how much I was spending until I sat down and wrote it all out. It was like a big slap in the face. So BOTH of us have sat down and reorganized items and given each other a spending allowance. That's it for me - especially since we're saving for a down payment on a house. I look forward to the day that I make more than him __________________ I love Tano's Wish List: Black or Truffle Tano Boogie Tano Pleasuredome My fur babies:

Jun 29th, 2008, 12:37 PM	#42
BalenciagaLove Plisse Me! Location: SF Bay Area	My hubby sticks it to me! LOL! I make more than him, but not by too much. That said, even though more of the bills get paid by me, my discretionary spending is much higher than his. We are both savers in general, so it has worked out for the most part. Our biggest expense is my parents. If I could find a way to limit that, it'd be terrific. __________________ If I could remember all the names of these particles, I'd be a botanist! - Enrico Fermi

Jun 26th, 2008, 05:53 PM	#37
artjen Young @ Art Location: Arizona	My husband makes more than I do. He also pays for more than I do. We are very fair about it and money has never been an issue between us.

Jun 29th, 2008, 01:28 AM	#40
girl11 Member Location: New York	He makes 1/3 more than me. Pretty big difference though.

Jul 1st, 2008, 01:00 PM	#43
bedhead Member Location: NYC	I make about 4-5x what my husband makes (he is a freelance photographer, so his income varies). We have relatively low monthly costs - we own our condo outright and just pay utilities, common charges, and quarterly property taxes, so we split that down the middle. We each pay for our own cell phone bills (mine is much higher) and we have our own accounts, but we do have a joint account for joint expenses. When a big household expense comes up, I pay for it, and I buy all the groceries and almost all of his clothes. I also fund all of our travel, which is a fairly significant expense. We are both happy with this arrangement. We discuss finances on a regular basis and make sure we are both okay with all major financial decisions before making them. That is really the key - communicating and compromising with your SO. Lack of communication and then harboring resentment for something you think your SO "should" have known is the best way to mess up a relationship.

Jul 1st, 2008, 03:21 PM	#44
candypants1100 Member Location: candyland	nope, SO makes way more... we live together, and i pay little bills, he pays bigger ones, we each pay our own cell bill, and we do 70/30 on rent.