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heathie02 · Jun 30th, 2009, 11:37 AM

Glamb, hope things get better, you can always vent here

legs, your husband should be someone you can vent to and not be afraid of his response, he needs to work on that
I can vent to my husband about anything and everything, he probably thinks I am crazy half the time, come to think of it, I am crazy half the time

glamblover · Jun 30th, 2009, 01:03 PM

Originally Posted by legsieloveslamb

I am soooooooooo right there w/ you, girl, it's not funny!! My DH........ ugh....... I want to vent sooooooooo bad, but too damn paranoid. The thing is- I have been unable to state my mind to him b/c his reaction(s) will only make me sick, most likely put me in the ER for an anxiety attack and then I'd be stuck w/ a bill I can't pay. So I've just kept it all in. Horrible I know, but I'm freakin' sick of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've contemplated on running away!! But in reality- this house, is my house.

aww legs i hope it gets better. i have anxiety to but i take medication for it. best thing i ever did.

so today my friend told me that my husband texted her from my cell responding to something she said when her and i were having a somewhat heated discussion... omfg im so pissed i cant even go home right now...bahhh...

so im at borders with my ringer turned off so i can spend the day with my nose in a book...my favorite past time!

OH and thanks for the response about ebay...so if i cant leave a negative response then will i be able to leave one if she doesnt pay after i file a non payment complaint? this person has 99.1% good ratings and she has 229 or so feedbacks...so if they dont pay do i still get stuck with the selling fees? because when the person won the willbury i couldnt find out how to remove the fees...so i had to pay to list it, then pay for it being sold (although i never got paid) then i had to pay to relist it again?! crazy...

RaeBelle · Jun 30th, 2009, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by glamblover

OH and thanks for the response about ebay...so if i cant leave a negative response then will i be able to leave one if she doesnt pay after i file a non payment complaint? this person has 99.1% good ratings and she has 229 or so feedbacks...so if they dont pay do i still get stuck with the selling fees? because when the person won the willbury i couldnt find out how to remove the fees...so i had to pay to list it, then pay for it being sold (although i never got paid) then i had to pay to relist it again?! crazy...

Sellers can't leave negatives at all for buyers anymore. It's a stupid policy. I think with the NPB you can get some of your fees back, the fees for it selling I think.

Hope Borders is being kind to you. Reading a book always makes me feel better.

glamblover · Jun 30th, 2009, 01:41 PM

Originally Posted by RaeBelle

Sellers can't leave negatives at all for buyers anymore.

why is that?

RaeBelle · Jun 30th, 2009, 01:53 PM

Originally Posted by glamblover

why is that?

Because eBay doesn't like sellers anymore

I really don't know. It's a policy they announced a little while back. Only buyers can leave negatives now.

glamblover · Jun 30th, 2009, 03:42 PM

^ hmm well that's nice. I messaged the buyer and told her she has til tomorrow at 9am to pay or I will file a complaint and relist the wallet...I don't understand why someone wouldn't pay for a saddle wallet for 70...that's a good price!

legsieloveslamb · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:33 PM

I've been taking antianx meds for YEARS!!!!! It helps, but ugh. I have quite a "history" with him the ugly and the good. But he can be excessively like a box of chocolates- I just never know what I'm going to get. It takes a great deal of patience to be with someone who has a mental illness (I swear he's bi-polar), knows it, yet just doesn't do anything about it. It really takes a toll on a person. I'm becoming less and less tolerant. There's a big diff between venting to your spouse over things compared to having real issues that cannot seem to be addressed or solved b/c he is too stubborn-headed to do anything about it or doesn't know how. And I've taken some DRASTIC measures to "change" things- I'm just out of energy.

Originally Posted by g

lamblover;11542853

aww legs i hope it gets better. i have anxiety to but i take medication for it. best thing i ever did.

so today my friend told me that my husband texted her from my cell responding to something she said when her and i were having a somewhat heated discussion... omfg im so pissed i cant even go home right now...bahhh...

so im at borders with my ringer turned off so i can spend the day with my nose in a book...my favorite past time!

OH and thanks for the response about ebay...so if i cant leave a negative response then will i be able to leave one if she doesnt pay after i file a non payment complaint? this person has 99.1% good ratings and she has 229 or so feedbacks...so if they dont pay do i still get stuck with the selling fees? because when the person won the willbury i couldnt find out how to remove the fees...so i had to pay to list it, then pay for it being sold (although i never got paid) then i had to pay to relist it again?! crazy...

legsieloveslamb · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:34 PM

Originally Posted by unluckystars

start beating him

LOL! If you only knew our past.

heathie02 · Jun 30th, 2009, 05:53 PM

Originally Posted by glamblover

^ hmm well that's nice. I messaged the buyer and told her she has til tomorrow at 9am to pay or I will file a complaint and relist the wallet...I don't understand why someone wouldn't pay for a saddle wallet for 70...that's a good price!

I had a nonpaying bidder one time and I only gave him three days. When I filed the claim we both agreed to cancel and I offered it to the second highest bidder who accepted. They shouldn't bid if they don't have the funds now. I give 24 hours now to pay for my auctions because it makes me so mad.

alliemia · Jun 30th, 2009, 06:02 PM

sometimes i get messages when people buy from me on ebay, saying they need more time to get the money. i do allow that, i mean, it's not ideal, i prefer to get payment right away and ship next day. but it just boggles me that people are bidding, yet aren't prepared to pay. so odd. and if you need to scrape together money last minute, likely you shouldn't be buying non-essentials. but i guess i'm just happy to get a sale, so can't complain over a few extra days. it's when they don't contact you at all that's a pain.

glamblover · Jun 30th, 2009, 09:28 PM

No one else bid :/ out of 14 watchers...I gave her til tomorrow because ebay says you can't file a claim til 7 days..

I'm irritated!

I'm here with my nephew and he's really sick. His temp is 104 and we gave him tylenol. But it didn't go down so I put him in a cool bath. I think I'm going to take him to urgent care. Poor baby

CeruleanGirl · Jun 30th, 2009, 09:50 PM

Nothing pisses me off more than nonpaying bidders. People tend to buy knowing they can squeeze a few more days out before having to pay in hopes of scraping up the money. They never do and they never pay. Boo!

I've started figuring my own prices for stuff, listing it for 30 days with BIN only and immediate payment required. It has completely solved the problem.

Usually this means pricing things a little lower than I would hope to sell it for, but it eliminates the hassle.

Take the baby to Urgent Care if the cool bath doesn't help. I hope he gets better!

legsieloveslamb · Jun 30th, 2009, 10:00 PM

Originally Posted by glamblover

No one else bid :/ out of 14 watchers...I gave her til tomorrow because ebay says you can't file a claim til 7 days..

I'm irritated!

I'm here with my nephew and he's really sick. His temp is 104 and we gave him tylenol. But it didn't go down so I put him in a cool bath. I think I'm going to take him to urgent care. Poor baby

How old is he? Children's Motrin used to be what most dr's recommended, but w/ all the "changes" that have been made I'm sure you are doing the right thing.

unluckystars · Jun 30th, 2009, 10:12 PM

when i win an auction i cant pay for yet i always send a message letting them know when i am. i check their requirements first of course before bidding.

razorkiss58 · Jun 30th, 2009, 10:16 PM

UGH i hate USPS !!!! i ordered stuff off of leathercare.com for my bags
and they left it at the wrong aprt with no one living in it and now i cant find it
they didnt even give me a tracking number till today and it was here on the 26th

Jun 30th, 2009, 11:37 AM	#2671
heathie02 cowboys fanatic Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,531	Glamb, hope things get better, you can always vent here legs, your husband should be someone you can vent to and not be afraid of his response, he needs to work on that I can vent to my husband about anything and everything, he probably thinks I am crazy half the time, come to think of it, I am crazy half the time
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Jun 30th, 2009, 03:42 PM	#2676
glamblover hopelessly addicted Joined: Dec 2008 Location: vacaville, ca Posts: 935	^ hmm well that's nice. I messaged the buyer and told her she has til tomorrow at 9am to pay or I will file a complaint and relist the wallet...I don't understand why someone wouldn't pay for a saddle wallet for 70...that's a good price!
	__________________ collection: rasta commodore, rasta carslile, silver mandy, cheetah exeter, cheetah grantham, lux and sig marchmonts, trenchtown manchester clutch, marigold broadgate, berry and vanilla offbeat hobos, lip/saddle commodore, lip/saddle chateau! wallets- lip/saddle, rasta, silver, leopard, bullseye, saddle, cheetah keychain wallet.

Jun 30th, 2009, 09:28 PM	#2681
glamblover hopelessly addicted Joined: Dec 2008 Location: vacaville, ca Posts: 935	No one else bid :/ out of 14 watchers...I gave her til tomorrow because ebay says you can't file a claim til 7 days.. I'm irritated! I'm here with my nephew and he's really sick. His temp is 104 and we gave him tylenol. But it didn't go down so I put him in a cool bath. I think I'm going to take him to urgent care. Poor baby
	__________________ collection: rasta commodore, rasta carslile, silver mandy, cheetah exeter, cheetah grantham, lux and sig marchmonts, trenchtown manchester clutch, marigold broadgate, berry and vanilla offbeat hobos, lip/saddle commodore, lip/saddle chateau! wallets- lip/saddle, rasta, silver, leopard, bullseye, saddle, cheetah keychain wallet.

Jun 30th, 2009, 09:50 PM	#2682
CeruleanGirl Rock Steady Vibe Joined: May 2008 Location: California Posts: 1,086	Nothing pisses me off more than nonpaying bidders. People tend to buy knowing they can squeeze a few more days out before having to pay in hopes of scraping up the money. They never do and they never pay. Boo! I've started figuring my own prices for stuff, listing it for 30 days with BIN only and immediate payment required. It has completely solved the problem. Usually this means pricing things a little lower than I would hope to sell it for, but it eliminates the hassle. Take the baby to Urgent Care if the cool bath doesn't help. I hope he gets better!
	__________________ "Be concentrated & leonine in the hunt for what is your true nourishment" ~Rumi

Jun 30th, 2009, 06:02 PM	#2680
alliemia love shopping!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: NY Posts: 3,929	sometimes i get messages when people buy from me on ebay, saying they need more time to get the money. i do allow that, i mean, it's not ideal, i prefer to get payment right away and ship next day. but it just boggles me that people are bidding, yet aren't prepared to pay. so odd. and if you need to scrape together money last minute, likely you shouldn't be buying non-essentials. but i guess i'm just happy to get a sale, so can't complain over a few extra days. it's when they don't contact you at all that's a pain.

Jun 30th, 2009, 10:12 PM	#2684
unluckystars Member Joined: Dec 2008 Location: philly Posts: 723	when i win an auction i cant pay for yet i always send a message letting them know when i am. i check their requirements first of course before bidding.

Jun 30th, 2009, 10:16 PM	#2685
razorkiss58 Got handbags? Joined: Nov 2007 Location: Southern California Posts: 194	UGH i hate USPS !!!! i ordered stuff off of leathercare.com for my bags and they left it at the wrong aprt with no one living in it and now i cant find it they didnt even give me a tracking number till today and it was here on the 26th

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