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No Cute · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:04 AM

Originally Posted by irainei

^^ Thanks...I think it's just this time of year magnified by the prego hormones. It's my birthday tomorrow and I always, ALWAYS get into a funk the week of...can't explain it!

I'm sorry.

Mine put me in a horrible funk this year. Not sure why yours does it to you, but I'm pretty sure it's the first year without Mom thing. My friend goes into a funk at hers, but she is adopted and searching for family. Guess there are a million reasons to funk out, eh?

No Cute · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:04 AM

Happy birthday, Irainei.

Happy birthday, TL.

duranie70 · Jul 7th, 2009, 01:39 PM

Happy Birthday TL...
I am watching the MJ memorial.

Euridice · Jul 7th, 2009, 02:18 PM

Happy birthday, Irainei!!! Don't be funky! Well, you can be funky, just don't be in a funk.

TL, happy upcoming birthday to you, too!

tlloveshim · Jul 7th, 2009, 02:32 PM

Thanks for the birthday wishes! I was hoping the Virginia could be done by my birthday but it's too soon! But I do have the Clementine Hold Me coming and a RM MAMM so those can be birthday pressies! LOL! I'm just so greedy!

sandysandiego · Jul 7th, 2009, 03:11 PM

Happy Birthday Irainie and TL! July is a great time for birthdays! My dh's is this month too.

duranie70 · Jul 7th, 2009, 03:57 PM

Happy Birthday Iranie- you have so much to be happy about, don't be in a funk.
Anyone else cry here when Brooke spoke or when Paris spoke? Oh did I cry and cry.

Soccer Mom · Jul 7th, 2009, 05:18 PM

Originally Posted by duranie70

Happy Birthday Iranie- you have so much to be happy about, don't be in a funk.
Anyone else cry here when Brooke spoke or when Paris spoke? Oh did I cry and cry.

I'm so glad I wasn't alone! I thought Brooke's speech seemed so genuine. Didn't see Paris.

irainei · Jul 7th, 2009, 08:33 PM

I just watched Paris and my heart broke a little...I did cry! So sad, so sad...

Thanks for the early Bday wishes everyone! Today went from disappointed to REALLY disappointed, but I got some good news when I got home, so I'm just back to disappointed. LOL But hey, enough of being a Debbie Downer...so glad for the beautiful purse porn that's been on the forum today!

MorningGlory · Jul 7th, 2009, 08:41 PM

Happy Birthday Irainie and tlloveshim! My Dad's birthday is next week too! Great month

No Cute · Jul 7th, 2009, 09:07 PM

Originally Posted by irainei

I just watched Paris and my heart broke a little...I did cry! So sad, so sad...

Thanks for the early Bday wishes everyone! Today went from disappointed to REALLY disappointed, but I got some good news when I got home, so I'm just back to disappointed. LOL But hey, enough of being a Debbie Downer...so glad for the beautiful purse porn that's been on the forum today!

Not Debbie Downer. Apparently, that is my job around here. After finding you all for my Mom-bag, I watched two friends bury their Moms, a cousin die suddenly, and attended a funeral for an infant. Now (today) my friend is moving her "not well" Mom to her house(literally), and my Mom's favorite sil is dying of an undiagnosed brain disease (I finally got an email from my Uncle just now). Married to Mom's little brother (who Mom helped raise due to age gap....Mom adored no one like her brother, besides me and my brother and my boys), my aunt is to the point of being a danger to herself, falling, can't evacuate her bladder, and had such a bad fall in December, she had surgery. She is to the point of having to be sedated so she doesn't kill herself by accident. I am so pissed (and not surprised) to read that Mom's sister helps Uncle clean once/week (she works part time and can't do more?) and his son sits with her when Uncle has work appointments, which aren't many at this point.

I finally got hold of my Uncle (who was totally pissed with me when I moved Mom and now has chilled after seeing what I lived) and learned all this. He's been pretty busy, but clearly could have found time...but I can let that one go. BUT. NOT. ONE. F-ing. COUSIN. BOTHERED to tell me. THERE ARE 13 of us (take away me and my brother, who don't know squat, obviously.) NOT ONE. I was pissed at how they were "unhelpful" and ignored my sick Mom when she lived TWO minutes away, but now this and not telling me? WTF? Pissed isn't a begining.

Anyway, I offered Uncle an email with contacts and medical professionals who were good when Mom was in the area. And I offered him her equipment and will offer him her money that is left (not much) if necessary. But don't tell my brother or husband as they would kill me. But I will not watch her suffer needlessly. I won't. And I won't watch Mom's other child/brother suffer. He is the only one (despite being a jerk to me and bro) that saw Mom every day or every other day the entire time she was in his area.

Well, maybe instead of Debbie-Downer I should take Betty-Bitter and Patty-freaking-pissed-off as my titles.

Logging out and taking my attitude to some cranky woman's forum....anyone know one?

tlloveshim · Jul 7th, 2009, 09:19 PM

I think you have a right to be Patty-freaking-pissed-off, NC. You've really been dealt a lot and sometimes being pissed off can end up helping you purge unpleasant emotions and focus. Take care of yourself in the process so you can take care of others well, OK?

Irainei, sometimes you just gotta be a Debbie downer but that's what everyone is here for, to cheer you up. Get a cup of tea or cocoa and relax. It's time to take care of yourself, you deserve it.

I am a bit of a downer myself but haven't complained yet. But one of my friends has become jealous of our family's relationship with her almost 18 year old dd and has turned on us. My 21 year old son and her dd are interested in one another but aren't dating because she's under 18 right now and my son is focused on getting in a place where he can support a wife so doesn't want to date yet. Her mom, my friend doesn't approve of him. Let me tell you, that yes as a mom I am biased but he's a gem! Even tempered, mild mannered, a gentleman. He's never done drugs, never smoked, never been drunk and is waiting til marriage if you know what I mean. It's not because he doesn't have opportunity, he's just chosen not to because he's seen how those things harm and ruin other's lives. So WTH!? So, anyway, I'm hurt and insulted yet I'm focusing on the fact that it is her problem not mine. A real friend will see the error of her ways and will come back. Otherwise, I don't need people in my life who aren't real friends. So, I'm a bit of a Debbie downer too I guess! Time for some Cocoa!

No Cute · Jul 7th, 2009, 09:26 PM

Doesn't approve? Your friend doesn't approve of your son? Oh. My. Gosh! If it weren't for the kids' mutual interest, I'd be so fast to kick her to the curb....and while it may not be apparent all the time, I really am a compassionate, kind person. But oh man...I'm so sorry.

tlloveshim · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:07 PM

NC, I think it is apparent that you are a compassionate, kind person. Just from your posts I can see that. Being compassionate though doesn't keep us blinded to the hurt others cause, kwim?

Yeah, I think her own sons are not very successful and it makes her feel bad about herself. My kids' mistakes (big or little) don't offend me. I don't feel like a failure if my kids mess up, they're human and so am I. So this is all about her and her own feelings of insecurity. Honestly, she's to be pitied. She'll only hurt her relationship with her own dd if she doesn't see the error of her ways.

How I really prefer to be shallow and talk about handbags! LOL!

duranie70 · Jul 7th, 2009, 11:27 PM

Oh NOcute- I'm so sorry. Such a run of bad luck.
Are you "friends" with these cousins? I always liked the quote about friends are better than family cause you choose your friends but ..I'm an only child and no other family lives near me. You should let them know you are not amused that none of them told you!

My dad has not been too good- he fell twice yesterday. I should go this week to visit.
I'm not very hands on and I have some guilt about that but the relationship of my mom and I has always been a hard one for me... there is something wrong w/ her and I have had to deal with a lot my whole life. I know if I visit once a month and stay 3 hours.. no fighting. It is so easy to start fighting and it is so draining.

TL your son sounds like a gem! Screw your friend... some friend! I'd be so insulted! The nerve.

Jul 7th, 2009, 11:04 AM	#557
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Jul 7th, 2009, 02:18 PM	#559
Euridice Smoooossshh! Joined: Aug 2008 Location: Baltimore Posts: 6,410	Happy birthday, Irainei!!! Don't be funky! Well, you can be funky, just don't be in a funk. TL, happy upcoming birthday to you, too!
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Jul 7th, 2009, 02:32 PM	#560
tlloveshim <3 my puppy! Joined: Mar 2006 Location: The Great Plains Posts: 8,628	Thanks for the birthday wishes! I was hoping the Virginia could be done by my birthday but it's too soon! But I do have the Clementine Hold Me coming and a RM MAMM so those can be birthday pressies! LOL! I'm just so greedy!
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Jul 7th, 2009, 03:11 PM	#561
sandysandiego Member Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 2,484	Happy Birthday Irainie and TL! July is a great time for birthdays! My dh's is this month too.
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Jul 7th, 2009, 08:33 PM	#564
irainei Kissy Face! Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,167	I just watched Paris and my heart broke a little...I did cry! So sad, so sad... Thanks for the early Bday wishes everyone! Today went from disappointed to REALLY disappointed, but I got some good news when I got home, so I'm just back to disappointed. LOL But hey, enough of being a Debbie Downer...so glad for the beautiful purse porn that's been on the forum today!
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Jul 7th, 2009, 01:39 PM	#558
duranie70 Handbag Addict Joined: Aug 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 3,244	Happy Birthday TL... I am watching the MJ memorial.

Jul 7th, 2009, 03:57 PM	#562
duranie70 Handbag Addict Joined: Aug 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 3,244	Happy Birthday Iranie- you have so much to be happy about, don't be in a funk. Anyone else cry here when Brooke spoke or when Paris spoke? Oh did I cry and cry.

Jul 7th, 2009, 08:41 PM	#565
MorningGlory Member Joined: Sep 2006 Location: Bay Area Posts: 431	Happy Birthday Irainie and tlloveshim! My Dad's birthday is next week too! Great month

Jul 7th, 2009, 09:19 PM	#567
tlloveshim <3 my puppy! Joined: Mar 2006 Location: The Great Plains Posts: 8,628	I think you have a right to be Patty-freaking-pissed-off, NC. You've really been dealt a lot and sometimes being pissed off can end up helping you purge unpleasant emotions and focus. Take care of yourself in the process so you can take care of others well, OK? Irainei, sometimes you just gotta be a Debbie downer but that's what everyone is here for, to cheer you up. Get a cup of tea or cocoa and relax. It's time to take care of yourself, you deserve it. I am a bit of a downer myself but haven't complained yet. But one of my friends has become jealous of our family's relationship with her almost 18 year old dd and has turned on us. My 21 year old son and her dd are interested in one another but aren't dating because she's under 18 right now and my son is focused on getting in a place where he can support a wife so doesn't want to date yet. Her mom, my friend doesn't approve of him. Let me tell you, that yes as a mom I am biased but he's a gem! Even tempered, mild mannered, a gentleman. He's never done drugs, never smoked, never been drunk and is waiting til marriage if you know what I mean. It's not because he doesn't have opportunity, he's just chosen not to because he's seen how those things harm and ruin other's lives. So WTH!? So, anyway, I'm hurt and insulted yet I'm focusing on the fact that it is her problem not mine. A real friend will see the error of her ways and will come back. Otherwise, I don't need people in my life who aren't real friends. So, I'm a bit of a Debbie downer too I guess! Time for some Cocoa!
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Jul 7th, 2009, 09:26 PM	#568
No Cute Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 7,561	Doesn't approve? Your friend doesn't approve of your son? Oh. My. Gosh! If it weren't for the kids' mutual interest, I'd be so fast to kick her to the curb....and while it may not be apparent all the time, I really am a compassionate, kind person. But oh man...I'm so sorry.
No Cute Member Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 7,561

Jul 7th, 2009, 11:07 PM	#569
tlloveshim <3 my puppy! Joined: Mar 2006 Location: The Great Plains Posts: 8,628	NC, I think it is apparent that you are a compassionate, kind person. Just from your posts I can see that. Being compassionate though doesn't keep us blinded to the hurt others cause, kwim? Yeah, I think her own sons are not very successful and it makes her feel bad about herself. My kids' mistakes (big or little) don't offend me. I don't feel like a failure if my kids mess up, they're human and so am I. So this is all about her and her own feelings of insecurity. Honestly, she's to be pitied. She'll only hurt her relationship with her own dd if she doesn't see the error of her ways. How I really prefer to be shallow and talk about handbags! LOL!
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Jul 7th, 2009, 11:27 PM	#570
duranie70 Handbag Addict Joined: Aug 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 3,244	Oh NOcute- I'm so sorry. Such a run of bad luck. Are you "friends" with these cousins? I always liked the quote about friends are better than family cause you choose your friends but ..I'm an only child and no other family lives near me. You should let them know you are not amused that none of them told you! My dad has not been too good- he fell twice yesterday. I should go this week to visit. I'm not very hands on and I have some guilt about that but the relationship of my mom and I has always been a hard one for me... there is something wrong w/ her and I have had to deal with a lot my whole life. I know if I visit once a month and stay 3 hours.. no fighting. It is so easy to start fighting and it is so draining. TL your son sounds like a gem! Screw your friend... some friend! I'd be so insulted! The nerve.

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