I’ve read this whole thread and loved it all.
My parents were borderline hoarders. My father hoarded paper – magazine articles and documents from his working life. When he passed away, he had SIXTEEN four-drawer filing cabinets (overstuffed), plus two conference tables that were covered with stacks of papers. My mother cannot bear to part with any decorative item (e.g. she has over 500 Dept. 56 Dickens Village houses). She also hangs on to furniture: She has six dining room tables and eight couches. I remember having only one dining room table until I was 12 years old. Then she decided to buy the second dining room table, and she moved the old table over a few feet, and put the new one right next to it.
OK, leaving my childhood trauma behind…
When I was in my 30s, I found myself living in a cluttered, disorganized apartment. I wanted to blame my then-DH (he collected a huge number of vinyl records) but part of the problem was me, too. I had over 1,000 books and hundreds of videotapes. I spent uncounted hours building databases to catalog what I had accumulated.
Then I read the Peter Walsh book (the one with “Stuff” in the title) and it was a revelation. One of his key points was (paraphrasing): “You only have the space you have. If you have room for 12 videotapes, and you have 20, then your videotapes are clutter.” He also recommended keeping items in the room where you need them – cookbooks in the kitchen, not in the bathroom; videotapes in the TV room, not the office. To my horror, I realized that I had a bookcase full of videotapes in my kitchen, and my cookbooks were in my bedroom. As soon as I moved those things to the proper location, it became clear that a lot of them had to go. Now I only have five cookbooks, which is what I have room for in the kitchen. And I only have about 30 DVDs, because that’s all I can store in my entertainment center.
I still have a tendency to hang onto items that I find beautiful. I especially love old glassware and scarves. But I keep a strict limit on how much space those items can take up. E.g. I have a small dresser for my scarves, and I don't let myself put them anywhere but in the dresser, so now that the dresser is full, I have a one-in, two-out policy.
I get stressed out when I see clutter around me. It’s like everywhere I look is a guilt trip: Oh, there’s the ironing board; I should do laundry. Oh, there’s that pile of magazines; I should read one. Removing the clutter makes for a more relaxed life.