[maddog]

Originally Posted by TresChic35

WHAT?! The first dish at wedding dinners is a symbol of virginity???! I never knew that! I've been at so many Asian wedding dinners... That's kind of disturbing to find out! How does it symbolize that though? I know there's that chopped up jelly fish, some kind of Asian deli (thinly sliced pork?), and some chicken (with the gross bloody bones). Do each of they signify something?

LOL, just the roasted pig. I have no clue why it signifies your virginity. Back in the old days, I think the groom brings whole roasted pigs to the bride's family 3 days after the wedding to say that she's a good wife (main thing being he's satisfied that she's a virgin). Now it's the first dish of the night. It's sorta a huge embarrassment for the parents if the dish is missing, unless they're really non-traditional at all.

I feel your pain! I tried putting post it notes in my drawers, but my parents got SO mad that I am accusing of snooping. I stopped after my dad's blood pressure went through the roof. heh.

[riffraff]

Originally Posted by Selena

Its your vagina......you decide what goes in it.

Absolutely.

[evolkatie]

I know what you mean also cause my mom is pretty conservative. My mom gets really freaked out whenever I tell her I'm going to get my annual girl checkup. She's afraid taht the pap smear process is going to pop my hymen. I just told her mom, if you would rather me have cervical cancer, I won't get it done. She hasn't said a word since.

[SoxFan777]

Wow, I totally feel for you guys. My mom is the one that took me to the doctor (a female and the same one that she uses) when I tured 18. Even though I didn't have any "gentleman callers", she wanted me to be healthy. As for the tampon thing, whe I started using them in college she didn't even bat an eyelash.

A big RECENT step in our relationship this year (I'm married now and in my late 20s) was us going to see the new Sex and the City movie together. That was a bit uncomfortable for her, but she wanted to see it and (of course) my DAD would never see it with her so I went with her, my aunt, and my cousin. It was a very big step for her because we don't "talk" like they do on the show/movie. I was proud of MOMMA. :)

[simmmchen]

Have you considered using a menstrual cup? I'm sure if she found it she won't even know what it is?

http://www.menstrualcups.org

ETA: Also, you won't be leaving anything like tampon wrappers in the trash for your mother to find!

[kwongkittiroch]

Originally Posted by TresChic35

Thanks everyone for your support!! I thought that I just had a really weird mother, but it seems like there are others out there who also have very protective mothers as well!

I'm still going to keep on using them, but I need to find a better way to hide them (mother snoops through every single inch of my room ). I've asked her to stop and I even place little post-it notes in my drawers saying, "what are you looking for in here?!!" and "don't touch my stuff!!!" LOL My mother says that its her house and she can go through whatever she wants. Shes a stay at home mom; I guess she gets very very bored when all her kids are at school and the dad is at work.

Here's a funny store about tampons from when I was 11 y/o........
Once in 6th grade, it was my time of the month and I really wanted to go to a water park with my friends. I told my mom to take me to Walmart so I could buy the waterproof stuff for my period. Well, when I showed my mom the tampons, she FREAKED OUT and said that I can't use that because I would have to shove it up my "pee hole"!! LOL, wtf?? I might have been 11 y/o, but I wasn't an idiot!! Well anyways, I ended up not going to the waterpark with my friends.


Oh and that comment about me being a troll.......it took me days to figure out what that was! I had to google it and found the answer on wiki. At first, I thought that poster was saying that I looked like this:

I just spit out my diet Mountain Dew!

[amanda]

I find it kind of horrifying that so many women, in 2008, still have mothers that are so ridiculously wrong about the anatomical and physiological ramifications of TAMPONS.

I mean...tampons, people. Come on. Tampons and virginity are completely and totally unrelated. It's not a dude, it's a little wad of cotton to prevent you from bleeding all over yourself. To me, this is the kind of ignorance that is grossly patriarchal and anti-female, so I think you need to be an adult and stand up to your mother. It's YOUR health.

I hurt my knee a few weeks ago, and my mom came up from Atlanta to take me to my doctor's appointment because I couldn't bend my knee enough to get into the driver's seat of my car. She offered to tidy up my bathroom while she was here because it was kinda grungy and she knew I wouldn't be able to do anything about it for a while. In the process, she found no less than 2 vibrators, an opened box of condoms, and a bottle of lube. There is absolutely nothing abnormal about any of those items, and she never said a word about them to me, and everything was as I had left it. Even though I am her daughter, she respects me as an independent adult that is capable of making my own decisions about my sexual health. Why in the world would a woman in her 20s accept less than that?

[DlkinVegas]

22? Good grief time for you mother to let go. You can always try the Diva Cup. Your mother probably wont even know what it is.

[soshesaid]

As a couple other posters suggested, you could get the Diva cup and keep it in your makeup bag. It's reusable, so you wouldn't have to keep a box of anything in your room, and it also has a lower risk of TSS.

[simmmchen]

Originally Posted by soshesaid

As a couple other posters suggested, you could get the Diva cup and keep it in your makeup bag. It's reusable, so you wouldn't have to keep a box of anything in your room, and it also has a lower risk of TSS.

Cool, another cup user here?

[helium]

Well, obviously shoving a piece of absorbent cotton up your vagina is completely the same as the emotional love and bonding you feel when you lose your virginity.

My mum's the same. Thankfully, i've found a way to be perfectly frank with my mother. Two years ago I couldn't even utter the word 'boys' in front of her, now i'm like 'for the love of God mum, they are pieces of cotton! It's not a penis!'. She tends to get so embarassed that she shuts up.

[lovinalotofbags]

Old fashioned, you are 22 and I assume your mom is around early 40s.

[drunky_krol]

Originally Posted by declaredbeauty

Print some information off the internet and tell her that's it okay! It's very rare to get TSS and that you still are a virgin (if you..) if you use them. But yea, some mother's are just old fashion and need to be updated a little.

I agree with this post. tell her its okay and in what situations and no matter what either sexual active or not.

[krisaya]

Apparently some people think using a tampon is so taboo. I think a lot of women in Asia are old-fashioned about using tampons. My cousins and I were at a drug store in Asia (don't really wanna say where cus I don't wanna offend anyone), buying Playtex tampons(which was expensive and hard to find) and the cashier looked at us like we were from another planet (We're all of Asian descent).

I told the girls we knew (who are 25+ years old) there and they said that most Asian girls don't use tampons. They've never tried tampons in their life because it seems dirty and gross... yet none of them are virgins. I even asked a couple of guys what they thought of tampons and they were like ew, we don't like girls who wear tampons.

I think it's so judgmental.

[rendodan110]

I also vote for the Diva cup!!! I bought my teen daughter one as well, my mom was very anti tampon but she would never throw them away she just would say my goodness what is becoming of children these days. my daughter used tampons before the diva cup and I was fine with it, however the first time I found thong panties I made fun of her, i played the "thong song" when she got home, but I wear them so why cant she? I think at 22 yrs old your mom should never invade your privacy. I would never do that to my kids and in return they come to me about questions and that is a good thing, that way they can get the proper information. also my 17 yr old son recently purchased a sams club/ costco size box of condoms he didnt hide his purchase from me, because he knows Im proud of him for being protected even though I would really rather not know that he needs the family size package geesh.