[frostedcouture]

Originally Posted by preppieblonde

um, troll? go away dirty old man.

that's a bit rude..


You should use whatever you feel most comfortable with, eventually your mom will understand and learn to give you a little "air". She seems very over protective, maybe it's just a temporary thing and she'll grow out of it. It's scary that she's snooping through your room, you need to talk to her about that. Even if she IS your mother, she still owes you your privacy.

[IntlSet]

You're a 22 year old grown woman and your mother is telling you whether or not you can wear tampons? Hmm.

[missisa07]

Originally Posted by TresChic35

I'm 22 y/o and I just began wearing them last summer. I can't bear the hot summer heat and wearing a pad...its just so uncomfortable for me! Yuckk!

Well a few months ago, my mother found them by snooping through some of my packed move-back-home (from college) boxes. I immediately made up some excuse and said that my roommate had accidentally placed it in my boxes for moving out. My mother freaked out and kept on yelling at me saying that girls are not allowed to use that and that they break something!! Oh my goodness...(sarcasm)! Well soon after, she threw out the tampon box away.

I've been using them at college, but when I moved back home for the summer, I tried to hide my tampons in a makeup bag and strategically tucked it under my bed so that she couldn't find it. Well, since my mother is quite a snoop, she found the tampons (while I wasn't home for the day) and HID it or threw it out! I am so sick of this!! I'm 22 y/o...she should let me make my own decisions about my health.

Originally Posted by meowgal

I was told by my gynecologist years ago not to use tampons because they were linked with toxic shock

Judging from the OP's original post, I don't think her mom is concerned about TSS (or perhaps she is, but her primary concern seems to be the relation between sex and tampons).

I would suggest still sneaking tampons. I want to say to sit down with your mom and tell her how using tampons is NORMAL and how the hymen can break at any time, but it's hard to change someone's mind when their beliefs seem to be so deeply rooted. It may not be worth it. I've been in the same boat as far as parents being old-fashioned, and no matter how many arguments or mature discussions we had, I could never change their minds.

You are a grown adult and you have the right to choose how to handle your period and your body.

PS: I don't think the OP is a troll at all! It's not like this is her 3rd post. ??? Besides, the idea of someone's mom not liking tampons is actually not SUPER uncommon. One of my friends from middle school had a mom that absolutely FREAKED OUT when she found out she was using tampons.

[Allisonfaye]

Originally Posted by Selena

Its your vagina......you decide what goes in it.

I couldnt have said it better myself.

[ArmCandyLuvr]

Perhaps the OP and her mother should go talk to a gynecologist together. The doctor can put some of her mother's concerns to rest.

While I understand the OP's frustration, I don't think we should be too harsh on mom. I believe she is doing this out of genuine caring and concern. I've known too many "mothers" who didn't give a damn what their children did. Sometimes it feels like the consciencious parent is becoming a dying breed.

[guccimamma]

i thought my mother was uptight...that is absolutely insane.

[maddog]

LOL, I understand your frustration. My mom freaked out at that as well in my mid-20s (along with my "prostitute" thongs). I ended up just telling her no matter how many times she throws them out, I'll still be using them, so she might as well stop wasting my hard earned money. Eventually she gave up.

The whole hymen/virginity thing is a huge deal in the Asian culture. I mean, the first dish at wedding dinners is all about signifying you're a virgin, that's how huge a deal it is.

I don't even think I was born with one.

[exotikittenx]

You should try to talk to your mother about why she feels so strongly about it. You are an adult with a college education, after all, and should not have to hide things that are perfectly fine. Maybe she is not so educated on tampons and could use a little "101" crash course.

[ShimmaPuff]

Originally Posted by Selena

Its your vagina......you decide what goes in it.

Thank you, Selena! For saving tPF readers from having to plow through/scroll past me taking 9000 words to say that, and for saving my fingers from having to type it.

TresChic, respect your mother's beliefs by keeping tampons or anything else that might upset her out of her sight, and by limiting conversation topics to gardening, pets, and the doings of other family members, ask open-ended questions about her own interests, stories of her life in Olden Times, and do a lot of listening, and very little talking - while you make different summer living arrangements!

[MonkeyGirl]

Originally Posted by kittykittycatcat

That is really strange. I think you need to move out into your own place. It isn't acceptable (IMO) that she thinks its fine to go snooping through your room.

ita. she shouldnt be doing that under any circumstances. also, she should not think that she has the right to dictate what you put into your body. maybe try to explain to her that you know about the topic and explain that nothing is wrong with using them. perhaps she just doesnt really understand the concept. and if that doesnt work just tell her straight up that you are 22 and old enough to make ur own decisions, and if you want to wear them you will and that there isnt really anything she can do to stop you. if i were you i would also have a little chat to her about the snooping thing cause that is just not acceptable. good luck and hope it goes well for ya.

[maybeimeow]

I completely understand where you're coming from. While not in the same situation myself, I've had countless friends who's mothers forbade them from using tampons.

In high school, one of my friends used to go get tampons from the school nurse. One day her mother found out and threatened to sue the school. No joke.

Anyway, I agree that it's futile to try and change her beliefs, so I guess you have to keep hiding them away.

[TresChic35]

Thanks everyone for your support!! I thought that I just had a really weird mother, but it seems like there are others out there who also have very protective mothers as well!

I'm still going to keep on using them, but I need to find a better way to hide them (mother snoops through every single inch of my room ). I've asked her to stop and I even place little post-it notes in my drawers saying, "what are you looking for in here?!!" and "don't touch my stuff!!!" LOL My mother says that its her house and she can go through whatever she wants. Shes a stay at home mom; I guess she gets very very bored when all her kids are at school and the dad is at work.

Here's a funny store about tampons from when I was 11 y/o........
Once in 6th grade, it was my time of the month and I really wanted to go to a water park with my friends. I told my mom to take me to Walmart so I could buy the waterproof stuff for my period. Well, when I showed my mom the tampons, she FREAKED OUT and said that I can't use that because I would have to shove it up my "pee hole"!! LOL, wtf?? I might have been 11 y/o, but I wasn't an idiot!! Well anyways, I ended up not going to the waterpark with my friends.


Oh and that comment about me being a troll.......it took me days to figure out what that was! I had to google it and found the answer on wiki. At first, I thought that poster was saying that I looked like this:

[TresChic35]

Originally Posted by maddog

LOL, I understand your frustration. My mom freaked out at that as well in my mid-20s (along with my "prostitute" thongs). I ended up just telling her no matter how many times she throws them out, I'll still be using them, so she might as well stop wasting my hard earned money. Eventually she gave up.

The whole hymen/virginity thing is a huge deal in the Asian culture. I mean, the first dish at wedding dinners is all about signifying you're a virgin, that's how huge a deal it is.

I don't even think I was born with one.

I purchased my first thongs in high school and it also freaked out my mom too!! She was like, "how does this cover your butt? underwear is supposed to cover your butt, so this is not acceptable underwear!!" She threw them out too!!

WHAT?! The first dish at wedding dinners is a symbol of virginity???! I never knew that! I've been at so many Asian wedding dinners... That's kind of disturbing to find out! How does it symbolize that though? I know there's that chopped up jelly fish, some kind of Asian deli (thinly sliced pork?), and some chicken (with the gross bloody bones). Do each of they signify something?

[TresChic35]

Originally Posted by ArmCandyLuvr

Perhaps the OP and her mother should go talk to a gynecologist together. The doctor can put some of her mother's concerns to rest.

While I understand the OP's frustration, I don't think we should be too harsh on mom. I believe she is doing this out of genuine caring and concern. I've known too many "mothers" who didn't give a damn what their children did. Sometimes it feels like the consciencious parent is becoming a dying breed.

Going to the gyno with my mom is the VERY LAST thing I would ever do! LOL! I can't imagine how awkward it would be!! Although, she always demands to take me to the yearly check-up and the dentist (and even watches while he cleans my teeth ).

I don't think I could ever educate my mother about tampons and such. She just wouldn't understand and would probably think that my hymen was broken by some guy.

[frostedcouture]

Wow. Your mom needs to let go and give you some room. Honestly, I think I would have moved out already. It's way wrong that she goes through your stuff like that, watches you get your teeth cleaned (?) and throws your thongs out. That's not normal. She should know that the less room you give your kids, the more they try to "rebel". I'm glad my parents give me my space and we have a good relationship this way.