[missmustard]

*Sigh*

I literally have no idea why I'm posting this heh. I apologise in advance if this ends up a bit long and senseless. I guess I just need to vent a little.

For some time now, I've been trying to follow a healthier lifestyle. I'm on portion control, walking every other day, and trying to cut down on coke and cigarettes. Anyway, I've managed to lose 8kgs (close to 16lbs), but I'm in no way skinny yet (not that I want to be, either).

Alright, so this saturday, a friend and I went out to a pub. On our way back home, some jerks were shouting out stuff to girls walking by (you can imagine what sort of stuff). So we walk by because, well, there was no way around them, and out of the blue they just pointed and called me fat/mocked me repeatedly. Being the belligerent b that I am, I had to stop and have a talk with them. Either way, they backed off (I can be rather vocal when I'm upset), and we continued our way to the car.

I guess my point is.. I haven't had this problem since I was probably in the 7th grade. Gee.. I just feel like everything I'm doing is worthless since I'll never be exactly thin. I'm genetically inclined to big hips and breasts, which is fine with me.. but arghhhh!! I just hate it when people are jerks like that.

So now I've absolutely no motivation to continue with my diet and exercise thing. I know I shouldn't worry so much about what other people say, but I've been chubby for most of my life and now that I can finally see an actual difference, people act just the same.

I guess I need some advice on how to snap out of this bullsh*t and remember I don't live to please the world. Any comments, advice, and whatever you'd like to contribute, feel free.

[frostedcouture]

Just a thought, if you can see a difference in yourself, then that's GREAT. That means there really is a result from your healthier lifestyle. Keep on doing the same thing you are doing! These guys have never seen you before in your life, how would they know what you looked like before? We all know how immature and rude some guys, well girls too I suppose, can be. I know that it's hard to ignore comments that are rude, but you just have to find a way to get rid of all that anger and move on with your life. It's happened to everyone, find a way that works for you. Make a list of things that you absolutely love about yourself, things you've accomplished that you're proud of, etc. Or have your friends, SO, family do that for you. It might sound silly, but if someone wrote me a list of the things they love most about me, I would feel better and I might feel more encouraged. Oh and sometimes ranting helps, at least for me :))

[Bag&ShoeLover]

Repeat after me! You are a sexy beautiful woman. Don't worry about those stupid SOB's. Hon -- Do you! That means get back on track and work on you. Don't care what people think...do what is best for you.

[simseema17]

Honestly, don't let some dumbasses make you feel bad about yourself. I know its easier said than done, but just remember that there are a lot of idiots out in the world and life is too short to worry about them. Be proud of who you are! Losing 16lbs is a great accomplishment, I'm also trying to lose weight and haven't been as successful as you...be proud!

[kimalee]

what a**holes! Don't even give them a second thought - what you do is for you, and nobody else. You should be so proud of what you've accomplished so far, and what you'll undoubtedly accomplish in the future!

[dallas]

Brace yourself, I'm going to be bossy. Don't you dare let these d!ckheads (who obviously share a solitary brain cell) drag you down. Hold your beautiful head up high and keep going ... for you.

[Irishgal]

Ok, from the time you read this thread you can be upset for 5 more minutes. Then it is time to move on. You get to pick this, to move on and continue to be successful in your quest to be healthier. Forever, there will be people who are mean, rude, just plain nasty, and you need to develop a bit of thicker skin so when this happens you are not knocked down, well, not for more than a few minutes. So, this is practice, now take your 5 minutes and move on. It is not easy, but the more times you do this the better you get. Pretty soon, you will be able to do it in about 3 seconds, and life will be good.

[Jill]

use this to your advantage...get mad at those IDIOTS and WORK OUT..thats what i do whem im pissed off.....i get on the treadmill !!
Please dont let it get to u....they are soooo NOT worth it.
every one of us has had weight issues.I gained over 60 pounds with my first daughter (18 yr ago)and took over a year to get it all off.u just need to find an exercise u love and healthy foods u like to eat.it just takes a little committment and u will reach your goal.hugs to u!Let us know how u r doing.....i ended up enjoying step aerobics sooo much when i dieted that i started TEACHING it a year later....hehe..its truly somthing i love...never woulda figured it out had i given up!

[BTBF]

Never give up on what you are doing. Don't think of short-term results, think about a year or two from now.

If you agree with what those boys said, then you should try even harder. And never skip a work-out or cheat on your diet.

If you don't agree with them, just continue on living your new lifestyle and think of them as sour grapes. They probably know they can't be with you so they made such comments. Only losers say such things.

[amber11]

i'm really sorry that you had to go through that, honestly are they 5? but if the appearance part isn't motivating you like it was before (which is probably healthier actually) try to look at it from a health standpoint- i don't know your size or anything and you may not have any health problems, which would render this comment useless- but in case you do maybe let that be your motivating factor

[EmmaLee83]

Ugh, how awful. People can be such jerks sometimes. You should be so proud of what you are accomplishing though! Don't let some stupid comments take that away from you, it sounds like you are making some great changes in your life.

[audball67]

I'm guessing that those jerks weren't exactly perfect specimens of (male) human perfection either -- so I wouldn't give it another thought. Don't let them "sabotage" your goal of a healthier you. You are already beautiful - work it, girl!

[HauteMama]

You aren't doing anything to please them or anyone like them. You are doing what you are doing for you, your health, your own well-being and those you love (being healthier). 16 lb is nothing to sneeze at! That is great, and I bet you can see and feel a difference.

Despite as*holes on the street and mass media, most men do NOT appreciate women having the bodies of prepubescent boys. They LIKE breasts and hips! It is sexy. You never need to conform to someone else's idea of beauty, only your own. Hold your head high and don't let the as*holes win.

[l_choice2001]

Dont let some losers stop you from making your own personal progress you are so much better than that! you are making yourself healtheir and fitter the stupidity of a few "men" should not halt you but be your fule for futher improvment :)

[pointie]

Good for you for not taking any BS from those jerks! remember, you can always lose weight IF YOU WANT TO, but they will always be stupid.