How long to wait to have sex after giving birth?

Sternchen · May 26th, 2007, 05:07 PM

Hey ya'll...

Tomorrow it will be 4 weeks since giving birth to Julia and the bleeding has gone down significantly and there's not much left yet. Are there any dangers of having sex before the typical 6 weeks or is there some sort of medical reason not to other than the bleeding?

My OB is on vacation right now and the offices are closed over the weekend until Tuesday due to a holiday. It's not an urgent question, I'm just currious!

caitlin1214 · May 26th, 2007, 05:42 PM

It's more of a comfort than a medical thing, isn't it?

kittyrong · May 26th, 2007, 05:44 PM

I agree with Caitlin...you could always try it and tell us how it went...

caitlin1214 · May 26th, 2007, 05:46 PM

Well, we don't want to know how it went, but if you start to feel uncomfortable, stop.

tigerdrago28 · May 26th, 2007, 05:51 PM

I checked online and it said 6 weeks or whenever one is ready. There are a lot of different answers out there.

Swanky Mama Of Three · May 26th, 2007, 05:54 PM

OB's recommend 6 weeks, or at elast until your check up.
Do you haev a 6 week check up scheduled?
You should wait until then

Sternchen · May 26th, 2007, 06:16 PM

Ahhhh, okay! Just wanted to make sure my Uterus wasn't going to be all wonky and messed up if I did it before 6 weeks. We're in no rush - too tired to have sex anyway, lmao.

merika · May 26th, 2007, 06:33 PM

That reminded me of the joke about how the family nurse came to remove a patient's episiotomy stitches and found them already gone...the patient's husband removed them because 'they tickled'!

arireyes · May 26th, 2007, 10:39 PM

My Dr. told me 6 weeks (I had a c-section though) and then I did it at 4 I think anyway. No problems but my Dr. wasn't happy with me.

Aslan · May 26th, 2007, 10:45 PM

Heehee, good for you guys, even having that in mind. I didn't want to touch my SO for about 6 mos. afterwards.

Florencee · May 26th, 2007, 11:35 PM

I think at least a month.

but i remember a doctor said as long as you feel comfortable and not painful anymore, you can have sex.

good luck!!!

Quinn's Mom · May 26th, 2007, 11:53 PM

The six weeks has to do with healing any tears or episiotomies that my be present if it was a vaginal birth.

Most women have scar tissue afterwards that needs time to heal.

I can't believe you're up to it!!! At four weeks all I wanted was to sleep whenver I could!. Good for you!

Swanky Mama Of Three · May 27th, 2007, 12:42 AM

LOL! I agree! I fact, I told DH my OB/GYN said 10 weeks!

ParkAvenuePrincess · May 27th, 2007, 08:30 AM

haha! I think I'll be using that one Swanky!

Melanie, I asked my midwife about this just the other day & she said it had a lot to do with possible infection too. (not STI, just regualr nasty infections) I'd definitely check with a midwife or someone though.

sea0fyears · May 27th, 2007, 09:48 AM

Better to wait untill the doctor gives you the OK than to risk re-tearing or infection. And besides, time flys with a baby.

Good luck!

May 26th, 2007, 05:07 PM	#1
Sternchen We're having a boy!! Location: Beauty RAOK	How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? Hey ya'll... Tomorrow it will be 4 weeks since giving birth to Julia and the bleeding has gone down significantly and there's not much left yet. Are there any dangers of having sex before the typical 6 weeks or is there some sort of medical reason not to other than the bleeding? My OB is on vacation right now and the offices are closed over the weekend until Tuesday due to a holiday. It's not an urgent question, I'm just currious! __________________ My 2 wonderful girls, Nicole (5) and Julia (1) will be big sisters soon! My pregnancy blog

May 26th, 2007, 05:42 PM	#2
caitlin1214 Don't stop the rock Location: Toronto, Canada (Eh?)	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? It's more of a comfort than a medical thing, isn't it? __________________ And this above all: to thine ownself be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. Polonius, Hamlet Act I, sc iii

May 26th, 2007, 05:44 PM	#3
kittyrong Member	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? I agree with Caitlin...you could always try it and tell us how it went...

May 26th, 2007, 05:46 PM	#4
caitlin1214 Don't stop the rock Location: Toronto, Canada (Eh?)	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? Well, we don't want to know how it went, but if you start to feel uncomfortable, stop. __________________ And this above all: to thine ownself be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. Polonius, Hamlet Act I, sc iii

May 26th, 2007, 05:51 PM	#5
tigerdrago28 Member Location: New Jersey	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? I checked online and it said 6 weeks or whenever one is ready. There are a lot of different answers out there. Last edited by tigerdrago28; May 26th, 2007 at 05:54 PM.

May 26th, 2007, 05:54 PM	#6
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? OB's recommend 6 weeks, or at elast until your check up. Do you haev a 6 week check up scheduled? You should wait until then __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

May 26th, 2007, 06:16 PM	#7
Sternchen We're having a boy!! Location: Beauty RAOK	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? Ahhhh, okay! Just wanted to make sure my Uterus wasn't going to be all wonky and messed up if I did it before 6 weeks. We're in no rush - too tired to have sex anyway, lmao. __________________ My 2 wonderful girls, Nicole (5) and Julia (1) will be big sisters soon! My pregnancy blog

May 26th, 2007, 06:33 PM	#8
merika Sac Himalaya Location: In front of a computer	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? That reminded me of the joke about how the family nurse came to remove a patient's episiotomy stitches and found them already gone...the patient's husband removed them because 'they tickled'! __________________ I will also gladly authenticate your chocolates for you.

May 26th, 2007, 10:39 PM	#9
arireyes Member Location: IL	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? My Dr. told me 6 weeks (I had a c-section though) and then I did it at 4 I think anyway. No problems but my Dr. wasn't happy with me. __________________ Don't let the memory of them drift away. http://www.time.com/time/magazine/ar...625171,00.html http://www.iraqwarheroes.com/starcevich.htm

May 26th, 2007, 10:45 PM	#10
Aslan <3's her BFF Location: New York City	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? Heehee, good for you guys, even having that in mind. I didn't want to touch my SO for about 6 mos. afterwards. __________________ A little government and a little luck are necessary in life, but only a fool trusts either of them. – P. J. O'Rourke

May 26th, 2007, 11:35 PM	#11
Florencee Member Location: UK	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? I think at least a month. but i remember a doctor said as long as you feel comfortable and not painful anymore, you can have sex. good luck!!! __________________ Mine Mono Key and Change Holder (Got It!) Mono Pochette Accessoires (Got It!) Damier Azur Pochette Accessoires Damier Canvas Speedy 25 (Got It!) Damier Graphite Messenger bag Mono Batignolles Horizontal (Got It!) .................................................. ........................................ Burberry Pink Check bag Chanel Timeless Clutch Hermes kelly black bag

May 26th, 2007, 11:53 PM	#12
Quinn's Mom Smell the Togo Location: The Other Half of NJ	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? The six weeks has to do with healing any tears or episiotomies that my be present if it was a vaginal birth. Most women have scar tissue afterwards that needs time to heal. I can't believe you're up to it!!! At four weeks all I wanted was to sleep whenver I could!. Good for you! __________________ Shine on you crazy diamond....

May 27th, 2007, 12:42 AM	#13
Swanky Mama Of Three Location: Dallas Area	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? LOL! I agree! I fact, I told DH my OB/GYN said 10 weeks! __________________ Holy inappropriateness!!! - a la Bethenny

May 27th, 2007, 08:30 AM	#14
ParkAvenuePrincess Loving Every Minute! Location: UK	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? haha! I think I'll be using that one Swanky! Melanie, I asked my midwife about this just the other day & she said it had a lot to do with possible infection too. (not STI, just regualr nasty infections) I'd definitely check with a midwife or someone though.

May 27th, 2007, 09:48 AM	#15
sea0fyears Ready or not... Location: Arizona	Re: How long to wait to have sex after giving birth? Better to wait untill the doctor gives you the OK than to risk re-tearing or infection. And besides, time flys with a baby. Good luck! __________________ Come visit my purse collection!! (new stuff on BOTTOM of page 3) 2008 Wishlist ~ Black Prada Nylon Backpack ~ Neverfull MM in Damier (got it.. love it!) ~ "Return to Tiffany's" oval bracelet ~ Damier Speedy 30 (got it) ~ Agenda PM, style undecided ~A new Hair style. (got it.. maybe once I'm brave enough I'll post pics)