Hayden Harnett Hotties Hangout - Let's talk!!

[dcblam]

lulu -
our hearts are heavy and our support unwavering in this time of deep sorrow at the death of your beloved friend. upon reading your post, I was so shocked because I can vividly remember your post at staying up all night right before Laurent was born.....it feels like yesterday.

your DH is right - you need to focus on yourself and to make sure that you are getting what you need to get through this trying time. time is really the only antidote. you ARE a strong woman....and strong woman KNOW when to seek and ask for help.

i think getting a tat is a wonderful idea.
you ARE a kind, thoughtful, supportive and loving friend........

[dcblam]

Originally Posted by mishka

Dentist update. I went to the dentist again this morning. I have an embarrassing amount of work to have done, but please don't make fun of me or judge me (I know my HHHotties wouldn't). For those of you that missed the first installment of this story, I got assaulted years ago and since then have a dentist phobia. I still haven't sorted out the wisdom teeth but I had my last two quads of planing and scaling today and they cleaned my little wisdom tooth that is poking out a little and now it hurts like crazy! My whole mouth hurts from the shots etc, but when they did the other two quads it went away fast. This hurts really bad by my wisdom tooth. So sad! But she did say that my wisdom tooth is really little and that she didn't think it would be a terrible experience to have it removed at all. I had a hard time getting a quick appointment to take care of it, but I wonder if they could help me quicker now that my entire head is throbbing? xoxo mishka

YES!! Woot woot..... YOU DID IT!!!! BRAVE BRAVE GIRL!
I know I know......when your tooth/teeth hurt......your whole being just aches and misery sets in! Ah, you are ON YOUR WAY to recovery.
Give yourself a BIG OL' HUG.
I predict......that getting your wisdom tooth pulled will be a piece of cake after this experience.
Thanks for the update.....and keep us posted.

[lulu3955]

Originally Posted by dcblam

lulu - I can vividly remember your post at staying up all night right before Laurent was born.....it feels like yesterday.

Thank you. It feels like it was yesterday. He was only born on June 6th. For the life of me I can't pronounce his first name properly Auree...I got the second part Laurent.. Tis my name with a t added. Darn french names.

I'm doing alright. I'm pretty calm and collected. staying cool, keepin busy. I've had such a great support system. I'm so fortunate. Thanks Hotties you've played a very important role in keeping me sane and sober.

I swear no more drama for me. This is bound to be the last of it. Otherwise I need to forever attach the drama queen emoticon to all my messages.

ETA: Mishka you did it! That is awesome. Your so brave!

[chodessa]

Glad for your positive update Lulu...
I'm in awe of your strength and kudos to you for being so open. That's just great. You have no idea who you may be helping when they read what you are posting.

[mishka]

Thanks Cho, Blammie, and Lulu! I'm pretty proud of myself. I was able to eat a burrito last night and I think I'm fine today. A little trouble rubbing my lips together after applying lip gloss, which I am addicted to. But I predict that tomorrow that problem will be only a distant memory. And I do admit that I am less frightened by my wisdom tooth now that it has been referred to as "small and cute".

Cho - You are so right about what you posted ^^.

Lulu! - Doll!!! We're all here for you, and you dont' need to hold back any postings. No one is going to think of it as drama! It's real life stuff, and we all have some of it. To me drama is when people are snarky and nasty to each other. Not when friends are talking about what is going on in their lives. That's great that you are staying busy and calm. I'm proud of you! I know it's a tough time! Big Hugs!!!!

[lulu3955]

Originally Posted by chodessa

Glad for your positive update Lulu... I'm in awe of your strength and kudos to you for being so open. That's just great. You have no idea who you may be helping when they read what you are posting.

I never really looked at it like that before. I've always kinda lived my life like an open book. I mean why not. Thanks cho! I was feeling a tad guilty for bringing everyone down.

Originally Posted by mishka

That's great that you are staying busy and calm. I'm proud of you! I know it's a tough time! Big Hugs!!!!

Thank you! Now if only I can be as brave as you and go to the dentist. It's been like 5 years and I have wisdom teeth coming in.

Let's get back to talking about Puppies, Kittens, Shoes, Handbags, Awesome Deals we scored. I'll start cuz I've done allot of shopping/ keepin busy this week.
My lab pup is all grown up now. She has her lady beard as my DHs calls it. Grey fur under her chin. and she had her first big girl check up. I was going thru old puppies photos remembering how small she used to be and I came across this crazy photo of her looking straight up evil and one of her looking so sweet.
For your enjoyment: EVIL KALLI and sweet cuddley kalli

[chodessa]

Awww... I have Kongs every 10 feet in my house.. someone is always tripping over the dogs' kongs!

[jennirane]

Hi Everyone... Apropos of nothing, this may be my last post. I got home and someone had "REPORTED" to the mods that I'd posted a link to one of Bonnie's auctions. Not that that's against any of the rules I've read, but apparently it's against the unspoken rules, and some coward who must be nostalgic for Germany in the 30s (or at the very least petty, shallow, and incredibly bored) felt they needed to "report" it rather than simply giving me a heads-up that it was frowned upon.

If I don't post again, either because my very upset, angry msg to the mods gets me kicked off, or I decide I don't want to be around even a few people who are that petty and negative, please know that for the most part, I've really enjoying hanging out with a great group of women. If anyone wants to stay in touch, my email is simply jennirane@yahoo.com. Y'all take care now!

[leothelnss]

Wth?! I had no idea you weren't allowed to post a family member or friend's auction, I always thought it was just no self-promotion.
That's no reason to get kicked off. I hope the mods see that your message was sent while feeling hurt and let you off with a warning.

[Sybaryte]

Sounds like time for a letter campaign to the Mods. This is ridiculous.

[Miss Curly]

OMG Jenni! That's awful! Please don't leave over one person's craziness. I would miss all of your postings.

Big deal that you posted a link.

Plus, I need to see the Lido Mini Bag when you get it. I will live vicariously through you.

[skydive nikki]

Jennirane, I am pi**ed! That is really jacked up. First of all I can't stand tattle tales. We are not in kindergarten. I can't understand why it would be wrong for you to post your sisters auction. I have never heard that rule. I just can't believe people have nothing better to do than go report other peers. I really hope you stay on here! You need to stay on here! You are one of my girlz. It sounds like whoever did this is just a jealous person.

[dcblam]

jenn -
doot da doot da doot....
we're just moving along....nothing to see......
what post?

[RealMcCoy]

Jenn, don't leave. There would be an aweful hole in our community were you to be gone. In life there will always be someone somewhere that will "report" us... tattle on us for something we didn't even know was upsetting them. It happens in every group and every family. Can't run from it.

Just know that all the rest of us don't feel the way the OP apparently felt. Because many of us have come to know each other so well, it is a sisterhood. So, therefore, if I post ANY link on ANY auction by ANY tPFr...I am posting a "sisters" link. I don't recall you doing a sales pitch to steer people to that listing. You simply posted.

Since mods have the chore of being umpires to our forums - and are therefore probably used to the coach coming back at them - maybe a message sent in a bit "cooler" tone would work better? Thanking them for the calling that they now extend self-promotion to also listings of other tPFrs (who happen to be family)- and let them know that we all have learned that this rule now "extends" a bit further than the way we previously understood it to be. Think of the mod's position, she has to deal with that OP, who may have sent quite a heated message, since this apparently upset them so much they took the time to message a mod in the first place.

Interesting. I didn't even catch that any post was a listing that was your sis's. Probably was the photography. She is one awesome photographer. Personally, I respect that she didn't try to hide her identity by changing her photography. It lets us know that this listing is by an eBayer we can trust. We all know how hard that is getting to be on the Bay. I personally have tried to stay on top of posting all the listings I can identify as one of our forum family, whether I feel its price is a steal or a deal - or not. I feel that knowing it IS a listing by one of our group is enough of a qualification to qualify it as a good deal. Hope her auctions prosper, and more than anything, I hope you - and Bon - stay with us.

[jennirane]

*sigh* Thanks all of you. I'm obviously calmer than I was last night, but still very upset. I'm upset because we are constantly monitored and reminded to "read the rules", which I did, many times. I don't think it's very mature or good business practice to have a set of unwritten rules you slap peoples' hands for. I can't read the administrators' minds. So that's the first thing.

The second thing is that the message I received was very terse, with no explanation, no "you may not have realized that this was an unspoken rule" or whatever. It just said someone had reported on me. So no, I don't think the whole thing was handled well. Post the rules you want us to follow, and we'll do our best, but when we stumble, treat us like a fellow adult and give us the benefit of the doubt.

But the third thing is what RMC is getting at--that there's someone here who hides behind the anonymity of running to the mods, and that that someone apparently has something personal against me or my sister. That's incredibly upsetting because I've tried to be supportive of other members, I've tried to keep things light and to keep conversations going, I've done research when I can (finding thread and posting pics) all of it. I'm sure some feel I've shared more of my life than they found comfortable or appropriate, but that's simply who I am... I life my life like a fairly open book, and knowing someone who loved being a hall monitor in the third grade is now gunning for you (and you have no idea who she is) is horrible. RMC is right, that there's always someone like that, but in most situations, you know who that person is.

So whether or not I smooth things over with Swanky, I definitely need a break. And if the person who "reported" on me reads this, please know that what you did was shallow and mean-spirited and says a lot more about you than me. You should have been a real woman, a kind person, and just PM'd me that you understood what I did to be a no-no. That's what I would have done.

And everyone else, I'll pop in occasionally (unless I can't) and won't let this run me off for good, but girlfriend needs a break. Please be kind to one another, even in the little stuff.