Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag

Leelee · Mar 4th, 2008, 03:51 PM

One of my teachers at my dance studio asked me to donate a handbag for their fund raiser. I was shocked! I told her I'd prefer to make a monetary contribution, and she didn't understand. She said, what's the difference?

OMG, my bags are irreplaceable. Of course, I will be more than willing to give money to the fund, but not one of my handbags! I'm sure you ladies understand my feelings, even though she was totally dumbfounded at my response.

shoeguru3 · Mar 4th, 2008, 03:58 PM

That is so strange unless they are doing some sort of rummage sale. Maybe they thought you have some inexpensive knock about bags to donate. Do what you are most comfortable with.

bagatella · Mar 4th, 2008, 03:58 PM

Wow, that's a bit forward! Not very nice of her to put you on the spot. I mean, would you grab someone's hand and say, "How about donating this ring?" And the fact that she said, "What's the difference?" is extremely rude in itself. IMO, you were very gracious to offer a monetary contribution instead. Sigh...Some people are like school in the summer...no class.

tonij2000 · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:02 PM

I most certainly would not donate a bag from my collection but if a bag is what they wanted, I'd go to TJMaxx or Marshalls and get an inexpensive one to donate.

sep · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:04 PM

That seems a bit rude... Did she ask everyone to donate handbags or only you? If they are specifically collecting "handbags only" as donations... I guess I would just buy a handbag for whatever amount you are comfortable donating...

Carmen82 · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:08 PM

I wouldn't be willing to donate one of my purses - I am very attached to them. I think she sounded very ungrateful regarding her response when you offered to make a monetary contribution instead. It seemed very insensitive.

tonij2000 made a very good suggestion to go to TJ Maxx/Marshalls to buy a few inexpensive bags for donation.

sep · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:08 PM

And oh yea... the "difference" is that it is YOUR donation and therefore YOUR choice!

Leelee · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by sep

That seems a bit rude... Did she ask everyone to donate handbags or only you? If they are specifically collecting "handbags only" as donations... I guess I would just buy a handbag for whatever amount you are comfortable donating...

I don't know for sure if she (or the dance school) asked anyone else to contribute. She asked me in private after class. She said they were going to do a fund raiser soon and she thought it would be a good idea if I would donate a bag from my collection. I was so stunned that all I could think to say was that I would rather give them money (and I will).

I have a feeling she wanted it for a silent auction or something like that, but I couldn't even get the words out my mouth to ask what she planned to do with it.

I think this is just crazy!

I'm so glad you all understand my point of view.

J Star · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:17 PM

crazy you are right. All I can say is HOW RUDE

Cornflower Blue · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:17 PM

I think it's a really bizarre request! I mean if someone wants to fundraise for something I think it only polite to do a general announcement or give out a circular and then leave up to you to decide what you want to give if anything. I have donated jewellery and handbags (none of which were very exciting or expensive) for a stall my mother was holding in order to raise money for a church extension, but it was more a case of "...if you've got anything you don't want, that's in reasonable condition, and you wouldn't mind...etc." You should never feel pressured. I think you were more than generous offering to make a monetary donation. I'm sure she's only too aware that you have lovely bags .... maybe she thinks she'll pick up a bargain, or is that me being too cynical...?

couture2387 · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:18 PM

I think it's rude of her to ask you that. Either buy an inexpensive bag to donate or just tell her that you'd prefer to give a monetary donation.

sep · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Cornflower Blue

I'm sure she's only too aware that you have lovely bags .... maybe she thinks she'll pick up a bargain, or is that me being too cynical...?

That's what I was thinking... I hope not though... That would be very tacky...

SOLIDGOLD2 · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:51 PM

WOW that was so rude of her...i hope you don't give any of your bags away

Nectarine25 · Mar 4th, 2008, 04:57 PM

What a weird thing to ask. Don't think she is into bags at all if she asks that.

claireZk · Mar 4th, 2008, 05:41 PM

Yikes. I would just tell her it's cash or Marshall's bags

Mar 4th, 2008, 03:51 PM	#1
Leelee Up On My Toes! Location: Highland, Maryland	Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag One of my teachers at my dance studio asked me to donate a handbag for their fund raiser. I was shocked! I told her I'd prefer to make a monetary contribution, and she didn't understand. She said, what's the difference? OMG, my bags are irreplaceable. Of course, I will be more than willing to give money to the fund, but not one of my handbags! I'm sure you ladies understand my feelings, even though she was totally dumbfounded at my response.

Mar 4th, 2008, 03:58 PM	#2
shoeguru3 Member	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag That is so strange unless they are doing some sort of rummage sale. Maybe they thought you have some inexpensive knock about bags to donate. Do what you are most comfortable with.

Mar 4th, 2008, 03:58 PM	#3
bagatella Member	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag Wow, that's a bit forward! Not very nice of her to put you on the spot. I mean, would you grab someone's hand and say, "How about donating this ring?" And the fact that she said, "What's the difference?" is extremely rude in itself. IMO, you were very gracious to offer a monetary contribution instead. Sigh...Some people are like school in the summer...no class.

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:02 PM	#4
tonij2000 Hi You Durin, Hmph! Location: ShowMeState	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag I most certainly would not donate a bag from my collection but if a bag is what they wanted, I'd go to TJMaxx or Marshalls and get an inexpensive one to donate.

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:04 PM	#5
sep Live-Luv-Shop-Repeat	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag That seems a bit rude... Did she ask everyone to donate handbags or only you? If they are specifically collecting "handbags only" as donations... I guess I would just buy a handbag for whatever amount you are comfortable donating... __________________ Wishlist (Bal) Black Work Autome, Sanguine

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:08 PM	#6
Carmen82 Member	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag I wouldn't be willing to donate one of my purses - I am very attached to them. I think she sounded very ungrateful regarding her response when you offered to make a monetary contribution instead. It seemed very insensitive. tonij2000 made a very good suggestion to go to TJ Maxx/Marshalls to buy a few inexpensive bags for donation. __________________ Visit my shopping blog @ www.shoppingwithlove.com

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:17 PM	#9
J Star Member Location: Socal	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag crazy you are right. All I can say is HOW RUDE __________________

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:17 PM	#10
Cornflower Blue you sure about that? Location: UK	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag I think it's a really bizarre request! I mean if someone wants to fundraise for something I think it only polite to do a general announcement or give out a circular and then leave up to you to decide what you want to give if anything. I have donated jewellery and handbags (none of which were very exciting or expensive) for a stall my mother was holding in order to raise money for a church extension, but it was more a case of "...if you've got anything you don't want, that's in reasonable condition, and you wouldn't mind...etc." You should never feel pressured. I think you were more than generous offering to make a monetary donation. I'm sure she's only too aware that you have lovely bags .... maybe she thinks she'll pick up a bargain, or is that me being too cynical...?

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:18 PM	#11
couture2387 Member Location: Miami	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag I think it's rude of her to ask you that. Either buy an inexpensive bag to donate or just tell her that you'd prefer to give a monetary donation. __________________ until I manage to pay off 1/2 of my Visa!

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:51 PM	#13
SOLIDGOLD2 Member	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag WOW that was so rude of her...i hope you don't give any of your bags away

Mar 4th, 2008, 04:57 PM	#14
Nectarine25 Growing my herd Location: Helsinki, Finland	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag What a weird thing to ask. Don't think she is into bags at all if she asks that. __________________ My Treasure Chest The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud. ~Coco Chanel

Mar 4th, 2008, 05:41 PM	#15
claireZk Member	Re: Someone Asked me to Donate a Handbag Yikes. I would just tell her it's cash or Marshall's bags